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Going the distance

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t chat to someone outwith Scotland if we didn’t speak on the forums. I have folk from all over saying ‘there’s no harm in chatting’ or ‘I’ll travel to Scotland’.

I wouldn’t want anyone outwit Scotland to travel here for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Start off thinking I might be safe but when you actually start to get on it becomes a ball ache. Good job someone invented motorways.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Distance doesn't put me off chatting - I think sometimes it's nice to talk without it being a precursor to an actual meet. You can talk more freely and openly and with less pressure of a looming meet date on the horizon. I quite like talking to men - not always in a "I'll wank thinking of you way" but because it's enjoyable for what it is at the time. Also, men give great insights as to what other men like; clearly you all think the same using your little brain.

And yeah, you'd definitely get crowdfunded. Go for it.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

I chat to people I like, and not just because of their locations.

Not because of the safety net of distance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Going the distance..... all I can hear now is the Rocky 4 theme tune

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Used to live in Northern Ireland, so No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I found in the past that distance helps in getting to know someone. There's less pressure and you can be more open if a meet seems unlikely. If that then leads to actually wanting to meet then I don't mind the distance because I know by that point that we are compatible and will get on and I quite enjoy a wee road trip.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I appreciate your problem being in Ireland but I'll chat to anyone anywhere being here on the mainland.

There are some STUNNING ladies in here in Ireland though

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Usually distance does put me off, I don't have time to chat to everyone who seems nice. There are occasionally exceptions to this though.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I don't have an issue with chatting with people from any area, I had a lovely conversation with a lady from Florida a while ago. A conversation is just that, it doesn't have to have an end goal, it is a thing unto itself. Just because I'm talking to someone doesn't mean I want to insert my penis into them!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

did you try the irish rooms

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"...And yeah, you'd definitely get crowdfunded. Go for it. "

Have I ever told you I think you are awesome

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I chat with some people who are further afield but ultimately want to know why people are interested in me. If someone may, at some vague and unspecified future point, be in my area, I'll apportion my energy more to those who can meet more easily and are more certain. It can be like an echo of those messages you get like 'I'm in town tonight for work, fancy a fuck?', which someone must respond to positively. Someone very well matched and more definite is of interest but keeping up with messages and admin, just for now, is a job and a half.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"did you try the irish rooms "

It is a (relatively) small community over here and only a handful seem to stray onto the forums.

I'm not actively seeking meets, just wondering what peoples thoughts were.

There is a big difference between jumping in a car for a few hours to meet someone and booking a ferry or a flight to achieve the same thing

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I don't have an issue with chatting with people from any area, I had a lovely conversation with a lady from Florida a while ago. A conversation is just that, it doesn't have to have an end goal, it is a thing unto itself. Just because I'm talking to someone doesn't mean I want to insert my penis into them! "

Bollocks.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"...And yeah, you'd definitely get crowdfunded. Go for it.

Have I ever told you I think you are awesome

No. But you should more often.

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By *oby le roneMan over a year ago

Treorchy

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

I live in Wales mate and I can't find any Welsh beauties to cwtch either

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

There's been one or two people in NI I've always chatted with....funnily enough I am popping over there this spring!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, distance doesnt put me off. There are those i gel with, who just happen to live in another part of the country. I've taken well over a year to meet someone, because of logistics. It also enables you to get to know someone on a more personal level, rather than just sexual. It can either result in making a good friend, or ramp up the anticipation for when you'll finally get to spend time in each others company

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By *bi HaiveMan over a year ago
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Cheeseville, Somerset

Bollocks."

Inserting bollocks would be a bit of a challenge....

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"did you try the irish rooms

It is a (relatively) small community over here and only a handful seem to stray onto the forums.

I'm not actively seeking meets, just wondering what peoples thoughts were.

There is a big difference between jumping in a car for a few hours to meet someone and booking a ferry or a flight to achieve the same thing "

Though not financially - I got a flight to NI for the same as I spend on petrol for a weekend in yorkshire or a festival in the west.

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

Distance doesn’t put me off chatting or meeting if I really want to meet someone. In fact I don’t really do local. Nearest was a 45 minute drive away. Local updates tend to put me off

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bollocks."

I would have to disagree.

I have met a lady who will not have sex. We have had dinner twice and really enjoyed each others company.

Another lady has met me 3 times for coffee and a chat.

Reading that back may imply that I'm unfuckable. I see it that I can connect with them as a friend.

I personally chat with people who interest me, I would love to meet socially and I wold be overwhelmed if they wanted intimacy. But I don't expect it. Nor chat with that as the ultimate goal.

