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Do you love yourself
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over a year ago
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No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Like no one else could  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I'm not one for self-love; I like someone else to do it for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Somebody has to! Might as well be me.
Nobody will ever love you like you love yourself, except maybe a stalker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!"
You have a great sense of humour too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!
You have a great sense of humour too.
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Oh yeah and that and I’m good cook. Yeah I’ve got some good qualities but I’d be a fool to say I didn’t have issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, someone has to.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No i don't |
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Of course, what's not to love.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Na I don’t  |
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. "
you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me
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I'm an alright human being aye |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me"
Do you get called out on it? I know I get a hell of a lot of shit for it, like that dude on the other thread calling me a narcissist cos I said I was hot. |
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Would you say most people who find it hard to love the
themselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm alright when I'm not being a twat.. |
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me
Do you get called out on it? I know I get a hell of a lot of shit for it, like that dude on the other thread calling me a narcissist cos I said I was hot. "
thats the post that got me to start this thread. I dont really get called out on it as i dont describe myself as hot because im not although some might think i am. Im an overweight middle aged woman with a serious mental health condition im far far from perfect. But for me its about having self awareness understanding i have positive and negative traits and owning the. It took a lot of hard work and soul searching to get where i am and ill be buggered if i will let anyone put me down for it or anyone else that loves themselves |
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"Would you say most people who find it hard to love the
themselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past "
ive had/have both and thats why im so damn proud of where im at |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me
Do you get called out on it? I know I get a hell of a lot of shit for it, like that dude on the other thread calling me a narcissist cos I said I was hot. thats the post that got me to start this thread. I dont really get called out on it as i dont describe myself as hot because im not although some might think i am. Im an overweight middle aged woman with a serious mental health condition im far far from perfect. But for me its about having self awareness understanding i have positive and negative traits and owning the. It took a lot of hard work and soul searching to get where i am and ill be buggered if i will let anyone put me down for it or anyone else that loves themselves"
He’s added more to it now, I have to leave for work now as well so can’t comment! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love is a bit strong a word to use, but I know I’m a good person, that hides behind being bit of a knobhead. |
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Difficult question.I don't love or even like myself much as my male self, but I do as Clare, part of the reason she exists really I suppose. I'm happier as someone else but would I still feel the same if I was Clare 24/7? |
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Yes.. I'm me. No one else can be me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As much as one can love oneself without growing hairy palms on ones hands.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do indeed if I didn't how could I expect anyone else to. |
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My bathroom mirror has love bites on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at the moment but I’m working on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. Cause no one can love you if you don't love yourself.
Single though. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I wouldn't go as far as to say I love myself, but I'm mostly happy with the type of person I am and the way I look at life and others - physically I can't do a great deal about and it's subjective anyway, so don't tend to overly worry about that side, although could do with shifting a few pounds.
On the whole though I like me yes  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Narp |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm happy with who I am and what I have. Simple answer for me |
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I’m in more of a love hate relationship with myself.
It really does depend 
Sassy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course I do. I didn’t for a while but I do love myself again.
Quoting lyrics - I, feel something so righ doing the wrong thing
I, feel something so wrong doing the right thing.
More important
But here’s Another great quote - nobody ever made a difference being like everyone else.
What all that means above? (I don’t know) I am complicated, but I’m alright with that. |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
The right place |
I’m pretty comfortable in my own skin. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m pretty comfortable in my own skin. "
I’m comfortable in my joggers. |
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!"
You are indeed gorgeous and I'm sure that you have more about you than that...dig deep x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No!
I'm not funny enough! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself. you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just
doesnt make aense to me
Do you get called out on it? I know I get a hell of a lot of shit for it, like that dude on the other thread calling me a narcissist cos I said I was hot. "
You are hot ,so ignore negativity |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm alright I guess. |
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I like myself internally although not to fond of the aging process but hey what can you do...embrace it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do and I like to flex and pose and look at the results my training gives me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To a degree.
I also hate things about myself yet I'm not sure they're things I can change. Can you choose not to be hurt by actions of others you don't agree with? All you can do is choose how to deal with those hurts surely?
