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Is there a right time?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"God no.
So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex
I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption. "
I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation |
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Any time is a good time if the conversation turns sexual, as long as you can appreciate that you may not get the answer you were hoping for, and that you may lose out on it going any further if they are dead against it. |
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"God no.
So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex
I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption.
I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation "
If it’s important to you, you literally just ask. And early on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God no.
So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex
I... Uh... Yeah. Yeah that generally is the assumption.
I’ve seen plenty of couples in the forums that say they never have safe sex and it’s always bare back, what I’m asking is how do you bring. That up In a conversation "
It's simple, you ask them what are there preferences regarding safer sex or not. |
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"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "
If you ask like that no but you can ask their views on protection and make it a mature conversation and boom you get your answer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"God no.
So do you just naturally assume it’s akways going to be safe sex
Unsafe sex is never an option for me.
How do you feel about STDs, op?"
I agree I’ve just seen a few feeds saying bare and stuff, I always play safe, I was just a bit stumped to think you could meet a stranger shag the and not ware anything |
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Oh OK. Different way around.
If you have concerns, ask until you don't have concerns.
If you think they prefer bare, work that out before you commit.
I thought this was the reverse, when do you get to switch to bare. Generally in this environment you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just seeing some of the things that couples have put up, bare is better and Things like that just made me wonder how they start that conversation "
I imagine it's a fairly straightforward conversation.
They announce they prefer to play bare and let their potential playmate decide if that's acceptable or not. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time "
First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?  |
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If you want to play bare then go for it. Just put it on your profile and display all your veris. Makes it easier for those who play that way to find you.
Personally we never would fuck randoms bare. Don't fancy getting a sti. Only each other and regular testing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time
First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I? "
Why do you think that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there ever a right time when you meet someone/couple off fab too ask weather or not the go bare back? "
Early on in conversation. You won't get shot for asking their preference but will save your and their time if those preferences don't match.
Also bear in mind that if someone has ticket safe sex as one of the interests - that only means it's an ineterest and not a requirement (just as any other interests ticket). It only becomes a requirement if it's specified in the profile text.
It surprises me how many people understand other interests as that but read a tick box for safe sex as the requirement.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time
First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?
Why do you think that?"
Seem to put my foot in it all the time, guess I’m not very good at how I word things |
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"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time
First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I?
Why do you think that?
Seem to put my foot in it all the time, guess I’m not very good at how I word things "
It's a learning curve, dont worry about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The best time is just as you’re taking your socks off, let off an air horn to get her/ their attention and shout ‘I TRUST WE ARE ALL GOOD WITH BARE BACK!’
You’ll probably be spend the rest of the evening crying salty tears into your Pot Noodle, but hey at least you asked.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me, in the world of fab it's never. That's reserved for a relationship. However some are into that so if its your thing I'd put it on your profile. Like minded people who are interested in you will express it, those who don't, won't  |
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"Yes, ask early on. If you only want bareback/only play safe, and they’re the opposite, no point in wasting each other’s time
First day in the forums and I’ve made a right wally out myself haven’t I? "
Why? Ask a question and be thought a fool for 5 minutes. Or never ask a question and be a fool for life. Plus a lot of what is offered is only opinion, different folks will say different. |
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