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"Try being a tv in some threads Totally ignored" Who said that? | |||
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"Try being a tv in some threads Totally ignored Who said that?" Four replies... Who had four on the joke sweepstake?  | |||
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"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique. There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x" Yeah some threads post so quick so it's easy to get ignored, happens to us alot sure lots of others same | |||
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"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums? I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance? " It's not a gripe, but there are definitely cliques in here ... Just as there are in the "real world"  | |||
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 ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.
Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!
It happens to everyone, all the time!
The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!" I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. | |||
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"I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.
Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said"This is me. I can never be bothered to read a whole thread half the time but I still comment or answer the question so I’m probably guilty of this  | |||
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" Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here. "I fucking love it here, so that conclusively fucks that theory, right? RIGHT?!?  | |||
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"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.
Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!
It happens to everyone, all the time!
The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! "I think that's one of the key points really, it's all a question of perception and awareness. If you only ever look for your posts and who has quoted you then you will always feel ignored. As for cliques, it's been a 'thing' since I started reading the forums, strangely enough most of those people have left now... | |||
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"Thats the beauty of the forums. Everyone is different and there opinions will vary depending on the subject. Yes it can seem like certain people are always the ones posting however and it may seem intimidating at first but what happens on the fab forums dosent really affect real live and like every other social media platform anything said should not be taken to heart." I find the forum is a world away from real life. I only come on Now and again. It tends to be the same people. I prefer going out mostly. You are either a forumnite or you ain't | |||
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"Try being a tv in some threads Totally ignored" Is that why you start so many of your own? I sometimes do the FPF thread but steer clear of the 'comment on the poster above' threads unless I'm in a CBA mood | |||
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"I get the feeling ignoring happens because nobody ever reads threads properly, as in what everyone else has written so things get missed. You can tell because of all the repeated comments that pop up that surely you wouldnt have repeated if you had read the other 10 replies.
Ps I didnt read the thread properly yet to see if this has been said" | |||
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"Thats the beauty of the forums. Everyone is different and there opinions will vary depending on the subject. Yes it can seem like certain people are always the ones posting however and it may seem intimidating at first but what happens on the fab forums dosent really affect real live and like every other social media platform anything said should not be taken to heart.I find the forum is a world away from real life. I only come on Now and again. It tends to be the same people. I prefer going out mostly. You are either a forumnite or you ain't " We like both forums & clubs - fun in both  | |||
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" Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here.
I fucking love it here, so that conclusively fucks that theory, right?
RIGHT?!? "Yeaaaah sure it does.  | |||
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"I actually go out of my way to include some of the more foolish members" Cheers mate   | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. " I agree | |||
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"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful. I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about. You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't. Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here. "I've asked you not to call me Bob | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. " I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. | |||
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"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful. I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about. You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't. Personality wise I'd say you have to be borderline narcisstic, obnoxious and a flirt to enjoy your time on here.
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"I'm Unpopular and overlooked HAHA" No you're not I think however think you're a wee bit negative at time's. | |||
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"I'm Unpopular and overlooked HAHA" This is kind of what I'm aiming at, its a form of self fulfilling prophecy. If you tell yourself this enough then you see it everywhere. | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!" I would agree as nothing is real here | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. " Yes but you made me feel quite welcome and when I was having a bit of a confidence wobble you were very supportive and I think that's what the forums are all about if I'm honest. It's great to have a giggle and a bit of fun but also to offer support when it's needed but at the same time not too Panda to people. I know I'm waffling again but I hope that makes a bit of sense. | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be!" The question is did you win the best boob thread.... | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. " Nothing wrong with that. I do agree with above though. A lot of people (talking in general, if anybody wants to take personal offence that is their problem) tend to forget this about the Internet, there are real people with real feelings on the other end. If you use forums you need to have some form of thick skin but at the same time we just need to remember we are still interacting with actual people. | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here" I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real. | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I agree with a lot of what you said however just because it's the Internet doesn't mean it's not real. It's different than face to face contact but it's still very real. I guess so. I just don’t understand the being ignored bit. I just comment I don’t look at who’s made the thread or the comment I honestly don’t. If it interests me I get involved. Yes but you made me feel quite welcome and when I was having a bit of a confidence wobble you were very supportive and I think that's what the forums are all about if I'm honest. It's great to have a giggle and a bit of fun but also to offer support when it's needed but at the same time not too Panda to people. I know I'm waffling again but I hope that makes a bit of sense. "Definitely. I’m a chatterbox anyway. I could talk for England  | |||