By choosing one way, you're not being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe in, therefore not truly loving yourself. If you choose a different way you're allowing these things to happen, and leave yourself open to more of the same, because now you're becoming a doormat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the whole, yes. There are still parts of me that could be more loved but I accept myself as I am. I made a major breakthrough on something important at the weekend and enjoying the feeling of having dealt with it. Something that I had been hiding since childhood until recently. Now I have shone some light on what was dark it has transformed how I’m feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself.
you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me"
Well I try to ignore media stereotypes. I don't call people out when they say they love themselves either. Mind you, I don't call people out that are up their own arses so it doesn't really contribute to or detract from your point there.
I do envy people that are able to be completely accepting of themselves and happy with who they are both inwardly and with their exterior too though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very content |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To a degree.
I also hate things about myself yet I'm not sure they're things I can change. Can you choose not to be hurt by actions of others you don't agree with? All you can do is choose how to deal with those hurts surely?
By choosing one way, you're not being true to yourself and standing up for what you believe in, therefore not truly loving yourself. If you choose a different way you're allowing these things to happen, and leave yourself open to more of the same, because now you're becoming a doormat.
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Wise words |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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God no I don’t. As a person I quite like me but then I know what goes on in my head and my life. Also lookswise I am very self critical but again that’s because I see the things I have issues with as huge shining beacons whereas someone else might not even notice  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone should love themselves. I’d feel sad if anyone hated themself.
you see this is something tbat cometley baffles me every day we are told to ignore media stereo types blaa blaa blaa and then when someone as in my case has worked bloody hard to love themselves they get called out on it and told their up themseelves and often by people of the same sex. It just doesnt make aense to me
Well I try to ignore media stereotypes. I don't call people out when they say they love themselves either. Mind you, I don't call people out that are up their own arses so it doesn't really contribute to or detract from your point there.
I do envy people that are able to be completely accepting of themselves and happy with who they are both inwardly and with their exterior too though."
What’s not to love G? (No need to answer) |
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I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not at this second |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"God no I don’t. As a person I quite like me but then I know what goes on in my head and my life. Also lookswise I am very self critical but again that’s because I see the things I have issues with as huge shining beacons whereas someone else might not even notice "
That voice in your head has a volume button. Imagine that button and turn the volume on that voice down. If it has a harsh voice, soften it. Make it gentler. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at this second"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do and I like to flex and pose and look at the results my training gives me "
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"I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it "
Yes yes that’s why the RSPCA took a court order out on you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!
You are indeed gorgeous and I'm sure that you have more about you than that...dig deep x"
Great advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here we go...
I wonder what spawned this ?
Mystery |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it
Yes yes that’s why the RSPCA took a court order out on you "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like myself internally although not to fond of the aging process but hey what can you do...embrace it!"
Grow old disgracefully |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes.
And sometimes I really don't like myself very much at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Very content "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don’t, I’m pleased with myself for surviving some things that people tried to break me. And sometimes I can look in the mirror and be happy with how I am at that moment. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love me, who do you love |
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No, and plenty of time spent in therapy trying to change that!  |
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"I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it
Yes yes that’s why the RSPCA took a court order out on you "
Bu....but I.....I slipped over and fell on him......honest..... |
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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Yes indeed? I love myself to bits - I just like the person I am, love what I see when I look in the mirror and I'm content with my life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry I felt a bit like sharing some love but I’m in danger of taking over your thread DS. I’ll aend out that love to all those that I didn’t get to respond to.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love me, who do you love "
Not you.
*its a joke. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love me, who do you love
Not you.
*its a joke. "
I feel the love  |
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"I like my external self, the aesthetics but inside is where I fall down. My issues drag me down.
I don’t know why people get in such a pissy when I say positive things about my appearance. It’s the only thing I have!
You have a great sense of humour too.
Oh yeah and that and I’m good cook. Yeah I’ve got some good qualities but I’d be a fool to say I didn’t have issues. "
You're honest too!  |
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"I’m fucking awesome!
I know it, you know it and even your next door neighbours’ dog knows it
Yes yes that’s why the RSPCA took a court order out on you
Bu....but I.....I slipped over and fell on him......honest..... "
Yeh yeh whatever ,,, as Peter Kay says ,,,”you try getting a cocker spaniel to testify in court’
You got off lightly |
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"I like myself internally although not to fond of the aging process but hey what can you do...embrace it!
Grow old disgracefully "
Amen to that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I finally learnt to like myself again, after a long period of hating myself. Wouldn't go so far as to say "I love me" Though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Getting there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you say most people who find it hard to love the
themselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past ive had/have both and thats why im so damn proud of where im at"
You are a truly beautiful person, inside and out |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one else does so I have to |
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"I like myself internally although not to fond of the aging process but hey what can you do...embrace it!"
