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Does personality matter more than body
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I like a good sense of humour in a man because if you shag/date/marry me (whatever) you’re going to need something to see you through our dark days. Of which there will be many because i’m a right stroppy cow.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm....what if the person is a talking brain in a jar? (I saw this in a science fiction movie so it obviously can happen)  "
Man with Two Brains!!! Classic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So many saying personality yet the amount of people who ask for pic then turn you down flat or not reply.. never getting chance to find put about you.. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"So many saying personality yet the amount of people who ask for pic then turn you down flat or not reply.. never getting chance to find put about you.."
People in the forums are those that like to chat. Those that like others who have a personality and a few stroppy people too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Why should people be questioned for who they are attracted to? In my vanity years, looks all the way. Once I grew up and got older, it is still looks but in a different way. Are they clean? Tidy? Dirty fingernails? Meth mouth? Do they give a shit about themselves and try to look presentable? On the flip side - are they still wearing tap out tshirts and gangsta hoodies and use more hair products than I do? Do they look so high maintenance that I cannot compete?
So yes, looks matter when it comes to whom you choose to swap spit and rub pissers with. You cant judge a book by its cover, but you won't read it if you dont like how it looks.
Sounds vain, but it is okay to be vain.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body and looks first always everyone else who says different is lying "
Why would people lie. Everyone sees people differently, everyone wants different things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Why should people be questioned for who they are attracted to? In my vanity years, looks all the way. Once I grew up and got older, it is still looks but in a different way. Are they clean? Tidy? Dirty fingernails? Meth mouth? Do they give a shit about themselves and try to look presentable? On the flip side - are they still wearing tap out tshirts and gangsta hoodies and use more hair products than I do? Do they look so high maintenance that I cannot compete?
So yes, looks matter when it comes to whom you choose to swap spit and rub pissers with. You cant judge a book by its cover, but you won't read it if you dont like how it looks.
Sounds vain, but it is okay to be vain.
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We are all a bit vain at the end of the day. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body and looks first always everyone else who says different is lying
Why would people lie. Everyone sees people differently, everyone wants different things "
Have you shagged someone you thought was ugly yea ? |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Body and looks first always everyone else who says different is lying
Why would people lie. Everyone sees people differently, everyone wants different things
Have you shagged someone you thought was ugly yea ? "
Ugly in your eyes is not ugly I'd someone else's eyes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Why should people be questioned for who they are attracted to? In my vanity years, looks all the way. Once I grew up and got older, it is still looks but in a different way. Are they clean? Tidy? Dirty fingernails? Meth mouth? Do they give a shit about themselves and try to look presentable? On the flip side - are they still wearing tap out tshirts and gangsta hoodies and use more hair products than I do? Do they look so high maintenance that I cannot compete?
So yes, looks matter when it comes to whom you choose to swap spit and rub pissers with. You cant judge a book by its cover, but you won't read it if you dont like how it looks.
Sounds vain, but it is okay to be vain.
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Absolutely.
Why do people get so hung up on it when looks are subjective. To me looks open the door and right type of personality and I'm dragging them in |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It really does. There are a much wider range of bodies I'm attracted to than personality types. So personality is definitely the clincher and then I grow more, or less, attracted to the person as I see more of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body and looks first always everyone else who says different is lying
Why would people lie. Everyone sees people differently, everyone wants different things
Have you shagged someone you thought was ugly yea ?
Ugly in your eyes is not ugly I'd someone else's eyes. "
Agreed I'm not talking about in my eyes I'm on about in hers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For a funny observation, Louis CK said it best - no one fucks down. You either fuck higher or across but no one fucks down.
I'm gonna watch that on youtube now it was such a good bit.
By the way OP - there is nothing wrong with you. You put yourself out there, keep it clean and honest, and itll happen. I'd have coffee with you but I dont live there. |
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"For a funny observation, Louis CK said it best - no one fucks down. You either fuck higher or across but no one fucks down.
I'm gonna watch that on youtube now it was such a good bit.
By the way OP - there is nothing wrong with you. You put yourself out there, keep it clean and honest, and itll happen. I'd have coffee with you but I dont live there. "
Not sure taking advice from Louis CK is advisable |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry, I’m calling bullshit on all the personality posts, the amount of times I have connected with people sent a face pic and been ignored,
There needs to be an attraction, if the personality is right ‘and’ there’s an attraction, great but 20 messages in and you’re getting on well, then the face pic kills the conversation, it’s not your personality that’s led them away
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lads stop putting yourself down it ain't about the body just have a decent haircut decent teeth smell nice majority on here be weak at the knees for you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Lads stop putting yourself down it ain't about the body just have a decent haircut decent teeth smell nice majority on here be weak at the knees for you "
I am bald..shit! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry, I’m calling bullshit on all the personality posts, the amount of times I have connected with people sent a face pic and been ignored,
There needs to be an attraction, if the personality is right ‘and’ there’s an attraction, great but 20 messages in and you’re getting on well, then the face pic kills the conversation, it’s not your personality that’s led them away
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I get what you're saying. Of course there still needs to be attraction, none of the 3 (face, body, personality) work as a standalone and they can all be dealbreakers. But I'd still maintain personality matters the most because it will definitely influence how attractive I find the other two. The 'best' body in the world won't sway my opinion on whether I like them as a person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lads stop putting yourself down it ain't about the body just have a decent haircut decent teeth smell nice majority on here be weak at the knees for you
I am bald..shit!"