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"I actually go out of my way to include some of the more foolish members Cheers mate " | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real." No. Perhaps I put it wrong. I guess I meant if people don’t like me or ignore me on here it wouldn’t bother me whereas in the real world it probably would. I know what I meant!! Haha | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! The question is did you win the best boob thread...." No  . But I didn’t make a big thing about it. I just cried in private | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real." I was about to say something similar actually. I think some really great friendships have been formed weather they have remained virtual or have progressed to meeting in person. Iv definitely had great personal conversations and met with people that I've interacted with on the forum that I would have overlooked if they just popped up in my inbox. I do understand people sometimes feeling left out or ignored and yes that might say more about them than it does about others on the forum, but at the end of the day do we all not want to feel part of something and included. | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do?" Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? | |||
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"No. I think people take it too seriously. I often comment and don’t ever go back to the thread again. I’ve posted threads which have had hardly any comments. It’s supposed to be fun. People even get annoyed at the best boobs threads and the best this that and the other if they’re not mentioned or someone will say don’t do this it’s not fair on the people who aren’t mentioned. To me that is taking it too seriously. It’s not real it’s the internet! And as for a clique, that’s been mentioned ever since I found the forums and I still don’t know who it’s supposed to be! I would agree as nothing is real here I don't personally get that,if nothing was real here I wouldn't have met some lovely people at the Manchester social. That all started here in the forum's. As someone has already said just because it's online doesn't make it any less real. No. Perhaps I put it wrong. I guess I meant if people don’t like me or ignore me on here it wouldn’t bother me whereas in the real world it probably would. I know what I meant!! Haha "Oh I hadn't read your comment to be honest,I was just going of MrNices comment in reply to your comment. I do agree people can take thing's to seriously,I wouldn't dream of going on a boobie thread I'm be crying for the rest of the day. | |||
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"Id still not say im accepted my most altho no idea about the clique thing i only see people who are friends having banter with oneanother" This is a good example because there is NOTHING wrong with it but from the outside there is a very fine line between friends chatting and becoming a clique. Forums due to the nature which is being discussed blurs that line a lot more than it really is. It is very easy to make it seem clique like when it could not be further from the truth. | |||
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced." Gosh. | |||
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"I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud. It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch. All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong. "
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced." I like your posts | |||
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"I'm a lone wolf on the forum and like it that way. I'm mostly just thinking out loud. It's better to be respected than liked and that means having confidence in yourself and defending your ideas and opinions rather than acting like a supplicating b*tch. All the while always keeping an open mind to see where I'm wrong.
You are not alone. So technically not a lone wolf. Check mate! "Cheque please?! | |||
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"I just speak my mind, other than that couldn't give a flying fuck. "Totally agree with you | |||
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced." Who’s this guy ? | |||
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"Who gives a fuck? If you're that fragile that you worry about this sort of thing, then swinging and the internet arn't for you. " It's not fragile it's called being human! | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? " You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. | |||
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced." Have you been told this or is it just your perception? I can't say that I've ever seen comments directed at you and I see you get responded to on a regular basis. You were actually one of the people that I was thinking about when I started this thread, I'm also responding to you now. | |||
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"What is good about forums is that you can chat & banter with people with nothing about meeting. Of course some connections are made but its just fun - well thats how it should be and not get people upset " | |||
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"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.
Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!
It happens to everyone, all the time!
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"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some. If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people. As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such. I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice. Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down." Well that saved me a lot of typing. Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others. Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many. And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all. A | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing." Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. | |||
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"I think the ones that feel that ways are the ones that care too much about what other people think about them While most people want a feeling of acceptance from someone at various points in life, you shouldn’t strive or Compromise yourself to be accepted. Just be you! It amazing how just simply doing that gets you noticed " These forums show you what a deep rooted fear of rejection people have. | |||
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced." Who is left to meet though if you've blocked everyone. | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. " Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard. | |||
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"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some. If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people. As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such. I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice. Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down. Well that saved me a lot of typing. Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others. Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many. And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all. A" Do we still get a real pint | |||
