Yes, early in my sexual experience (I was an adult). The guy I was with needed to know he was a big competent man and wanted me thrashing and screaming like I needed an exorcism. He actually never gave me an orgasm. |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me."
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it. |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me.
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it. "
that's harsh lol |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
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"Ladies have you ever faked the big O?
Guys do you think you can tell?
Guys have you ever faked it and ladies can you tell?"
If she had the big O or not as long as she have enjoyed the experience in fine with that. |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me.
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it.
that's harsh lol"
If a guy thinks he's a sex god and bitches at me because I'm not having an orgasm to soothe his ego... No, I don't think that's harsh. |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me.
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it.
that's harsh lol
If a guy thinks he's a sex god and bitches at me because I'm not having an orgasm to soothe his ego... No, I don't think that's harsh. "
I see well in that case I'd say that's fair enough. |
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I only think I could tell with someone I knew quite well. People are so different from one another that what applies to one, doesn't usually apply to another.
From all the chatter chatter that goes on beforehand, I'd hope each orgasm us genuine, as there is no need to fake it, till you make it with me.
I've met two women who don't orgasm. I take their word for it. Their body language says they're enjoying all the touchy feely bits I'm doing. Take their word not to make it my mission to make them cum where others have failed and just enjoy the moments.
I don't usually cum. I like sex to spread out over the night. Have lots of breaks between bouts and change things around. Only by the end of the evening.. I'm a bit physically drained and no longer have the endurance to carry on. Only.. after all that exertion, I need a little rougher, harder, faster treatment down below. The more my body works over the night, the more final effort I need at the end.. when I'm done in.
I usually warn someone that I'm like this.. that I dont expect that extra effort at the end, because I appreciate they're going to probably be knackered as well. Last thing they may want to do is give me a half hour long rough hand job at the end of a nights passion.
It's not about the end result. I like the hours of exploration inbetween.
So I hope they'd not fake it. Same with noises, moaning and groaning and such. Sure.. let me know I'm hitting your spot.. but there's no need for fake porn like noises.. I just want to hear animal you  Whatever that is. Even if its whimpering in the fetal position  If you're happy and enjoying yourself.. it's all that matters to me. |
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"Ladies have you ever faked the big O?
Guys do you think you can tell?
Guys have you ever faked it and ladies can you tell?
If she had the big O or not as long as she have enjoyed the experience in fine with that."
I really like that attitude especially as I don't always cum..sure as hell enjoy it though. |
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Honesty is always best !
Personally I didn’t have my first O until 4 years ago, it was one of those “wtf was that” moments. Even though I’ve enjoyed sex prior to that, I realised it was just my natural lubricant up until that point.
Since then a voyage of discovery and we’ll I haven’t looked back |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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When I was younger, yes a couple of times. Now I'd gently suggest something else - different position, different type of sex if I felt like an orgasm was almost "expected" and it wasn't going to happen for me. I don't want to hurt someone's feeling and an orgasm isn't the be all and end all of great sex for me. |
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Tbh as long as a partner has had fun and cum I'm happy although I did have one partner that got really upset that I hadn't even though I wasn't bothered
She thought she had disappointed me which wasn't the case. |
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"Tbh as long as a partner has had fun and cum I'm happy although I did have one partner that got really upset that I hadn't even though I wasn't bothered
She thought she had disappointed me which wasn't the case. "
it took me a while to realise that if a guy didn't cum it didn't mean he hadn't enjoyed the journey...same for me..although I do love the destination |
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Reaching the Big O is quite hard for lots of women and even harder in casual situations where you haven't built enough of a connection with someone - so I can understand the desire to save men's egos by faking one
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"When I was younger, yes a couple of times. Now I'd gently suggest something else - different position, different type of sex if I felt like an orgasm was almost "expected" and it wasn't going to happen for me. I don't want to hurt someone's feeling and an orgasm isn't the be all and end all of great sex for me."
I completely get this |
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"Ladies have you ever faked the big O?