It's a bitch - but hey ho, I know I'm more lovely inside so it's swings and roundabouts lol! I'm always eager to grow, but I'm really happy with the inner me. |
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95% of the time. I have days when I don't but they're few and far between.
I can't be doing with self depreciation and putting myself down. |
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"On the whole, yes. There are still parts of me that could be more loved but I accept myself as I am. I made a major breakthrough on something important at the weekend and enjoying the feeling of having dealt with it. Something that I had been hiding since childhood until recently. Now I have shone some light on what was dark it has transformed how I’m feeling "
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"Would you say most people who find it hard to love the
themselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past ive had/have both and thats why im so damn proud of where im at
You are a truly beautiful person, inside and out "
awww your not so bad yourself sophee |
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"Yes I do. Cause no one can love you if you don't love yourself.
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They say that but it is't true - to love the unlovable is the best of human altruism. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you say most people who find it hard to love the
themselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past ive had/have both and thats why im so damn proud of where im at
You are a truly beautiful person, inside and out awww your not so bad yourself sophee"
Awwww |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes and other times I loathe myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No! Fuck that guy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy! "
Who, me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me? "
Yes, you. Did I stutter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love myself, I do. Always try to keep positive thoughts with regards to myself. When those negative voices (in my head) start being critical which invariably they do I stop them by flooding my head with positivity...'you might be unhappy with xyz at the moment but your hair is amazing and your eyes are so blue..' Doesn't always work but I try not to put myself down like I have in the past!
And if anyone thinks loving yourself is narcissistic,go ahead, think what you like cos I'm happy being me
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter? "
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Working on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off. "
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do. Cause no one can love you if you don't love yourself.
They say that but it is't true - to love the unlovable is the best of human altruism."
I agree. I know I’m loved despite my flaws. However I think it is more difficult to find love if you loathe yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are"
Can the moderators ban this guy please? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are"
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"I love myself, I do. Always try to keep positive thoughts with regards to myself. When those negative voices (in my head) start being critical which invariably they do I stop them by flooding my head with positivity...'you might be unhappy with xyz at the moment but your hair is amazing and your eyes are so blue..' Doesn't always work but I try not to put myself down like I have in the past!
And if anyone thinks loving yourself is narcissistic,go ahead, think what you like cos I'm happy being me
Peach x"
That is good advice. It’s all to easy to say love yourself to someone but actually having a realistic technique to use is far more helpful. I’m going to try that myself the next time I’m feeling super critical and down. |
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over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
Can the moderators ban this guy please? "
Reported you but you’re so darn cute |
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"Yes I do. Cause no one can love you if you don't love yourself.
They say that but it is't true - to love the unlovable is the best of human altruism.
I agree. I know I’m loved despite my flaws. However I think it is more difficult to find love if you loathe yourself. "
Some people will find it hard to receive love if they don't love themselves for sure. That's almost a better measure of the question. |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now"
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky! |
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over a year ago
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"I love myself, I do. Always try to keep positive thoughts with regards to myself. When those negative voices (in my head) start being critical which invariably they do I stop them by flooding my head with positivity...'you might be unhappy with xyz at the moment but your hair is amazing and your eyes are so blue..' Doesn't always work but I try not to put myself down like I have in the past!
And if anyone thinks loving yourself is narcissistic,go ahead, think what you like cos I'm happy being me
Peach x
That is good advice. It’s all to easy to say love yourself to someone but actually having a realistic technique to use is far more helpful. I’m going to try that myself the next time I’m feeling super critical and down. "
I think that is a good way to do it.
On the subject of narcissism I think I have a bit of narcissism in me. I like to post pictures of myself in a variety of different states of undress and like what I see. There’s nothing wrong for me in a bit of narcissism. I think the issue comes if we aren’t aware of it or deny it or secretly hate ourselves and use our external charms to manipulate and abuse others. That for me is the true challenge of narcissism. I think I have had to deal with my unconscious narcissism and it’s effects over the years and very recently. Funnily enough I recognised it more acutely than someone on the receiving end of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!"
Have you always had the advocate or did you create her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!"
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic? |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Have you always had the advocate or did you create her"
Good question - I didn't create it (not sure of gender) to my knowledge, but I can't remember the first time I was aware of the presence, so can't say if it's always been there or not.