Just take some pride in what you look like everyday the ladies will come, in more than one way |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Sorry, I’m calling bullshit on all the personality posts, the amount of times I have connected with people sent a face pic and been ignored,
There needs to be an attraction, if the personality is right ‘and’ there’s an attraction, great but 20 messages in and you’re getting on well, then the face pic kills the conversation, it’s not your personality that’s led them away
I get what you're saying. Of course there still needs to be attraction, none of the 3 (face, body, personality) work as a standalone and they can all be dealbreakers. But I'd still maintain personality matters the most because it will definitely influence how attractive I find the other two. The 'best' body in the world won't sway my opinion on whether I like them as a person."
Get ya coat. You've pulled.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair I'm really not into the pretty boy 6 pack gym fit guy, I like them rough and ready with a dad bod, I do prefer that they have a full set of teeth though, I know what I like when I see it, BUT a funny, keeping me in stitches, banter without the sleazy sex talk your literally 90% there. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"To be fair I'm really not into the pretty boy 6 pack gym fit guy, I like them rough and ready with a dad bod, I do prefer that they have a full set of teeth though, I know what I like when I see it, BUT a funny, keeping me in stitches, banter without the sleazy sex talk your literally 90% there."
High 5 my friend. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks play a big part, it's the first thing you notice, you don't go up to someone and say I don't find you attractive but how is your personality.
We all care about looks and hygiene but looks won't keep you entertained and that's when personality plays its part, what's the use of seeing/dating someone and literally having nothing to talk about or joke about because the personality is about as interesting as paint drying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair I'm really not into the pretty boy 6 pack gym fit guy, I like them rough and ready with a dad bod, I do prefer that they have a full set of teeth though, I know what I like when I see it, BUT a funny, keeping me in stitches, banter without the sleazy sex talk your literally 90% there.
High 5 my friend. X"
You know it ya little stud muffin |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"To be fair I'm really not into the pretty boy 6 pack gym fit guy, I like them rough and ready with a dad bod, I do prefer that they have a full set of teeth though, I know what I like when I see it, BUT a funny, keeping me in stitches, banter without the sleazy sex talk your literally 90% there.
High 5 my friend. X
You know it ya little stud muffin "
I do my sex kitten. Mwah. |
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Personality (or chemistry) and attraction close second. I've talked to some very attractive men
and its been a no, as its not fun to meet a person when you dont have a connection.
I did it once, thought I may be wrong and it really didn't work out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You are attracted to who you are attracted to. Why should people be questioned for who they are attracted to? In my vanity years, looks all the way. Once I grew up and got older, it is still looks but in a different way. Are they clean? Tidy? Dirty fingernails? Meth mouth? Do they give a shit about themselves and try to look presentable? On the flip side - are they still wearing tap out tshirts and gangsta hoodies and use more hair products than I do? Do they look so high maintenance that I cannot compete?
So yes, looks matter when it comes to whom you choose to swap spit and rub pissers with. You cant judge a book by its cover, but you won't read it if you dont like how it looks.
Sounds vain, but it is okay to be vain.
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Brilliant  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks play a big part, it's the first thing you notice, you don't go up to someone and say I don't find you attractive but how is your personality.
We all care about looks and hygiene but looks won't keep you entertained and that's when personality plays its part, what's the use of seeing/dating someone and literally having nothing to talk about or joke about because the personality is about as interesting as paint drying. "
I don't find you attractive but how is your personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening.
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Omg how shallow how can you not want to have sex with someone you don't find sexy shame on you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Looks play a big part, it's the first thing you notice, you don't go up to someone and say I don't find you attractive but how is your personality.
We all care about looks and hygiene but looks won't keep you entertained and that's when personality plays its part, what's the use of seeing/dating someone and literally having nothing to talk about or joke about because the personality is about as interesting as paint drying.
I don't find you attractive but how is your personality "
it's shocking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"From what I gather some are saying that if you're not good looking it doesn't matter if you've got an amazing personality - you're not getting laid.
