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What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? |
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over a year ago
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You've already answered the question.
It's diverse with different personalities, you can't have a 'perfect' personality or attitude to join the forums. Just jump in, be yourself and be nice to others.
As for how we can be more inclusive, that's not going to happen.There's too many people, too many friendships and too much built up prejudice, for others not to feel isolated at first.
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I think being respectful and tolerant of views that aren’t necessarily the same as your own is a good start. If you have this as a basic human quality, I don’t think you can go far wrong on here.
I think the second part of your question is more difficult ... inclusivity probably flows from the above. So if we can all start with basic respect, maybe we become more inclusive.
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"It's like a party, just bring something and a smile and share with everyone. Leave your fears at the login..... 
And an item of buffet food  "
Exactly, fucking cakey ppl..... |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think there is one particular thing; different people like/respond to different people differently (that was a fuck ton of different, apologies) and you're never going to please everyone are you?
I do think that you can be a more welcoming forum user (rather than *good* because I dislike the notion) by engaging with others, being respectful even when dealing with opinions that differ from yours and being authentic to who you are. And enjoy it! The fora can be fun and it can be an interesting place to learn from others. |
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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago
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Don’t be frightened just to post your own personal opinions. It can be frustrating when you are seemingly ignored whilst others highjack the thread talking with just each other. But. Come back in a few months. Those people will have gone to be replaced by a brand new group.
I post my opinions based on what the OP has posted and let the rest go over my head x
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"I don't think there is one particular thing; different people like/respond to different people differently (that was a fuck ton of different, apologies) and you're never going to please everyone are you?
I do think that you can be a more welcoming forum user (rather than *good* because I dislike the notion) by engaging with others, being respectful even when dealing with opinions that differ from yours and being authentic to who you are. And enjoy it! The fora can be fun and it can be an interesting place to learn from others."
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa"
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this: 
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc. |
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"I don't think there is one particular thing; different people like/respond to different people differently (that was a fuck ton of different, apologies) and you're never going to please everyone are you?
I do think that you can be a more welcoming forum user (rather than *good* because I dislike the notion) by engaging with others, being respectful even when dealing with opinions that differ from yours and being authentic to who you are. And enjoy it! The fora can be fun and it can be an interesting place to learn from others."
Like the idea of welcoming for sure. Definitely am enjoying learning from others too. |
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this:
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc. "
Tomato ok I take your point |
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this:
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc. "
Hate the phrase man up with a resounding passion. Although I do own a woman up t shirt which I wear to work |
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this:
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc. "
True story....! |
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this:
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc.
Hate the phrase man up with a resounding passion. Although I do own a woman up t shirt which I wear to work "
I’ve worked with men who’ve attempted to take their lives because they’ve been told to “man up’ so many times they genuinely don’t think it’s ok to not be ok. It’s a damaging phrase for sure and something I advocate strongly about in my work.
“Woman up” I will accept, haha |
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
Urgh pet hate phrase ....... I don’t like it
Sorry but it’s true mwwwaa
It’s the “thick skin” part that makes me do this:
I have good reasons. I’ve spent years working professionally with people with severe mental health problems (in particular men) who were told to “man up” and have “thick skin” as kids. As adults they aren’t sure how to deal with their emotions and feel it’s wrong to have them. Therapeutically, this is hard to work with and “undo”. Hence my dislike of it.
But, flipping it around, it can also be helpful as a way of encouraging resilience I suppose. You say potato, I say ........ etc.
Hate the phrase man up with a resounding passion. Although I do own a woman up t shirt which I wear to work
I’ve worked with men who’ve attempted to take their lives because they’ve been told to “man up’ so many times they genuinely don’t think it’s ok to not be ok. It’s a damaging phrase for sure and something I advocate strongly about in my work.
“Woman up” I will accept, haha "
It's toxic masculinity at its best. Seen the effects on it on those I love and cherish and I absolutely hate it |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? "
i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful   |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful "
Haha
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Haha
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hey you are to mind and very respected by all and what a tan |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol"
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really??  |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Haha
hey you are to mind and very respected by all and what a tan "
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"Be yourself and have a thick skin
I'm always myself but I'm the biggest softie ever
Me too. But I think we hold our own quite well my love "
I'm soft but happy with it now as I've grown older. It's a part of my personality I now love |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really?? "
I'm weary of overly happy people I'm such a cynic |
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I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really??
