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Does not do want there profile promises
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not going to go into to much detail but a meet that promised a lot through profile statement and chatting etc turned out not what was meant I tried to talk through this but couldn’t get through that it should do what is said on the tin anyone else had some meets like this as I have lost a bit of the fab vibe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes things don't work out in person. I am sorry you are disappointed, but good things are there to come. Try and put it behind you. As someone said: 'expectations are resentments awaiting to happen'. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"Shit, I didn’t know one’s profile was a binding contract. "
Some people obviously think so!
Like a couple a week ago, who saw me online; I was on here in the Forums during a break at work, but this couple thought that when anyone was online, it was automatically a guaranteed "Meet Now" condition!
When I declined their request, I was deemed a Timewaster and told in no uncertain terms, I didn't know how to work the site despite my 10 years here, but only their 3 weeks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If either of us decides at the time that we're not comfortable with anything, no matter how much it might have been talked about, we absolutely reserve the right to say no. And we afford the same respect to the person we are meeting with.
Surely no one would want the other party to go through with something they weren't at ease with? Yes you might have spoken about it and the idea of it was great but surely in the moment anyone is entitled to change their mind?
I find it quite disturbing that someone would think otherwise and they are somehow entitled to have exactly what was discussed - I'd rather hope I'd misinterpreted you OP
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By *dquestCouple
over a year ago
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"If either of us decides at the time that we're not comfortable with anything, no matter how much it might have been talked about, we absolutely reserve the right to say no. And we afford the same respect to the person we are meeting with.
Surely no one would want the other party to go through with something they weren't at ease with? Yes you might have spoken about it and the idea of it was great but surely in the moment anyone is entitled to change their mind?
I find it quite disturbing that someone would think otherwise and they are somehow entitled to have exactly what was discussed - I'd rather hope I'd misinterpreted you OP
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Agree. Does sound sort of wrong now that we read it again. No means no even if they are wearing sexy clothes and are in a swinging club. Nothing entitles anyone to anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyone can change their mind about anything. Just because a profile says something doesn't mean that it will happen. These are living thinking people not tinned goods."
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"Not going to go into to much detail but a meet that promised a lot through profile statement and chatting etc turned out not what was meant I tried to talk through this but couldn’t get through that it should do what is said on the tin anyone else had some meets like this as I have lost a bit of the fab vibe "
You mean they weren’t Ronseal OP
I’ve been promised mind blowing oral....didn’t always happen haha
Kx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not going to go into to much detail but a meet that promised a lot through profile statement and chatting etc turned out not what was meant I tried to talk through this but couldn’t get through that it should do what is said on the tin anyone else had some meets like this as I have lost a bit of the fab vibe "
Been taken wrong way and can see how what I should of said is have you been fooled into meeting someone who has basically lied to get a quick fuck and you feel they do this all the time For there own needs when they should just say that from the off not because They May find me attractive I call it wrong and deceitful and no offence meant obviously A profile is just a general of a person ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Anyone can change their mind about anything. Just because a profile says something doesn't mean that it will happen. These are living thinking people not tinned goods.
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Probably very badly worded by me coz that’s how I talk and expect people to get my lingo |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If either of us decides at the time that we're not comfortable with anything, no matter how much it might have been talked about, we absolutely reserve the right to say no. And we afford the same respect to the person we are meeting with.
Surely no one would want the other party to go through with something they weren't at ease with? Yes you might have spoken about it and the idea of it was great but surely in the moment anyone is entitled to change their mind?
I find it quite disturbing that someone would think otherwise and they are somehow entitled to have exactly what was discussed - I'd rather hope I'd misinterpreted you OP
Agree. Does sound sort of wrong now that we read it again. No means no even if they are wearing sexy clothes and are in a swinging club. Nothing entitles anyone to anything."
Completely taken wrong way I agree in everything you say most definitely |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Completely miss interpreted my last post
I was not just after a fuck as that was on the plate believe me but a social and see and had I been weak In my sexual tendencies I would of had a meet and fuck where I just felt I had to die to being pressured but as I’m not weak I gladly declined and paid for a taxi
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I’m so glad I read through all the posts before replying! OP I’m sorry you got jumped on but I think your original post was worded as though you turned up expecting sex and the other person didn’t deliver. As I understand now it was the other way round? If so I’m afraid that’s the risk you take on fab. Some people literally just want nsa sex with sexy people. Obviously if that’s the case the. They should be upfront about it but some don’t because it puts a lot of others off.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If either of us decides at the time that we're not comfortable with anything, no matter how much it might have been talked about, we absolutely reserve the right to say no. And we afford the same respect to the person we are meeting with.
Surely no one would want the other party to go through with something they weren't at ease with? Yes you might have spoken about it and the idea of it was great but surely in the moment anyone is entitled to change their mind?
I find it quite disturbing that someone would think otherwise and they are somehow entitled to have exactly what was discussed - I'd rather hope I'd misinterpreted you OP
Agree. Does sound sort of wrong now that we read it again. No means no even if they are wearing sexy clothes and are in a swinging club. Nothing entitles anyone to anything.
Completely taken wrong way I agree in everything you say most definitely "
I apologise wholeheartedly OP and sorry you were put in the position where you were the one feeling pressurised into doing something you weren't comfortable with. You were absolutely right to stick to your guns. |
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Preferences and interests on profiles are potential things that someone may like to enjoy or experience at some point, if the circumstances are right.
This is not a commercial transaction arena governed by the sales of goods act.
It is up to each of us to communicate effectively, including before and during our engagement with others. They are at liberty to refuse to have sex with you, even if they have already started to. They don't have to give you a reason.
Learn from your experiences, adjusting your expectations and behaviour |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Completely miss interpreted my last post
I was not just after a fuck as that was on the plate believe me but a social and see and had I been weak In my sexual tendencies I would of had a meet and fuck where I just felt I had to die to being pressured but as I’m not weak I gladly declined and paid for a taxi
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Ahhh, apologies, sorry for the misunderstanding. Looks like we all agree after all.
A lot of people here experienced the same, don't worry it's not just you. Both misunderstandings with forum posts and meets where people were not the same as their profile.
Don't feel bad for walking away from the meet. Nothing is guaranteed and people can say no at any point. You did the right thing. Good luck with your next meet.  |
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"Preferences and interests on profiles are potential things that someone may like to enjoy or experience at some point, if the circumstances are right.
This is not a commercial transaction arena governed by the sales of goods act.
It is up to each of us to communicate effectively, including before and during our engagement with others. They are at liberty to refuse to have sex with you, even if they have already started to. They don't have to give you a reason.
Learn from your experiences, adjusting your expectations and behaviour "
I believe it was more the other way around - the OP wanted a social meet first to establish if there was a connection, the other just wanted NSA sex so the OP left.
Sorry to hear you had a disappointing meet OP...look at it this way, perhaps you were just so damn sexy she couldn't stop herself... |
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