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"Of course it's possible to *feel* excluded - some people get far more responses than others who only get a handful. I do think to some extent people get from the forum what they put in - I've seen several times those who bemoan the lack of inclusivity and throw the c-word around are often less than willing to engage with others (maybe a couple of friends here and there). Like Bob, quit your frickin' moaning and stop posting the same inane thing and then maybe people might have something to actually talk to you about. You just have to keep on posting as you want, when you want (within reason obviously) and people either take to you or don't. P...... "I agree with this. I used to blog on another site but it took a long time before I got a good level of replies. Forums are quick fire responses and a different beast however so I expect to be overlooked as a relative newbie breaking into an existing forum community. (Not overlooked for too long I hope) | |||
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"I know a lot of my posts go deliberately overlooked. But that's fine because that's no reflection of me but more about the people on the forum. Thankfully those that do know me personally and have met me here and on another site say positive things about me. A lot on the forum made it clear they were not interested getting to know me so a lot of them are on my block list. It maybe because I don't suck up to people and call it as I see it and that runs them up the wrong way. But the forum is a very small part of this site and I have meets nearly every weekend because of my positive nature and ability to make those around me feel good so I am doing something right. If people are so up themselves they dismiss before getting to know me properly then fine. What really is happening is a deliberate attempt to make people feel unwelcome on the forum that is clear to see so people start to return the attitude and it all goes downhill. This must put off new people contributing but that's how the click want it. They try to feel strong by deliberately excluding others. Not the type of people I wish to meet so I felt no other alternative but to block mostly everyone that uses this place. Hate me? Fine I just don't give a fuck but at least I'm honest and not two faced. Who is left to meet though if you've blocked everyone. "Hey I ain't blocked (yet) I checked. | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard." its not your self deprecation but everything you post is doom and gloom. To me your a poster that stands out as i know what your posts are going to say. Ive never seen you post anything thats positive and upbeat | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard." Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable. | |||
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"I think the ones that feel that ways are the ones that care too much about what other people think about them While most people want a feeling of acceptance from someone at various points in life, you shouldn’t strive or Compromise yourself to be accepted. Just be you! It amazing how just simply doing that gets you noticed These forums show you what a deep rooted fear of rejection people have. " They show a lot of people flaws and insecurities | |||
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"I just keep posting and doing my thing. Don't really subscribe to the rest of the so called clique. There is always gonna be groups of people that have met socially etc that have more of a banter but you get that in the workplace, the school playground- everywhere x Yeah some threads post so quick so it's easy to get ignored, happens to us alot sure lots of others same" Same for me, I don’t post that often but sometimes I get a reply or two | |||
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"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some. If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people. As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such. I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice. Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down. Well that saved me a lot of typing. Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others. Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many. And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all. A Do we still get a real pint" Depends. These days there tends to be less head. A | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard. Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable. " Gotta agree with the guys you really don’t do yourself many favours in that regard | |||
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"I think both personal perception and the way you portray yourself have a great deal to do with it - if you choose to see it as you're being ignored or your posts are all of the "woe is me nobody loves me" negative variety then I think the forums can be perceived in the wrong way by some. If you take a positive view and post what you want to post and accept that, for various reasons, you will at times be overlooked or ignored then I think they can be a great place and a good way to get to know people. As for cliques, I don't think there currently is one, and am not entirely sure there ever has been - sure when I first joined there was a group of people that all bounced off one another because they knew each other from either group socials or purely having been around the forums for a while but I don't think that actually was a clique as such. I also think there are some that "play" the forums for attention in one way or another - for example with reverse psychology posts like "I'll just sit in the corner being ignored" or creating images of having been bullied behind the scenes but not giving a damn, yet no-one appears to know a thing about it and of course the classic look at me threads from the toned guys with multiple veris asking for profile advice. Either way on the whole I think the forums are what you make of them - don't take them too seriously and they can be a lot of fun - take them completely to heart and they can drag you down. Well that saved me a lot of typing. Having had a four year break it seems to be much the same on here as it was before. Plenty of people saying there's a clique and equally plenty denying it. Plenty of people saying they're ignored and plenty saying they don't deliberately ignore others. Treat it like a pub. There are locals, regulars, occasional visitors, new arrivals, returning visitors, friends of friends, that argumentative bloke in the corner, students, retired, staff and the occasional nutter that's had one too many. And above all treat it as fun. It's just words on a screen after all. A Do we still get a real pint Depends. These days there tends to be less head. A" Oh and everyone loves a frothy moustache too. | |||
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"It's definitely not very inclusive but that's the nature of humanity. What can you do? Part of the thing though is joining in, I've seen you post frequently but often your posts are very self critical and morose. I've seen others interact with you on several occasions, again I don't think you're overlooked but is it a question of your perception? You can tell though. Being self aware of your place in various circles is a good thing. Self aware is fine. However your posts really don't do you any favours in helping people see you in a different light. I'm a socially awkward person, however insecurities I have I turn around and use self deprecating humor to invite people to me. Your approach just pushes them away causing your own downfall and position in where you see yourself in social circles. Ah your self deprecation is good, mine is bad. Got it! These rules are hard. Mine is humour. If yours is humour it really does not come across as such. As Tea said higher up it is quite morbid and morose. Far from inviting and sociable. " Ah so I don't have the same kind of humour as everyone else. Bummer! | |||
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I’ve never found them cliquey personally. I’ve posted the most amazingly intelligent, humourous, insightful comment and it’s been totally ignored (even yesterday . I posted some absolutely piece of garbage and it’s been hailed as genius.