Guys do you think you can tell?
Guys have you ever faked it and ladies can you tell?"
I think in the beginning I didn’t realise but then as years past I realised the ex was faking it so I tried to talk and sort something out after or before I came . This was a good period for us . |
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I have and it backed fired so would never do it again. I faked to try and get him to leave me be as what he was doing wasn't comfortable but took it as a sign that it felt good. Never again |
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"I have and it backed fired so would never do it again. I faked to try and get him to leave me be as what he was doing wasn't comfortable but took it as a sign that it felt good. Never again "
oh no..I didn't think of that..not great at all |
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"Ladies have you ever faked the big O?
Guys do you think you can tell?
Guys have you ever faked it and ladies can you tell?
I think in the beginning I didn’t realise but then as years past I realised the ex was faking it so I tried to talk and sort something out after or before I came . This was a good period for us . "
just shows being able to honest is the best policy..just not always easy depending who you're talking to |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me.
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it. "
If someone gets shitty with me because what they're doing isn't working and refuses to take my guidance or gets offended if I stimulate myself during sex to help me get there then I just want out with minimal drama. I'll always attempt to communicate with someone first to let them know what works better for me but with some take it as some sort of attack on their sexual prowess and get borderline aggressive with you. Fortunately these experiences are in the minority but it happens. |
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"I only think I could tell with someone I knew quite well. People are so different from one another that what applies to one, doesn't usually apply to another.
From all the chatter chatter that goes on beforehand, I'd hope each orgasm us genuine, as there is no need to fake it, till you make it with me.
I've met two women who don't orgasm. I take their word for it. Their body language says they're enjoying all the touchy feely bits I'm doing. Take their word not to make it my mission to make them cum where others have failed and just enjoy the moments.
I don't usually cum. I like sex to spread out over the night. Have lots of breaks between bouts and change things around. Only by the end of the evening.. I'm a bit physically drained and no longer have the endurance to carry on. Only.. after all that exertion, I need a little rougher, harder, faster treatment down below. The more my body works over the night, the more final effort I need at the end.. when I'm done in.
I usually warn someone that I'm like this.. that I dont expect that extra effort at the end, because I appreciate they're going to probably be knackered as well. Last thing they may want to do is give me a half hour long rough hand job at the end of a nights passion.
It's not about the end result. I like the hours of exploration inbetween.
So I hope they'd not fake it. Same with noises, moaning and groaning and such. Sure.. let me know I'm hitting your spot.. but there's no need for fake porn like noises.. I just want to hear animal you Whatever that is. Even if its whimpering in the fetal position If you're happy and enjoying yourself.. it's all that matters to me. "
You know that woman from the film porkies? well I'm not that loud but hey in the moment I'm almost there |
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"Yes. It's not something I make a habit of but there's certainly situations that warrant it. Can't be bothered with being shamed for their go to moves not working for me.
These days I'd just tell them to piss off, but I get it.
If someone gets shitty with me because what they're doing isn't working and refuses to take my guidance or gets offended if I stimulate myself during sex to help me get there then I just want out with minimal drama. I'll always attempt to communicate with someone first to let them know what works better for me but with some take it as some sort of attack on their sexual prowess and get borderline aggressive with you. Fortunately these experiences are in the minority but it happens."
That's exactly what I mean. The whole "my patented Sex Move makes all Real Women moan in ecstasy, you didn't like it so you're fake, I'm going to insult you until I feel better..."
Grow up and go away. |
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Im very inexperienced compared to the majority of you fabsters but I’ve had my fair share of fun.
The only times Ive not had a girl cum during sex is when I didn’t want it to happen. Usually oral pleasure gets the job done and whilst fucking its a lot more work. |
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I did for years with my ex husband, then when he left I finally discovered how to orgasm and I haven’t faked it since. But I can still enjoy sex even if I don’t x |
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"I only think I could tell with someone I knew quite well. People are so different from one another that what applies to one, doesn't usually apply to another.
