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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
West Wales |
"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?
Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?
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I cry a lot I guess for a guy, guess it's the pisces coming out.
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"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?
Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?
I cry a lot I guess for a guy, guess it's the pisces coming out.
S"
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over a year ago
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A few month ago when everything came crashing down.
Lost over a stone in 2 weeks due to not eating, drank very heavily, surviving on an hour or 2 sleep a night, getting out of bed was an absolute job in itself
But, I'm back stronger than ever thanks to a few good friends and family
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Anyone else on the low side of life, just remember you dont have to go at it alone |
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"My eyes don’t drain properly so there’s always a risk when I lie down  but I lost a close friend recently and I’m not afraid to admit I shed a tear. "
That's totally understandable, hope you can remember the good times |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"I cry...it seems to be a new release I ve developed after having total meltdown..and to be fair I find it a new and great part of me  "
probably the same for me, Heartless b'stard one minute then blubbering idiot the next. not sure when & where it happened originally but my 2nd divorce probably kicked it into hyperdrive.
I cried for days when she died of an embolism last year as we'd made up 15yrs down the road & were chatty on FB about our new families although we'd decided not to meet.
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My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.
I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back |
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"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.
I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back "
That's wonderful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been to a couple of funerals recently, seeing my Dad shed a tear set me off.
Other than that I can get a bit overwhelmed with people's kindness. Either in my own life or stuff I see on tv. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Jack my other half is much more openly emotional than i am,cries when he feels things.
I think its much healthier than bottling everything up until you get to melt down stage.
I rarely cry ,but had some bad news today which brought me to tears.
Mental health is something we should all be able to discuss ,make or female,with no shame or stigma. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis."
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I cry...it seems to be a new release I ve developed after having total meltdown..and to be fair I find it a new and great part of me
probably the same for me, Heartless b'stard one minute then blubbering idiot the next. not sure when & where it happened originally but my 2nd divorce probably kicked it into hyperdrive.
I cried for days when she died of an embolism last year as we'd made up 15yrs down the road & were chatty on FB about our new families although we'd decided not to meet.
S
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Man, wish you well and look after yourself eh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Driving through to Edinburgh at 5am last Friday listing to run- snow patrol, not a full on blabber now, just the slight wobble lip and watery eyes till I recompose myself hahah then continue to belt out the song haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.
I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back
That's wonderful "
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"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying. "
He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.
The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying.
He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.
The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like "
Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep  |
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"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying.
He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.
The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like
Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep "
I was literally sobbing uncontrollably A beautiful and highly underrated soundtrack by Phil Collins to (which made me bawl even more) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying.
He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.
The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like
Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep
I was literally sobbing uncontrollably A beautiful and highly underrated soundtrack by Phil Collins to (which made me bawl even more) "
100% Phil Colin’s does fantastic and honestly think I will play some later now, maybe have the sad tissues near by haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fella - 1995.
Filly- when a cute dog walked past this morning. "
Fella here. Just want to say. I do feel sad over things it’s just that I don’t cry. Not sure why. Even losing people doesn’t set me off. It’s just not my make up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fuckin cried like a tit at my mates wedding in Portugal. Everyone was really shocked as they didn't think I was the type. I was just so happy for them though...aww fuck here I go again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Today.
Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.
Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.
She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.
I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.
Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...
I'm not crying, you're crying.
He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.
The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like
Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep "
You'll be in my heart was played at my mams funeral.
Can't listen to it without crying. |
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"Today.
Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.
Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.
She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day. "
Hug of support to thee |
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"Today.
Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.
Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.
She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day. "
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again. |
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"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again."
Jesus I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing better now you've cut ties. |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.
Jesus I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing better now you've cut ties."
It was such a long time ago. It's really hard hating someone you should love but by doing so I was able to breakaway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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About a week ago for literally no apparent reason but then theres always a reason (for me anyway) it will never leave me and could start me off at any given point.
Another pisces btw |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again."
I genuinely feel for you pal.
