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Does being aesthetically pleasing shape personality?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I don’t want to be too gender specific but I don’t have any dealings with attractive women and how their looks shape their personality (only myself

But from experience tall guys that are extremely handsome and have large willys and good physiques do tend to be more bastard like with their personalities, there must be a link. Like they know they’re a catch so they just don’t try hard.

Thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always better to get the ugly ducking that grew into a swan. Much nicer personality and not as cocky.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t want to be too gender specific but I don’t have any dealings with attractive women and how their looks shape their personality (only myself

Thoughts?"

It true but it does go both ways occasionally I’ve found to my peril lol

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Not necessarily, some folk are ugly inside and out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never thought about it really but i dont think so really were all very unique and most of ud are capable of being bastards iv not come accross many women acting that way i think i attract a certain happy funny random trait with most women iv met

I dont tend to attract the dull girls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm sure there are many many guys who look like you describe, who aren't bastards.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I tend to find that if someone is good looking then their poor behaviour is overlooked more than if someone is plain or less 'aesthetically pleasing'. Over time I guess this would reinforce that being a bastard is acceptable.

Also if someone is good looking they will find it easier to find someone else (or to have multiple partners) if they behave like a dick.

I've had similar conversations with friends about good looking guys getting the 'cock pass', in that they get a pass on bad behaviour because they have a nice cock. They acknowledge that it's a real thing and accept it.

I guess many people will be flexible with their tolerances for a pretty face, both men and ladies.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I don’t want to be too gender specific but I don’t have any dealings with attractive women and how their looks shape their personality (only myself

Thoughts?"

What made you come to that conclusion Op? Personal experience?

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I tend to find that if someone is good looking then their poor behaviour is overlooked more than if someone is plain or less 'aesthetically pleasing'. Over time I guess this would reinforce that being a bastard is acceptable.

Also if someone is good looking they will find it easier to find someone else (or to have multiple partners) if they behave like a dick.

I guess many people will be flexible with their tolerances for a pretty face, both men and ladies. "

To conclude my points and to answer properly; no I don't think that looks themselves affect personality, but I do think that other people's reactions to them can influence learned behaviour. Unless they have a strong moral or kind character I think they can learn to be otherwise

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By *rivateparts!Man over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

A twats a twat whatever shape they are.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Not necessarily, some folk are ugly inside and out

Agree totally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sure there are many many guys who look like you describe, who aren't bastards. "

I'm seeing one. He's well aware of how attractive he is, but I wouldn't call him a bastard. We're in a sex only relationship though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if you spend time thinking about these things wether they are try or not then you can fall into the trap of tunnel vision and make assumptions. When the tall handsome guy with big cock and great personality comes along you may not notice them.

It’s hard because it’s in our nature to stereotype as stereotypes are often right. But if you can learn not to then you come across so many more amazing people. Not just in the parameters that your asking about but for what ever anyone is looking for in a person.

This is just an opinion and has zero expertise haha

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By *egasus NobMan over a year ago

Merton

Like most things you read, consume, learn I would agree being aesthetically pleasing will have an effect on your personality.

"more bastard like with their personalities" [could simply mean they know what they want and are specific like yourself]

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Also if someone is good looking they will find it easier to find someone else (or to have multiple partners) if they behave like a dick.

I guess many people will be flexible with their tolerances for a pretty face, both men and ladies.

That’s true, I know I’ve let things slide with guys purely because they’re so attractive when I wouldn’t tolerate it with anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good people are good people, whatever packaging they are wrapped in.

Some complete and utter arseholes kick about because they have a disproportionate confidence in their own attractiveness and believe others less fortunate in the looks department are disposable.

Looks fade. Personality is forever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's like what they say , the pretty get everything even though they're rotten on the inside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also if someone is good looking they will find it easier to find someone else (or to have multiple partners) if they behave like a dick.

I guess many people will be flexible with their tolerances for a pretty face, both men and ladies.

I agree with this.

However I think the way people react to the good looks can greatly influence the personality. So in a roundabout way it can. Fame goes to their head, so to speak.

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By *r NeilMan over a year ago

Lancs Mancs

"Always better to get the ugly ducking that grew into a swan. Much nicer personality and not as cocky."
a lot of bolox

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like what they say , the pretty get everything even though they're rotten on the inside."

So you only meet people you think are ugly? Or do you like meeting people you think are rotten on the inside?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Our brains are clean slates at birth, which then get shaped by circumstances - much of it social, where we are influenced by how others interact with us. People are influenced by how people look and we respond to how they do this. Many years of this shapes our choices and behaviour.

There's no given about our choices but looks have a major influence on how we'll treat partners, friends and everyone.

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By *wisted999Man over a year ago

North Bucks

Nah as demonstrated by the forums. You can be any shape and still be a massive cock womble.

The whole hot body shit personality is born out of not applying the same standard and jealousy

However if you are a hot female some people may go a bit easier on you.

Doesn’t work so much for the men.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

These guys I’m basing it on have sparkling personalities as well but with a bastard element. Like they unintentionally keep you fully en pointe! They wouldn’t be the ones blowing up your phone or reassuring you, and you’d never know if you ‘have’ them.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I would have to say, to some degree looks and appearance do shape personalities.

Speaking from personal experience.

I havn't always looked like this.

