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Do you worry about meeting someone and them not liking you in reality?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do. I also don't like to put lots of pics up incase I don't look the same to them if we are ever going to meet.
I know if I took the time, I can take pics of myself looking good and I could make my dick look huge(it's all about the angles lol) but I feel it wouldn't be a true representation of me.
Do anyone else here hold back with pics or do you put your best pics up and hope they're not disappointed when you eventually meet. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I do. I also don't like to put lots of pics up incase I don't look the same to them if we are ever going to meet.
I know if I took the time, I can take pics of myself looking good and I could make my dick look huge(it's all about the angles lol) but I feel it wouldn't be a true representation of me.
Do anyone else here hold back with pics or do you put your best pics up and hope they're not disappointed when you eventually meet. "
I used to only put flattering pics up but I got worried people would be disappointed if they met me so now I've got some completely brutal, no flattering angles, pics up. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
I think most put up the best pics we can. I am always truthful. With people and tell them I'm not skinny and I'm a size 16 etc. Everything on my profile is truthful I usually exchange face pics before I meet someone but not always. And it is why I do a social meet first to see if we will get on or not. If we do great then we meet again. If not it's no big deal you're not going to click with everyone you meet. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I do sometimes. I'm far with a posh marmite accent. But most of the time I think fuck it. Life is short. I send full body to those I hope to get intimately acquainted with. No one is everybody's cup of tea and I enjoy meeting new people even if we don't have sex. |
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no I don't worry about it. I'm aware that its a possibility that we'll meet and the people we're meeting won't like one or the other or both of us, its happened. But then it a possibility whoever you're meeting and whatever the circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just put up random pics mate and if they ain't into you from them then their loss  .
Also nice couple sorry for swearing at you the other day and being an arsehole I was annoyed at other people and took it out on you when I shouldn't have  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope. What’s the point of worrying? My pics are real so it is a case of you get what you see..."
Coming from the ten who looks unreal in every pic she has. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always try to have decent photos of us both but they're not deceptive. And certainly in our friends only photos there would be no doubt about what to expect were we to meet |
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We used to worry about it but not so nowadays
I put the pics I like up so yes I'm going to put ones up that make me feel good
We always have a social meet first anyway and Mr KC always say "we live by the sword and we die by it" - we've met people that we really got on with on line but when we've met we haven't thought they were for us and it's same that some people we've met have said thanks no but no thanks to us. Never left on bad terms yet.
What we have done though with every meet is met some lovely people and very rarely have had an issue following the meet. When we do click with others it's great whether that's just as friends or to go onto something more intimate.
We are loving life - and neither of us are models! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do. I also don't like to put lots of pics up incase I don't look the same to them if we are ever going to meet.
I know if I took the time, I can take pics of myself looking good and I could make my dick look huge(it's all about the angles lol) but I feel it wouldn't be a true representation of me.
Do anyone else here hold back with pics or do you put your best pics up and hope they're not disappointed when you eventually meet. "
people accept you for who you are
a lot here suffer with anxiety
or low self esteem |
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"I just put up random pics mate and if they ain't into you from them then their loss .
Also nice couple sorry for swearing at you the other day and being an arsehole I was annoyed at other people and took it out on you when I shouldn't have x"
S'alright. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro |
No I don't worry. It's a coffee etc social so it's no big deal really. No expectation result in no pressure. I know I can get on with most people for an hr or two and have a good time. If it's not there it's not there nothing ventured nothing gained. Apparently I look better in real life but you can't always believe everything folk say on here. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I don't worry. It's a coffee etc social so it's no big deal really. No expectation result in no pressure. I know I can get on with most people for an hr or two and have a good time. If it's not there it's not there nothing ventured nothing gained. Apparently I look better in real life but you can't always believe everything folk say on here. X"
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I like to put pics up that best represent me. I always used to do socials first anyway so they can see me in 3D and decide. I only meet in clubs now for the time being and people can see the real me there, not just pictures and profile text - lumps, bumps and everything x |
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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago
Newcastle |
I usually have some nerves before a meet but I think that’s just natural and part of the excitement. However, I don’t worry about whether they’ll like me or not. They either do or they don’t. We can’t all like everybody. All I can do is be myself. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
Well if I really wanted to I could easily (and properly) photoshop (black belt level) myself to look like gym bunny with a 10” cock, oh and maybe 5-6 inches taller but it would be a fools folly.
I’d be more worried that someone wouldn’t get my humour and think I was a massive twat than worry over photo/reality expectations, can’t photoshop a personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it "
I'd have fly kicked him into the water and let the fucker drown. |
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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago
The South Near That London |
"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it "
Should have scuttled the fucker! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
I'd have fly kicked him into the water and let the fucker drown."
I told him his penis was quite short and that might be the problem, I'm used to much more well endowed men. Then I waited til he was snoring and smoked the rest of his stuff. Best bit of the evening tbh. As I said he got off fine, from my point of view it was exactly.... noteworthy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it "
Omg for real???
