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"I’ve had enough "Know that feeling sometimes | |||
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"It depends what others want from me. " I'm thinking more self worth than meeting the wants of others BTW, the new avatar, where did THEY come from?  | |||
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"It depends what others want from me. I'm thinking more self worth than meeting the wants of others BTW, the new avatar, where did THEY come from? "Well I am enough for me, I'm happy with myself but I'm not enough for others. I don't know, they just kinda happened | |||
"I am what I am! " And what I am needs no excuses... | |||
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"I think you can be enough yet still strive for betterment I am far from perfect, yet I am enough I do wish more people would recognise this in themselves" 
It's sad how many people don't appreciate themselves. My self worth depends on no-one else, just me. | |||
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"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times. Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was. I'm finally starting to believe that I am. P"  | |||
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"I’m too much " For some maybe | |||
"I’m too much For some maybe "Ha! | |||
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"I’m too much For some maybe
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"I'm just glorious me "Yes you are | |||
"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times. Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was. I'm finally starting to believe that I am. P" I had the same with my Dad (I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless" I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week" I saw him physically recoil He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him He has been as right as rain ever since He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it | |||
"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times. Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was. I'm finally starting to believe that I am. P I had the same with my Dad (I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless" I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week" I saw him physically recoil He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him He has been as right as rain ever since He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it" Yep, exactly how I had it. Then when I got with my ex I tried to better myself, started working in a school and got a few qualifications, nothing major but NVQs.... his reaction to the work I was putting in and when I passed was probably worse than my mums. He didn't dismiss my efforts but picked holes in other ways, I remember him saying "you've put all that fucking effort in for an NVQ, you know what those pieces of shit stand for don't ya? Nearly very qualified... ain't worth the paper it's written on so if you wanna waste your fucking time, do it on something worthwhile" I never challenged the mother. Saw no point and thought it really wouldn't achieve much apart from upsetting her if she actually listened to what I was saying of course. I have bugger all to do with her now and I don't see the point in creating agro over something I can't change that won't have any effect on the future either P | |||
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"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times. Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was. I'm finally starting to believe that I am. P I had the same with my Dad (I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless" I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week" I saw him physically recoil He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him He has been as right as rain ever since He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it Yep, exactly how I had it. Then when I got with my ex I tried to better myself, started working in a school and got a few qualifications, nothing major but NVQs.... his reaction to the work I was putting in and when I passed was probably worse than my mums. He didn't dismiss my efforts but picked holes in other ways, I remember him saying "you've put all that fucking effort in for an NVQ, you know what those pieces of shit stand for don't ya? Nearly very qualified... ain't worth the paper it's written on so if you wanna waste your fucking time, do it on something worthwhile" I never challenged the mother. Saw no point and thought it really wouldn't achieve much apart from upsetting her if she actually listened to what I was saying of course. I have bugger all to do with her now and I don't see the point in creating agro over something I can't change that won't have any effect on the future either P" ... and despite all that, you ARE good enough, just embrace it I don't think we've ever spoken, but I am here enough to witness how well liked you are here. People are genuinely fond of you - and that's looking past the fun and frivolity That doesn't happen to just anyone | |||
"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again?" Ello stranger | |||
"I’ve had enough "Stop it. Don't put negative thoughts in my mind 
The weather is lovely. | |||
"I think you can be enough yet still strive for betterment I am far from perfect, yet I am enough I do wish more people would recognise this in themselves" This OP | |||
"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again? Ello stranger "that’s what I say to my cock | |||
