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People used to think i was nuts for collecting vinyl records..... Look who's laughing now....
I get strange looks sometimes out and about doing photography with vintage film cameras. Though it's turning out to be fun at the local jazz/blues club where the artists i photograph almost all want copies. |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them. "
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself. |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself."
It's ongoing for me. |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.
It's ongoing for me. "
Good luck. What have you done for it thus far? |
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I do and act as I please and it is a true reflection of me...Unless it is someone close, if people don't like it I don't care.
I admire anyone who can be themselves especially those who may come up against prejudice and ignorance that takes strength of character and I respect that. |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.
It's ongoing for me. "
Forgive me if it's not what either of you want to hear but you both stand out by your FAB names and your postings in the very best ways. I'm sure most people are glad of and interested in your musings. Be proud |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.
It's ongoing for me.
Good luck. What have you done for it thus far?"
A lot of reflection and self acceptance. Accepting what I like and ignoring those who criticise me. |
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I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me
That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.
This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.
Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy
Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you  |
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"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me
That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.
This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.
Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy
Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "
Manchester can be like that, too |
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"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?
Do you get a lot of pushback?
Here's to embracing our individuality. "
I used to, I was pretty goth for quite a while, used to love 50s fashion as well. I'd turn up to work in red satin dresses  I've gotten pretty boring now though. I miss not giving a fuck! |
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"No I blend in to become invisible. Good against bullies, just not in adult life.
I used to, but you know what? Fuck it. And fuck them.
I hear you, it's a mentality that I struggle to route out of myself.
It's ongoing for me.
Good luck. What have you done for it thus far?
A lot of reflection and self acceptance. Accepting what I like and ignoring those who criticise me. "
Keep it up, you'll get there  |
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I have some incredibly bright shirts like something Barry from EastEnders would wear. I don't wear them to get noticed but because I like them. Might get me noticed at my first club visit though |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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The way I look I do stand out a little bit, but I don't choose to look like that to stand out, it's just how I feel I am most comfortable and and it's just me being myself. I don't stand out all that but I'm just slightly more noticeable than others. Unless I'm in Camden in which case we all look different in different ways! |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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"I like to do a tarzan call in shopping centers  "
I announce a lot of stuff on a kazoo at home and in public, you can imagine what my teenage children think about that!
Deeer der deeer.... dinner's ready |
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"I like to do a tarzan call in shopping centers
I announce a lot of stuff on a kazoo at home and in public, you can imagine what my teenage children think about that!
Deeer der deeer.... dinner's ready"
should have seen me during the south africa world cum my vuvuzela thingy ended up going missing tho no idea why  |
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Yeah I’m different all the time, being an aspie I tend to have a different view of the world from all you nt’s out there. I don’t look, talk or act like a typical guy in his 40’s. I’ve found it prudent to pick and choose where and when I allow myself to open up. Some people are far less accepting than others. But yes in an ideal world, absolutely we should celebrate our differences and individuality |
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"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me
That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.
This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.
Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy
Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "
Exactly what I came here to say I don't think about being different, I just do me. Has taken a whole to get to this point though!
Mrs TMN x |
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By *eliWoman
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"I don’t follow any trends but also don’t stand out either, I’m just me
That is exactly who everyone should be, themselves, dress how they like, style their hair and colour however they desire.
This is why I love London you see everything and it’s bloody marvellous all these people just being them.
Only when your truly yourself are you probably happy
Embrace it, own it, love it... that be you "
I don't go out of my way to be different to others but I definitely have my quirks. I think I'm just comfortably me. The joys of being aspie in a neurotypical world. |
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I think i smile more than average person and love a bold print or colour, unusual earrings. I try to think i do it for myself.. for my smile inducing purposes, but it feels good to grab a compliment here and there as a bonus.
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I don't go out of my way to be different to others but I definitely have my quirks. I think I'm just comfortably me. The joys of being aspie in a neurotypical world. "
I get the impression some people think I’m being different just to be contrary |
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"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?
Do you get a lot of pushback?
Here's to embracing our individuality. "
I dont like to or need to
It just seems to happen  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I don’t like standing out from the crowd as i’m quiet and shy, but i can’t do much about it (height) so just embraced it.
It’s always positive attention in person, so that is something at least.
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I think it's best not to try too hard in either direction. Imho a life well spent has more to do with experiences and reality rather than appearances and perception. Places like fab can at times tilt that theory in an unhealthy direction, but I guess it's nice for us all to feel attractive or special at times.....  |
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"I don’t like standing out from the crowd as i’m quiet and shy, but i can’t do much about it (height) so just embraced it.
It’s always positive attention in person, so that is something at least.
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6ft 2!! An Amazonian queen.x |
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I'm not much of a follower. I wear what suits me, what makes me look nice and feel good.
I try not to overthink what others think of me, because at the end of the day I have no control over it so no point stressing about it.
I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.
Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique. 
Jo.Xx |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm me plain and simple - and don't strive to stand out, and don't think I do either - take me or leave me, what you see is what you get.
Of course it's nice to be noticed, but I don't make an effort to be, I dress how I like, behave in a manner that is true to myself and who I am and if people notice me because of that, then it's a bonus.
It's how I've always been, and always will be, as the saying goes you can't teach an old dog new tricks |
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I don't like to be centre of attention so I dress for comfort rather than to gain attention. I've no desire to stand out or be noticed when I'm going about my daily business. |
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I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.
Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique.
Jo.Xx "
That's beautiful gift of trust in their choices and I am sure she will grow into a confident woman one day |
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Oh if we're talking just clothes then I just dress fairly boringly tbh unless dressing for specific occasions then I can be striking as I choose at that moment |
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I’m impulsive, some days I want to be invisible or be lead, the next day I want to scooter or roller boot or wear a diamond body suit, I guess I am just random. If I want to pull of the mummy look I will and then the next day biker chick, pin up girl.. . I’m just me. I care what people think but not enough to “fit the mould” |
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I love to encourage my daughter who picks the most random and brightly coloured clothes to wear.
Everyone laughs but she is so beautifully unique.
Jo.Xx
That's beautiful gift of trust in their choices and I am sure she will grow into a confident woman one day"
Thank you, i'm hoping so and trying my best to ensure she does.
Jo.Xx
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"Do you like to stand out from the crowd? Unusual fashion sense, makeup, hobbies, etc?
Do you get a lot of pushback?
Here's to embracing our individuality. "
Everyone really is different and individual. Some are extrovert, some introvert and some fairly smack bang inbetween. The more extroverted people usually stand out more and are comfortable with that. Introverts usually value their privacy and recharge time so much that they (probably subconsciously) employ strategies to blend into the background more. |
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No my job used to require being in the background not standing out, yet also making sure people were aware of your presence, this was really dictated on the circumstances and the client. Did it for so long I carry it of in my personal life. |
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No. I don't go out of my way to blend in, I do my own thing but not in an effort to stand out, I don't want attention I just like being comfortable within myself. |
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Being goths/Steampunks we do tend to stand out from the crowd- especially as Caroline has Red hair & Dave's is very long - locally we get a lot of verbal from idiots, but it says more about them than us. |
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By *icentiousCouple
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I (male) have a very dry sense of humour, causes many a problem with the written word, however one on one (or even two on one) it’s a different communication.
Can’t remember the study on communication that said, something like 55% of communication comes through body language. 37% through tonality and only 8% through the words.
Would explain a lot on here.
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Can’t remember the study on communication that said, something like 55% of communication comes through body language. 37% through tonality and only 8% through the words.
Would explain a lot on here.
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I think it was 7%, 38% and 55. |
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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago
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I am who I am.
Sometimes I blend in, other time's I don't.
I don't have a weird dress sense, I just don't follow the sheep in fashion, just me and what I am comfortable with.
In my sport, I import stuff that I like, and that makes me stand out a bit more. |
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I am a bit of a sheep I think. I dont really like standing out until I'm really comfortable around the people. I'm a dress in black, keep your mouth shut kind of person. I would love to get the confidence to stand out and be me ...just haven't quite worked out who me is  |
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"I am a bit of a sheep I think. I dont really like standing out until I'm really comfortable around the people. I'm a dress in black, keep your mouth shut kind of person. I would love to get the confidence to stand out and be me ...just haven't quite worked out who me is "
You sound deep and interesting. You probably stand out more than you know to other's who get to know you. You probably have a lot more to be confident about than you have realised yet. |
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No. I dont think I do.
I feel different, like something is broken, or not functioning correctly, that I was born with too much of some things and not enough of others.
I tried to hide it, conform, be not me. But it just breaks you worse than before.
So I just am now.. Fuck it.
A friend introduced me to personality types and I'm the archetype stereotypical version of mine. Which helped me understand why I dont react, feel, express myself in the same way everyone else does.
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I wear what suits me and what I like. In a big crowd of people I don't know I like to be in the background. With my friends and family, and when I'm comfortable, I don't mind being centre of attention. I'm usually the joker of the group. Plus I have bright red hair, hardly a wallflower hair colour x |
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"It's one of the reasons I detest fashion
I've come to see it as a tool. I can usually still find what I want, eventually. But I refuse to get caught up in trends. "
Occasionally a trend will catch up with me, but then moves on to the next thing and I go back to being off trend again. |
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I wear what I feel comfortable with at the time. I have a collection of ‘outrageous’ coats (my offsprings phrase) and bright patterned shirts, which get commented on.
I also collect vintage gramophones and 78 rpm records, which isn’t a very usual hobby. |
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I've never stood out from the crowd but I'm very much me. I couldn't be like someone else however much I tried! I'm more introvert than extrovert I guess. |
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