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Attraction ? Yay or Nay ?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
There has to be an attraction of some sort, but it's not always physical (at first).
There are people (too many) who will have sex with people they don't like but that is about power or loathing, or both, and not attraction.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"There has to be an attraction of some sort, but it's not always physical (at first).
There are people (too many) who will have sex with people they don't like but that is about power or loathing, or both, and not attraction.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy...."
I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?
Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"when i did gangbangs and group sex i didnt need to be attracted to them as long as they where clean and respectful. It was all about the sex. Thats all changed now though. "
I get that.
When I went to clubs I would sometimes give the power to my partner to choose. There was still attraction involved in the sex, of a sort, but it was for my partner and the gift I was giving him.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy....
I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?
Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy."
Indeed, that's why I said my view had changed. A year or two ago I'd have been far more moralistic and probably said some shit about how would a man even get an erection to do it. I've shagged ppl I'm not proud of though, so I cant very well preach about the impossibility of sex without attraction.... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy....
I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?
Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy.
Indeed, that's why I said my view had changed. A year or two ago I'd have been far more moralistic and probably said some shit about how would a man even get an erection to do it. I've shagged ppl I'm not proud of though, so I cant very well preach about the impossibility of sex without attraction...."
Sometimes it's a mutual right time, right place and nothing more. I think that was a fair amount of the sex I had in my early 20s. The men were pretty enough in the moment.
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "
it that situation the little head takes over, and if the big head ain't attracted the little head don't play, so nope ,
Gotta be an attraction |
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It’s never just sex, for me or Ailsa. We have to feel attracted, and attraction for us both is more complex than just physical attributes. We always struggle to understand how someone can say they are looking for a big cock or big boobs or flat tummy... all of these things have a real person attached. It’s the person, as a complete whole, who we need to be attracted to, otherwise it won’t happen. |
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "
Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on. |
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"It’s never just sex, for me or Ailsa. We have to feel attracted, and attraction for us both is more complex than just physical attributes. We always struggle to understand how someone can say they are looking for a big cock or big boobs or flat tummy... all of these things have a real person attached. It’s the person, as a complete whole, who we need to be attracted to, otherwise it won’t happen. "
Well done!!! it’s like taking the words out of my mouth |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?
Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on. "
Then there is an attraction - it's to the situation.
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I (Luke) have done in the past. I did it for the sake of it. The opportunity was there for the taking on one occasion and it seemed better than not doing it. I don't regret it but I didn't really benefit.
Now I'm with Hannah, there is no loss to me missing out on sex with somebody I'm not attracted to because I have ready access to great sex with somebody I am very attracted to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I've always said that ever since I was a young guy you've got to have sex with someone that you are attracted to 2 there is no way on earth I could put my my didgeridoo into someone that I didn't physically like... unfortunately for me doesn't look like I will find anyone on here that wants to see my didgeridoo lol |
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
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There definitely has to be some attraction for me! I don't think I would always be looking for the sort of attraction I would look for in a long term relationship... But there would need to be some connection.. as much as I'm into swinging for sex... I also enjoy the... Lust part and that's just not going to happen without attraction... |
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "
Could you imagine if every woman said yes to every guy who asked for her on fab?? No you need your filters and find someone you're compactible, comfortable and really attracted to. Sex is pretty meaningless if it's just sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?
Could you imagine if every woman said yes to every guy who asked for her on fab?? No you need your filters and find someone you're compactible, comfortable and really attracted to. Sex is pretty meaningless if it's just sex."
I'm very compact    |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for it"
guessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what |
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"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for itguessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what "
actually it's the Mrs lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for itguessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what actually it's the Mrs lol"
really well it says youre bisexual so she may appeal she has a bi sex scene in the film and she has several iced baths |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely has to be some form of attraction. I find many things attractive, be it personality, a nice face, a body that I want to put my hands on, great boobs etc I'm attracted to differnt things about different people. If theres no sexual chemistry then there cant be a meet. |
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?
Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on.
Then there is an attraction - it's to the situation.
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Yes, just not the individual. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Attraction for me is a fickle thing. It changes depending on the situation. Physical attraction was key for my relationship but not as much when I play. The heat of the moment takes over then and I find different things and people attractive at that time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Attraction for me is a fickle thing. It changes depending on the situation. Physical attraction was key for my relationship but not as much when I play. The heat of the moment takes over then and I find different things and people attractive at that time. "
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Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol....  ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....
What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "
Has to be attraction...animal attraction   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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the little fella doesnt want to play if not physically attracted AND mentally stimulated.
you dont need to be able to quote quantum theorum but be able to spell your name properly is the bare minimum. |
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"Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol.... ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her. "
Id suck your dick |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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Yes there's got to be something. I don't think anyone really has sex owith people they're not attracted to in some way, it's just that some people can find attraction in willingness and the appropriate body parts. |
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"Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol.... ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her.
Id suck your dick "
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But seriously, attraction is intrinsic for me 