Bollocks. "
For me it’s not a case of good looking. Besides what is good looking anyway? We all think differently there. What I was saying was I need to be physically attracted as well as mentally. Just one of those on it’s own isn’t enough for me. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested. "
I better turn up naked then. That way you don't have to think about ripping my clothes off.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested. "
I don’t think that’s shallow I think that’s spot on to be honest. |
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Not sure if attitude changes if you are getting older? I am in a stage where the chemistry and personality is more important than looks - we probably have all been on both sides - meeting the gorgeous wow person with no personality and the mmmh ok looking partner who sweeps you off your feet with personality and you feel connected on a different level - in an ideal world the 2 are matching but even as a "desperate" guy i walked away from gorgeous Ladies as either their or their partners attitude was off putting, outweighing any gorgeous physical attributes... |
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested.
I better turn up naked then. That way you don't have to think about ripping my clothes off. "
Haha good answer |
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"Hmmmm....what if the person is a talking brain in a jar? (I saw this in a science fiction movie so it obviously can happen) "
The man with two brains is the first one to spring to mind but there's lots if I remember correctly?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think body and looks matter more on here, because sometimes when i message women they reply with.
"No thanks I don't want to chat because you are not my type or I'm not attracted to you"
There's no chance of getting to know the personalty. |
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"And sometimes the voice can burst the bubble of attraction. Or is it just me... "
No I'm the same. When Gordon 1st became famous I danced the arse off her. Then I heard her talking on telly ohhh no no no I think not. I can't stand a good looking woman who knows it and uses it to get something. Running a garage I used to get it all the time. They can go fuck themselves as I never would given the chance or more likely not..... |
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"And sometimes the voice can burst the bubble of attraction. Or is it just me...
No I'm the same. When Gordon 1st became famous I danced the arse off her. Then I heard her talking on telly ohhh no no no I think not. I can't stand a good looking woman who knows it and uses it to get something. Running a garage I used to get it all the time. They can go fuck themselves as I never would given the chance or more likely not....."
Danced eh fancied it should say. Dammed auto correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested.
I don’t think that’s shallow I think that’s spot on to be honest. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Who's 'Gordon'?
I've probably spelt her name wrong. Huge tit fake obviously had a baby to Duwait York. No dawt I've spelt his name wrong to. I'm dislexic. "
Ahhh Jordan aka Katie price. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I've said it before.
Face first for me. No amount of personality or an amazing body will make want to meet you if I don't fancy the face.
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I’m with Monkey here. I need a face that is pleasing to my eyes first. A nice face will not be enough if the personality is lacking though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested.
I don’t think that’s shallow I think that’s spot on to be honest. "
This
My OH has an awesome personality, but I didn’t know that at first when I stumbled across his profile on a dating site years ago. All I knew was I liked his pics and thought pwoar he’s fit and I wanted to rip his clothes off. After chatting and getting to know him if he’d been a total arse or there’d been no chemistry, it wouldn’t have gone any further. So for me physical attraction does tend to always be first; then personality determines whether it can last. I’ve never dated or slept with anyone who I liked *purely* based on their personality, with no physical attraction. When I like someone based on their personality but there’s zero physical attraction to them, I tend to want them in my life as a friend. That’s broadly how it works for me |
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"When deciding on who to meet.. i am fat and funny..lol so hope 1 put the 2 will interest someone.. lol"
Personality is loads more important, but there's still the need for some physical attraction. As long as there is nothing about how they look that really turns me off, then the personality is enough.
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By *cott73Man
over a year ago
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I used to work with a girl who wasn't my normal type. However, she used to make me fall over laughing. She had an amazing personality and general view on life.
I would have loved to have hooked up with her. Alas, never happened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Honestly....
I have to find someone physically attractive. So for sex, probably looks. Although I don’t think I’ve ever had sex with someone I really didn’t like....
Obvs in any kind of friendship or relationship, personality is a lot more important. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested.
I better turn up naked then. That way you don't have to think about ripping my clothes off. "
Very funny |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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On here, it's rare that I would take the time to get to know someone's personality before feeling a physical attraction. It has happened though, but it's rare. And attraction is nothing to do with body shape/size for me and all about the face. |
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By *r laidbackMan
over a year ago
London & New Brighton |
This is a good question for here, because we eat with our eyes yet on this site, its about your message and what vibes do you give over as well as your looks.
I mean if your profile picture is a cock or a pair of tits then i guess you better have a damm good personality with wit. |
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Yes.
Someone can be the best looking person alive but if their personality is rotten then they aren't attractive to me. I've removed plenty of people from my hotlist after seeing some of the interactions they've had on the forums, or their status'. |
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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago
Maldon and Peterborough |
"Body first yep I'm that shallow. If I dont want to rip your clothes off then it's just not happening then your personality keeps me interested.
I better turn up naked then. That way you don't have to think about ripping my clothes off.
Very funny"
I've booked dinner. Lol |
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Personality and attraction count in equal measure though one might come before the other but I guess it depends how you meet someone...unless both parties just want a bit of no nonsense fucking then I guess neither of these things matter! |
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couldn’t care what you look like, if your kind and funny, I’m weak at the knees! Xx
