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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m crap at this whole internet sell yourself crap. In person I can hold a conversation with everyone and anyone, but I feel like its too forced online. |
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
Nope, I'm the same here as I am in real life, a dickhead  "
That was, word for word, what I just typed in three other threads of varying contexts before I got here.  |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
Nope, I'm the same here as I am in real life, a dickhead
That was, word for word, what I just typed in three other threads of varying contexts before I got here. "
More people need to embrace their inner dickhead, it's so much fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
In real life I'm actually quite shy and wouldn't say boo to a goose 
That's what's so good about fan  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the forums there is the suspicion that I am completely unhinged and too far out on the spectrum to ever come back safely. Whereas in real life there is no doubt whatsoever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
I don't come across well at all! Have a dry sense of humour which doesn't translate too well over text. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
I don't come across well at all! Have a dry sense of humour which doesn't translate too well over text. "
Text is so bad for conveying tone isn't it. Even with emoticons things can come across the opposite to what you intended. So amazing how the same thing can have opposite meaning depending on how it is said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
I don't come across well at all! Have a dry sense of humour which doesn't translate too well over text.
Text is so bad for conveying tone isn't it. Even with emoticons things can come across the opposite to what you intended. So amazing how the same thing can have opposite meaning depending on how it is said."
Absolutely! But I think people can be easily offended a wee bit too maybe? They aren't to know I'm actually really nice and dont mean to be an asshole! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
I don't come across well at all! Have a dry sense of humour which doesn't translate too well over text.
Text is so bad for conveying tone isn't it. Even with emoticons things can come across the opposite to what you intended. So amazing how the same thing can have opposite meaning depending on how it is said.
Absolutely! But I think people can be easily offended a wee bit too maybe? They aren't to know I'm actually really nice and dont mean to be an asshole! "
There's that too. I think there are one or two people here who feed off the drama of being offended rather than give you the benefit of the doubt.
I'm a true believer in Hanlon's Razor. |
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I think I do. Maybe I'm not quite as chatty on the forum as I am in real life, but some of that is laziness because I can't be bothered typing huge long posts.
The essence is still the same though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've no idea. I'm just me, and anyone who knows me would tell you that. How I come across on this site is up to the individual. I'm either someone's cuppa tea or I'm not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel I come across the same way. People take me way too seriously on the forums. Although I will post something tongue in cheek and people will take it seriously, but I guess that’s just written word for ya - can be interpreted in many different ways |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Wayyyy too lazy to pretend to be someone else. Plus my memory is shot to fuck so if I lie or bullshit I'll forget what I've said and end up busted. I have to tell the truth cos its all I can remember  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc. "
I think I sometimes have this problem. I call it Jim Jeffries syndrome. A journo quoted his act in an article and as he says "if you READ my act... Its a bad read!!" But I genuinely am never trying to deliberately offend. Offending strangers is a dumb, nasty thing to do and I'm not perfect but I'm not dumb or nasty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc. "
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying "
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss "
The secret is to watch the lips. When they stop moving, nod your head.
I talk the biggest load of crap at the best of times but something about a really sexy woman makes me say the stupidest things. I can't help myself! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss
The secret is to watch the lips. When they stop moving, nod your head.
I talk the biggest load of crap at the best of times but something about a really sexy woman makes me say the stupidest things. I can't help myself!"
I think he's got his own filtering system where he doesn't hear most of what I say but will respond to key words: sandwich, blow job, touchdown etc... |
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
I come across the way I am in my profile if anyone reads it.
On forums I come across the way I would answer but life isn't simply a forum where people hurl 1 question and we answer...it's about back and forth communication so I don't think anybody can say they come across on the forums they would irl more that they have answered something as best they could using type rather than voice which is more than words but tonality and a deeper expression.
So for me personally I judge based on profile words used and how they are expressed if at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss
The secret is to watch the lips. When they stop moving, nod your head.
I talk the biggest load of crap at the best of times but something about a really sexy woman makes me say the stupidest things. I can't help myself!
I think he's got his own filtering system where he doesn't hear most of what I say but will respond to key words: sandwich, blow job, touchdown etc... "
All men have it. It's called selective hearing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss
The secret is to watch the lips. When they stop moving, nod your head.
I talk the biggest load of crap at the best of times but something about a really sexy woman makes me say the stupidest things. I can't help myself!
I think he's got his own filtering system where he doesn't hear most of what I say but will respond to key words: sandwich, blow job, touchdown etc...
All men have it. It's called selective hearing. "
I think it's massively helpful in maintaining harmonious relationships |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
On the flip side to that if you ever spoke to me in person I'd be so mesmerized by your amazing body that I probably wouldn't be able to concentrate 100% on what you're saying
I have this problem too. My bf knows that there's every chance I'm not listening to anything he's saying and just looking at his arms and my brain has turned to candy floss
The secret is to watch the lips. When they stop moving, nod your head.
I talk the biggest load of crap at the best of times but something about a really sexy woman makes me say the stupidest things. I can't help myself!