From all the chatter chatter that goes on beforehand, I'd hope each orgasm us genuine, as there is no need to fake it, till you make it with me.
I've met two women who don't orgasm. I take their word for it. Their body language says they're enjoying all the touchy feely bits I'm doing. Take their word not to make it my mission to make them cum where others have failed and just enjoy the moments.
I don't usually cum. I like sex to spread out over the night. Have lots of breaks between bouts and change things around. Only by the end of the evening.. I'm a bit physically drained and no longer have the endurance to carry on. Only.. after all that exertion, I need a little rougher, harder, faster treatment down below. The more my body works over the night, the more final effort I need at the end.. when I'm done in.
I usually warn someone that I'm like this.. that I dont expect that extra effort at the end, because I appreciate they're going to probably be knackered as well. Last thing they may want to do is give me a half hour long rough hand job at the end of a nights passion.
It's not about the end result. I like the hours of exploration inbetween.
So I hope they'd not fake it. Same with noises, moaning and groaning and such. Sure.. let me know I'm hitting your spot.. but there's no need for fake porn like noises.. I just want to hear animal you Whatever that is. Even if its whimpering in the fetal position If you're happy and enjoying yourself.. it's all that matters to me.
You know that woman from the film porkies? well I'm not that loud but hey in the moment I'm almost there"
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Have I yes... But not for a long time... But I do think too much emphasis is on having an orgasm sometimes... I'd happily fuck and it would bother me if I didn't cum... Some of the time
As for men... In the past two years I've experienced a few men who have "delayed ejaculation" ... And I've experienced when they have cum and haven't... It would be easy to get paranoid but hopefully when they told me it wasn't down to me then I tired to take it as it is... It has its plus sides too though...  |
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"Not esay for a man to fake it if she asks where the cum is.
What are you going to say?
It must have evapourated darling because i had a wonderful orgasm....."
Its easy for a man to fake it if wearing a condom, Make the right noise pull out and put condom in the bin |
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I can't truly know whether anybody has faked it with me but nobody has ever told me she has.
I don't want anybody to fake it. I enjoy making a real effort for my lover. I have learned from a professional sex therapist how a woman's body works and how to make her cum hard. I love putting that into practice, adapting where necessary, and giving her a great climax.
I consider it my job to satisfy my lover. I don't consider it my lover's job to make me feel better if I'm not doing a good job. I think it is a sign of a good relationship if people can talk about what does/doesn't/is/isn't working for them and try different things to find that OMFG factor for each other, and enjoy the exploration, closeness and effort.
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I did when I was younger I don't anymore but then I'm not easy to bring to orgasim either it doesn't mean I don't enjoy sex tho. When it does happen its great. But ye I don't fake anymore I do warn guys about it. |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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This is always an awkward and sensitive issue to discuss. Unfortunately, not everyone is sexually compatible or observant / attentive enough to recognise what the other needs to climax.
Sometimes everything may be done right in a physical sense but a mental block may be present; either through lack of familiarity, unable to completely relax or some other reason.
Should a woman feel compelled to fake an orgasm to not hurt another's feelings? Especially if he's a nice guy with a good attitude? Most people I suspect would say no. What I suspect is that there are often a host of factors that doesn't make it a clear cut yes or no answer. |
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"This is always an awkward and sensitive issue to discuss. Unfortunately, not everyone is sexually compatible or observant / attentive enough to recognise what the other needs to climax.
Sometimes everything may be done right in a physical sense but a mental block may be present; either through lack of familiarity, unable to completely relax or some other reason.
Should a woman feel compelled to fake an orgasm to not hurt another's feelings? Especially if he's a nice guy with a good attitude? Most people I suspect would say no. What I suspect is that there are often a host of factors that doesn't make it a clear cut yes or no answer."
Nice guy with a good attitude is definitely a harder one to navigate than dickheads who need their ego stroked. |
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I have done in the past, yeah. I think it comes down to confidence really. I was never confident enough to call time and thought it needed an end bell to ring kinda thing
Then I woke up and embraced the fact that sex is enjoyable whether you hit the high notes or not (I'd been enjoying it for years so always knew, however it's lack of belief in others that they'll think the same way) I think once you reach that mind destination you naturally relax more, which in turn helps in the long run!