At 10st heavier, I had zero confidence was ridiculously shy, rarely went out, hid at the back of the crowd if I did.

If you know me now, you'd know I'm the total opposite of that these days.

I've found people treat me differently, some who wouldn't give me a 2nd glance 5yrs ago are now very intrested.

I've not changed as a person though. I still have the same opinions, morals & a code I live by.

I certainly don't have an ego or think I'm better than anybody else and I find those traits in people a total turn off.

I've worked damn hard to look how I do, and I'm still working on it, I'm proud of the changes I've made.

When it comes to what I find attractive in a person, yes appearance is what first catches your eye but if you're an ugly person inside, I'm off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"These guys I’m basing it on have sparkling personalities as well but with a bastard element. Like they unintentionally keep you fully en pointe! They wouldn’t be the ones blowing up your phone or reassuring you, and you’d never know if you ‘have’ them. "

Do you want them to be fawning over you and to be your Prince Charming? I find men who constantly tell me how great I am and want to do so much for me put me off. What is your idea of what a bastard is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find anyone obsessed with their looks to be rather dull. Narcissism is never attractive. However, some truly gorgeous people know they’re attractive, but have more to their personality than an entitled attitude, and they treat others with respect.

Obviously there are some who are not as aesthetically pleasing and can be mean, just as there are attractive people who are in a word “horrid”.

I have a friend who has spent a fortune changing her appearance because she never feels attractive enough, and can be the most caring person going, just as she can be hateful and looks obsessed. The times when she is mean is always around being spiteful about other people’s appearances. She doesn’t see the irony that the only reason she looks so amazing is because she paid to look that way.

Maybe it’s a defensive mechanism- keep people at arms length so they don’t get hurt. Maybe it’s simply their psychological makeup- they are mean/kind regardless of the aesthetics of their outward appearance. Maybe they get sick of being judged on their looks alone, so act accordingly to how they’re treated by that individual- whether on a pedestal or made to feel crap about themselves.

Who knows? The only person who can answer that is the person themself, difficult in an arena where attraction features highly, and who’s going to admit they’re an arse! x

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

People get treated differently according to their looks.

People deemed as good looking get cut more slack. That must then affect their personalities.

I've seen it so many times in work where certain people get away with murder where as others doing the same get the book thrown at them.

The "pretty people" ( male and female) in my experience definitely have an easier ride.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No, I’m kind of experiencing this at the moment and it’s not what I’m used to at all. I remember my last thread I specifically said I want a guy who would be like right I get you’ve had a few shitty experiences and I’ll overlook that and constantly reassure you and compliment you and texts me straight back and initiates all the messages and it’s making me think, hmm right what’s wrong with you then, this isn’t what I’m used to, guys I’m attracted to don’t do this. The keenness is a bit off putting and it’s nakibg me think (again) that there’s something wrong with me.

I just want somewhere in the middle.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe they are sick of being treated like a God and want someone to want them for who they are not what they look like, so treat everyone with disdain.

I get fed up with men saying I'm beautiful (seriously, they do), and I get a bit pussy with them because it gets boring.

I wouldn't say I'm a bastard, but I can become stand-offish and uninterested.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I used to see a guy from here who was very good looking and an army pt instructer and a boxer

It wasnt his looks that attracted me but his humour he had a great personality and was fun to be with. Unfortunatly he moved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Also if someone is good looking they will find it easier to find someone else (or to have multiple partners) if they behave like a dick.

I guess many people will be flexible with their tolerances for a pretty face, both men and ladies. "

I agree with all this. Said much better than I ever could.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My fella is gorge in my eyes but he doesn't see it. I like that modesty it keeps you grounded

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just want somewhere in the middle.

You have to play it by ear and not dwell on every action they make.

It's so easy to want to analyse everything and wonder why, or if there's something you can do to influence them.

I'm going through it a little myself with my long term partner and I have to tell myself to not keep asking questions and go with the flow. I'm a bit scared of losing him, but I don't want to scare him away.

Play it cool and try not to think too much about everything he does or says, or you'll drive yourself mad.

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By *irthandgirthMan over a year ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

There is shit tons of science around the sociologic side of attractive partners and how others react to them. I think for this thread the difference is 2 main characteristics. Firstly, does the individuals persona revolve around their looks? Have they always used them to get what they want? Is their self image merely a reflection of how people react around them?

Secondly, (kind if attached to the first), is about their morals and strength of character. Can they apply a moral code to themselves or will they make excuses "because it's them". I have tended to find it is people who are morally weak who end up abusing their social position.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Gonna tiptoe on obliviously right past the spats that are brewing and give my two pennorth.

Some pretty people are awesome and were taught respect, modesty and commitment. Some pretty people are awesome fun to be around, really cracking good fun but they’re slightly entitled and never really commit because they know they can just find someone else.

However (and this would be in italics if we had HTML) that goes for people all over the attractiveness scale. I had an ex like that - perfectly lovely but always kept me on a knife edge as to whether he was mine or not. He was also a 5’8, overweight, moustachioed chain smoker (I was in my mid twenties...I stopped putting up with that mindgame rubbish

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No one could ever accuse him of being one of the beautiful ones, but he acted as you described, Kit.

