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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because I get the feeling most of what people say on here is a load of rubbish, saying I'm this and I'm that doesn't make it so. By telling everyone how wonderful you are it seems to me like your pimping yourself out or at least auditioning for some second rate talent show |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it really self-deprecation or is it a subtle way of getting others to flatter you and feed egos?"
good point
loads of that going on. Plus the 'rate my cock'...'would you fuck me'...etc etc
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Is it really self-deprecation or is it a subtle way of getting others to flatter you and feed egos?"
Now this is a very interesting point, i do think you have something there, but im seeing it more and more, i just wondered if people openly undervalue themselves deliberately, or they genuinely feel that way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Iloads of that going on. Plus the 'rate my cock'...'would you fuck me'...etc etc
yawn
In short. 7/10 and Computer says no 
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Ha ha "computer says no"
Just made giggle that..gotta love little britain |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it really self-deprecation or is it a subtle way of getting others to flatter you and feed egos?
good point
loads of that going on. Plus the 'rate my cock'...'would you fuck me'...etc etc
yawn"
I was more thinking the woe is me i have broke/damaged/lost XXX. The above threads are an icebreaker for some and easy for those with less to contribute but although they dont really appeal there are worse. I do smile though when you see someone rush to put another up one one has hit its limit. |
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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago
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"Iloads of that going on. Plus the 'rate my cock'...'would you fuck me'...etc etc
yawn
In short. 7/10 and Computer says no
Ha ha "computer says no"
Just made giggle that..gotta love little britain"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it really self-deprecation or is it a subtle way of getting others to flatter you and feed egos?Now this is a very interesting point, i do think you have something there, but im seeing it more and more, i just wondered if people openly undervalue themselves deliberately, or they genuinely feel that way "
Some make an art form of putting themselves down to court attention. But there are needy people on here as there is in life in general. |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Different strokes for different folks.
Some do it to fish for compliments. Some have been beaten into it.
I've not noticed it a lot of late. Maybe I read the wrong posts or the right ones x "
Maybe theres isnt anymore than usual, just more consistency  |
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You beat us to it having just answered another " would you fuck the one above " thread...
Think most of these people are insecure and want to feel wanted by everyone,or as said above have inflated egos ie stuck up ones own arse ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to self depreciate for a number of reasons.
If you can't take the pee out of yourself then I think it reveals a slight insecurity.
I am comfortable and confident in my own skin so don't see the need to boast.
I like to have banter with people and I think that being self depreciating is a signal that says you can have a laugh with me and my tiny, lifeless penis, I won't get offended.
Besides, just because someone boasts about themselves doesn't mean it's true. |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I like to self depreciate for a number of reasons.
If you can't take the pee out of yourself then I think it reveals a slight insecurity.
I am comfortable and confident in my own skin so don't see the need to boast.
I like to have banter with people and I think that being self depreciating is a signal that says you can have a laugh with me and my tiny, lifeless penis, I won't get offended.
Besides, just because someone boasts about themselves doesn't mean it's true. "
why does it have to be from one extreme to the other? |
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I was going to say there are levels of humility that can be mistaken for self depreciation but humility is a virtue.
The type of self depreciation I don't like is where people go on n on about a negative aspect of themselves so that everyone will say ......awwwww but you are beautiful.
Which as nice people we do but then they won't take the boost n find sommat else crap to say ....it's almost self perpetuating.
Sometimes im inclined to say ......Yeah you are ugly .... only prob with that is that it's misread as being mean or negative.....
Some are genuine some are needy.
There are tons of things I like about myself and some that I don't.
I don't air any of them on a public forum. ( That's what I like about me ) |
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I was going to say there are levels of humility that can be mistaken for self depreciation but humility is a virtue.
The type of self depreciation I don't like is where people go on n on about a negative aspect of themselves so that everyone will say ......awwwww but you are beautiful.
Which as nice people we do but then they won't take the boost n find sommat else crap to say ....it's almost self perpetuating.
Sometimes im inclined to say ......Yeah you are ugly .... only prob with that is that it's misread as being mean or negative.....
Some are genuine some are needy.
There are tons of things I like about myself and some that I don't.
I don't air any of them on a public forum. ( That's what I like about me ) "
I agree with you gran, great post xx |
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I have different thoughts on this
There are those that will be negative about themselves at every opportunity just to lap up compliments.
There is a post running where someone has a genuine problem and i dont for one minute think they are seeking compliments just advice.
There is others that just take the piss out of themselves.
Im a realist, i know im not perfect, i never will be. Since loosing weight i do take the piss out of myself more, usually about my now lack of tits, but thats mainly me adjusting to my new body shape. Iknow my tits are saggy i dont need someone to lie and tell me there not. All i can say is hallaluja to good underwear |
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"Is it really self-deprecation or is it a subtle way of getting others to flatter you and feed egos?Now this is a very interesting point, i do think you have something there, but im seeing it more and more, i just wondered if people openly undervalue themselves deliberately, or they genuinely feel that way "
It remonds me of primary school, where the girls would say how terrible there pictures were so all the other girls would prasie it.
Didnt like it then, dont like it now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's just people looking for other people to say how good they are.
Fawning after compliments in the forums rather than being lambasted fow what they are posting.!!!
This is just my own personal opinion and I am not wanting to cause anyone any upset in anyway shape or form.
I first thought Femme was on about self defecation !!!! well a lot of people on here do talk a lot of s**t.....
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By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago
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"it's just people looking for other people to say how good they are.