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"This is a question I've always fought with and still do at times. Stems from a mother who was constantly telling me to try harder or I'll never amount to anything, nothing was ever good enough even if in truth it absolutely was. I'm finally starting to believe that I am. P I had the same with my Dad (I assume) he did it in good faith and in an attempt to push me to strive for excellence Just one example was coming home from school all chuffed with myself, having got 90%+ in an exam His reaction : "you know what they call that in my job? Scrap! - unless you get it 100% right, it goes in the bin, it's useless" I was well into my 20's before I confronted him over it. I can't even remember what I'd done, but he had started to knock it I didn't make a big fuss, I just said "fuckin 'ell Dad, whatever I do, it's never good enough is it? If I won the lottery, you'd be on my back for not doing it on a rollover week" I saw him physically recoil He had no idea - or he never thought I'd challenge him He has been as right as rain ever since He's an old man now, he's softened, he's recently told me that he's proud of me and the way I've turned out I didn't need that, but it helped and I'll take it Yep, exactly how I had it. Then when I got with my ex I tried to better myself, started working in a school and got a few qualifications, nothing major but NVQs.... his reaction to the work I was putting in and when I passed was probably worse than my mums. He didn't dismiss my efforts but picked holes in other ways, I remember him saying "you've put all that fucking effort in for an NVQ, you know what those pieces of shit stand for don't ya? Nearly very qualified... ain't worth the paper it's written on so if you wanna waste your fucking time, do it on something worthwhile" I never challenged the mother. Saw no point and thought it really wouldn't achieve much apart from upsetting her if she actually listened to what I was saying of course. I have bugger all to do with her now and I don't see the point in creating agro over something I can't change that won't have any effect on the future either P ... and despite all that, you ARE good enough, just embrace it I don't think we've ever spoken, but I am here enough to witness how well liked you are here. People are genuinely fond of you - and that's looking past the fun and frivolity That doesn't happen to just anyone" Thank you Bussy, that means an awful lot to me and I admit gave me a lump in my throat. Xx P | |||
"I’ve always been quite self sufficient and a reasonable level of self confidence. No one has ever been dissatisfied or disappointed with my sexua......what was the question again? Ello stranger that’s what I say to my cock"I don't see mine half as much as I used to either These days, we only meet if I stand in front of a mirror | |||
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"No im not" Yes you are | |||
"I'm not enough." Why do you think that? | |||
"I am enough for me, although i suspect others find me wanting. " That's enough then To me at least | |||
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"I'm not enough. Why do you think that?" Because every I start thinking that I am, people ahow me that I'm not. | |||
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"I'm not enough. Why do you think that? Because every I start thinking that I am, people ahow me that I'm not." It has to come from you, not others Sorry you feel otherwise | |||
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"Are you?" I most certainly am! | |||
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"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route. 26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't. I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought. You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now. I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet P" I initially felt guilty for posting the thread having read this, but on reflection, fuck that You ARE enough and you're on the right tracks to owning Part of that is reflection It helped me - it's not always been sunshine and flowers in Bussy Towers x | |||
"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route. 26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't. I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought. You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now. I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet P I initially felt guilty for posting the thread having read this, but on reflection, fuck that You ARE enough and you're on the right tracks to owning Part of that is reflection It helped me - it's not always been sunshine and flowers in Bussy Towers x " No no no, you should absolutely not feel guilty at all, coz we all need these moments to rationalise, reflect and understand. So thank you. P X | |||
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"Yes I am. I know I am even when other people think I'm not. It's a useful mindset to have and I'm fortunate to have had it most of my life. " To some people we are nothing. To some people we are everything. | |||
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Holly | |||
"Im a small french egg- so im definitely un œuf "Enough!  | |||
"Yes I am. I know I am even when other people think I'm not. It's a useful mindset to have and I'm fortunate to have had it most of my life. To some people we are nothing. To some people we are everything." Yep! | |||
"I often wonder. My whole life I've doubted my worth. I think I am...I hope I am. " I’m newish here. From your profile, pics and veris from those who know you, you are clearly a great person. You are really attractive and people speak very well of you. I understand the self-doubt, but ultimately the only person you have to be enough for is yourself. If you aren’t enough, or are too much for someone else, then they don’t deserve you. | |||
"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route. 26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't. I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought. You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now. I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet P" The hardest habits to break are the ones we don't realise are habits. | |||
"This thread led to me having a "moment" last night. It's not a bad thing by any stretch, yes I was upset but that's part of the self discovery route. 26 years. That's over half my life of being told I wasn't. I realised unlearning something you were taught for 26 fucking years of your life is gonna take more work than I thought. You can know something but not necessarily believe in it, and I think that's where I am now. I know the mother and the ex were wrong, but I don't quite believe fully in myself just yet P The hardest habits to break are the ones we don't realise are habits." So unbelievably true. | |||
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