I'm weary of overly happy people I'm such a cynic "
I get this. It’s not real life to always be happy. But if you genuinely are, then fair play to you |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells "
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?  |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet? "
Vagina innit |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lolreally but is their a welcome in the hillside? "
Haha I live by the sea!!! |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?
Vagina innit"
I can actually do that |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really?? in my case yes i wake up at 4am happy lol always have "
He does
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over a year ago
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? "
If you can start a favourite colour/number/car/chocolate bar/etc thread and get over 50 replies, you’re the dog’s doo-dahs |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells "
Good points here, you made me comfortable enough to start talking in the forum's |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?
Vagina innit
I can actually do that "
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really?? in my case yes i wake up at 4am happy lol always have "
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?
Vagina innit
I can actually do that
You're shagging all wrong..... .....tmi "
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join?
If you can start a favourite colour/number/car/chocolate bar/etc thread and get over 50 replies, you’re the dog’s doo-dahs "
That's the bar ok I'll keep that in mind |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Good points here, you made me comfortable enough to start talking in the forum's "
I didnt say you were funny! |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?
Vagina innit
I can actually do that
You're shagging all wrong..... .....tmi
You know you're not to use that emoji!"
She knows not to talk about fanny noises..... |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Good points here, you made me comfortable enough to start talking in the forum's
I didnt say you were funny! "
God I'm not funny at all, maybe funny strange |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? "
I just talk goggly gook anyway & ignored majority of the time , so I’m unsure what makes a good forumite ? |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Talk with their brain as opposed to....... their feet?
Vagina innit
I can actually do that
You're shagging all wrong..... .....tmi
You know you're not to use that emoji!
She knows not to talk about fanny noises..... "
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join?
I just talk goggly gook anyway & ignored majority of the time , so I’m unsure what makes a good forumite ? "
You replied on my thread about wearing casual clothes not all done up, and mighty fine you look in your oh shirt |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join?
I just talk goggly gook anyway & ignored majority of the time , so I’m unsure what makes a good forumite ?
You replied on my thread about wearing casual clothes not all done up, and mighty fine you look in your oh shirt "
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"You've already answered the question.
It's diverse with different personalities, you can't have a 'perfect' personality or attitude to join the forums. Just jump in, be yourself and be nice to others.
As for how we can be more inclusive, that's not going to happen.There's too many people, too many friendships and too much built up prejudice, for others not to feel isolated at first.
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I agree with this (This is George). I’m still fairly new to the forums, and it is difficult sometimes to feel part of the conversations. But many of the people have been connected for quite a while, and I have had privilege of chatting to a few people privately and made couple of good friends in the process. Pretty much all the people here seem to be really kind and generous, which is Fab |
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"I think the ppl I admire here the most are the ones who talk with their brain, engage others and ask opinion rather than talk just about themselves. If you make a point of being polite to everyone, especially on your own threads, and thanking new ppl for commenting I think it goes a long way.
Nothing worse than watching a person being ignored because they're the wrong sex or not traditionally beautiful or haven't found their forum confidence just yet.... ....its really good to encourage the shy ones because often they're the funniest when they come out of their shells
Good points here, you made me comfortable enough to start talking in the forum's
I didnt say you were funny!
God I'm not funny at all, maybe funny strange"
You know I'm kitten and teasing!
You ARE funny in a very clever and subtle way....
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe. "
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join?
I just talk goggly gook anyway & ignored majority of the time , so I’m unsure what makes a good forumite ?
You replied on my thread about wearing casual clothes not all done up, and mighty fine you look in your oh shirt "
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Without sounding too much like a cheesy cliche, being yourself
Some days I like the serious discussions, some days I'm in a silly mood, some days I fancy a good old flirt! I've only been an active forum user these past six months (discovered them when I was laid up in bed) and initially I did find it a bit daunting. Everyone seems to know each other, the running gags etc... But the longer I stick around, the more I enjoy it, and I've made some friends too.
Be more Frida!
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"Without sounding too much like a cheesy cliche, being yourself
Some days I like the serious discussions, some days I'm in a silly mood, some days I fancy a good old flirt! I've only been an active forum user these past six months (discovered them when I was laid up in bed) and initially I did find it a bit daunting. Everyone seems to know each other, the running gags etc... But the longer I stick around, the more I enjoy it, and I've made some friends too.