People are people. Maybe it’s easier to think that way if you’re attractive but I don’t think it causes it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are people with poor attitudes on all ends of the scale. I've dated some stunning guys and never once felt that they deemed me inferior or disposable. People react to other people's personalities. If looks are some kind of competition it'll bring out the worst in anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Mr is gorgeous! Tbh, I never understand what he sees in me, but that’s my confidence issue, and he obviously sees something as we’ve been seeing each other for so long.

He also has a great personality, so I guess I fell lucky with him. If he didn’t I wouldn’t care how gorgeous he was, I wouldn’t be with him.

My ex was a model and was so insecure that he behaved appallingly, flirting, cheating (I found out at the end of 2.5 years!) knocking my confidence to boost his own.

No one who makes you feel grateful for having them, overlook the defects in their personality because they’re good looking, or project an arrogant confidence (regardless of their looks) is worth being with.

You obviously rate looks, that’s not a bad thing btw, just don’t let that be your focus. Don’t let yourself be mistreated because of aesthetics, you will never be happy if you do. You’ll meet him, but maybe he won’t be what you’re expecting- he could be a babe or Mr Average, but have that amazing and caring personality that makes him a keeper. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Mr is gorgeous! Tbh, I never understand what he sees in me, but that’s my confidence issue, and he obviously sees something as we’ve been seeing each other for so long.

He also has a great personality, so I guess I fell lucky with him. If he didn’t I wouldn’t care how gorgeous he was, I wouldn’t be with him.

My ex was a model and was so insecure that he behaved appallingly, flirting, cheating (I found out at the end of 2.5 years!) knocking my confidence to boost his own.

Sounds like the tall, good looking guy with the big cock is actually just a walking cock- in more ways than one, haha. Not worth your time x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like.

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

Lol I should be a catch then ,little bit tubby, medium but githy willy not big headed not ugly but a big heart and a lot of love don't think anyone will notice though you girls do love a bad boy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like. "

But if they were unattractive, people wouldn’t tolerate it as much cos then it’s just an unattractive person being a dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lol I should be a catch then ,little bit tubby, medium but githy willy not big headed not ugly but a big heart and a lot of love don't think anyone will notice though you girls do love a bad boy."

Nope, lol, we love whoever attracts our attention. The “girls only love a bad boy” cliché is so wrong. Do guys only love supermodels who boost their ego?

Another cliché that’s a pile of crap, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like.

But if they were unattractive, people wouldn’t tolerate it as much cos then it’s just an unattractive person being a dick. "

Its true. And whether we like it or not, we make more allowances for nice looking people despite them being arseholes a lot of the time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like.

But if they were unattractive, people wouldn’t tolerate it as much cos then it’s just an unattractive person being a dick. "

That says more about the person doing the tolerating though.

If you're a prick, I don't care if you look like David Beckham, you're still a prick and ill have no time for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like.

But if they were unattractive, people wouldn’t tolerate it as much cos then it’s just an unattractive person being a dick. "

Nope! Sorry but from my experience with my ex hubby wasn’t as attractive as Mr or my ex, he’s actually rather average (5’4”, tubby now, he was skinny when we met, never been buff) but I tolerated it because I loved him- he was a total dick! Looks can only let there be so much leeway, and can only be an excuse up to a certain degree. It depends on your own perspective xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Perhaps attractive people with unpleasant personalities would still be the same if they were less attractive, who knows ?

It's very simple though, just stay away from anyone who is a prick, no matter what they look like.

But if they were unattractive, people wouldn’t tolerate it as much cos then it’s just an unattractive person being a dick. "

I don't know if they would keep tolerating it. It would grate on me after a while and I wouldn't want to be around them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

I'm not that tall, dark or handsome but I can pull universally attractive women in the real world so I don't buy into the delusion on here. Distorted ratios that's all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men... "

That would be bliss from a perve p.o.v, but would be so annoying as well! Shallow men don’t hold the attention any longer than women do, but can bet the response to men being vain would definitely attract negativity from people posting...or maybe I’m just a cynic and should tolerate the posts because they’re “beautiful”, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Ha ha true.. but some of the nicest guys on here are absolute stunners and just go about their business under the radar.. you'd think if this vain dynamic was true there would be many more cocky, no women on here are good enough for my exacting standards threads.. but there simply aren't!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

I don’t care if I put anyone off by stating what my preferences are. Which by the way I haven’t done a thread like that for a few years now. This thread is not about preferences, it’s about the correlation between good looks and personality shaping.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not necessarily, some folk are ugly inside and out

Agree totally"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Totally agree! I’ve seen so many gorgeous men on here, and when I was single I met some, who weren’t affected by their looks, it was simply a part of them but not what made them. They are the gorgeous ones on here, their personalities make them that way, their looks are a bonus xx

Although, truth be told, I probably wouldn’t comment, wouldn’t be up to their standards and worthy of a response, haha- but I could always say “I don’t meet men anyway, so what you say doesn’t bother me” that would teach them, haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Does anyone else get alarm bells when you see the same person posting or writing on their profile in two very different language styles?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

But that becomes part of it somewhere like here. I know loads of stunning guys, both on here and in real life, and they're confident but humble people. A bastard in any sense wouldn't be of interest to me so I wouldn't be friends with that kind of guy whether he was beautiful or not.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I wouldn’t say I was particularly striking but I don’t think I’m ‘ugly’ either.

