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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
Or you are an Amazing Fuck ??  |
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It irritates me too. I do understand that people do have insecurities but to use them in an attention seeking quest is not cool.
However the one thing guaranteed to get me shade is when I admit I’m happy with my looks. Can’t win mate. Can’t win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel exactly the same it’s really annoying and so attention seeking ..and tbh guys in the real world do not fancy or have respect for women like these . How can anyone love you if you don’t love yourself .. btw I’m amazing too .. |
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"It irritates me too. I do understand that people do have insecurities but to use them in an attention seeking quest is not cool.
However the one thing guaranteed to get me shade is when I admit I’m happy with my looks. Can’t win mate. Can’t win. "
tell people you love yourself that gets them more wriled especially if your an attractive person lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The whole way of getting ahead on this site is to attention seek. Why get annoyed about how someone goes about it?
I'm sexy as fuck btw, and an awesome fuck. Now look at me. That's my way of attention seeking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The whole way of getting ahead on this site is to attention seek. Why get annoyed about how someone goes about it?
I'm sexy as fuck btw, and an awesome fuck. Now look at me. That's my way of attention seeking."
Yeah I get your point my little sweetie pie...but FFS some constantly put themselves down just to seek the compliments... |
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"It irritates me too. I do understand that people do have insecurities but to use them in an attention seeking quest is not cool.
However the one thing guaranteed to get me shade is when I admit I’m happy with my looks. Can’t win mate. Can’t win. tell people you love yourself that gets them more wriled especially if your an attractive person lol"
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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If they need it to make themselves feel better, that’s up to them.
It’s a short term fix to a potentially bigger self worth issue and I hope they get some real help with that.
Good luck to them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I focus on the fact that I'm an amazing kitchen fitter. Its completely irrelevant on this site but what the hell  "
Ohhh I could do with you fitting mine!! . Just got to plan,save and buy it first ..but you're definitely the man for the job |
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"I focus on the fact that I'm an amazing kitchen fitter. Its completely irrelevant on this site but what the hell "
Alot of things are irrelevant on here but that is a good skill!! Especially fitting the worktops  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think there's a difference between seeking attention and being honest. I know I've got small saggy tits, a few rolls, stretch marks n scars, the odd chin whisker and a vagina that really ain't the "prettiest". That's me being honest.
I'm STILL fucking awesome.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think there's a difference between seeking attention and being honest. I know I've got small saggy tits, a few rolls, stretch marks n scars, the odd chin whisker and a vagina that really ain't the "prettiest". That's me being honest.
I'm STILL fucking awesome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There’s not enough room in the forums for me to list my failings, and I’m well aware of what they are. I don’t seek compliments and attention in that way as from many they’re just hollow words. I see people doing it a lot and let them get on with it. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
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this....i know what i look like i had years of my late husband telling me....find it hard to think any different so i would like to say sorry for those who i offend for being me |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I think there are several different strands to this though and it's not always easy to spot the difference...
There *are* those that do it deliberately to seek attention, who post the "I'll just sit here quietly unnoticed" type posts - knowing full well a slew of "I've noticed you hun" type posts will follow.
Then there are the self-deprecators who do it for comedy effect, or even to deflect attention.
And then there are those that genuinely believe they're whatever they are saying they are and are just being honest in their response.
The first of those is usually quite easy to spot as they pounce on any attention they get with abandon
Ultimately it makes me smile whimsically to myself but as it doesn't impact me directly I don't let it bother me a great deal. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there are several different strands to this though and it's not always easy to spot the difference...
There *are* those that do it deliberately to seek attention, who post the "I'll just sit here quietly unnoticed" type posts - knowing full well a slew of "I've noticed you hun" type posts will follow.
Then there are the self-deprecators who do it for comedy effect, or even to deflect attention.
And then there are those that genuinely believe they're whatever they are saying they are and are just being honest in their response.
The first of those is usually quite easy to spot as they pounce on any attention they get with abandon
Ultimately it makes me smile whimsically to myself but as it doesn't impact me directly I don't let it bother me a great deal."
I agree. OP is correct in that there are people who criticise themselves in the hope they'll be inundated with compliments. I just don't like everyone who has problems with how they look being limped into that category.
I don't want insults but I find it very hard to trust compliments so when I.put myself down it's purely honesty. I'm too honest I often find. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
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I agree with this.
