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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
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I have no issue with attention seeking, nearly everyone enjoys attention.
I prefer good, honest look at me style attention seeking to the type that pretends they're not after attention though.
So on that note
:twirls round and round until she's sick and all eyes are on her:
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think attention seeking is sort of an umbrella term for a myriad of behaviours. Certain "positive" displays are encouraged and looked favourably upon, "negative" less so.
So yes, we're all here for attention but how that word is interpreted and how attention is sought can be the difference between a good and a bad reaction. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think attention seeking is sort of an umbrella term for a myriad of behaviours. Certain "positive" displays are encouraged and looked favourably upon, "negative" less so.
So yes, we're all here for attention but how that word is interpreted and how attention is sought can be the difference between a good and a bad reaction. "
What would you consider to be negative?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are correct. Though I feel its how that attention seeking comes across.
Some people regardless of the situation and context just love attention to be on them.
Now there will be people thinking I mean somebody in specific, now they will be thinking is it them I'm talking about. Is it? Maybe! If you had to stop and think it very well could be you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think attention seeking is sort of an umbrella term for a myriad of behaviours. Certain "positive" displays are encouraged and looked favourably upon, "negative" less so.
So yes, we're all here for attention but how that word is interpreted and how attention is sought can be the difference between a good and a bad reaction. "
This makes a lot of sense. It's like the difference between false self-depreciation and seeking the attention of white knights, and uploading a photo you think is sexy for everyone to enjoy.
Sharing is caring, and while it is attention seeking that's not always bad thing  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"One of my least favourite responses on a thread is "oo a look at me post" erm what's wrong with that?"
I've probably done that!
I think that sometimes it's a very British response, in that we're expected to be understated and reserved in our looking for attention, flagrant and ostentatious attention seeking is very vulgar isn't it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Attention seeker here- when it suits I love showing off my pics... Then it all gets too much so I go and hide for a bit.
I agree with the above though it's people stating they don't want attention, then do all that they can to gain the attention |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think attention seeking is sort of an umbrella term for a myriad of behaviours. Certain "positive" displays are encouraged and looked favourably upon, "negative" less so.
So yes, we're all here for attention but how that word is interpreted and how attention is sought can be the difference between a good and a bad reaction.
What would you consider to be negative?
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I'm not sure, hence the quotes around the word. Probably behaviour that provokes negative reaction.
Have you ever used attention seeking (the phrase) in a bad way OP? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I think attention seeking is sort of an umbrella term for a myriad of behaviours. Certain "positive" displays are encouraged and looked favourably upon, "negative" less so.
So yes, we're all here for attention but how that word is interpreted and how attention is sought can be the difference between a good and a bad reaction.
What would you consider to be negative?
I'm not sure, hence the quotes around the word. Probably behaviour that provokes negative reaction.
Have you ever used attention seeking (the phrase) in a bad way OP?"
I think I know what you mean, I think that some people use negative comments or derogatory posts to draw attention, in those cases negative attention and enforcement continue the cycle.
Not that I'm aware of, I don't agree with attention at any costs and I'd rather elicit positive responses. |
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"One of my least favourite responses on a thread is "oo a look at me post" erm what's wrong with that?
I've probably done that!
I think that sometimes it's a very British response, in that we're expected to be understated and reserved in our looking for attention, flagrant and ostentatious attention seeking is very vulgar isn't it? "
Is it?
Don't draw attention to yourself, be modest in your behaviour and project low confidence or people won't like you is the message I see put forward. If you do people will tell you you're marvellous, gorgeous and talented until you start to believe it. Then they'll proceed to knock you down again.
Crazy. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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We're all here to seek attention for sure, I think it's *how* we go about seeking it that generally brings out the derision or rolly eyes.
Some have it down to a fine art form - the reverse psychology "I'll just sit here unnoticed" comments designed to have people saying "of course you're noticed" or the guys that post threads asking for profile advice that when you look are fit and toned and have multiple veris all of them recent - those type of things.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I think I know what you mean, I think that some people use negative comments or derogatory posts to draw attention, in those cases negative attention and enforcement continue the cycle.