It encourages, reassures, justifies, defends, consoles and forgives....sounds like a true inner 'good parent' come to think of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes. G x |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?"
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing! |
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All 5’6 of me and the 8 inches when I am arroused |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Have you always had the advocate or did you create her
Good question - I didn't create it (not sure of gender) to my knowledge, but I can't remember the first time I was aware of the presence, so can't say if it's always been there or not.
It encourages, reassures, justifies, defends, consoles and forgives....sounds like a true inner 'good parent' come to think of it."
Lovely - I like that you call it the advocate. Does it have a voice? |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?"
all the time in general i have a great amount of common sense sometimes it just leaves me completly and leaves me thinking what the fuck did you really just do that |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Have you always had the advocate or did you create her
Good question - I didn't create it (not sure of gender) to my knowledge, but I can't remember the first time I was aware of the presence, so can't say if it's always been there or not.
It encourages, reassures, justifies, defends, consoles and forgives....sounds like a true inner 'good parent' come to think of it.
Lovely - I like that you call it the advocate. Does it have a voice?"
I've only just called it that, but that is what t does - never really thought about it 'til you and others mentioned your inner critic!
It's my default thought process I guess, not a separate voice per se, but that's how my inner dialogue goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I do "
No, but I quite like me. Getting there.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing! "
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?all the time in general i have a great amount of common sense sometimes it just leaves me completly and leaves me thinking what the fuck did you really just do that "
Yes, on a dark, rainy night on an empty road I decided to turn left when the sign clearly said no left turn. There was a camera and I got a fine - no excuse, no choice but to pay it. I was angry with myself for a while, but I didn't condemn myself - I just did a dumb thing and learned a lesson the hard way and told myself I would just have to make sure be more obedient in future because there's cameras everywhere nowadays!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?all the time in general i have a great amount of common sense sometimes it just leaves me completly and leaves me thinking what the fuck did you really just do that
Yes, on a dark, rainy night on an empty road I decided to turn left when the sign clearly said no left turn. There was a camera and I got a fine - no excuse, no choice but to pay it. I was angry with myself for a while, but I didn't condemn myself - I just did a dumb thing and learned a lesson the hard way and told myself I would just have to make sure be more obedient in future because there's cameras everywhere nowadays!!"
I think I respond similarly but I allow myself to have my inner critic but more and more the voice is comical and a parody rather than me taking it seriously. But that voice is still there...
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. "
Not quite sure what the last sentence means? I analyse my own behaviour, and I may berate myself for doing something wrong - but I always separate behaviour from identity, I have nothing inside that criticises who I AM from the inside, or criticises inappropriately or excessively. If someone else does that's their problem - I know I'm OK, I don't rely on my reflection in another's eyes.
If I say to myself 'Hmm, I shouldn't have done that like that, I ought to have done it this way' it is more constructive, not condemnatory. |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?all the time in general i have a great amount of common sense sometimes it just leaves me completly and leaves me thinking what the fuck did you really just do that
Yes, on a dark, rainy night on an empty road I decided to turn left when the sign clearly said no left turn. There was a camera and I got a fine - no excuse, no choice but to pay it. I was angry with myself for a while, but I didn't condemn myself - I just did a dumb thing and learned a lesson the hard way and told myself I would just have to make sure be more obedient in future because there's cameras everywhere nowadays!!
I think I respond similarly but I allow myself to have my inner critic but more and more the voice is comical and a parody rather than me taking it seriously. But that voice is still there...
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OK. I don't have one of those. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No - but I like myself more than most people.
Other people are really irritating - I just mildly annoy myself.
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. "
do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought |
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over a year ago
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Yes absolutely |
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I didn't, for a very long time.
I think that's why I came here to seek validation of some kind, attention or to be desired.
I don't know.
Then things happened and I wasn't a very nice person, being in a sad and dark place turned me into a dark person and I didn't like her much.
For a long time here I was not 'me' I was a hurt bitter person and I upset a few of people. (Sorry)
Then things in my life happened, and those things made me realise life is too short to hold onto badness and sadness.
I'm getting back to me now. Me is still a bit bitey, but that comes with the demons from my past, it's hard to let go of things that have shaped you since childhood- the defence mechanism you build up.