What a guy huh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh"
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I put my best pics up, just as I shower, tidy my pubes, shave my legs and wear a little bit of make - up for a meet.
Theres such a thing as too much authenticity. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
I don't worry about my pictures as they are of me as I am, or was in that particular outfit. People think I am taller from my pictures but if they could learn to read the profile there wouldn't be any surprises.
If I have been getting on with someone it is always a little disappointing to find you don't fancy them or vice versa.
I have been too short, too fat, not fat enough, too dark, not dark enough, too bossy and, of course, too hairy.
I have been put off by feet, unkempt clothing, fingernails and teeth, but mostly arrogance.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really, actually clicking in person is about so much more than just looks so if I started worrying about that I'd probably end up stressed out and second guessing everything.
I just go with no expectations, if we don't fancy each other it's no great loss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd just take it for granted that anyone I met would know I wouldn't turn up dressed like I am in my profile pics.
They'd have seen my face pic anyway.
One guy made comments about me not being dressed sexy for a social. It had never occurred to me that I'd need to especially after he'd already seen photos like my profile shows.
Still wonder how much of a hooker look I should gone in with  |
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I don't worry about it - we can't get on with everyone we meet nor find everyone attractive. I think my pictures are an honest representation of me, and I've never been told otherwise.
I personally think that people should be more concerned about their personalities - most people can tell a flattering angle or conveniently placed item on a picture, but i've met people whose behaviour doesn't match their online persona. |
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Not worry as such but mild concern. Same as meeting someone in any situation, you hope you're both at ease and you both enjoy each other's company and it isn't painfully awkward.
Within seconds if we're smiling and laughing then all's well with the world, whether there's a spark or not at least we'll have a nice coffee and a decent gab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That's what socials are for. And the reason I never play on a first social with someone - no pressure that way.
I've met a few people that I've been a bit  about. It can be down to the way they speak, smell, height, different from their photos.
When I met beast I made him webcam with me first so he could see the real me without angles. I was still a bit rabbit caught in headlights when I met him but he said that I was even better than he expected. Unless he was just flattering me to get his dick wet but guessing the fact that he wanted me as his means it was more than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes that's my main worry when I'm meeting someone. I try to send pictures of me looking fat and wearing no make up so the possibility is minimised  "
The face pics I sent were all quite 'rustic' looking, don't want to shock anyone |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
South Wales |
Sometimes. But nobody has ever run off screaming when they’ve met me, and they always want a repeat meet, so that counts for something eh.
So long as they remember i’m 6ft 2 and not 5ft 2 it’s all good, otherwise they’re in for a shock! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob. "
Where can you get a 3 quid hand job ? Asking for a friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob.
Where can you get a 3 quid hand job ? Asking for a friend "
I’ll do it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob.
Where can you get a 3 quid hand job ? Asking for a friend
I’ll do it "
Ok will let him know.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob.
Where can you get a 3 quid hand job ? Asking for a friend
I’ll do it
Ok will let him know.. "
Tell him it’s Christmas if he’s got a fiver |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I actually look worse in pictures than real life so I’m never worried about them not being attracted to me in the flesh if they’ve already seen and liked my pictures. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Only ever happened once but he waited until he'd come twice before telling me I was too fat to fuck deeply enough and that was probably why men leave me. And until I was stuck on his shitty narrowboat overnight. My fwbs still giggle about it
Omg for real???
What a guy huh
You should have heard the fart he ripped when he woke up! Bloke had as much class as a three quid handjob.
Where can you get a 3 quid hand job ? Asking for a friend
I’ll do it
Ok will let him know..
Tell him it’s Christmas if he’s got a fiver"
Its was the 3 quid that got him exited...loads of 5 pound ones out there.....apparently |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do. I also don't like to put lots of pics up incase I don't look the same to them if we are ever going to meet.
I know if I took the time, I can take pics of myself looking good and I could make my dick look huge(it's all about the angles lol) but I feel it wouldn't be a true representation of me.
Do anyone else here hold back with pics or do you put your best pics up and hope they're not disappointed when you eventually meet. "
it is not so much about putting up pics it is what they look like in real life.
Some are 10 years old pics
and disappointed means that you expect something from here
sadly those that expect are disappointed
I have met a few over the last 6 years who do not tickle my fancy but I can use my tongue to say NO |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never worried about it and I've never had any issues with meeting. If your pics are true then there's really no issue. So many try to hide with snippets of body parts and filters... it's like a freaking jigsaw puzzle trying to piece together what they actually look like. Don't meet people like that and you're probably not going to be disappointed. |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
Oo err Devon |
Yes.. I do worry.. But I try not too...
I don't seems to worry at socials and am going to try some clubs as then I find I don't worry as much when meeting people in person in a more social atmosphere...people can see and talk to me as I am without their imaginations getting carried away... we can have a good banter and see how we get on..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really, all my photos are recent, yes I pose and use the most flattering photos I take, but I don't edit them beyond colour alteration (if it's looking a little dark etc).