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Yes, that'd be the sort of behaviour I was thinking about. We are all courting attention in different ways (even by me posting smarmy, far too long posts I am) but when it negatively impacts or involved others I think it's a bit shitty. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"One of my least favourite responses on a thread is "oo a look at me post" erm what's wrong with that?
I've probably done that!
I think that sometimes it's a very British response, in that we're expected to be understated and reserved in our looking for attention, flagrant and ostentatious attention seeking is very vulgar isn't it?
Is it?
Don't draw attention to yourself, be modest in your behaviour and project low confidence or people won't like you is the message I see put forward. If you do people will tell you you're marvellous, gorgeous and talented until you start to believe it. Then they'll proceed to knock you down again.
Crazy."
Yes, that's pretty much exactly the cycle!
I was being mildly sarcastic with my post but yes I do think that there is an element of truth in what you say
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"One of my least favourite responses on a thread is "oo a look at me post" erm what's wrong with that?
I've probably done that!
I think that sometimes it's a very British response, in that we're expected to be understated and reserved in our looking for attention, flagrant and ostentatious attention seeking is very vulgar isn't it?
Is it?
Don't draw attention to yourself, be modest in your behaviour and project low confidence or people won't like you is the message I see put forward. If you do people will tell you you're marvellous, gorgeous and talented until you start to believe it. Then they'll proceed to knock you down again.
Crazy.
Yes, that's pretty much exactly the cycle!
I was being mildly sarcastic with my post but yes I do think that there is an element of truth in what you say
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Observe the difference in responses to a person who posts saying they feel unattractive to a person who posts saying they know they're hot.
I'd say that both seek attention of one sort or another but one is treated more kindly. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I think I know what you mean, I think that some people use negative comments or derogatory posts to draw attention, in those cases negative attention and enforcement continue the cycle.
Yes, that'd be the sort of behaviour I was thinking about. We are all courting attention in different ways (even by me posting smarmy, far too long posts I am) but when it negatively impacts or involved others I think it's a bit shitty."
I agree with you Meli (apart from the smarmy bit).
There’s also a level of need with some people and when the two go and in hand it can be an uncomfortable read. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts? "
Aren't most of us exhibitionists to some degree or another? |
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts? "
Females don’t need pics to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts? "
Depends if they use it to make others feel inferior |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts? "
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street. "
So very true. |
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Depends if they use it to make others feel inferior "
I find that the most extreme attention seekers hope to draw attention away from everyone else but that's difficult on fab. The people that aim to make others inferior are frequently the people pandering to the attention seeker. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street. "
I think you're starting to debate semantics here and attempting to draw a line between various form of attention and behaviour.
I'm simply asking; isnt the very act of posting, having pictures and an account drawing attention to some degree?
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Antisocial"
How so?
I notice that you have pictures up, a profile available to view, aren't you seeking attention from others. It could be argued that by posting negative comments you're drawing more attention to yourself... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont want attention as regards meets hence my profile. But i wouldnt like itgif everyone ignored everything i said althoug they do mostly "
You want your words to be noticed. Still a form of exhibitionism is some people. Others just need to vent off to a rangers. Some personalities are bigger than others.
I don't think it makes us all narcissists. Though some of us clearly are |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street.
I think you're starting to debate semantics here and attempting to draw a line between various form of attention and behaviour.
I'm simply asking; isnt the very act of posting, having pictures and an account drawing attention to some degree?
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Dude. You asked,"thoughts?" So they were my thoughts. If you want other questions asked then ask them. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street.
I think you're starting to debate semantics here and attempting to draw a line between various form of attention and behaviour.
I'm simply asking; isnt the very act of posting, having pictures and an account drawing attention to some degree?
Dude. You asked,"thoughts?" So they were my thoughts. If you want other questions asked then ask them. "
Please don't take my post as anything other than a friend form of debate, I'm not challenging your view or your thoughts, I'm merely wanting a discussion.