I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?
I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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About an hour ago for me and it’s a regular thing for me to do. Can be from the slightest of a smell to hearing certain songs on radio tv and it has me in a mess |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
Chippenham Malmesbury area |
"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.
I genuinely feel for you pal.
I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?
I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid. "
It's so hard when it's a parent that does these things. And it's so sad that it only stops when they are removed from your life. Great that you're happy now. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.
She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.
Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.
Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..
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Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
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It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things |
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"Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.
She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.
Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.
Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..
S"
Thank god she has you both, I truly hope theres good news in March, from one Parent to another |
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"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.
I genuinely feel for you pal.
I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?
I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid.
It's so hard when it's a parent that does these things. And it's so sad that it only stops when they are removed from your life. Great that you're happy now."
Wish I'd had courage to break away like you did but I had to be there for my mam. I broke away for a while after she passed away but ended up my dad's carer for the last 2 and a half years until he passed as he would let no one else look after him. When I think about it now it was just another way for him to control me,but what's done is done and I'm moving forward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things "
There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.
She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.
Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.
Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..
S
Thank god she has you both, I truly hope theres good news in March, from one Parent to another "
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Thank You
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion. |
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."
Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason" |
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"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
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Agreed. I think we all cope in different ways, but I hope men and boys are learning that letting their emotions out is OK if they need to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things
There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral."
That’s similar to me 3 for sons who sadly passed and then me mam and dads funeral songs just hit me hard |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A few month ago when everything came crashing down.
Lost over a stone in 2 weeks due to not eating, drank very heavily, surviving on an hour or 2 sleep a night, getting out of bed was an absolute job in itself
But, I'm back stronger than ever thanks to a few good friends and family
(Arm pump emoji)
Anyone else on the low side of life, just remember you dont have to go at it alone"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.
I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.
It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things
There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral.
That’s similar to me 3 for sons who sadly passed and then me mam and dads funeral songs just hit me hard "
Music is the one single optional thing that i cant live without, it just stirs emotions good or bad and can pull you into or out of some seriously dark places |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Right i said to 1 person earlier, but i'm going to say to every single person on this thread and i fucking mean it!
If any of you male/female/other feel you need to talk to someone anyone even if its just to shout and rant.
My inbox is always open x |
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November 19th is International Men's Day
Men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than women.
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1 in 3 men have been the victims of domestic violence.
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Men on average die 4-5 years before women.
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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from lung cancer than women.
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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from heart disease than women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Real men cry
Of course they do. They just cry alone.
Not always"
True. I have been known to release a tear as I did recently at the funeral of one of my very few friends. In my adult life I have only cried uncontrollably at the death of my dog, and my child. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"November 19th is International Men's Day
Men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than women.
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1 in 3 men have been the victims of domestic violence.
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Men on average die 4-5 years before women.
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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from lung cancer than women.
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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from heart disease than women. "
Men are 99% more likely not to get a reply on fab 
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason""
It's one thing to have any of these associated with something you have strong feelings about triggering that reaction in you. For example if it was the favourite song or movie of a dearly departed friend or loved one. It's another thing entirely to cry on a constant basis when presented with emotionally charged lyrics, entertainment or anything that doesn't directly impact your livelyhood. |
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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago
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I cry regularly and I’ll freely admit it.
I cried last Sunday - just from feeling a bit sad and lonely really. I’d plucked up the courage to give my number to someone I liked a couple of nights before and didn’t hear back.
I fully realise that pails into insignificance given some of the reasons men have cried on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Usually I’m more likely to cry at something good, like someone achieving their goal they’ve worked really hard for.
But a few weeks ago the dog fell ill very quickly out of the blue and he had to be put to sleep. He was my best friend and it broke my heart. Sobbed for hours that night. |
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason"
It's one thing to have any of these associated with something you have strong feelings about triggering that reaction in you. For example if it was the favourite song or movie of a dearly departed friend or loved one. It's another thing entirely to cry on a constant basis when presented with emotionally charged lyrics, entertainment or anything that doesn't directly impact your livelyhood. "
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"I cry regularly and I’ll freely admit it.