Fawning after compliments in the forums rather than being lambasted fow what they are posting.!!!
This is just my own personal opinion and I am not wanting to cause anyone any upset in anyway shape or form.
I first thought Femme was on about self defecation !!!! well a lot of people on here do talk a lot of s**t.....
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Hello you..good to see you posting xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it's just people looking for other people to say how good they are.
Fawning after compliments in the forums rather than being lambasted fow what they are posting.!!!
This is just my own personal opinion and I am not wanting to cause anyone any upset in anyway shape or form.
I first thought Femme was on about self defecation !!!! well a lot of people on here do talk a lot of s**t.....
Hello you..good to see you posting xx"
xxxx always lurking in the background lol xxx
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I think there may well be people who self depreciate in order to fish for compliments - I'm not one of them. I don't have a face pic on my public gallery so it would be a futile exercise.
I genuinely think I'm not in the 'beautiful' bracket but that's by MY standards. I know that beauty is a subjective thing and someone else may find me attractive by THEIR standards.
I guess I've learned over the years that I am what I am and people are free to accept or reject me as they see fit.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Self-deprecation means belittling yourself, or running yourself down, in the eyes of others. It is a drive to make yourself small or even invisible,
I had to look it up , see i like to learn somthing new each day. xx There a mix here on fab and when you get that .. you come across all sorts ... And life would be boring if everyone was the same ... if people wish to do this its up to them , As long as not hurting me i dont care x  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like to self depreciate for a number of reasons.
If you can't take the pee out of yourself then I think it reveals a slight insecurity.
I am comfortable and confident in my own skin so don't see the need to boast.
I like to have banter with people and I think that being self depreciating is a signal that says you can have a laugh with me and my tiny, lifeless penis, I won't get offended.
Besides, just because someone boasts about themselves doesn't mean it's true. why does it have to be from one extreme to the other? "
I have no idea to be honest. I just don't take myself too seriously. All I meant was that my self depreciation is in jest rather than out of some insecurity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why? "
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition? |
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?"
Im sure if someone invents one there will be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be."
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that.  |
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be.
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that. "
Thing is does it make them feel better if someone tells them they are gorgeous or fit or have a great body. That they are whatever they are seeking approval about? Some one can tell you something a million times but it how you feel about yourself that counts not what others think.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be.
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that.
Thing is does it make them feel better if someone tells them they are gorgeous or fit or have a great body. That they are whatever they are seeking approval about? Some one can tell you something a million times but it how you feel about yourself that counts not what others think.
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hmm tis nice to be told it sometimes tho |
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be.
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that.
Thing is does it make them feel better if someone tells them they are gorgeous or fit or have a great body. That they are whatever they are seeking approval about? Some one can tell you something a million times but it how you feel about yourself that counts not what others think.
hmm tis nice to be told it sometimes tho "
depends whether the person is saying it because they mean it or in reply to someone being self depreciative |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To some its self deprecating; others could be expressing what they believe is an honest assessment of themselves.
The former may do it for reasons of insecurity, attention grabbing, seeking validation from others. The latter simply because they are grounded and self-aware. Its all subjective and the only person that really knows is the one who makes the comment.
I don't self-deprecate for one simple reason - In life there are plenty of people willing to deprecate you for free. Being honest with yourself about who you are is like a suit of armour against them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be.
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that.
Thing is does it make them feel better if someone tells them they are gorgeous or fit or have a great body. That they are whatever they are seeking approval about? Some one can tell you something a million times but it how you feel about yourself that counts not what others think.
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Couldn't agree more with the above quote,
I have very low self asteem and I don't take compliments well as I always think I'm being patronised but that's me and that's my problem, I do get the feeling most people on here are compliment seeking , one guy posted pictures of his wife asking if people thought she was alright but he must have known she was stunning, that's just ego boosting shit , prob just for him. |
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why?
There are a lots of insecure people in the world full stop so you will always get a fair share on forums that are accessed from the home. People who are insecure constantly need approval. There are others who are more attention seekers though I guess. Maybe there is a related medical condition?
Im sure if someone invents one there will be.
I guess there will be something of the sort. I know some have such low self esteem they will look for approval from anyone, it cant be good to be like that.
Thing is does it make them feel better if someone tells them they are gorgeous or fit or have a great body. That they are whatever they are seeking approval about? Some one can tell you something a million times but it how you feel about yourself that counts not what others think.
Couldn't agree more with the above quote,
I have very low self asteem and I don't take compliments well as I always think I'm being patronised but that's me and that's my problem, I do get the feeling most people on here are compliment seeking , one guy posted pictures of his wife asking if people thought she was alright but he must have known she was stunning, that's just ego boosting shit , prob just for him. "
I think most of these threads are started by husbands boyfriends that get a kick out of people worshipping their better halfs.. Makes them feel better in their own insecuritys no doubt.. |
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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago
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"Self-deprecation recently in these here forums....so do you? If so why? "
could you be more precise femme,even give some examples.
self depreciation,covers a wide and varied area,thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm trying to think...(no snark thank you )
I don't think I've noticed any really, had a couple of days of mind, so maybe I've not caught up yet 
but sometimes people do feel genuinely down and need a kick up the arse, and where better to get one?  |
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By *__KMan
over a year ago
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I don't like being complimented much, I shy away and hide. I don't even like complimenting myself. I keep telling myself that I am average at everything... Mostly because if I start thinking that I am good I'll end up pig-headded and arrogant. |
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