I may just be odd though. A few here know that I'm not a bad un really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Most people I speak to are miles away. Typical! Some are worth making the effort for though

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

"Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?"

We use the chatroom to talk to all and sundry. Chatting with people from across the country can be good fun. However we don't arrange long distance meets and make that very clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Most people I speak to are miles away. Typical! Some are worth making the effort for though

"
It is spelt "you" not "some"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bollocks.

I would have to disagree.

I have met a lady who will not have sex. We have had dinner twice and really enjoyed each others company.

Another lady has met me 3 times for coffee and a chat.

Reading that back may imply that I'm unfuckable. I see it that I can connect with them as a friend.

I personally chat with people who interest me, I would love to meet socially and I wold be overwhelmed if they wanted intimacy. But I don't expect it. Nor chat with that as the ultimate goal.

I may just be odd though. A few here know that I'm not a bad un really."

That’s what I (and probably most women) like about you through. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Most people I speak to are miles away. Typical! Some are worth making the effort for though

It is spelt "you" not "some"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm not put off by distance, I quite like it to be honest...if there's a mutual interest, i'll go the distance...just waiting for someone to ask now, patiently, very, very patiently

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

Bollocks.

I would have to disagree...

I may just be odd though. A few here know that I'm not a bad un really."

Sorry Op, I was winding up a friend and mockingly saying bollocks to his words. You misunderstood me.

Quite a few of my male friends meet people for coffee/drinks/meals with no intention or desire to have sex with them - they just enjoy the company for what it is. I don't think it's that unusual. I talk to lots of people - I tend to make friends first and then think about fucking them (although those things can happen within split seconds of each other).

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Bollocks."

A bold and unfounded statement missy!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll chat to people wherever they live. Some I doubt I’d ever meet, others it would be a matter of stars aligning and opportune moments.

I’m much happier with life on Fab since I stopped ‘trying’ to meet people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ll chat to people wherever they live. Some I doubt I’d ever meet, others it would be a matter of stars aligning and opportune moments.

I’m much happier with life on Fab since I stopped ‘trying’ to meet people.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Bollocks.

I would have to disagree.

I have met a lady who will not have sex. We have had dinner twice and really enjoyed each others company.

Another lady has met me 3 times for coffee and a chat.

Reading that back may imply that I'm unfuckable. I see it that I can connect with them as a friend.

I personally chat with people who interest me, I would love to meet socially and I wold be overwhelmed if they wanted intimacy. But I don't expect it. Nor chat with that as the ultimate goal.

I may just be odd though. A few here know that I'm not a bad un really.

That’s what I (and probably most women) like about you through. Xx"

Jeez, I say that I get called BS, I think I need new friends!

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

When I start talking to people - it's not with an "end goal" of meeting in mind it's because I enjoy the interaction, yes I'm probably aware of the distance they are from me, but that doesn't factor into whether I talk to them or not.

If a way down the line there's sufficient connection and chemistry there that we'd want to meet then that's a hurdle we'll jump if we get to it - although living fairly centrally most of England and Wales is coverable within a 2-3 hour drive for me if they are willing to travel a similar distance.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Well I chat with you

Distance doesn’t put me off at all. I wouldn’t especially hop on a train and see someone unless they were something special and I’ve met some lovely people here

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Distance puts me off tbh, I don't mind chatting to the odd guy but generally I only want to chat to people who I fancy, with a view to becoming playmates.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"I chat to people I like, and not just because of their locations.

Not because of the safety net of distance "

This.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Well I chat with you

Distance doesn’t put me off at all. I wouldn’t especially hop on a train and see someone unless they were something special and I’ve met some lovely people here

If you hopped on a train to see me, you'd end up wet...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Well I chat with you

Distance doesn’t put me off at all. I wouldn’t especially hop on a train and see someone unless they were something special and I’ve met some lovely people here

If you hopped on a train to see me, you'd end up wet..."

Ha. Took me a minute or so to get that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Well I chat with you

Distance doesn’t put me off at all. I wouldn’t especially hop on a train and see someone unless they were something special and I’ve met some lovely people here

If you hopped on a train to see me, you'd end up wet..."

Smart ass

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

If you want me then coming to me is the option

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

ive met people from all over. My nearest gentleman friend lives an hour from me. On a previous site i had someone travel from ireland and someond from spain

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The thread title has given me an ear worm for the song by Cake... But to answer the OP, nope, distance doesn't make me feel deterred to engage in a natter. Neither does it make me feel like it's a safety buffer. As for the funding I reckon you may struggle to get the fab folk to cover the fare in to town and back!