What does strike me (just as an observation) is the amount of people (men and women) on here that say things like “you are the only person on here that takes the time to chat to me like a real person. You’re very kind”.

What the hell are some people (on both ends of the ‘classically attractive’ spectrum) replying with?? Intended rudeness is absolutely beyond me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

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By *empsey and hotpieceMan over a year ago

North west

"I don’t want to be too gender specific but I don’t have any dealings with attractive women and how their looks shape their personality (only myself

Thoughts?"

Dan here, I’m going to put my neck on the line here, from my own personal point of view. In my younger years I was pretty self absorbed, and at times not a very nice person, I also now recognise I was insecure and used a vail of cockiness to mask it. I was often told I was good looking, I knew I had a bigger than average cock ,and that manifested itself into me being a bit of a bastard with the opposite sex. I was never aggressive or controlling or anything like that, but was a player and had no concern for others feelings.

Not sure how it happened, but I realised I didn’t like myself much and evolved into a more caring person, with that I learned to like myself and became a lot more happy and content with life. Now in my 50’s and I’m happier than I’ve ever been, partly because I don’t care as much how I look, I take care of myself, but I’m resigned to the fact I’m aging.

So yes, for some, looks mold personality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm really not sure at all about how many of the posts on here are deliberately ironic or actually serious...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Ha ha snap! Much easier to meet guys socially as friends than work out anything on here! I'd never approach a super physically hot guy because I'm far from that myself! But very flattered if they approach me. It's pretty easy to tell the genuinely lovely ones by the amount they're prepared to interact and the things they say without it being about a shag!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

I didn’t have the confidence to approach them either, luckily they approached me, extremely lucky Mr did! Haha, I’m biased but he’s the hottest guy I’ve ever met x

So the ones who messaged with “wanna fuck” or “suck my cock” were only after shags?

dodged a few bullets there, haha- tbf they were young studs who wanted an older woman- maybe they thought I’d be overcome with gratitude and say “of course!” Haha xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

I didn’t have the confidence to approach them either, luckily they approached me, extremely lucky Mr did! Haha, I’m biased but he’s the hottest guy I’ve ever met x

So the ones who messaged with “wanna fuck” or “suck my cock” were only after shags?

dodged a few bullets there, haha- tbf they were young studs who wanted an older woman- maybe they thought I’d be overcome with gratitude and say “of course!” Haha xx "

Ha ha they're relentless! I've had to filter the young ones out as they're either going to destroy me with their youthful energy.. or want to be taught a few things off an older woman..

I can't be arsed with either.

Sounds like you got a cracker

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Does anyone else get alarm bells when you see the same person posting or writing on their profile in two very different language styles?"

Explain....

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else. "
Beer goggles

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else. "

Of course I knew that people do that, I was surprised that on a post that you started, about people being cruel and shallow, and think they can get away with anything because of their looks, you would say something that horrid. It’s insultung and surely beneath you to say something so crass?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

“Insulting” hate typos

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

#notallmen.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

*munches popcorn*

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"*munches popcorn* "

Its nit a bloody movie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now. "

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck?

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm a nice caring bastard

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck?"
Ignore reality then too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Quack quack lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always better to get the ugly ducking that grew into a swan. Much nicer personality and not as cocky."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck? Ignore reality then too.

I can only speak for myself. I don't lower my standards just for a fuck. It may be your reality but it isn't mine.

Careful you don't fall off your mighty steed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself. "

You should be able to post whatever you want, but you are making assumptions. Maybe men don’t post those sort of threads, because they don’t feel the need to. Perhaps they’re not dropping their standards, but meeting women who have more about them than looks, maybe they sound fun? Men and women meet for a myriad of reasons.

Debate always opens up sweeping statements and generalisations, it’s not a bad thing, and I’ve not said you’ve said any specific person, I was just surprised that you said what you did.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck?"

Orrr you could scroll to the original comment where I said Most

"Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Most, the magical word that stops something from being a sweeping statement.

*Most* women report visibly smoother skin after just two uses of dove.

Honestly like I said, tedious now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck?

Orrr you could scroll to the original comment where I said Most

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Most, the magical word that stops something from being a sweeping statement.

*Most* women report visibly smoother skin after just two uses of dove.

Honestly like I said, tedious now. "

It is very tedious.

"I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck."

I must have scrolled past that part too. Oh no, I didn't.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman over a year ago

Grangemouth

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself.

Debate always opens up sweeping statements and generalisations, it’s not a bad thing, and I’ve not said you’ve said any specific person, I was just surprised that you said what you did. "

Really? You were surprised?

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

[Removed by poster at 25/02/19 11:52:33]

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck?

Orrr you could scroll to the original comment where I said Most

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Most, the magical word that stops something from being a sweeping statement.

*Most* women report visibly smoother skin after just two uses of dove.

Honestly like I said, tedious now.

It is very tedious.

I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

I must have scrolled past that part too. Oh no, I didn't."

But it’s in line with the original comment so it’s still under the unbrealla of most. The conversation or topic didn’t change so all content within that paragraph still comes under ‘most’.

It’s easy to see what you want to see when your vision is distorted by the shiny hologram on your buss pass.

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By *r.BlondeMan over a year ago

Chester/Wirral

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck? Ignore reality then too.