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"I hate bullying in any shape or form and I can even see a bit of of it on this thread. I think people should remember that nobody knows what is going on in other people’s lives and sometimes this is a bit of escapism for some. Not long ago there was an autistic person on the forums and he was taken totally the wrong way. I clicked pretty quickly having an autistic child myself and actually messaged a few people to lay off him a bit. It’s great to have fun but it costs nothing to be nice and polite to people
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"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums? I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance? It's not a gripe, but there are definitely cliques in here ... Just as there are in the "real world" "I just start my own clique even if I’m the only one in it who cares | |||
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"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums? I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance? " Nope, just be yourself! I receive a bit of a barracking (publicly in here, or by direct message), for saying what I think at times, and a lot of the time I am ignored. The thing is, you will always have people either agree or disagree with whatever you say, but your post is out there, forever............. | |||
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"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality. Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought. If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too. I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate! Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! " | |||
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"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality. Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought. If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too. I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate! Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! " You speak a lot of sense lovely x | |||
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"Yep. But I think I’m integrating more and have “ met” some nice people.
I do have a bit of a gob on me. Am a nice person though.
But I’m hoping the forums bans I’ve had in the past are long behind me
I love when I get banned"Was actually thinking I was overlooked and unpopular then! Thanks for not ignoring me | |||
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"I think that my original post and my subsequent thoughts on this are based around perception and reality. Our perceptions of a situation often don't bear scrutiny of the reality of it. Often our own preconceptions colour interactions and we convince ourselves that things 'are that way' simply because that's what we originally thought. If you continue tell yourself that you're unpopular then you'll see that, think you're ugly? You will find ways of believing that too. I think that if you approach things with an open mind and try to drop your preconceptions then you may be surprised. That's how I try to be at any rate! Obviously I cant tell anyone how to be! "
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I've one feedme
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I don’t notice it until there’s a thread like this and I go back and look. It doesn’t bother me, I’m only here for the giggle.
Join in and don’t focus on the negative would be my advice. If you are overly sensitive or needy it could be a difficult place for you.
I do think Jim is the most inclusive person on here though, with no hidden agenda | |||
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"I contribute fairly regularly to certain threads I skirt round the edges of the forums however and am not a 'player', so by default my contributions will be overlooked more than those of others I try not to court contraversy and stay away from public showdowns over what are often mute points anyway. I don't get involved in getting my chest, bulge, bum, underwear and god knows what else out Neither do I commend or engage those that do I can't expect to conduct my forum life in this way and then bemoan being overlooked In the grand scheme of things, the validation of a group of strangers in an online chatroom is hardly life affirming is it?" I agree with and enjoy reading a lot of what you post. I just can't be arsed giving the every time, so you can just assume it's there
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Horngry
Bettee feed the horn then "feed me more feed me more | |||
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"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums? I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance? " nah | |||
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"I admit I feel slightly peeved if I’m overlooked by the op on a thread, it’s like woah hold the phone, I’ve graced your thread with my presence and a comment now acknowledge me cunt "ya see its smart arsed comment like that I utterly love | |||
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"Without getting into gripes about cliques and the like, do you think that it's possible to feel excluded on the forums? I know that many try hard to be as inclusive and positive as possible, to welcome all with open arms and to answer comments. However with so many voices and personalities on here does it require a 'certain type' of personality to thrive and cope with the comment skipping and, as some would put it; ignorance? Nope, just be yourself! I receive a bit of a barracking (publicly in here, or by direct message), for saying what I think at times, and a lot of the time I am ignored. The thing is, you will always have people either agree or disagree with whatever you say, but your post is out there, forever............. "it not good to be yourself when you tell it like it is people take it the wrong way so honest does not pay only lies and none true thing. | |||
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"I admit I feel slightly peeved if I’m overlooked by the op on a thread, it’s like woah hold the phone, I’ve graced your thread with my presence and a comment now acknowledge me cunt "Especially if you're the only one being overlooked. | |||
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"Apparently I’m in the clique (something I strenuously deny, but people have said it ). 80% of my comments are overlooked or skipped / ignored.
Or the classic, I’ll say say something, it gets totally ignored, then a hottie says the same thing later on in the thread, and everyone jumps in to say what a jolly good point they’ve made!
It happens to everyone, all the time!
The thing is we don’t notice it happening to other people, we only notice it happening to ourselves! "You are usually the first to jump | |||
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"People can feel excluded if that’s how they’re inclined to feel. I breeze in do my own thing then go. Do I get overlooked? Yes, loads I don’t notice it until there’s a thread like this and I go back and look. It doesn’t bother me, I’m only here for the giggle.
Join in and don’t focus on the negative would be my advice. If you are overly sensitive or needy it could be a difficult place for you.
I do think Jim is the most inclusive person on here though, with no hidden agenda "He is lovely but that profile pic jeez he nearly had my eye out | |||
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