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By *inn2000Woman over a year ago

belfast

I enjoy chatting to people from all over and not always with meeting in mind.

I love the verbal banter etc.

I have also had a few socials which have resulted in ... more socials .. and that is fine with all concerned.

Very, very lucky to have made some really good fab friends and have managed to escape any issues with assholes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Long distance doesn’t put me off at all, if our paths are meant to cross, they most certainly will...never say never

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I rarely talk to anyone on here I'm not interested in having sex with.

If someone from anywhere did want a chat buddy they had better have some interesting stuff to talk about.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"If you want me then coming to me is the option

"
I can't travel that far due to commitments. I like to talk to people all over the UK.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Distance has never put me off. If it did, i'd never meet anyone given my current geographical circumstances!

Fortunately I have the means to travel and will happily do so for the right people. There a few individuals on this thread in fact that i'd gladly pop over to the mainland to meet given the opportunity

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By *lexa999Woman over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I am not bothered by distance when chatting to people, it starts with their presence, character and conversation that does it for me. Distances can be overcome, if and when things move on from there.

That said though, not every person that I chat to, I have the desire or intention of meeting, sometimes it's nice just to speak openly and honestly with others.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I’m not put off chatting to someone because of distance. Chatting doesn’t mean sex. Well sometimes it might mean sex

it’s just great to get to know people a little and if it leads somewhere that’s fine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No my best mate is welsh

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Bollocks.

I would have to disagree...

I may just be odd though. A few here know that I'm not a bad un really.

Sorry Op, I was winding up a friend and mockingly saying bollocks to his words. You misunderstood me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I probably do prefer to chat to people miles away because then I know it will be just chat due to distance.

Also happy to chat to people who I've met at local socials because then I know for sure there's no ulterior motive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I didn't bother too much about distance when I first joined Fab, but experience has told me it's a rare man who'll actually make an effort, or equal my effort, to travel

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Ahhh...I chat to people who I think of as generally awesome human beings. If I make a friend, that’s great. If either of us then end up in the same place at the same time, when the heavenly bodies align, and there’s a spark...woop! Happy cat here.

I’d rather have friends than meets and I’d rather my meets were my friends...and there’s no distance limit on friendship

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

"Ahhh...I chat to people who I think of as generally awesome human beings."

Sometimes you chat to dorks too, which gives the rest of us a chance

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

Wait wot?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Wait wot?

"
Are you offering cwches?

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan over a year ago

Northampton

"Ahhh...I chat to people who I think of as generally awesome human beings. If I make a friend, that’s great. If either of us then end up in the same place at the same time, when the heavenly bodies align, and there’s a spark...woop! Happy cat here.

I’d rather have friends than meets and I’d rather my meets were my friends...and there’s no distance limit on friendship

I can't better this

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By *inn2000Woman over a year ago

belfast

I’d rather have friends than meets and I’d rather my meets were my friends...and there’s no distance limit on friendship

Absolutely this

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’d rather have friends than meets and I’d rather my meets were my friends...and there’s no distance limit on friendship

Really nicely put

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’d rather have friends than meets and I’d rather my meets were my friends...and there’s no distance limit on friendship

This

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Distance doesn’t put me off - it’s usually an underlying ‘expectation’ that puts me off when it involves distance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll chat to anyone who catches my eye, but the realities of travelling dictate viable meets. For me a couple of hours each way is about it. Not so long ago there seemed to be lots of lovely ladies in Ireland and Northern Ireland. have you worked your way through all of them OP?

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Distance doesn’t put me off - it’s usually an underlying ‘expectation’ that puts me off when it involves distance"
Yes this you have hit the nail on the head..

and you can't just meet for a social coffee first.

I dont mine if someones visiting or passing by near me anyhow so they are not making a special trip for a friendly social.

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By *iamondCougarWoman over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"I live in Northern Ireland, but most of the ladies I chat with are in Scotland or England. (I can't find any Welsh beauties to share a cwtch with

)

Does distance put you off chatting?

Do you chat with some people safe in the knowledge that because of distance you are unlikely to meet?

What are the chances of getting my Fab Tour of the UK and Ireland crowd funded?

Distance doesn’t put me off - it’s usually an underlying ‘expectation’ that puts me off when it involves distance Yes this you have hit the nail on the head..

and you can't just meet for a social coffee first.

I dont mine if someones visiting or passing by near me anyhow so they are not making a special trip for a friendly social.

Exactly!

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