I can only speak for myself. I don't lower my standards just for a fuck. It may be your reality but it isn't mine.

Careful you don't fall off your mighty steed."
I don't either but it happens and frequently. I've fucked women you could only dream of.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

Don't use threads to attack people, it is not nice and also against forum rules whether you name them or not

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

*scrabbles for more popcorn and munches*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"*scrabbles for more popcorn and munches* "
leave the popcorn alone you i gold u once

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And the last comments just prove that 'some' people that think they're of superior 'beauty' don't feel the need to work on their personality, ability to be kind or humble, and are therefore becoming ugly souls.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"*scrabbles for more popcorn and munches* leave the popcorn alone you i gold u once

Hey, this is high drama dude...come join me!

*munches another fistful and offers the box to pmf*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself.

Debate always opens up sweeping statements and generalisations, it’s not a bad thing, and I’ve not said you’ve said any specific person, I was just surprised that you said what you did.

Really? You were surprised?

But of course! Someone starting a thread about the correlation between looks and poor personalities, then making a crass comment about people dropping standards- which to me isn’t a nice assumption to make- does surprise me...or maybe the irony hasn’t been lost on me.

Not an attack on the op, just an observation on how a comment can cause offence- inadvertently or not xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And the last comments just prove that 'some' people that think they're of superior 'beauty' don't feel the need to work on their personality, ability to be kind or humble, and are therefore becoming ugly soles."
whats dont start with the footware

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bloody autocarrot!!! Souls!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"*scrabbles for more popcorn and munches* leave the popcorn alone you i gold u once

Hey, this is high drama dude...come join me!

*munches another fistful and offers the box to pmf*"
im good iv eaten this week

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Can we keep the thread on topic and that is the correlation between universally attractive people and personality shaping.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"#notallmen.

#MeToo

Did I say ALL men were bastards or all men drop their standards.

This is getting tedious now.

I'll just ignore the comment that men will go for a 1.50 am bird or will lower their standards for a fuck? Ignore reality then too.

I can only speak for myself. I don't lower my standards just for a fuck. It may be your reality but it isn't mine.

Careful you don't fall off your mighty steed."

That's you though. Do you think there aren't men on here who drop their standards when those women aren't available, or they realise those women don't want them?

This thread wasn't supposed to be about that anyway.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I started using chatrooms on the internet in 1995 and that was the first time I saw the popcorn comment, it was funny at the time

Could we leave them off the discussion threads please as it just starts on about eating rather than the discussion in hand

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By *ornylittlesubWoman over a year ago

Grangemouth

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself.

Debate always opens up sweeping statements and generalisations, it’s not a bad thing, and I’ve not said you’ve said any specific person, I was just surprised that you said what you did.

Really? You were surprised?

Not an attack on the op, just an observation on how a comment can cause offence- inadvertently or not xx "

Oh i knew what you meant, the irony. It was the "surprised" bit that threw me.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Considering there are so many more men than women on here, if this was the case, surely we'd see many more 'look how beautiful I am' threads from men...

Most men would be too conscious of stating their exact preferences for fear of putting off the women they settle for in order to get a fuck.

Wow! Good to know men settle just to get a fuck! Insult to the men and the women they meet. Correlation between looks and personality?

Sure it wasn’t intentional, but that was a horrid thing to say.

What, you didn’t know this before!? Lots of men will go for a 01:50am bird if they can’t get anything else.

I’m not singling anyone out or being personally insulting to a specific person. I was merely saying that men do drop their standards in order to get a fuck.

This isn’t new information.

Someone asked why they aren’t threads from men with certain preferences, I explained why.

If you read between the lines, the only personal insults and critique is towards myself.

Debate always opens up sweeping statements and generalisations, it’s not a bad thing, and I’ve not said you’ve said any specific person, I was just surprised that you said what you did.

Really? You were surprised?

Not an attack on the op, just an observation on how a comment can cause offence- inadvertently or not xx "

In line with the thread as people who “drop standards” obviously have a view of themselves that elevates them to behaving in such a way, otherwise they’d see everyone in the same light, and wouldn’t see someone as inferior to them, but good for a fuck if they can’t get who they actually want.

That’s my perception of it anyway- rightly or wrongly x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I started using chatrooms on the internet in 1995 and that was the first time I saw the popcorn comment, it was funny at the time

Could we leave them off the discussion threads please as it just starts on about eating rather than the discussion in hand"

Aww, I was in second year of the secondary school then. I didn’t have internet in my house! I had a mega drive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we keep the thread on topic and that is the correlation between universally attractive people and personality shaping.

For some yes.

Some people that perceive themselves as attractive lack self awareness, empathy and an ability to care if they're likeable or not.

But not all.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people will let their attractiveness go to their heads. They'll have huge egos and will treat lesser people with disdain; only allowing them to share their air space if their mood allows.

Some won't though; they'll treat everyone as equals but still only want a relationship with the ones they are attracted to, who may or may not be as aesthetically pleasing as them.

Brad Pitt dated Juliet Lewis.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?"

‘Nice body - but her face’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?"

Me too! What’s a butterface? xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?"

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?"