I cried last Sunday - just from feeling a bit sad and lonely really. I’d plucked up the courage to give my number to someone I liked a couple of nights before and didn’t hear back.
I fully realise that pails into insignificance given some of the reasons men have cried on here "
Nope we all have a threshold |
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."
You're entitled to your opinion of course.
I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".
The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.
There's no right or wrong way to be.
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
You're entitled to your opinion of course.
I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".
The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.
There's no right or wrong way to be.
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No, but when you have a lot of people depending on you, you can't be their rock if you are seen to crumble too often. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
You're entitled to your opinion of course.
I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".
The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.
There's no right or wrong way to be.
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I didn't say there was. But when someone often cries over trivial matters it is what it is; a lack of emotional control. |
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By *abonWoman
over a year ago
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"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.
I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back "
We do ‘happy tears’ a LOT in my family! My kids love it when they make me do them!! Show him how much he moved you...he might just feel how powerful his love is xx |
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
You're entitled to your opinion of course.
I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".
The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.
There's no right or wrong way to be.
No, but when you have a lot of people depending on you, you can't be their rock if you are seen to crumble too often."
I can cry and in no way am I crumbling. It is controlled and can be seen as a release of a tap. Generally those who try to control it by not doing it are the ones that crumble as the dam breaks in my experience, often unable to handle it when it happens and can lead to exposure of other issues they were never aware of. |
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"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."
I'm buggered then  . I cry over everything. Films, songs, weddings, adverts, sad stories, other people crying, etc. I inherited it from my mum! |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.
I'm buggered then . I cry over everything. Films, songs, weddings, adverts, sad stories, other people crying, etc. I inherited it from my mum! "
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"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.
I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back
We do ‘happy tears’ a LOT in my family! My kids love it when they make me do them!! Show him how much he moved you...he might just feel how powerful his love is xx"
As I only have them at the weekend, I don't want them going back to their Mother saying Daddy was crying. It's a balancing act as they're both Autistic so known to drop me in it at times
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Lost my Mum and met a Brother I hadn’t seen for 20 years the day before the funeral.
I felt I had let him down and cried like a baby when he said he had nothing but love for me.
0 fucks given it was a massive weight off my mind.
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I feel like as I've gotten older, my emotions and feelings have become stronger. And my ability to hold tears back has weakened.
In saying that, apart from family funerals etc I've not actually broken down and cried in a long long time. A part of me wants to just let it happen, but then the other part tells me to just bottle it up.
Is this something anyone else has noticed?  |
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I'm getting worse as I get older too, and will well up at all kinds of things - sad films, songs and the like. Even seeing someone on TV crying has been known to set me off.
And things like the Remembrance Service, where the older I get the more poignant it gets
However, I think a lot of that is symptomatic of some long repressed emotions, and things and people I haven't grieved for properly
Ladt real tears were recent, too. A relationship has ended, where I think we both started out thinking it might be The One, but I screwed it up
We said goodbye exactly a week ago, and that hurt.
And not just because I couldn't eat for 5 days.... |
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Watching Meet Joe Black last week.
Often last to leave the cinema as it takes me a while to compose myself, last two times being A Star Is Born and La La Land.