Be more Frida!
Mrs TMN x "
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"Without sounding too much like a cheesy cliche, being yourself
Some days I like the serious discussions, some days I'm in a silly mood, some days I fancy a good old flirt! I've only been an active forum user these past six months (discovered them when I was laid up in bed) and initially I did find it a bit daunting. Everyone seems to know each other, the running gags etc... But the longer I stick around, the more I enjoy it, and I've made some friends too.
Be more Frida!
Mrs TMN x
Thanks for some sound advice F x"
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking. "
Is it? Or are some people just genuinely like that in real life, therefore it’s not fake at all? And how would you know? |
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
Is it? Or are some people just genuinely like that in real life, therefore it’s not fake at all? And how would you know? "
I see a lot of negativity and people trying to combat it.
I am how I am. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking. "
I was just thinking what a grumpy bunch of bastards there are on the forums 
I suppose it can depend what threads you read. |
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
I was just thinking what a grumpy bunch of bastards there are on the forums
I suppose it can depend what threads you read. "
(This profile) how weird I might be physcic |
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By *SAchickWoman
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
I was just thinking what a grumpy bunch of bastards there are on the forums
I suppose it can depend what threads you read.
(This profile) how weird I might be physcic "
Or maybe I am!
I don't think either of us would stand a chance |
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
Is it? Or are some people just genuinely like that in real life, therefore it’s not fake at all? And how would you know? "
My perception will be the same as some and different to others. |
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking. "
There are a lot of rimming threads I'll give you that. |
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
I was just thinking what a grumpy bunch of bastards there are on the forums
I suppose it can depend what threads you read. "
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
I was just thinking what a grumpy bunch of bastards there are on the forums
I suppose it can depend what threads you read.
(This profile) how weird I might be physcic
Or maybe I am!
I don't think either of us would stand a chance "
Maybe we're just meant to be together and speak for yourself I'm popular as fuck on here |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why"
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings. |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings. "
Many thumbs to this!
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings. "
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction |
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"What makes a good forumite? As a relatively newbie to the forums, I'm unsure what it all means in all honesty. I can see a wide range of people with diversity of opinions, some are funny and playful. Is it the eclectic mix so there is no right answer? And how do we make it more inclusive for others to join? i am the perfect forumite, non judgemental, constant happy mood, comedic and playful
Waw constantly happy fair play I can't manage that why not
Cause I'm a grumpy moo very often lol
Haha I don’t know anyone who’s mood is always jolly. 100% of the time, 24/7? Really?? "
I'm very very rarely unhappy tbh I like my little world that I live in! |
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"Is hard to jump in sometimes, and I still have no clue what's going on in some threads. Guess it's time and patience
I didn't even realise you were new so you're doing something right  "
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"No right answer. Anyone trying too hard to be one thing or another to fit in though just makes me cringe.
I agree. The whole forum is sickly sweet lately. It's all fake Stepford wives smiles and arse licking.
Is it? Or are some people just genuinely like that in real life, therefore it’s not fake at all? And how would you know?
I see a lot of negativity and people trying to combat it.
I am how I am. "
There's a lot to be said about being genuine to yourself |
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How do we make it more inclusive? I guess joining in and contributing to their threads, without ripping them apart for the amusement of the blood thirsty pack?
It's very hard these days to create unique threads, so maybe new people are what's most needed? It's also very demoralising to have your thread crash and burn with no replies, but ultimately just contribute. This place is nothing without people of all types. It's why I come back. |
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" How do we make it more inclusive? I guess joining in and contributing to their threads, without ripping them apart for the amusement of the blood thirsty pack?
It's very hard these days to create unique threads, so maybe new people are what's most needed? It's also very demoralising to have your thread crash and burn with no replies, but ultimately just contribute. This place is nothing without people of all types. It's why I come back."
One of my first totally crashed and burned only 4 people answered on it. But you're right this a diverse place |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction"
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others. |
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I've been participating in the Forums for years and most of the time feel unnoticed. It's not just newbies that can feel isolated or ignored. Early on I realised that the confrontational threads weren't for me as I can't express my feelings very well with typed words so I avoid them. Everyone is different here, some funny people, some total dicks which is a little how families are made up. Everyone plays a part. |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others. "
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up "
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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To be a really good forumite you have to be very active on the forums almost every hour of the day. Therefore a really good forumite will probably be a little bit dull in real life.