Everything else is good but her face, butter face, it’s where the term butters is from. I believe I first heard it in series 1 of love island. One of the twins said it.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

‘Nice body - but her face’"

Lmao.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly. "

Ah! Thanks for explaining xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything else is good but her face, butter face, it’s where the term butters is from. I believe I first heard it in series 1 of love island. One of the twins said it. "

My nephews, nieces and grandson say butters.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly. "

So body off baywatch/face off crimewatch sorta thing

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I never knew where the term butters came from - genius

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By *andonmessMan over a year ago

A world all of his own

"I never knew where the term butters came from - genius

Me neither and it's really bloody tickled me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are good looking, lovely people.

There are good looking cunts.

I don't see any correlation between the looks and personality traits. I haven't met enough people to form the basis for a judgement on it.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly.

So body off baywatch/face off crimewatch sorta thing

Ahh BOBFOC - another 90s classic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly.

So body off baywatch/face off crimewatch sorta thing

Damn! I’m pretty much both off nature watch ?? short, noisy and only some enthusiasts like me ?? xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly.

So body off baywatch/face off crimewatch sorta thing

That's the idea. I'm not sure when it emerged but the younger generations in my family have been saying it for donkeys years.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think what Kitana is saying is that some men know they are very attractive and sought after so don't feel that need to be nice to someone to gain their attention, because everyone is clamouring for it.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

Got to ask - what's a butterface?

Everything attractive but her face

A butters bird is considered to be ugly.

So body off baywatch/face off crimewatch sorta thing

That's the idea. I'm not sure when it emerged but the younger generations in my family have been saying it for donkeys years."

I'm soooo not down with the kids. First time i've heard it today.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely."

There will always be bastards, male or female, and there will always be someone who feels insecure about themselves who will give validation to the behaviour of said bastard. They can only get away with treating you like that if you let them, and like you said previously, you've put up with that behaviour before just because he was a good looking fella. Maybe have a little more self respect and stop letting people treat you like that just because they're aesthetically pleasing. You wouldn't put up with it from an ugly guy, so shake off your own self confessed shallowness and embrace a person for who they are, not what they look like.

Or just sleep with women

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

"I think what Kitana is saying is that some men know they are very attractive and sought after so don't feel that need to be nice to someone to gain their attention, because everyone is clamouring for it.

Definitely. Works for both sex’s

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

So basically they are idiots. A 10/10 can quickly go to 1/10 if they love themselves too much. That goes for men and women.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

""If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it.

Or just sleep with women

There you go. All this arguing and Winnie the Pooh sorts it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definitely. Works for both sex’s "

Yes, but I'm not sure how widespread it is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive. "

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or just sleep with women

There you go. All this arguing and Winnie the Pooh sorts it

Tut tut naughty girl..... it's Roald Dahl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So basically they are idiots. A 10/10 can quickly go to 1/10 if they love themselves too much. That goes for men and women. "

Some people will quickly demote them to a 1, especially if they aren't getting attention from them. That hot dude is suddenly an egotistical prick, because he isn't interested in them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or just sleep with women

You've made this about the OP, and her opinion of herself, when it's about how attractive men behave.

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By *ensuallover1000Man over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Well.....I’m bloody gorgeous, hung like a particularly well endowed donkey and am a real piece of low down shit of a person.

Case closed!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In my experience, good looking people seem often a little simpler (not in a bad way) and less layered than those less so. But having said that, my perception of beauty is ever changing and it kinda starts from the inside anyway as far as I'm concerned, so maybe I'm less prone to beautiful bastards, idk?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

"
butterface

pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out. "

I don’t even think attractive people are ugly on the inside. I just think that there’s a link between very handsome men and the fact that they don’t struggle getting attention and have women in plentiful supply tend to be less attentive or will keep you guessing and you don’t ever know where you stand. Was just asking if anyone gets it and the thread descends into shit.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman over a year ago

Yorkshire

Or just sleep with women

There you go. All this arguing and Winnie the Pooh sorts it

Tut tut naughty girl..... it's Roald Dahl

DOH!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can't we all just be friends and accept we're all fabulous? One way or another.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know a girl who has a lovely body but what is known as ‘butterface’.

This thread reminds me of her. She acts all high and mighty being rude to men but really she’s not the ‘whole package’ is she, so what gives her the right to think she’s cock of the walk?

That said some men LIKE rude, bitchy women... I’d rather have someone that was such an amazing person even if they weren’t a ‘head turner’

That’s just me though. As I say. Different strokes for different folks.

butterface

pmsl

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just put my suit on too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it. "

You said you don't want to be gender specific and used yourself as the attractive female equivalent. People are merely drawing comparisons and stating their opinion that it can be both sexes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or just sleep with women

You've made this about the OP, and her opinion of herself, when it's about how attractive men behave.

Nope.... read again the bit that says

"There will always be bastards, male or female, and there will always be someone who feels insecure about themselves who will give validation to the behaviour of said bastard. They can only get away with treating you like that if you let them, and like you said previously, you've put up with that behaviour before just because he was a good looking fella"

My reply is my opinion on why aesthetically pleasing men behave that way. And my opinion is that if people stopped validating their behaviour just because they're good looking, then that behaviour would lessen or God forbid, even stop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think I’m alright...

I guess it’s just an arrogance thing? I dunno. I know a few talk books who are good looking who are also really nice... I guess it’s the type you chase..

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it.