So so many factors at play, to how tired you are, to if there's something on your mind, to a simple change of rhythm or an ouchie that can knock things akimbo.
Mutual enjoyment, respect. That's the shizzle right there.
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"I’m too amazing a thespian for any lady to tell if I’m faking it.
‘Ooooo! Eeeeeee! By ‘eck!!!!! That were great that were luv!’
I'd probably be laughing too hard to continue  "
I do love a good laugh to go with the good sex |
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"I’m too amazing a thespian for any lady to tell if I’m faking it.
‘Ooooo! Eeeeeee! By ‘eck!!!!! That were great that were luv!’
I'd probably be laughing too hard to continue "
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"I have done in the past, yeah. I think it comes down to confidence really. I was never confident enough to call time and thought it needed an end bell to ring kinda thing
Then I woke up and embraced the fact that sex is enjoyable whether you hit the high notes or not (I'd been enjoying it for years so always knew, however it's lack of belief in others that they'll think the same way) I think once you reach that mind destination you naturally relax more, which in turn helps in the long run!
So so many factors at play, to how tired you are, to if there's something on your mind, to a simple change of rhythm or an ouchie that can knock things akimbo.
Mutual enjoyment, respect. That's the shizzle right there.
P"
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"This is always an awkward and sensitive issue to discuss. Unfortunately, not everyone is sexually compatible or observant / attentive enough to recognise what the other needs to climax.
Sometimes everything may be done right in a physical sense but a mental block may be present; either through lack of familiarity, unable to completely relax or some other reason.
Should a woman feel compelled to fake an orgasm to not hurt another's feelings? Especially if he's a nice guy with a good attitude? Most people I suspect would say no. What I suspect is that there are often a host of factors that doesn't make it a clear cut yes or no answer.
Nice guy with a good attitude is definitely a harder one to navigate than dickheads who need their ego stroked. "
I can't be dealing with strong dickheads egos let alone their cock |
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"This is always an awkward and sensitive issue to discuss. Unfortunately, not everyone is sexually compatible or observant / attentive enough to recognise what the other needs to climax.
Sometimes everything may be done right in a physical sense but a mental block may be present; either through lack of familiarity, unable to completely relax or some other reason.
Should a woman feel compelled to fake an orgasm to not hurt another's feelings? Especially if he's a nice guy with a good attitude? Most people I suspect would say no. What I suspect is that there are often a host of factors that doesn't make it a clear cut yes or no answer.
Nice guy with a good attitude is definitely a harder one to navigate than dickheads who need their ego stroked.
I can't be dealing with strong dickheads egos let alone their cock"
Me neither. Not anymore. |
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Personally I didn’t have my first O until 4 years ago, it was one of those “wtf was that” moments. Even though I’ve enjoyed sex prior to that, I realised it was just my natural lubricant up until that point.
Since then a voyage of discovery and we’ll I haven’t looked back "
I've been on voyage of discovery in other ways. More power to us x |
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"Honesty is always best !
Personally I didn’t have my first O until 4 years ago, it was one of those “wtf was that” moments. Even though I’ve enjoyed sex prior to that, I realised it was just my natural lubricant up until that point.
Since then a voyage of discovery and we’ll I haven’t looked back
I've been on voyage of discovery in other ways. More power to us x"
More power to us indeed x
Still discovering, still enjoying and looking forward to the next first |
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"My Mrs never has. As she tells me!! “You finished?...I’ve not cum!”"
I spent 18 years with a man..he was my first ever and I could never talk to him. We just did 'it'...don't get me wrong the sex was good. I never felt I could be truly expressive and that's something that is so important to me now. To be able to talk freely and not be judged.
I need that.. if I should ever have another relationship that's what I want. Good on the mrs and you. |
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