I don't edit the shape of my body, or use Snapchat filters and it's clearly stated in my profile that I'm curvy rather than slim or athletic. So if people were to be disappointed then that's on them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Actually it's the above that makes me a very unique acquired taste but am cool with that because I'm happy with who I am and don't waste my time wondering why..move on... |
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Not really. If we get to the stage of actually meeting then they'll have seen my friends photos. Nothing too sexy in there because I usually do wildlife photography and can't do selfies for shit. So they'll have seen my pic of me on a train in a hoody I don't pretend to be anything I'm not.
So if someone doesn't like me, it's usually a clash of personalities, or because my kind of curvy is the 'wrong' kind 
I've had some great (and not so great) socials that haven't gone any further, but I really like just meeting new people and hearing interesting stories. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s human nature isn’t it?
I’ll be honest enough to say it crosses my mind, but I don’t worry as such because it’s life.
I rarely meet anyway - too many odd people about |
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Yep! It's always a worry but I know myself as well that I don't know until I meet someone. It's just one of those things I guess.
I go the opposite way with pictures. I feel like the more I post the more accurate impression of what I look like people will get. I've had comments from people I've met that I look like my pictures which is good to hear that I'm not deceiving anyone haha. I always have a bit of worry the first time I meet someone though that they'll expect me to be slim even though I think my pictures do show that I'm curvy. Not had complaints yet but it's a common worry for me, especially if I meet someone who seems to have mostly met slim women. |
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By *r MoriartyMan
over a year ago
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"Yep! It's always a worry but I know myself as well that I don't know until I meet someone. It's just one of those things I guess.
I go the opposite way with pictures. I feel like the more I post the more accurate impression of what I look like people will get. I've had comments from people I've met that I look like my pictures which is good to hear that I'm not deceiving anyone haha. I always have a bit of worry the first time I meet someone though that they'll expect me to be slim even though I think my pictures do show that I'm curvy. Not had complaints yet but it's a common worry for me, especially if I meet someone who seems to have mostly met slim women."
You are slim |
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Yes we do have a little bit of apprehension. Our pictures are just how we are and we have explained in our bio that Mrs is a curvy girl, so we aren't hiding anything.
At the end of the day, we are who we are, and people will either like us or they won't. We won't change or pretend to be something else just to please others.
Take us or leave us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I more worry that I wont like them lol.
But I'm super picky and check verifications, for example if a guy has only ever met slim white women, I probably wont meet him but luckily majority of the guys I've met like fat women so they kinda know what to expect when the close come off |
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I try to only put nice pics up, why wouldn’t you? Most people say we look better in the flesh anyway!
Although I do think some people kid themselves as we’ve met some people who look much older not so good looking!!! |
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"Yep! It's always a worry but I know myself as well that I don't know until I meet someone. It's just one of those things I guess.
I go the opposite way with pictures. I feel like the more I post the more accurate impression of what I look like people will get. I've had comments from people I've met that I look like my pictures which is good to hear that I'm not deceiving anyone haha. I always have a bit of worry the first time I meet someone though that they'll expect me to be slim even though I think my pictures do show that I'm curvy. Not had complaints yet but it's a common worry for me, especially if I meet someone who seems to have mostly met slim women.
You are slim "
Subjective I guess. I've had comments that my partner "clearly has a thing for bigger women". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to worry more if we’re doing a home meet. My weight fluctuates constantly and I can be more lumpy and bumpy at times.
I’m more confident going to clubs, if someone approaches I reason that it’s because they like what they see whether I’m more bumpy or less bumpy than usual 
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"Yep! It's always a worry but I know myself as well that I don't know until I meet someone. It's just one of those things I guess.
I go the opposite way with pictures. I feel like the more I post the more accurate impression of what I look like people will get. I've had comments from people I've met that I look like my pictures which is good to hear that I'm not deceiving anyone haha. I always have a bit of worry the first time I meet someone though that they'll expect me to be slim even though I think my pictures do show that I'm curvy. Not had complaints yet but it's a common worry for me, especially if I meet someone who seems to have mostly met slim women.
You are slim
Subjective I guess. I've had comments that my partner "clearly has a thing for bigger women"."
We get messages from men saying how much they like BBW. We take it to mean they're just messaging to tell us we're not what they're after I think you should do the same |
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No I don’t worry about it.
Anyone I meet 1-2-1 we’ve already chatted a while, so they are fully aware of what I look like, although no one obviously reads the profile and realises that 5’1 is short
Due to chatting so long, we know we are going to have a good laugh even if there isn’t any sexual chemistry in person.
There’s no point stressing over it, just treat it like going for a drink with a mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No I don’t worry about it.
Anyone I meet 1-2-1 we’ve already chatted a while, so they are fully aware of what I look like, although no one obviously reads the profile and realises that 5’1 is short
Due to chatting so long, we know we are going to have a good laugh even if there isn’t any sexual chemistry in person.
There’s no point stressing over it, just treat it like going for a drink with a mate "
that's what I think about it too x exactly the same as you x as you said when you have been texting for a while you know if you're going to have a connection x i treat it like you it's just like going out for a few drinks xx |
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