You said you don't want to be gender specific and used yourself as the attractive female equivalent. People are merely drawing comparisons and stating their opinion that it can be both sexes. "

Ffs, I put the pokey tongue emoji next to my comment I’m brackets to indicate it was a jokey comment when I was referring to myself.

Yet when you read all the barbed comments that imply all kinds of things, lack of empathy was one, narcissist was another. If people knew what a real narcissist was they wouldn’t band the word about so freely. It’s highly offensive to be referred to as a narc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I preferr good looking don't care if they r stuck up as it's only a fuck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it.

You said you don't want to be gender specific and used yourself as the attractive female equivalent. People are merely drawing comparisons and stating their opinion that it can be both sexes.

Ffs, I put the pokey tongue emoji next to my comment I’m brackets to indicate it was a jokey comment when I was referring to myself.

21 jump street

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can we just stop before someone pops a blood vessel? Haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think I’m alright...

I guess it’s just an arrogance thing? I dunno. I know a few talk books who are good looking who are also really nice... I guess it’s the type you chase.. "

I don’t chase them they just seek me out like a missile. Anyway yeah you look alright in grey joggers and you have nice obliques, and good taste in cars. Apart from your every day one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do tend to find the more good looking the person is the bigger the arsehole, they seem to know that they have been gifted with a jaw line that could cut paper so they don’t try to hard because they think women get all wet just looking at them, they do tend to be the people that do well in life so maybe I am just a bitter and twisted lady

Although, I think Ads is fucking amazing and he isn’t a wanker at all, so you know my point in null and void...well kind of, Ads doesn’t fit into that ‘jaw line look’ if you know what I mean.

Not saying all good looking people are arseholes but certainly fit a form.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Or just sleep with women

You've made this about the OP, and her opinion of herself, when it's about how attractive men behave.

Nope.... read again the bit that says

I was referring to the last paragraph you wrote.

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

So basically they are idiots. A 10/10 can quickly go to 1/10 if they love themselves too much. That goes for men and women.

Some people will quickly demote them to a 1, especially if they aren't getting attention from them. That hot dude is suddenly an egotistical prick, because he isn't interested in them.

It's not about getting attention from them. I wouldnt want attention from some hot dude if he thought the sun shone out of his arse. He would be a 1/10 cos of that me me me attitude it's just not attractive. A humble, good looking, secure man will always be way hotter.....and lucky me I have one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it.

You said you don't want to be gender specific and used yourself as the attractive female equivalent. People are merely drawing comparisons and stating their opinion that it can be both sexes.

Ffs, I put the pokey tongue emoji next to my comment I’m brackets to indicate it was a jokey comment when I was referring to myself.

I don't condone the word narc as yes it's a serious condition.

You've made numerous threads stating that you know you're attractive so it's no secret. That's not being criticised.. good for you.

You will ultimately attract what you allow. If unattainable men are a challenge then you validate that behaviour. It's not something I enjoy so have never been around that kind of guy.

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By *mber DextrousWoman over a year ago

Devon

"I guess it’s just an arrogance thing? I dunno. I know a few talk books who are good looking who are also really nice... I guess it’s the type you chase.. "

If you're looking for the link OP that could be it. Maybe your experience of tall, well built guys being bastards is because you are attracted to guys like that with a certain personality and just don't notice the good guys. It's certainly not my experience.

I've got friends who have form for dating bastards, they love guys with all the banter and a bit of arrogance but find they aren't the only one getting their attention or that they're self absorbed.

Not everyone with beautiful packaging is a beautiful person but it also works vice versa. I definitely think whoever said how others respond and what you let someone get away with has a part to play. Some people buy into their attractiveness too much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was a ugly duckling as a kid and still am now lol but have a great personality I thinks haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This reminds me of going to clubs and wine bars in the 80s, with all the posers stood at the bar picking out who they would ask to dance. There were a few men who weren't particularly nice to girls who had new ones every week and treated them like crap.

And then there was Graham.

Graham was stunning, and a really lovely guy who kept to one girl.

Graham was not a player.

I liked Graham.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Look in their eyes and see them before they open their mouth, you'll not be far wrong with your conclusions. Divert your attention to their physical and you may get confused.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I was hot as fuck when I was younger, and still sweet as pie!

I always dated really good looking men too, none of them ever cheated on me, and only one left me, so no, I don't think it follows at all.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Can we just stop before someone pops a blood vessel? Haha "

There’s only space for thirty or so more messages before this thread auto-closes

I agree with river...if a dude’s a bit up his own arse - he’s not really that attractive, is he? It’s like something happens in my head and the ‘hawt’ filter on him dims right down.

I love confidence, I’m not ashamed to say that I love a touch of arrogance...but I’m not putting up with someone who’s not willing to commit because he thinks he’s all that, whether he’s conscious of it or not.

I don’t have to put up with it from bunta either...he’s gorgeous and adorable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess it’s just an arrogance thing? I dunno. I know a few talk books who are good looking who are also really nice... I guess it’s the type you chase..

I've got friends who have form for dating bastards, they love guys with all the banter and a bit of arrogance but find they aren't the only one getting their attention or that they're self absorbed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we just stop before someone pops a blood vessel? Haha

There’s only space for thirty or so more messages before this thread auto-closes

I agree with river...if a dude’s a bit up his own arse - he’s not really that attractive, is he? It’s like something happens in my head and the ‘hawt’ filter on him dims right down.

