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Oh lord, please don't let me be misunderstood
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think until you mean someone and can converse in person then misunderstanding them can easily happen. I'm sure people see me as a raker and a forum pest but I'm really just a dick. It matters not though, I'm just here for the song/thread title  |
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Has happened on here fairly recently, but I clarified myself and then it was sorted. Think we all need to accept things can get misinterpreted on here and not get offended. Just ask for clarification kind of simple in my opinion |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm naturally a very blunt person so usually what I'm saying/meaning comes across. I do try to tone it down a little bit so I don't come across as a complete b***h though. |
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The problem on this medium is the body language and the intonation of what you're saying is missing
These are vital clues to people understanding what you're saying
Often, people may misunderstand something that is being said because of their own opinion or feeling about the subject
In person, it is less likely to happen (although it still does) as the visual and aural clues are there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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in person I'm very sarcastic and jokey. my body language can be read and obviously a smile can be seen
on here I'm overly cautious about what I type as I don't want confrontations/arguments if someone has misinterpreted my comment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am articulate, specific and I choose my words. I am not blunt but say what I mean. Blunt (as you all seem to put it) is a trait found in those with inadequate communication skills. A person can be honest and clear without being an asshole.  |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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I opened a thread last year under a different profile, trying to help another forumite who was quite rightly apprehensive of forum response. I went down in flames. The forumite posted eventually to explain I was posting on her behalf, and that many responses were not appropriate and please back off. The people who were out for blood and outraged would not back down and I got some unpleasant private messages. Lesson learned  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by goodnightgirl's thread.
Do you feel that your meaning or intention is usually understood here, or in person? "
A lot of people assume my intentions based on what or who they think I am. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Usually, yes. Sometimes not. I think it's a twofold thing though - it's as much about my clarity and being authentic as it is about the other person and their willingness/ability to listen/remove their bias/general state of mind.
I'm still working on the latter; if I don't understand something I ask but it's natural to read what you think in to something. Taking a step back isn't the easiest. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I'd like to think so, once I've explained. People can be so impatient though."
I agree with this.
This is why I put a lot of focus on how I say something and can seem long winded and may often come across as patronising or condescending or whatever, not that I'm worried of offending but I like my point to be as clear as possible to try and avoid miscommunication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's easy to get misunderstood over the internet. The onus is on both sides to assume the best outcome in case you can take something both ways. Benefit of the doubt etc.... |
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We think we are understood by those who want and try to understand. There are always those (couples and men) who just think we are looking for people to have sex with without getting to know them. |
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By *epsonWoman
over a year ago
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"I am perpetually misunderstood 
Even your mirror when it is being licked
My mirror image has just taken out a court order against me for inappropriate behaviour  "
Absolutely. A mirror has rights too |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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"I have no problems in real life but am constantly being misunderstood when messaging on here. Think it’s because I try to use as few words as possible. "
That will be a major factor yes.
Tone and facial expressions in person often say a lot more than most words could in most cases.
When it comes to text, even with emojis, you have neither tone or facial expressions to help convey what you are saying, so the more detail and words used the more chance it will be clear.
Though you can never underestimate the power of human stupidity and error. Sometimes the most clear things will be misunderstood by some people. |
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"Inspired by goodnightgirl's thread.
Do you feel that your meaning or intention is usually understood here, or in person? "
I generally feel that there aren’t many people that really get me, in any sphere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks a bunch Inaswingdress, my head was nice and empty until you started this thread.... now
Baby, do you understand me now?
Sometimes I feel a little mad
But don't you know that no one alive can always be an angel
When things go wrong I feel real bad.
I'm just a soul who has an ear worm |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am articulate, specific and I choose my words. I am not blunt but say what I mean. Blunt (as you all seem to put it) is a trait found in those with inadequate communication skills. A person can be honest and clear without being an asshole. "
The art of diplomacy is a skill required for good, effective communication. |
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I have forum herpes, which is cool.
In general fab life, I do okay, people seem to like me.
I haven't spent a weekend on my own for about 6 months as friends are always popping by, maybe they are checking up on me, maybe they are stealing my wine, maybe they like me.
I think it's hard to second guess whether what you mean and say is actually interpreted that way on a forum/message system. Context is everything yet there is very little context in text.... |
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"Thanks a bunch Inaswingdress, my head was nice and empty until you started this thread.... now
Baby, do you understand me now?
Sometimes I feel a little mad
But don't you know that no one alive can always be an angel
When things go wrong I feel real bad.
I'm just a soul who has an ear worm"
Mission accomplished  |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Inspired by goodnightgirl's thread.
Do you feel that your meaning or intention is usually understood here, or in person? "
Others will decide how its meantg, if I've said it I'll have meant it, my intent is to offer my opinion, some don't like the truth so they may take offence.. hey ho I don't sugar coat things.
Thats partly what the block list is used for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Has happened on here fairly recently, but I clarified myself and then it was sorted. Think we all need to accept things can get misinterpreted on here and not get offended. Just ask for clarification kind of simple in my opinion"
This!
Asking for clarification has a likelihood of preventing assumptions and discovering intentions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Inspired by goodnightgirl's thread.
Do you feel that your meaning or intention is usually understood here, or in person?
A lot of people assume my intentions based on what or who they think I am. "
And measuring with their yardstick, so to speak. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found people always generally decide to jump to the wrong conclusions, and grab the wrong end of the stick and run with it. But it's the same with anything in life, people won't remember the good, but will definitely hold onto the bad, people will kick a man when he's down, but not helping up. I put it down to negative nature, and the type of world we live in around us, EG we re act the things we take in from Mindless programs like Eastenders, or Holly oaks, etc. we are what we watch. Why it's called a program. always drama, or a stolen baby, or old hag been sleeping with some other wife's man. Low vibrational things, bring out low vibrational moods. And encourage the way we express our selvs... |
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"Has happened on here fairly recently, but I clarified myself and then it was sorted. Think we all need to accept things can get misinterpreted on here and not get offended. Just ask for clarification kind of simple in my opinion
This!
Asking for clarification has a likelihood of preventing assumptions and discovering intentions. "
Absolutely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Occasionally, I know I'll write something spontaneously, and when I read it back later, I realise I've been a dick and could have phrased it better.
Dry humour doesnt translate well to text I find. |
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I assume it is, although at times it has been misunderstood or misinterpreted. As with all text based communication, a feeling, a joke as examples can all be lost, as the individual reading it does not necessarily read it in the same manner as you wrote it.
I say what I need to say, politely and considered. Some call it blunt and cold, that’s their perception, but I don’t do fluffy, just to the point |
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