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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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does your head in, send messege or reply to messege then get no response at all, people ask for meets so you reply an hear nothing, not even a no thank you, ignorant people out there, same with friends requests,why ask for friends request then completely ignore any messeges sent,
must have well over a dozen so called cpls blocked up to now,,, |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Believe it or not life gets in the way of swinging. If you message a couple maybe both are not on at the same time, they intend to answer and forget etc.
Calling people ignorant and acting like a petulant spoilt child is not attractive in my opinion.
I'm sure that's not the impression you want to portray to others. |
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"does your head in, send messege or reply to messege then get no response at all, people ask for meets so you reply an hear nothing, not even a no thank you, ignorant people out there, same with friends requests,why ask for friends request then completely ignore any messeges sent,
must have well over a dozen so called cpls blocked up to now,,,"
it does do our heads in, and it will keep happenin, and nothing can be done about it other than block and move on, we have had same thing cant understand it, i can only say their are some weirdos out there friend collecters pic collecters ect better find out now than waste ur time goin to a meet and them not there  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first came on here I tried to reply to everyone, even if it was just a no thanks.
But half the time you do that they reply back... either still trying to change your mind...or telling you why your wrong... or even getting abusive.
Can't be chewed to get in debates with guys as to why we're not going to shag them so generally I ignore.
Unless it's a nice message and you can see someone has put the time into messaging you. Then I'll always reply with a nice, you're lovely but no thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Glad Im to busy worrying about the important shite in my life to be honest xx  "
you mean there are other things in life??
*walks outside and blinks at the sunlight, then walks back in cuz its raining* |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry but not replying isnt rude its just a way of saying no.
It means no and then you wont have to suffer the whinging why messages
It says no and saves you from the abusive messages ( I wouldnt have shagged you anyway your a dog/minger/fatcow).
Its a no and saves you from getting further messages if you deceide to block the group ie block couples but messages to couples you have replied to previously means the couples can still message you
Its a no and its in the sites faq that its not rude
Always read the small print
And its been done to death on the forums I wish people would use the thread search and have a little lookie
OP dont take it personally its just a way of saying no which is everyones right on any site.
Have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but not replying isnt rude its just a way of saying no.
It means no and then you wont have to suffer the whinging why messages
It says no and saves you from the abusive messages ( I wouldnt have shagged you anyway your a dog/minger/fatcow).
Its a no and saves you from getting further messages if you deceide to block the group ie block couples but messages to couples you have replied to previously means the couples can still message you
Its a no and its in the sites faq that its not rude
Always read the small print
And its been done to death on the forums I wish people would use the thread search and have a little lookie
OP dont take it personally its just a way of saying no which is everyones right on any site.
Have fun "
its all very well ignoring messages, and taking them as a polite no, but the OP is stating that when someone requests you as a friend, but ignores a message.
thats surely ignorance, no?
they have made the first move, so any continuation of contact should be reciprocated likewise, surely... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Glad Im to busy worrying about the important shite in my life to be honest xx "
There are things more important than worrying about not getting replies from people who don't want to shag you?!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry but not replying isnt rude its just a way of saying no.
It means no and then you wont have to suffer the whinging why messages
It says no and saves you from the abusive messages ( I wouldnt have shagged you anyway your a dog/minger/fatcow).
Its a no and saves you from getting further messages if you deceide to block the group ie block couples but messages to couples you have replied to previously means the couples can still message you
Its a no and its in the sites faq that its not rude
Always read the small print
And its been done to death on the forums I wish people would use the thread search and have a little lookie
OP dont take it personally its just a way of saying no which is everyones right on any site.
Have fun
its all very well ignoring messages, and taking them as a polite no, but the OP is stating that when someone requests you as a friend, but ignores a message.
thats surely ignorance, no?
they have made the first move, so any continuation of contact should be reciprocated likewise, surely..."
Personally I wouldn't accept a friends request from someone who hadn't spoken to me as I'd think that "rude".
If I did and they didn't follow it up I'd assume they didn't like what they saw...accept and move on.
But that's just my way of doing it, and I've yet to experience any angst doing it my way. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't accept friends requests without a message, so thats an easy one to avoid. As for people not replying to your message, take it as a no and move on.
HOWEVER, I do agree that it is infuriating when they send you a message, you like it so reply, and you never hear from them again. Why bother messaging in the first place if you don't want to chat? A real headscratcher.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I wouldn't accept a friends request from someone who hadn't spoken to me as I'd think that "rude".