I think he's got his own filtering system where he doesn't hear most of what I say but will respond to key words: sandwich, blow job, touchdown etc...
All men have it. It's called selective hearing.
I think it's massively helpful in maintaining harmonious relationships "
It took me two marriages but I cottoned on eventually....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I say on here what I'd say in person. Unfortunately I have no control over how my words are interpreted because I can't back them up with facial expressions, body language etc.
I think I sometimes have this problem. I call it Jim Jeffries syndrome. A journo quoted his act in an article and as he says "if you READ my act... Its a bad read!!" But I genuinely am never trying to deliberately offend. Offending strangers is a dumb, nasty thing to do and I'm not perfect but I'm not dumb or nasty. "
I like this!
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
Yep. That is possibly due to the vacuum between transmit and receive... and the fact that one can sometimes run the risk of getting shot down on flames or hauled over verbal hot coals for voicing their own opinion....especially if it goes against the flow. |
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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago
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I'm quite subdued on the forums. Away from here, I talk a lot. My job involves talking to lots of people, as does my hobby, and in my band I tend to be the one who engages with the audience between songs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's difficult to convey humour in the written form. You can say something and people find it funny, you can write the same thing and it just dies. In real life I am genuinely funny, I know this because many people tell me so but here it's rare when I receive any recognition at all. Am I different here? No. Am I received differently here? Yes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
Nope, I'm the same here as I am in real life, a dickhead "
I can confirm this is true
True for me too. I'm a foul mouthed straight talking fucknugget, with a big ole caring heart.
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By *manaWoman
over a year ago
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality?
Nope, I'm the same here as I am in real life, a dickhead
I can confirm this is true
True for me too. I'm a foul mouthed straight talking fucknugget, with a big ole caring heart.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I guess that's difficult to quantify, as I imagine not many of us truly know how others perceive us here?
I did a work exercise once, where everyone in the group had to write anonymously a word to describe another. The descriptions were reas out and boy were some people mystified.
I spend a lot of my time looking after people and their lives...no idea if I come across as caring in here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm better at chatting on line than in person as it gives me more time to think. I can be a bit slow on the uptake in person, I'm quite quiet and I think I can come across a little stand offish but that's because I don't particularly ooze confidence. I'm a serious person and deep thinker but my skin has become a little thicker since I joined the Forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" I guess that's difficult to quantify, as I imagine not many of us truly know how others perceive us here?
I did a work exercise once, where everyone in the group had to write anonymously a word to describe another. The descriptions were reas out and boy were some people mystified.
I spend a lot of my time looking after people and their lives...no idea if I come across as caring in here."
Reas out?
That would be an interesting experiment.
I think you seem caring. Down to earth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the forums i overthink responses as i dont want misinterpretation/arguments
in person very bubbly, loud, sarcastic, bit daft
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Don't forget compassionate and true.
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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In as much as text can convey me, yes. I don't filter or curate my posts, I'm honest about my opinions and I speak my mind. I'm probably funnier in reality and less prone to deep thought but that's just the nature of the forums.
Those that know me and have met me (I would hope) will agree. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although the internet supposedly offers us 'the world on view', the undertaking of it, is really more closely related to confinement. Studies thereof suggest that even if it's not actual imprisonment, the symptoms are similar to going stir crazy or cabin fever.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm so much more confident online. I'm very timid in real life if I don't know you, but once I'm comfortable you'll see I'm pretty much the same as you find me on here. I don't see the point in faking who you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the forums i overthink responses as i dont want misinterpretation/arguments
in person very bubbly, loud, sarcastic, bit daft
Don't forget compassionate and true.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't come across as me on here. Text is hard and can be misinterpreted so I would say no. I'm not the whole me on here. "
Completely agree with this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm so much more confident online. I'm very timid in real life if I don't know you, but once I'm comfortable you'll see I'm pretty much the same as you find me on here. I don't see the point in faking who you are. "
I totally agree with that, Cyberspace gives you the time to think as some people find difficult to do in person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I boost different frequencies from the graphic equaliser of personality here.
Dial up the bottom end; roll off some treble... "
Ha, I really like that |
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
I'm totally sincere in what I post, although I do like to crack a joke too. I am exactly the same in person.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not really! Typing has no depth, emotion or passion at all and I have all of those qualities! Without body language (makes over 80% of good communication) then would hope no one is entirely how they come across rather it's more a snap shot of personality via messages/typing |
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It’s how individuals interpret your words, some see cold and blunt, others see honesty. To me I’m no different here than in real life, difference being I’ll have clothes on, the best to answer are those that have met me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You'd have to ask people who's met me to reply to that really. I try to come across as me, my profile is pretty blunt and maybe makes me sound like a mardy cow, but I'm a sweet little bunny in person really |
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
Some people despise what I say in the forums, and block me. Other people have met me because of what I say in here. I’m just me, no pretensions, no faking it, I say it as I see it, take me or leave me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In these forums? Or do you feel that you come across differently to people than you are in reality? "
I am bit more well behaved in real life. I am probably on my worst behavior here and on my best behavior in real life  |
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