Apologies if my post came across as otherwise. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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When I'm seeking attention or an ego boost I post a face pic and wait for the messages to roll in. Then I remember people on here would compliment a gargoyle sucking a lemon if they thought it would get them sex, and I delete it again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts? "
I disagree... I joined Fab to meet like minded folk and make pals NOT to become the local bike oops sorry I meant celebrity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street.
I think you're starting to debate semantics here and attempting to draw a line between various form of attention and behaviour.
I'm simply asking; isnt the very act of posting, having pictures and an account drawing attention to some degree?
Dude. You asked,"thoughts?" So they were my thoughts. If you want other questions asked then ask them.
Please don't take my post as anything other than a friend form of debate, I'm not challenging your view or your thoughts, I'm merely wanting a discussion.
Apologies if my post came across as otherwise. "
You did. To answer your last question. The answer is yes. Is that it? Thread closed? No, didn't think so. You have to distinguish the two however as they are different. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
I disagree... I joined Fab to meet like minded folk and make pals NOT to become the local bike oops sorry I meant celebrity "
OK, I get your point, but I'm not talking about 'just any attention', you want the attention of like minded people? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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post a negative to get attention
post a positive to get attention
post a neutral to get attention
all three are valid, however one of them isn't ideally the best way to attain either outcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
I disagree... I joined Fab to meet like minded folk and make pals NOT to become the local bike oops sorry I meant celebrity
OK, I get your point, but I'm not talking about 'just any attention', you want the attention of like minded people? "
Hmm... is it attention..? Or just basic friendship that I hoped to find by making myself visible..?
Interesting x
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
Think attention seeking is all about me me me, no thought for others.
Promoting yourself, is more to draw attention, so that you can communicate and hopefully meet for mutual pleasure. The attention so to speak is a two way thing.
Attention seeking is a one way street.
I think you're starting to debate semantics here and attempting to draw a line between various form of attention and behaviour.
I'm simply asking; isnt the very act of posting, having pictures and an account drawing attention to some degree?
Dude. You asked,"thoughts?" So they were my thoughts. If you want other questions asked then ask them.
Please don't take my post as anything other than a friend form of debate, I'm not challenging your view or your thoughts, I'm merely wanting a discussion.
Apologies if my post came across as otherwise.
You did. To answer your last question. The answer is yes. Is that it? Thread closed? No, didn't think so. You have to distinguish the two however as they are different. "
Thanks for your input |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
I disagree... I joined Fab to meet like minded folk and make pals NOT to become the local bike oops sorry I meant celebrity
OK, I get your point, but I'm not talking about 'just any attention', you want the attention of like minded people?
Hmm... is it attention..? Or just basic friendship that I hoped to find by making myself visible..?
Interesting x
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I think my point is that not all attention is bad, any attention at all costs is |
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"I often see the act of attention seeking as being derided and put down but isn't that why we're all here?
Personally I love a bit of attention, after all if we didn't want attention then there would be no pictures and no one would meet.
Thoughts?
I disagree... I joined Fab to meet like minded folk and make pals NOT to become the local bike oops sorry I meant celebrity
OK, I get your point, but I'm not talking about 'just any attention', you want the attention of like minded people?
Hmm... is it attention..? Or just basic friendship that I hoped to find by making myself visible..?
Interesting x
I think my point is that not all attention is bad, any attention at all costs is "
When you put it like that YES 100% x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It’s getting the right level of attention that’s hard, too much and it feels like everyone is looking and making judgments. Too little and it’s not enough, and it’s getting attention off the right people x |
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"post a negative to get attention
post a positive to get attention
post a neutral to get attention
all three are valid, however one of them isn't ideally the best way to attain either outcome "
I agree! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"post a negative to get attention
post a positive to get attention
post a neutral to get attention
all three are valid, however one of them isn't ideally the best way to attain either outcome
I agree! "
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