I know myself I can flash hot and cold. I know I'm broken, but I also have very pretty hair. |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
Valid point I have seen it too and find it funny myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
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Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't really judge anyone for how they act around here unless they directly influence my own experience.
If someone needs that kind of validation then I'm happy that they can get that here. It's not how I would go about things and it's not something I would get involved in but each to their own.
Whether they genuinely feel that way or are purely using it as a way to attract attention isn't for me to judge but if it's the former then I hope it helps as I know that low self esteem can be soul destroying and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you .. "
Bit of a sweeping statement there! Why is fab not the right place? Why can't people use the site how they wish and not be judged for it?
If a wee ego boost is all someone wants from it is that better or worse than someone using the site to cheat on their partner or having bareback sex with multiple partners?!?
You have no idea how someone feels inside or or the experiences they have here so to suggest they shouldn't be here is ridiculous. Give people a bit of credit to know themselves and make their own decisions.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you .. "
Is it only confident people who can have good sex? |
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Think it’s a fine line to walk between a healthy bit of self deprecation and over confidence. I think most feel the former will earn them more attention.
Sending my face pic normally provides me with all the sympathy I need  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you .. "
I don't even like myself but I have plenty of people who love me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you ..
I don't even like myself but I have plenty of people who love me. "
Because you're so pretty  |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
Yes you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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seems to be allover the Net.
u know what i have good days bad days and meh days and people complimenting me on here i take it with a pinch of salt unless they know me and have met me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
Try to list some things you like about yourself , if you don’t love yourself how can anyone else love you .. and if you are so lacking any self worth i very much doubt fab is the place for you ..
I don't even like myself but I have plenty of people who love me. "
I'm one of them 
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Oh, and I think B has love for you too, coz you make me smile, you make me humble and you make me put my big sister head on at times .... and he appreciates my love for you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really judge anyone for how they act around here unless they directly influence my own experience.
If someone needs that kind of validation then I'm happy that they can get that here. It's not how I would go about things and it's not something I would get involved in but each to their own.
Whether they genuinely feel that way or are purely using it as a way to attract attention isn't for me to judge but if it's the former then I hope it helps as I know that low self esteem can be soul destroying and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Have you considered that maybe aome of these people just think they look awful and are staying their honest opinion?
I put myself down a lot. NOT to get compliments, but because it's how i feel about myself and I'm not going to sugar coat things.
Try not to tell people why they do things in future OP. You don't know the individuals.
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And try not to tell me what I should have an opinion on in future poster |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?"
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
Yes you are"
I so am... I'm not perfect at all but I concentrate on my positive things and actually like myself regardless xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves "
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble. |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble. "
There's a lot of really good people on here. Supportive without needing a fuck to be nice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble.
There's a lot of really good people on here. Supportive without needing a fuck to be nice. "
Due to visual impairment I am unable to get out and about easily. A big part of me using this site is to have something to do, and people to chat to.
The only way I can meet people is through joining sites.
The whole " msybe they shouldn't be here if they're not confident " is utter bull.
I'm confident that i'm a very genuine person who tries to he nice to others and pwople who mert me in person seem to think I'm very nice.
I'm working on how i feel about myself. The problem exists whether I use this site or not, so leaving wouldn't make a difference.
Some people feel the need to make dogs abput others and then don't accept criticism
I have discovered some lovely people on the forums which is one reason i stay.
Tough s*** if you don't like me being here. I'm not a bully so i would say it's acceptable for me to be here.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble.
There's a lot of really good people on here. Supportive without needing a fuck to be nice.
Due to visual impairment I am unable to get out and about easily. A big part of me using this site is to have something to do, and people to chat to.
The only way I can meet people is through joining sites.
The whole " msybe they shouldn't be here if they're not confident " is utter bull.
I'm confident that i'm a very genuine person who tries to he nice to others and pwople who mert me in person seem to think I'm very nice.
I'm working on how i feel about myself. The problem exists whether I use this site or not, so leaving wouldn't make a difference.
Some people feel the need to make dogs abput others and then don't accept criticism
I have discovered some lovely people on the forums which is one reason i stay.
Tough s*** if you don't like me being here. I'm not a bully so i would say it's acceptable for me to be here.
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Digs not dogs. I am literate, but have aforementioned site problems. Damn autocorrect! |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
What if they are so insecure and they need a boost? Would you prefer for them to just feel shit about themselves?