Do I love myself? I like myself more than I have ever done and I'm trying to be the best version of me.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I didn't, for a very long time.
I think that's why I came here to seek validation of some kind, attention or to be desired.
I don't know.
Then things happened and I wasn't a very nice person, being in a sad and dark place turned me into a dark person and I didn't like her much.
For a long time here I was not 'me' I was a hurt bitter person and I upset a few of people. (Sorry)
Then things in my life happened, and those things made me realise life is too short to hold onto badness and sadness.
I'm getting back to me now. Me is still a bit bitey, but that comes with the demons from my past, it's hard to let go of things that have shaped you since childhood- the defence mechanism you build up.
Do I love myself? I like myself more than I have ever done and I'm trying to be the best version of me.
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Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be my own best friend and my own worst enemy. But I have learnt not to get attached to anyone or anything.
But then you get accused of being cold.
You give your all and you are accused of being fake. Or having feeling for them,or a flirt. Hoe slut.
Yes some women are the worse for bringing each other down along with immature males.
Damn if you do and damned if you don't
In the end we all end up alone in the ground.
The curse of human default. |
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I agree, love is the biggest curse known to mankind and is a guaranteed formula for misery and heartache |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course, what's not to love?
C |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
Beyond the shadows. |
No, me and my self are just good friends |
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Yeah, I'm alright, imperfections and all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone should love themselves of course but some people do take it a little far and express their self a little to much to the point of, how can you possibly have time to love someone else when you love youself that much lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don’t love myself but I think I’m a nice person and I’m quite happy with life in general. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"No I don’t love myself but I think I’m a nice person and I’m happy with life in general. "
Pretty much this ^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love my husband more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought"
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreaction |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreaction"
I think you let yourself off lightly, I would have given myself a damn good thrashing. |
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"I like myself internally although not to fond of the aging process but hey what can you do...embrace it!"
What she said ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response.
Not quite sure what the last sentence means? I analyse my own behaviour, and I may berate myself for doing something wrong - but I always separate behaviour from identity, I have nothing inside that criticises who I AM from the inside, or criticises inappropriately or excessively. If someone else does that's their problem - I know I'm OK, I don't rely on my reflection in another's eyes.
If I say to myself 'Hmm, I shouldn't have done that like that, I ought to have done it this way' it is more constructive, not condemnatory."
Doesn’t matter you’d probably have to be inside my head to understand it and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone
May be I’ll have sufficient self awareness in the future to always separate my identity from my behaviour when I am critical of my behaviour. In the mean time I’ll be relatively content with my imperfections and continually seek to do a bit better |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreaction"
no in that situation i dont think it was an over reaction i would of been pissed off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreactionno in that situation i dont think it was an over reaction i would of been pissed off"
Fortunately I managed to catch it earlier and I was in jeans rather than my suit but it was still a pain in the arse. But on the general subject of me overreacting I think at times under stress I do, before my mind is able to process it and return me to my more normal stable temperament |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreaction
I think you let yourself off lightly, I would have given myself a damn good thrashing. "
May be in the privacy of my own room I might have engaged in some self-flagellation with an appropriate flogger |
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"I didn't, for a very long time.
I think that's why I came here to seek validation of some kind, attention or to be desired.
I don't know.
Then things happened and I wasn't a very nice person, being in a sad and dark place turned me into a dark person and I didn't like her much.
For a long time here I was not 'me' I was a hurt bitter person and I upset a few of people. (Sorry)
Then things in my life happened, and those things made me realise life is too short to hold onto badness and sadness.
I'm getting back to me now. Me is still a bit bitey, but that comes with the demons from my past, it's hard to let go of things that have shaped you since childhood- the defence mechanism you build up.
Do I love myself? I like myself more than I have ever done and I'm trying to be the best version of me.
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So,good to hear |
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"I love my husband more "
Good answer! |
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"Would you say most people who find it hard to lovethemselves have in the past had trauma in there life or mental health issues in the past "
Not so much in the past, but 100% is about positive psychology and mental attitude. No one else can truly change your feelings other than yourself.
Something I've realised myself this last month and my life has changed and I've grown exponentially.
(If you hadn't guessed, yes I rather like myself and where I'm at ) |
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreactionno in that situation i dont think it was an over reaction i would of been pissed off
Fortunately I managed to catch it earlier and I was in jeans rather than my suit but it was still a pain in the arse. But on the general subject of me overreacting I think at times under stress I do, before my mind is able to process it and return me to my more normal stable temperament"
well i had a complete meltdown yesterday doesnt mean i love myself any less just means i hate my illness |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No! Fuck that guy!
