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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I'm an introverted extrovert if that's possible.
I can go from all out having a ball to reading something that I have to fight with myself over not to shut down.
I can find it very draining, especially if there seems to be a run of people or messages that are disrespectful or if I see behaviours that don't sit well morally with me
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I'm definitely in and out. I love some group stuff and the attention and stuff. And sometimes I don't know what I'm doing and just want to crawl into the floor and die. I struggle to follow group conversation. Sometimes it's overwhelming and I hit a wall then everybody needs to piss off now. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
I’m a gregarious introvert. I like people but being around a lot of them takes energy out of me. I get recharged by being on my own or just one other, especially outside in the hills. |
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"I’m a gregarious introvert. I like people but being around a lot of them takes energy out of me. I get recharged by being on my own or just one other, especially outside in the hills. "
I think that's fair about me as well. I honestly have no idea how I recharge - I long assumed I was an introvert because of confidence issues - but I certainly need to hide when I've had too much of people. |
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"I think I'm an introverted extrovert if that's possible.
I can go from all out having a ball to reading something that I have to fight with myself over not to shut down.
I can find it very draining, especially if there seems to be a run of people or messages that are disrespectful or if I see behaviours that don't sit well morally with me
P"
This is so right
I nearly pulled ours down at the weekend, nothing specific.
Well said ED
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps."
You should come chat to me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me..."
Will you make me tea? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?"
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times  
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live
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you know I never miss an opportunity to ask for tea though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live
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you know I never miss an opportunity to ask for tea though."
Kettles brewing all across the land just waiting for you to grace them with your presence
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live
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you know I never miss an opportunity to ask for tea though.
Kettles brewing all across the land just waiting for you to grace them with your presence
P"
I'll set up a tour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live
P
you know I never miss an opportunity to ask for tea though.
Kettles brewing all across the land just waiting for you to grace them with your presence
P
I'll set up a tour"
That...Is....Genius!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Whoa whoa whoa buttercup I've offered soooooooo many times
You're buggered if you think you're getting a personalised brew holder now sunshine.
Serious note. You know my door is always open. You just don't know where I live
P
you know I never miss an opportunity to ask for tea though.
Kettles brewing all across the land just waiting for you to grace them with your presence
P
I'll set up a tour
That...Is....Genius!
P"
I know, I should have done it by now really. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?"
Can’t stand the stuff but I’ll watch as you make it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m situationally introverted and extroverted. The term most commonly used these days is ambivert. I can behave extrovertedly and be energised by group settings. My work requires it. I can be gregarious in conversation too. However other times I like just to be alone, recharge my batteries, spend time in reflection and in conversation listen and observe. I was more extroverted when I was younger but tended to talk even more shite than I do now. I’ve learned to think before I speak these days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I'm an introverted extrovert if that's possible.
I can go from all out having a ball to reading something that I have to fight with myself over not to shut down.
I can find it very draining, especially if there seems to be a run of people or messages that are disrespectful or if I see behaviours that don't sit well morally with me
P
This is so right
I nearly pulled ours down at the weekend, nothing specific.
Well said ED
Jo x "
Thank you. Some can easily brush things off, others it takes a little more work.
When people say stuff like "don't let it bother you, it's not real, it's strangers on the internet" well it is real, that person really did just say that or do that, therefore it's real. I didn't fucking imagine it!
How much relevance we give them tho is down to us, and sometimes for whatever reason (hormones/bad day/tiredness) these things can bother us more than they possibly should or would on other days.
I know we can't control others behaviour, but there have been times when I've thought "do I really want to be associated with THAT?" and that's given me food for thought.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s vital people get to here my opinion.
*hear 
That’s the kind of foreplay I like."
Oh yeah the ‘For fuck sake not like that, like this’ type. I know it well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s vital people get to here my opinion.
*hear
That’s the kind of foreplay I like.
I knew there was a reason we got together  "
That and my micro penis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it’s vital people get to here my opinion.
*hear
That’s the kind of foreplay I like.
I knew there was a reason we got together
That and my micro penis."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
People are often surprised when I say I'm quite shy and introverted and point to my random ramblings on here as evidence that I can't be - however the reality is that in person I do struggle, especially with group settings where I don't know people, and always feel like I'm stood on the sidelines watching at times, unless someone engages with me directly.
Part of that is my brain and mouth seem to have a synchronisation problem where my brain needs a few seconds to think before it tells my mouth what to say, which in person usually means the conversation has moved on before I get a chance to say it, so I either blurt out something stupid, or don't say anything. On here I'm afforded that few seconds thinking time and can therefore come across as a bit more outgoing as a result.