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you. "
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here |
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"One who has their own opinion and doesn't follow the crowd yet doesn't force that opinion on others.
100% agree with you there
Glad I'm your faves "
I asked what made a good forumite not what made them my favourite. I actually find some I don't like to be good, be boring if we were all the same. |
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"I've been participating in the Forums for years and most of the time feel unnoticed. It's not just newbies that can feel isolated or ignored. Early on I realised that the confrontational threads weren't for me as I can't express my feelings very well with typed words so I avoid them. Everyone is different here, some funny people, some total dicks which is a little how families are made up. Everyone plays a part. "
That's a really good point it's like a mini family |
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"To be a really good forumite you have to be very active on the forums almost every hour of the day. Therefore a really good forumite will probably be a little bit dull in real life.
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Haha I'm dull as dishwasher |
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"To be a really good forumite you have to be very active on the forums almost every hour of the day. Therefore a really good forumite will probably be a little bit dull in real life.
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you.
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here "
Not to get technical but... attention seeking fits more with a histrionic personality. You might be that instead. It basically depends how much you love yourself with it |
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"One who has their own opinion and doesn't follow the crowd yet doesn't force that opinion on others.
100% agree with you there
Glad I'm your faves
I asked what made a good forumite not what made them my favourite. I actually find some I don't like to be good, be boring if we were all the same."
Well I'm happy I'm a good one in people's eyes either not really asked who likes me or not |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you.
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here
Not to get technical but... attention seeking fits more with a histrionic personality. You might be that instead. It basically depends how much you love yourself with it "
I'm sorry I'm confused now lol but I do love myself also maybe I'm just an arsehole |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you.
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here
Not to get technical but... attention seeking fits more with a histrionic personality. You might be that instead. It basically depends how much you love yourself with it
I'm sorry I'm confused now lol but I do love myself also maybe I'm just an arsehole "
Haha. You’re a nice mix of narcissistic and histrionic then.
I don’t know what makes a good formumite, but I imagine having studied and worked within the field of human psychology and personality for the past 12 years probably makes me an unpopular one |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you.
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here
Not to get technical but... attention seeking fits more with a histrionic personality. You might be that instead. It basically depends how much you love yourself with it
I'm sorry I'm confused now lol but I do love myself also maybe I'm just an arsehole
Haha. You’re a nice mix of narcissistic and histrionic then.
I don’t know what makes a good formumite, but I imagine having studied and worked within the field of human psychology and personality for the past 12 years probably makes me an unpopular one "
nice to have a bit of depth to my character, you're so brainy and hot my brain has discombobulated |
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"We should have a vote and see who's people fave forumite is, my monies on either me or NSA chick or whatever the name is
Eww let's not.
Why
A thread of narcissism, people up each other's arses, cries of clique and hurt feelings.
Dunno what narcissism means, everyone likes there arse licked, clique on the forum ? I would never believe that and of people's feelings are hurt because they're not someone's fave forumite maybe they should look elsewhere for social interaction
Narcissism is a personality trait defined mostly by a sense of entitlement, overly inflated sense of self-importance, and a need for admiration by others.
Oh so me in other words thanks for clearing that up
That’s the definition. If you identify with it, then yes it’s you.
Of course I'm the biggest attention seeker on here
Not to get technical but... attention seeking fits more with a histrionic personality. You might be that instead. It basically depends how much you love yourself with it
I'm sorry I'm confused now lol but I do love myself also maybe I'm just an arsehole
Haha. You’re a nice mix of narcissistic and histrionic then.
I don’t know what makes a good formumite, but I imagine having studied and worked within the field of human psychology and personality for the past 12 years probably makes me an unpopular one
nice to have a bit of depth to my character, you're so brainy and hot my brain has discombobulated"
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"I've been participating in the Forums for years and most of the time feel unnoticed. It's not just newbies that can feel isolated or ignored. Early on I realised that the confrontational threads weren't for me as I can't express my feelings very well with typed words so I avoid them. Everyone is different here, some funny people, some total dicks which is a little how families are made up. Everyone plays a part. "
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