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There’s a reason why three quarters of suicides in the UK last year were men. And I personally believe a huge part of that is the societal narrative around it not being OK for men to express their feelings. Little boys are generally told to “be strong, don’t cry”; little girls are cuddled and shown sympathy (I accept this is a huge generalisation and there will be exceptions). Hence men are more likely than women to try and cope alone and not show emotion. Men’s mental health should be spoken about more in my view. It really is OK to not be OK and to have a good cry, regardless of your gender |
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Men will always have differing opinions on whether it’s right for them to cry or not, and that’s their entitlement
But there is no shame in having a cry, its not a weakness but a strength to be able to let your emotions out and better than keeping them bottled up and eat away at you. |
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"Men will always have differing opinions on whether it’s right for them to cry or not, and that’s their entitlement
But there is no shame in having a cry, its not a weakness but a strength to be able to let your emotions out and better than keeping them bottled up and eat away at you. "
It felt fucking brilliant for me. Almost like an epiphany. I lost all the hurt I carried. |
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"There’s a reason why three quarters of suicides in the UK last year were men. And I personally believe a huge part of that is the societal narrative around it not being OK for men to express their feelings. Little boys are generally told to “be strong, don’t cry”; little girls are cuddled and shown sympathy (I accept this is a huge generalisation and there will be exceptions). Hence men are more likely than women to try and cope alone and not show emotion. Men’s mental health should be spoken about more in my view. It really is OK to not be OK and to have a good cry, regardless of your gender "
What she said.
The mental health provisions in the UK are a disgrace. Just interested in filling people full of meds.
Needs to far more people out there to listen to guys and their problems. A problem shared and all that.
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Nope nothing wrong with it actually have sat there tonight and had a cry yes feeling emotional etc and life stresses etc so I feel better for letting it go yes and with the help of a good charity it always calms me down etc |
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"Nope nothing wrong with it actually have sat there tonight and had a cry yes feeling emotional etc and life stresses etc so I feel better for letting it go yes and with the help of a good charity it always calms me down etc "
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"Today.
Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.
Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.
She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day.
Hug of support to thee "
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"Today.
Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.
Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.
She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day.
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By *ed1boxMan
over a year ago
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As I get older I find it more difficult to hold back the choking and tears, especially at family and friends funerals. However I recently watched my daughters graduation and for the first time ever started blubbering with tears of pride and joy. Sometimes tears are for good reasons |
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"As I get older I find it more difficult to hold back the choking and tears, especially at family and friends funerals. However I recently watched my daughters graduation and for the first time ever started blubbering with tears of pride and joy. Sometimes tears are for good reasons "
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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I sobbed like a baby when visiting Tyne Cott WW1 cemetery. "
I'm with you there & at the Menin Gate where we along with many many others have names listed.
Went once, cant bring myself to go again although I still do other sites & the tears still flow.
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"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?
Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?
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last night...
this morning ...
everything going wrong at work ho hum
still on my day off what could go wrong? |
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"I've been to a couple of funerals recently, seeing my Dad shed a tear set me off.
Other than that I can get a bit overwhelmed with people's kindness. Either in my own life or stuff I see on tv. "
I'm so glad it's not just me! I SO relate to that. I find myself weeping over video clips on Facebook. |
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I cry at the drop of the hat. Last time “in public” was at a wedding (always happens), but frequently watching TV/films.
Hell, I cried watching Star Trek the other night.
And I’m not ashamed of it. I have a high EQ and it’s just part of me! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm a serial blubber and not ashamed to admit it - the silliest and simplest of things can set me off and get to me and make me watery eyed.
DIY SOS is guaranteed to, Toy Story 3 I sobbed like a baby for the last 15 minutes, Up for the first 15 minutes, John Lewis Xmas ads have got me in the past too.
The last time I can remember crying was at the episode of Corrie where Sinead passed away which was so beautifully scripted and acted you couldn't help but be touched by it. |
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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"
This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?
I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.
The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.
Sending hugs to all. X |
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It's interesting to see others say that more things make them cry as they get older. My mum said the same! I'm not sure if maybe the older you get the more sad experiences you have had to relate to. It does make me worry a little though that in 20 or 30 years I might be an hourly crier . |
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The older you get the more your emotional side does open up don’t know why it is but I’ve noticed more so the past few years things just get on top of you daily stress grief losing friends family members etc and a lot of things reminded me of them so the tears flow not afraid to open up my emotions where as go back 10/15 years I wasn’t the same used to hold a stiff lip about most things but know if need to cry or let go I just let it out doesn’t matter if that’s while I’m alone or when I’m out and about even this morning sat in van at work I’ve had a good cry |
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Stupid stuff will set me off...
