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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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With age I have learned not to set up so high expectations and have more realistic goals for different things then when i was in my 20s. Do you think some here have to high expections why thay feel let down at times ?
because others fails to live up to them ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh totally. The higher the spec the less people there will be who meet it."
yes i think your right ... nothing wrong in knowing what you like ... just have to keep it real .  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh totally. The higher the spec the less people there will be who meet it. yes i think your right ... nothing wrong in knowing what you like ... just have to keep it real . "
Whats keeping it real Jo? |
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we arent shallow enough as to have expectations in the loks of people we can or cannot attract.
more expectations of behaviour and interaction.
i mean, if you are going to organise to meet, and turn up for a drink, the least you can do is actually get into it.. |
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"Oh totally. The higher the spec the less people there will be who meet it. yes i think your right ... nothing wrong in knowing what you like ... just have to keep it real . "
I do see some profiles with high expectations, not in terms of how attractive someone should be, but in terms of what they expect from a meet and pushing boundaries. I think some people may get desensitised the same way as they may to drugs or alcohol, so are always looking for something harder or new experiences and so rule out out a lot of meets |
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This is a good question and something we have thought a lot recently..
Couples mainly there seem to be lot that think they are a lot better than they are in others eyes.
Some seem to be searching for that perfect couple that they are never going to find.Many middle aged couples that only want to play with younger couples that are never going to be interested in them..
Also there's what we call the fake boob syndrome where the woman thinks she 21 again and will only entertain other similar Barby doll types.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't really see anything wrong with setting your sights high.
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I just think some single young men come into swinging thinking it will be this and that and its not. Some dont get the 100s of letters thay wish for and the meets . |
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With age I have learned not to set up so high expectations and have more realistic goals for different things then when i was in my 20s. Do you think some here have to high expections why thay feel let down at times ?
because others fails to live up to them ?
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No... if you have goals and expectations it is up to you to make sure they happen, not other people.
If you expect others to make your goals happen, whatever they are, you are likely to be disappointed.
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"I don't really see anything wrong with setting your sights high.
I just think some single young men come into swinging thinking it will be this and that and its not. Some dont get the 100s of letters thay wish for and the meets ."
Again it's because they sit back and expect someone else to make it happen.
There are plenty of guys who come here with high expectations.... and make it happen, but they make it happen for themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Oh totally. The higher the spec the less people there will be who meet it. yes i think your right ... nothing wrong in knowing what you like ... just have to keep it real .
I do see some profiles with high expectations, not in terms of how attractive someone should be, but in terms of what they expect from a meet and pushing boundaries. I think some people may get desensitised the same way as they may to drugs or alcohol, so are always looking for something harder or new experiences and so rule out out a lot of meets "
Its better if you know what people want though because i have met some men who where too pushy and expected me to do things i didnt really want to. I am quite happy to have straight sex and have tried most things already. I think most younger men are more easily pleased, in my experience.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Our expectation of a meet is that we'll meet some interesting people. Anything else is a bonus.
That way, we're not disappointed."
Good approach. I suppose this site is a fair reflection of society. Some people have delusions about their attractiveness, some are realistic and some are just slovenly and don't care |
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dont think its a matter of expectations, more a matter of some sort of attraction in the first place. i think the ladies should be picky who they wish to play with and not just do it because the couples have met up for a social somewhere.i know that sally would want attraction, inteligence and be witty as well.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Standards Vs. Expectations - Oh how I've watched people lower the former to meet the latter.
Standards and expectations are fine (and should be applauded), as long as they are tempered with a healthy sense of realism and check of the ego.
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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I set my expectations high because I'm worth it and because I won't fuck 'anything' just because I could.
If people want to lower their expectations, thats up to them but to me, that would also mean a lowering of standards.
Smacks of desperation to my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I set my expectations high because I'm worth it and because I won't fuck 'anything' just because I could.
If people want to lower their expectations, thats up to them but to me, that would also mean a lowering of standards.
Smacks of desperation to my mind."
we all get desperate sometimes though. |
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"I set my expectations high because I'm worth it and because I won't fuck 'anything' just because I could.
If people want to lower their expectations, thats up to them but to me, that would also mean a lowering of standards.
Smacks of desperation to my mind.
we all get desperate sometimes though. "
I dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you cant always get the good looking young ones, sometimes you make do, but you usualy like something about the person, even if their not exactly your type. some men dont meet me because of my perfect good looks they meet me because we have good fun together.  we arent on here to find our perfect partner, just looking for people who enjoy the same things, and its only sex. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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What does it actually mean to aim high? Some aim high by looking for awesome looks, others aim high by looking for a great night including being wined and dined, others look for a good party and a gang bang... I aim high in the sense that personality, sense of humour and wit are essential |
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"you cant always get the good looking young ones, sometimes you make do, but you usualy like something about the person, even if their not exactly your type. some men dont meet me because of my perfect good looks they meet me because we have good fun together. we arent on here to find our perfect partner, just looking for people who enjoy the same things, and its only sex."
But not everyone wants the young good looking ones ( i know shock horror) i know what i want in a guy and it has nothing to do with looks and i would sooner go with out then drop my standards |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"you cant always get the good looking young ones, sometimes you make do, but you usualy like something about the person, even if their not exactly your type. some men dont meet me because of my perfect good looks they meet me because we have good fun together. we arent on here to find our perfect partner, just looking for people who enjoy the same things, and its only sex.
But not everyone wants the young good looking ones ( i know shock horror) i know what i want in a guy and it has nothing to do with looks and i would sooner go with out then drop my standards"
Exactly my point |
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