I'm also an overthinker which can hamper conversations and indeed the experience on here at times as my irrational over thinking brain and the rational thinking one battle it out to decide if I really should be saying something and that can be draining sometimes, especially after I hit send on a message and my rational side lands a killer punch that points out why I really shouldn't have said what I said, albeit too late, so I sit and cringe waiting for the reply or lack of. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
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Needing to hide when you've had too much of people sounds like an introvert to me.
I am definitely one. I do like people, and enjoy being with them, but I also need to know that there's a quiet spot that I can escape to. The people who know me know that I don't need anyone going to check that I'm OK, and I'll return to the group when I've recharged a bit. Or quietly go home.
On here it's much the same. Interacting with people takes energy, so I'll usually only say something when I've got something to say. I'm really bad at the posting-for-the-sake-of-posting threads.
If I've had enough, I'll just go silent for a few days. No one's going to notice my absence. |
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"Needing to hide when you've had too much of people sounds like an introvert to me."
There are other potential causes in my case, but they're in the category of things I don't discuss on the forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can find it very tiring on here, I have noticed my willingness to join in becomes nothing at some points so I just stay away for a while. Or I don't talk to anyone at all for two days. That usually helps.
You should come chat to me...
Will you make me tea?
Can’t stand the stuff but I’ll watch as you make it "
I can work with that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Alcohol makes me clam up and be less fun. Tea is good.
Tea is the best. Especially when made by me.
I'm more of a coffee drinker but extremely fussy about that... "
I'll get you some water. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a bit like Peach in the introverted extrovert thing, I can be life and soul of the party but I can also hide in my house for days on end.
I find the forums help my outgoing side, I can do and say the things I'd be too shy to normally.
I struggle a wee bit with messaging as sometimes I'm just not in a people mood so I don't reply for ages and I think people think I'm not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I'm an introverted extrovert if that's possible.
I can go from all out having a ball to reading something that I have to fight with myself over not to shut down.
I can find it very draining, especially if there seems to be a run of people or messages that are disrespectful or if I see behaviours that don't sit well morally with me
P"
I relate to this. H |
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"I'm a bit like Peach in the introverted extrovert thing, I can be life and soul of the party but I can also hide in my house for days on end.
I find the forums help my outgoing side, I can do and say the things I'd be too shy to normally.
I struggle a wee bit with messaging as sometimes I'm just not in a people mood so I don't reply for ages and I think people think I'm not interested. "
The forum is great for being able to people without peopleing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do you manage Fab? Do you find it draining? (I'm not sure if I'm an introvert or other issues I haven't uncovered yet, but I share a lot of ground with introverts) "
I don't know how to define myself on introvert/extrovert spectrum
I get out alot in public. I've got too many friends than I can cope with tbh....
But I'm also autistic and can go cold without company and be perfectly happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a bit like Peach in the introverted extrovert thing, I can be life and soul of the party but I can also hide in my house for days on end.
I find the forums help my outgoing side, I can do and say the things I'd be too shy to normally.
I struggle a wee bit with messaging as sometimes I'm just not in a people mood so I don't reply for ages and I think people think I'm not interested. "
I generally don't reply to messages unless it's from someone I feel I know from the forums or someone I've met in person. B does the bulk of the replying, for me I can't always tell my reasoning as to why I'm not really interested in replying, all I know is that I'm offish and it feels like effort. People I feel I know though, it doesn't seem like any effort at all, it's just natural and that's how I like it.
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I would say I’m half and half.
Walking into a crowd where I know no one I’m an introvert, but once in I’ll chat away
Meeting someone for the first time of here for example, no shyness and straight in talking especially if I know they might be nervous, take on the role of making them comfortable
In the right circumstances I can be extrovert, if your day in the corner of a party not looking happy, I’ll come over and try to persuade you to join in. If that doesn’t work I’ll just dance like a loon to make you laugh - burying my blushes deep of being a complete tool for the time it takes
All about where you are and who you’re with |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Definitely an introverted extrovert. Love being part of a crowd and feeding off that energy but I also cannot just go along with something I am not comfortable with and will stand my ground...my introvert self hates me for that!
Getting to be part of the crowd though can be such a minefield. Making that move to ask to join I find hard.
But I also love being on my own or with just 1 or 2 other people.
That's why I like fab. You can hide behind text until you are comfortable AND you can just say what is on your mind because (most) people are open minded and accepting. Its also why have enjoyed going to clubs too.
Consequently I don't have scores of friends, and I am ok with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think I'm an introverted extrovert if that's possible.
I can go from all out having a ball to reading something that I have to fight with myself over not to shut down.
I can find it very draining, especially if there seems to be a run of people or messages that are disrespectful or if I see behaviours that don't sit well morally with me
P"
I’m an introverted extrovert too |
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