The Iron Giant. Its a cartoon for crying out loud. I'd have to watch it in the dark in case the kids saw me welling up...
The last post as well... And if I go to any sort of military museum I have to be careful....
Some music will bring me to tears... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Hearing / seeing the Last Post being played always sets me off. Weird as I've never been in the services..."
Not only The Last Post but Nimrod always gets me right in the feels and the wet eyes are never far behind |
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over a year ago
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November the 4th, birthday of a relative which cancer took to early a couple of years back, sorely missed and always brings a tear to my eye when i think back. |
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated
This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?
I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.
The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.
Sending hugs to all. X"
explain how crying helps |
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July 23rd 2019 when my boxer had a brain tumour and just switched off mentally. Wasn’t the same dog I put down that I pulled out his mum 9 years previously |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated
This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?
I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.
The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.
Sending hugs to all. X
explain how crying helps"
It's one way of letting emotions out that's how - of showing you're vulnerable at a given moment. For what it's worth I disagree that suppressing tears is cowardly, but I also don't think that shedding them is a sign of weakness in any way shape or form - we all express and deal with our feelings and emotions in different ways - some of us cry, some get angry, some bottle them up until they pass or burst out spectacularly - but there is nothing wrong at all with showing your emotions and if that means having a good sob then so be it.
I've already said that emotive things on TV or in films can trigger me, it doesn't mean I am out of control of my emotions, not in the slightest, and even if I were in those instances would it really matter? Is it any different from laughing at a comedy, or being gripped by a thriller, or feeling sad due to a death of a good character? Not at all it's just another emotion same as the others. |
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"
So my mum dying out the blue 7 years ago and me crying is weakness.
Or my daughter trying to commit suicide 5 times within the space of a month and then having to have her sectioned was also weakness when I cried?
Utter fucking bullshit |
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I sometimes cry not often. Times a tough recently and something a cry is all you can do. Always got told when growing up men don't cry. But that's shit. Real men do cry. |
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"
WOW!
You just quoted my ex verbatim
Hearing him tell my sons to stop crying, don't be a sissy, man up, stop being weak, pathetic, men don't cry.
Well, yes they do.
I don't want them growing up emotionally repressed & stunted like him.
Real men do cry, and they're not afraid to show their emotions.
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated
Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??  "
I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS |
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I can cry easily as I'm soft hearted. They can be tears of joy or sadness. Some years ago I was working in a very difficult place, so I used to bring on a good cry every night, listening to Chris Rea, Tell me There's a Heaven. It worked and I always felt better after it. |
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated
Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??
I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS"
Perfectly put. Used to try and suppress my feelings and stop crying and if anything made me even unhappier. Now I tear up if I see my son happy lol and my life is so much better.
As for the person who thinks it's a sign of weakness - it is brave to show your emotions boss, put on the rugrats movie get a box of tissues and let it all out my friend |
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"Real men cry
Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated
Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??
I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS"
Agree,it must be hard if your upbringing has been "boys dont cry".
Here's hoping future generations will be more emotionally open.
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"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?
Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?
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The last time I cried was when my old dog died, cried bucket loads and still get tearful sometimes when I think of her. Miss her a lot |
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Taking my dog to the vet to die. It was a kindness but I wept. And when the woman I loved the most called it a day. Seeing her tomorrow for a catch up so today I'm smiling. |
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Another phrase I hate, along with "man up" is "they're just animals/just pets". It's absolute bullshit. They get to us every bit as much as people, I believe sometimes even more. Grief for someone you've lost isn't any easier if that someone wasn't a human.
Crying isn't weak, it's a release that can be very beneficial. Crying at emotional films is recognised as a form of therapy. What do you think opera is for? It's to give us an opportunity to release the pain that life is full of. You may choose to do it in private but never ever feel ashamed of it. |
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I usually have a stuff upper lip but sometimes I have to let it out 