Probably should consider being on the site if they're so insecure about themselves
Why? I see this as a community. I've made lots of friends here, who have been incredibly supportive to me. Maybe some people don't have anyone outside of here and don't know how to reach out and say I'm in trouble.
There's a lot of really good people on here. Supportive without needing a fuck to be nice.
Due to visual impairment I am unable to get out and about easily. A big part of me using this site is to have something to do, and people to chat to.
The only way I can meet people is through joining sites.
The whole " msybe they shouldn't be here if they're not confident " is utter bull.
I'm confident that i'm a very genuine person who tries to he nice to others and pwople who mert me in person seem to think I'm very nice.
I'm working on how i feel about myself. The problem exists whether I use this site or not, so leaving wouldn't make a difference.
Some people feel the need to make dogs abput others and then don't accept criticism
I have discovered some lovely people on the forums which is one reason i stay.
Tough s*** if you don't like me being here. I'm not a bully so i would say it's acceptable for me to be here.
Digs not dogs. I am literate, but have aforementioned site problems. Damn autocorrect! "
I'm glad that you have found some good people. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I think some people do it for a compliment, and some actually believe they look crap."
As I said further up, the former are usually very easily spotted as they pounce on anyone that takes their bait.
Those that genuinely believe their own hang ups, and let's face it we all have them their sincerity usually shines through and there are some very good examples on this thread - and for the most part I think others are usually supportive of those that are sincere although there will always be those that provide false platitudes in the hope of getting a shag and they're just as bad as those that do it for attention. |
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I suppose we all _iew ourselves differently, if I posted on a TOT thread I would say summat amusing like “popping the old girls out” rather than “here are my saggy old flat boobs”, it’s the fact they point out the flaws rather than just joining in, ladies don’t self deprecate, just join in, men like us no matter what our bad bits look like |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I suppose we all _iew ourselves differently, if I posted on a TOT thread I would say summat amusing like “popping the old girls out” rather than “here are my saggy old flat boobs”, it’s the fact they point out the flaws rather than just joining in, ladies don’t self deprecate, just join in, men like us no matter what our bad bits look like "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Who is anyone to judge anyone else?
We are ALL just doing the best we can with what we have until our short journey on this planet is over.
One person's trash is another person's treasure.
I think life is hard enough with judgements and labels being applied by others. Look where that strategy has got the human race so far.
Where is the love people?
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By *educerMan
over a year ago
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Who is in the wrong here? The people looking for the attention or the people feeding that attention.....
If it gets on your nerves then ignore and move on, plenty of other threads around that are much, much worse..  |
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By *ngelina4uWoman
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
Sad to see but some people need it on a regular basis.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't really get on my nerves. A part of me pities them, that they feel that's the only way for them to get attention. Though I'm sure some are just voicing their sense of self perception. Easily ignored if it's something you get annoyed by. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!
Sad to see but some people need it on a regular basis. "
Why is it sad? They might get on with their day whistling Dixy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't really get on my nerves. A part of me pities them, that they feel that's the only way for them to get attention. Though I'm sure some are just voicing their sense of self perception. Easily ignored if it's something you get annoyed by. "
When people name you in threads do you cringe or thank them? Do you message them telling them you don't want the attention? Or do you lap it up? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention. "
Yeah... but didn't think, ohh I'll post a thread so every fucker messages/ winks /looks/fabs at me...oh and the amount of people men and women who've pm me seeing my point of _iew is crazy.. yet they don't want to post that on the thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't really get on my nerves. A part of me pities them, that they feel that's the only way for them to get attention. Though I'm sure some are just voicing their sense of self perception. Easily ignored if it's something you get annoyed by.
When people name you in threads do you cringe or thank them? Do you message them telling them you don't want the attention? Or do you lap it up?"
Thank them usually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before "
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention? "
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all... |
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all..."
you just can’t win on here sometimes can you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all...
you just can’t win on here sometimes can you "
Absolutely not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
Yeah... but didn't think, ohh I'll post a thread so every fucker messages/ winks /looks/fabs at me...oh and the amount of people men and women who've pm me seeing my point of _iew is crazy.. yet they don't want to post that on the thread "
Cowards. Or they want to fuck you.
More attention for you though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing!"
yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all..."
What's the right way to get attention? |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I find this thread a little unfortunate really. People are here for myriad reasons, reasons sometimes not even know to themselves. To the greater or lesser extent though people are here for some degree of attention, how they go about it is up to them.