Who, me?
Yes, you. Did I stutter?
Well fuck you too! The forums are not a place for imbeciles like you. Either say something nice or piss off.
Look at you whinging like the lovely little cunt you are
I remember my inner critic used to talk to me like that a lot. It has the voice of Mickey Mouse now
Thinking about it I don't have an inner critic - I have an advocate! I think I'm very lucky!
Interesting thought occurred to me though. Have you never called yourself a stupid idiot when you’ve done something considered idiotic?
I might but I wouldn't mean it like that - I would say I was a clever person who did a dumb thing!
Yep I do that too, but I think our inner critic causes the reaction. I spilt a bit of my coffee in Starbucks over me on Tuesday because I had put the lid back on the takeout cup it was in inadvertently because I was working and not concentrating. The lid was not on properly. I berated myself publicly for being clumsy and absent minded - calling myself an idiot - and felt embarrassed.
That was my inner critic at work but had my voice not Mickey Mouse this time because it wasn’t in my head and I couldn’t control the response. do you think you have a temdency to over react or expect to much of yourself. If i had spilt a bit off coffee down myself i wouldnt havd given it a second thought
It went over my computer and my clothes. I was going on a business trip and I was in an airport. I don’t think calling myself an idiot was an overreactionno in that situation i dont think it was an over reaction i would of been pissed off
Fortunately I managed to catch it earlier and I was in jeans rather than my suit but it was still a pain in the arse. But on the general subject of me overreacting I think at times under stress I do, before my mind is able to process it and return me to my more normal stable temperament well i had a complete meltdown yesterday doesnt mean i love myself any less just means i hate my illness"
Sorry to hear that DS, but it is good to see you back today |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway "
Which bit you lost -i can come over and help you find it is you like |
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By *W_RedMan
over a year ago
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I did when I was younger, probably a bit too much. I've become a bit more self conscious as I've got older  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love my husband more
Good answer!"
Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
I've learnt to accept myself and be more confident. |
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"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
I've learnt to accept myself and be more confident. "
This. I'm my own worst critic sometimes. But, I also accept my flaws and recognise my good points now x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of the time I (Mrs) do yes...I have to work at it though and remind myself from time to time that although I'm not perfect, I do alright!!
PT x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes I do and sometimes I don't.
I've learnt to accept myself and be more confident.
This. I'm my own worst critic sometimes. But, I also accept my flaws and recognise my good points now x"
I think sometimes it's good to be a little bit self critical and to check yourself particularly opinions and attitudes. But I also think it's vital like you've just said that we recognise our good points. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I am a good person and I would never hurt a soul, my job is my vocation and I love people and try to see the good in people.
I do like things about myself I have good qualities. |
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over a year ago
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway
Which bit you lost -i can come over and help you find it is you like"
I lost my mind |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway
Which bit you lost -i can come over and help you find it is you like
I lost my mind "
I like a challenge -but you'll have to promise to help me find my virginity too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I don’t love myself but I think I’m a nice person and I’m quite happy with life in general. "
That's a down to earth honest appraisal.
When I hear people saying they "Love themselves, or they are Hot" puts me off completely. It's a narcissist trait and one that's prone to backfiring. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway
Which bit you lost -i can come over and help you find it is you like
I lost my mind
I like a challenge -but you'll have to promise to help me find my virginity too"
Virginity what's that  |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
the right frame of mind -London |
"Yes I do. Well lost of.me anyway
Which bit you lost -i can come over and help you find it is you like
I lost my mind
I like a challenge -but you'll have to promise to help me find my virginity too
Virginity what's that "
i've no idea -I was just told that i'd lost mine -been searching for it ever since |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yeah most of the time. I'm actually kind of fucking awesome. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"No I don’t love myself but I think I’m a nice person and I’m quite happy with life in general.
That's a down to earth honest appraisal.
When I hear people saying they "Love themselves, or they are Hot" puts me off completely. It's a narcissist trait and one that's prone to backfiring. "
I think you're getting hung up on the terminology and mixing up different traits of love, to love yourself isn't narcissistic, to love yourself at the expense of all others is.
Have a Google of what a narcissist is, not just the abridged dictionary definition maybe... |
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