I don’t have to put up with it from bunta either...he’s gorgeous and adorable

But they are attractive, to a lot of people who will ignore the "up their own arse " attitude; purely because they are attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trying to say. Yet the people that claim I start threads about myself inadvertently turn the thread around so it’s about me and yet again I’m put on the defensive.

They can't help themselves. It always turns into a thread about how beautiful people are ugly on the inside; which I know isn't true, because I am beautiful inside and out.

Have personal thinly veiled digs about myself when there’s really no need for it.

You said you don't want to be gender specific and used yourself as the attractive female equivalent. People are merely drawing comparisons and stating their opinion that it can be both sexes.

Ffs, I put the pokey tongue emoji next to my comment I’m brackets to indicate it was a jokey comment when I was referring to myself.

As far as I can tell, having looking at the thread, I’m the only one who has used the word narcissist- definitely not “narc” and it was certainly not aimed at you op, but the type of person you described. And yes, I absolutely do know what it means- I dated one!

As stated, narcissism is not attractive, I bear the scars to prove it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No. My experiences on Fab have proven to be the polar opposite.

I find most aesthetically pleasing men and women to be amongst the most open minded and kind hearted. Far less shallow than I at first suspected. Maybe it's because of their looks that they can initially grab who they like. Only after time souless sex begins to lose it's appeal. So they begin to choose less obviously attractive people. Over time beginning to appreciate the quality of time spent together, regardless of what it is they do.

I wouldn't judge everyone by your own standards OP. Some pretty people don't care what you look like on the outside, because to they've learnt it's what is inside that really matters. If you're struggling to meet the right man for you, which it's very clear you are. You may want to consider this intelligent forums advice and go a bit further than skin deep when looking for a partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads. "

Bet ya dont

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads. "

Salad please, I need to lose 5 stone rapidly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. My experiences on Fab have proven to be the polar opposite.

You're asking her to consider a man she doesn't find attractive?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think I’m alright...

I guess it’s just an arrogance thing? I dunno. I know a few talk books who are good looking who are also really nice... I guess it’s the type you chase..

I don’t chase them they just seek me out like a missile. Anyway yeah you look alright in grey joggers and you have nice obliques, and good taste in cars. Apart from your every day one

I’d settle for everyday! I’ll take that. It’s not easy to make it look this effortless you know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads.

Salad please, I need to lose 5 stone rapidly

I could help you with that. Keep your eyes peeled for my dinner threads.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What is a sandy vagina? OP you made this statement, please explain

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Can we just stop before someone pops a blood vessel? Haha

There’s only space for thirty or so more messages before this thread auto-closes

I agree with river...if a dude’s a bit up his own arse - he’s not really that attractive, is he? It’s like something happens in my head and the ‘hawt’ filter on him dims right down.

I don’t have to put up with it from bunta either...he’s gorgeous and adorable

But they are attractive, to a lot of people who will ignore the "up their own arse " attitude; purely because they are attractive. "

Yeah...I’ve seen it happen. I’ve seen people put up with some terrible behaviour for a hot body or a sculpted jawline. I just don’t get it. (But then the super-hot types have always seemed a bit, erm, fancy to me...like they’d spend longer in the bathroom and more at the hairdressers than me

- I prefer a dude who throws a comb through his hair, chucks on his hoodie and is ready to kick ass as quick as I am

)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No. My experiences on Fab have proven to be the polar opposite.

You're asking her to consider a man she doesn't find attractive?"

I don't know how you got that from what I just said.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Behaviour is driven by effort versus reward. This applies to everything from friendships to romance to work.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads. "

I think if you only start threads about if they want to kiss or fuck me they will be very short threads!

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

O o O oo

"Don't use threads to attack people, it is not nice and also against forum rules whether you name them or not"

This goes for everyone, if you want discussions to stay civil, calling people names for having a different opinion is not the way to do it, plus against forum rules

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By *ilkenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

People are nasty no matter what they look like its the same with the Napoleon myth about short arses being nasty. I take each person on their merit and as an individual its not as if all men with moustaches like Stalin and Hitler are megalomaniac mass murderers is it.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think actually the opposite is true - good looking people don't develop a nasty character because they are good looking, they just get more victims than the nasty unattractive people, so they have more chance to develop a bad reputation with their bad character!!

Comments about other people being second choice should never be vocalised by someone who judges themselves a first choice, that will always cause bad feeling, that's a no-brainer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads.

I think if you only start threads about if they want to kiss or fuck me they will be very short threads!

Think about it if I started a thread asking who wanted to kiss or fuck me it would max out from people saying I’m self centred and arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads.

I think if you only start threads about if they want to kiss or fuck me they will be very short threads!

Think about it if I started a thread asking who wanted to kiss or fuck me it would max out from people saying I’m self centred and arrogant. "

......i would

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Oh and on a side note I’m only going to start kiss fuck tea threads, or asking people want they want for dinner threads.

I think if you only start threads about if they want to kiss or fuck me they will be very short threads!

Think about it if I started a thread asking who wanted to kiss or fuck me it would max out from people saying I’m self centred and arrogant. "

Yes, I was joking because my friends shorten my name on here to tea...

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