Do I always agree with it? No. Does it hurt me? No. So I just let them get on with it.
Everyone is different and goes about their business their own way. I'm sure that just as many people are irritated by my approach as there are that appreciate it, just the same as you OP. Who are we to judge others living their lives as they see fit?
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all..."
Not so much an observation as a damning indictment of anyone who dares to feel down, lacks self confidence or heaven forbid enjoys a bit of positive reinforcement.
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By *iffaWoman
over a year ago
wherever |
Everyone likes a compliment. If someone is not feeling so nice about themselves what’s the harm is a bit of shameless hunting? As long as they don’t take it so seriously and realize that it’s mostly fake of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all...
Not so much an observation as a damning indictment of anyone who dares to feel down, lacks self confidence or heaven forbid enjoys a bit of positive reinforcement.
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This thread is still going...
Well f****** said though! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here "
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all...
What's the right way to get attention?"
Absolutely no clue |
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If you put yourself down, you'd seem like an easier prey so to speak. I actually think most people here are damage in some form me included but that is life.
I know stunning women with self-esteem issue and I can't believe it. Each people handle themselves differently some people need and want approval than others is a form of feedback. We are social creature after all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is this a look at me thread?
Not by me it isn't!!!
It got you a lot of attention.
I had that before
So why are you being negative about other people who want attention?
It was an observation on how some people go about it that's all...
What's the right way to get attention?
Absolutely no clue "
Start a thread |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x"
Do you think being fat is a negative thing? |
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"If you put yourself down, you'd seem like an easier prey so to speak. I actually think most people here are damage in some form me included but that is life.
I know stunning women with self-esteem issue and I can't believe it. Each people handle themselves differently some people need and want approval than others is a form of feedback. We are social creature after all."
Will agree with the damaged bit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x
Do you think being fat is a negative thing?"
It can be argued it is...I know I'm fat but don't necessarily see that as a negative in my life. If I did I'd do something about it.. |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x
Do you think being fat is a negative thing?"
What is the positive? Although there are understandable reasons and spectrum. Not judging I go by the motto live and let live. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It irritates me too. I do understand that people do have insecurities but to use them in an attention seeking quest is not cool.
However the one thing guaranteed to get me shade is when I admit I’m happy with my looks. Can’t win mate. Can’t win. "
Yes, people feel comfortable dealing with weakness but can't handle strength, confidence or honesty. I agree it's a pain! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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What about people that join in a silly thread but when they’re not named they say things like ‘I’ll just leave then shall I?’ Aren’t they doing that for someone to jump in to massage their ego or reassure them?
People may comment on all sorts of things about themselves, are they at fault for commenting or are the ones that jump on to defend/offer words of comfort/praise them/name them, at fault?
I’m not sure.
I don’t like to see people hurting or upset so I probably would jump in to reassure someone. I don’t think it’s a bad thing though. |
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x
Do you think being fat is a negative thing?"
Sorry are you calling yourself fat or trying to light pap is??? Coz both of ya have nothing on me |
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"What about people that join in a silly thread but when they’re not named they say things like ‘I’ll just leave then shall I?’ Aren’t they doing that for someone to jump in to massage their ego or reassure them?
People may comment on all sorts of things about themselves, are they at fault for commenting or are the ones that jump on to defend/offer words of comfort/praise them/name them, at fault?
I’m not sure.
I don’t like to see people hurting or upset so I probably would jump in to reassure someone. I don’t think it’s a bad thing though. "
Really can't stand the stroppy teddy throwers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This really gets on my nerves... I've noticed a few on the forums regularly put themselves down !e.g...oh I'm too fat, I'm crap at BJs ,my boobs are too big, small, saggy blah blah... then the compliments come ..awww your not, you're gorgeous, beautiful blah blah...
FFS ... are you so insecure that you need these compliments off people you've never met...rant over...!!!!... oh and for the record . I'm fucking amazing! yes you are , you are fucking amazing just like everyone else here
Absolutely!!!!!....just a shame some can't see their own positive traits and characteristics and keep mentioning their negative ones x
Do you think being fat is a negative thing?
Sorry are you calling yourself fat or trying to light pap is??? Coz both of ya have nothing on me "
Neither. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thinking about this though I’ve seen plenty of people put themselves down (intentionally or otherwise) in threads and no one jumps to their rescue with a compliment.