If I did and they didn't follow it up I'd assume they didn't like what they saw...accept and move on.
But that's just my way of doing it, and I've yet to experience any angst doing it my way. "
we dont either, and its on our profile we dont, yet still get invites lol.
jumped the gun the other day because i fired off a message to someone that sent us a friend request, telling them to mae an effort, only to update teh screen and find a message from them waiting.
oh how we laughed lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A nice message gets a nice reply in our book
Got any copies of those specially autographed calendars going? 
Wolf
I have a few"
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If they can't be bothered to answer they'll be even less likely to meet. I wouldn't worry about it, just carry on till you get someone who does want to meet.
Wolf
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We get friends invites all the time but have clearly stated in our profile 'do not send friend invites unless we have met or have chatted loads in the chatrooms' yet still they come so we just delete and regard them as picture collectors. Any abusive messages get reported. I know what the OP means by them messaging you, you reply and then they dont get back in touch  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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recon we opened a bottle here,
we have had friend requests and have accepted, cpl messeges between find out interests, seams to be ok, then notice friends update they or the person after a meet for friends, replied and dont even get a no thanks, so whats the point adding as friends and even chatting in the first place ?. is it us or we just invisible, prob mingers for some or just nutters to others, oh well happy swinging, from the petulant spoilt bratts, lol...... |
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"recon we opened a bottle here,
we have had friend requests and have accepted, cpl messeges between find out interests, seams to be ok, then notice friends update they or the person after a meet for friends, replied and dont even get a no thanks, so whats the point adding as friends and even chatting in the first place ?. is it us or we just invisible, prob mingers for some or just nutters to others, oh well happy swinging, from the petulant spoilt bratts, lol......"
Ahh ok gotcha....
Remove them as friends and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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have thought about that one, have loads on block list already, seem to be just friend collectors, we know people are busy, but it only takes a minute to reply to a messege which they have just read, infuriating and just lazy,
recon we just to mad for others, work hard play harder and mad sense humour, thats us through and through,
happy swinging you guys, loadsa intersting replys so far, thanks all.
xxxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"does your head in, send messege or reply to messege then get no response at all, people ask for meets so you reply an hear nothing, not even a no thank you, ignorant people out there, same with friends requests,why ask for friends request then completely ignore any messeges sent,
must have well over a dozen so called cpls blocked up to now,,,"
it is strange why some would message, send invite, then blobk ya. Fab is full of odd folk.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I use my 'hotlist' as a 'murderlist'.
Every person that doesn't reply to me I put on there."
.. yep, I do something similar.. but my 'hotlist' is called 'ignore-list'.. it get's bigger every week!
and as for those who keep looking, and don't message - and say NOT meeting blah blah - they do my head in!!
That's my B-M-W for the night done.
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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They get to see your private gallery if you are friends.
If they don't like the look of one or both of you...... they disappear.
Whats wrong with that?
Better than turning up to a meet to then be rejected surely? |
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I have decided I don’t mind people calling me rude and ignorant if I choose not to answer their message…. as long as they don’t mind me calling them selfish, arrogant and conceited for expecting the reply. |
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"does your head in, send messege or reply to messege then get no response at all, people ask for meets so you reply an hear nothing, not even a no thank you, ignorant people out there, same with friends requests,why ask for friends request then completely ignore any messeges sent,
must have well over a dozen so called cpls blocked up to now,,,"
I can't understand why. You seem so Goddam Jolly x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have decided I don’t mind people calling me rude and ignorant if I choose not to answer their message…. as long as they don’t mind me calling them selfish, arrogant and conceited for expecting the reply."
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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If a 'friend' doesnt speak to me in pm or chat after a week and they have been online, I just delete them.
I normally reply to other messages with a 'no thanks' but over the last 2 days I've had a diva strop and stopped replying, especially as my profile says 'dont just send hi, how are you? Or hi fancy a chat?' But I still get the messages and suddenly loads from out of my age range  |
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"I have decided I don’t mind people calling me rude and ignorant if I choose not to answer their message…. as long as they don’t mind me calling them selfish, arrogant and conceited for expecting the reply. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have decided I don’t mind people calling me rude and ignorant if I choose not to answer their message…. as long as they don’t mind me calling them selfish, arrogant and conceited for expecting the reply."
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