That’s gonna be a double edged sword if your sole reason was to make yourself feel better! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You start a debate on here and people start saying things like if you don’t like it just ignore etc but how boring with the forum be if it was just rubbish like date , dump , fuck or whatever ? At least this has been an interesting subject for once . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You start a debate on here and people start saying things like if you don’t like it just ignore etc but how boring with the forum be if it was just rubbish like date , dump , fuck or whatever ? At least this has been an interesting subject for once . "
healthy discussion between adults |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"I feel exactly the same it’s really annoying and so attention seeking ..and tbh guys in the real world do not fancy or have respect for women like these . How can anyone love you if you don’t love yourself .. btw I’m amazing too .. "
It’s really no more or less attention seeking than this post (or any post) is.
V x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
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I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes"
Should I? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?"
What do you have to loose? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?"
You tell me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me."
Your virginity, not much more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is one of my biggest gripes..we are who we are love life love others how you wish to be loved..I am not the most well endowed person but ya know what so what age..race..sex..???means nothing...live life and explore.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me.
Your virginity, not much more"
Oh I always wanted to lose that. Are you the right guy to help me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me.
Your virginity, not much more
Oh I always wanted to lose that. Are you the right guy to help me?"
Not exactly husband material though, so depends on your _iews! |
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over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me.
Your virginity, not much more
Oh I always wanted to lose that. Are you the right guy to help me?
Not exactly husband material though, so depends on your _iews!"
Do you need to be married to lose virginity?  |
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over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me.
Your virginity, not much more
Oh I always wanted to lose that. Are you the right guy to help me?
Not exactly husband material though, so depends on your _iews!
Do you need to be married to lose virginity? "
Not in my _iews but some people think so |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't need compliments. I have a mirror lol
You're rocking it girl xx
I don’t know what image your mirror gives you but you should see yourself in my eyes
Should I?
What do you have to loose?
You tell me.
Your virginity, not much more
Oh I always wanted to lose that. Are you the right guy to help me?
Not exactly husband material though, so depends on your _iews!
Do you need to be married to lose virginity?
Not in my _iews but some people think so"
Well I'm not some people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Rate my tiny cock...?
It's that tiny I can't see it "
I thought the idea was you say its not tiny, not compared to a..... ....ummmm...... ..... Frogs cock...? |
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"Rate my tiny cock...?
It's that tiny I can't see it
I thought the idea was you say its not tiny, not compared to a..... ....ummmm...... ..... Frogs cock...? "
Big it up a bit.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What about people that join in a silly thread but when they’re not named they say things like ‘I’ll just leave then shall I?’ Aren’t they doing that for someone to jump in to massage their ego or reassure them?
People may comment on all sorts of things about themselves, are they at fault for commenting or are the ones that jump on to defend/offer words of comfort/praise them/name them, at fault?
I’m not sure.
I don’t like to see people hurting or upset so I probably would jump in to reassure someone. I don’t think it’s a bad thing though. "
I don't think it's a bad thing either. I've been bitched at for defending people or giving them a positive comment. Perhaps they think I'm being a knob. Maybe 99% of the time that's true, but if 1% of the time it makes 1 sad person feel better, then good. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Or begging for picture fabs.
Totally.
And surely we are all attention seeking in some way because of the pictures we portray is my thinking."
Yes we are. I don't always agree with the way but fuck it - I don't need to. People do what pleases them and if it's not harming others, there's no harm in it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or begging for picture fabs.
Totally.
And surely we are all attention seeking in some way because of the pictures we portray is my thinking.
Yes we are. I don't always agree with the way but fuck it - I don't need to. People do what pleases them and if it's not harming others, there's no harm in it."
My sentiments exactly, it isn't harming or impending on what anyone else does (unless it is taking attention away from others lol)
We cannot control what others do, we can control our reactions. |
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"I don't think it's a bad thing either. I've been bitched at for defending people or giving them a positive comment. Perhaps they think I'm being a knob. Maybe 99% of the time that's true, but if 1% of the time it makes 1 sad person feel better, then good. "
this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Or begging for picture fabs.
Totally.
And surely we are all attention seeking in some way because of the pictures we portray is my thinking.
Yes we are. I don't always agree with the way but fuck it - I don't need to. People do what pleases them and if it's not harming others, there's no harm in it.
My sentiments exactly, it isn't harming or impending on what anyone else does (unless it is taking attention away from others lol)
We cannot control what others do, we can control our reactions."
And this |
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