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Any ladies thought about being Domme?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not my thing at all
Me neither. Either way to be honest. Reckon I’d probably be pretty good at it though  "
I’m the same, reckon I’d be proper braw but nahhhhh, doesn’t make my clit tingle  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I quite enjoy dominating a man now and then.
The problem is that the men like to tell me what they want me to do to them. Which kind of defeats the object. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why does the word domme need to exist?
Why not?
It indicates a dominant female as opposed to a dom or dominant man."
If a woman says in her profile that she's a dom, would you think she's actually a man?
We should also have subbe and sub. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex
Respect where respect is due. Great profile! How much are houses in Cambridgeshire?  "
Thanks 
Erm well it depends but average is about £350,000 thats a 2 bed semi detached. |
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"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex
Respect where respect is due. Great profile! How much are houses in Cambridgeshire?
Thanks
Erm well it depends but average is about £350,000 thats a 2 bed semi detached. "
Damn it  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
What is it about submission that interests you OP? What styles of domination appeal? What are your main interests from a submissive perspective?Why do you think you'd make a good submissive? And more importantly how do you define Domination and submission or in a wider context BDSM?
Are you looking for a 24/7 Domme/sub relationship or just some occasional kink play?
All of the above and more are questions any decent dominant will ask and expect answers to - submission is something that comes from within and is almost a feeling more than something you just suddenly decide to switch on.
It might also help find what you're looking for if you provide some detail about your submissive side in your profile text if it isn't there already  |
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By *or you! OP Man
over a year ago
Altrincham |
"What is it about submission that interests you OP? What styles of domination appeal? What are your main interests from a submissive perspective?Why do you think you'd make a good submissive? And more importantly how do you define Domination and submission or in a wider context BDSM?
Are you looking for a 24/7 Domme/sub relationship or just some occasional kink play?
All of the above and more are questions any decent dominant will ask and expect answers to - submission is something that comes from within and is almost a feeling more than something you just suddenly decide to switch on.
It might also help find what you're looking for if you provide some detail about your submissive side in your profile text if it isn't there already "
I’m just finding my feet with it.
I was in a position for the first time last night whereby I was in a situation where I found myself stimulated.
I’ve never thought of it before, hence the OP |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"What is it about submission that interests you OP? What styles of domination appeal? What are your main interests from a submissive perspective?Why do you think you'd make a good submissive? And more importantly how do you define Domination and submission or in a wider context BDSM?
Are you looking for a 24/7 Domme/sub relationship or just some occasional kink play?
All of the above and more are questions any decent dominant will ask and expect answers to - submission is something that comes from within and is almost a feeling more than something you just suddenly decide to switch on.
It might also help find what you're looking for if you provide some detail about your submissive side in your profile text if it isn't there already
I’m just finding my feet with it.
I was in a position for the first time last night whereby I was in a situation where I found myself stimulated.
I’ve never thought of it before, hence the OP"
Everyone has to start somewhere and for starters I'd recommend giving some thought to the questions above, as well as doing some serious reading about that side of things, there are some great resources and blogs out there you can find through Google that will help get your mind round things - may also be worth searching for and completing an on-line BDSM questionnaire that will help you understand your potential likes and dislikes. You could also do worse than get along to a local munch (social for kinksters) just Google your area and munch and you'll usually find something.
You may of course find that your interest is purely "kink play" with a willing partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that either so long as you discuss boundaries and limits beforehand.
Which actually is another thing any Domme will ask and want to know - what your limits are (both soft and hard ones) which will enable her to understand you better and know what buttons she can and can't press |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?"
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense  |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense "
I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion."
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?!  |
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By *or you! OP Man
over a year ago
Altrincham |
"What is it about submission that interests you OP? What styles of domination appeal? What are your main interests from a submissive perspective?Why do you think you'd make a good submissive? And more importantly how do you define Domination and submission or in a wider context BDSM?
Are you looking for a 24/7 Domme/sub relationship or just some occasional kink play?
All of the above and more are questions any decent dominant will ask and expect answers to - submission is something that comes from within and is almost a feeling more than something you just suddenly decide to switch on.
It might also help find what you're looking for if you provide some detail about your submissive side in your profile text if it isn't there already
I’m just finding my feet with it.
I was in a position for the first time last night whereby I was in a situation where I found myself stimulated.
I’ve never thought of it before, hence the OP
Everyone has to start somewhere and for starters I'd recommend giving some thought to the questions above, as well as doing some serious reading about that side of things, there are some great resources and blogs out there you can find through Google that will help get your mind round things - may also be worth searching for and completing an on-line BDSM questionnaire that will help you understand your potential likes and dislikes. You could also do worse than get along to a local munch (social for kinksters) just Google your area and munch and you'll usually find something.
You may of course find that your interest is purely "kink play" with a willing partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that either so long as you discuss boundaries and limits beforehand.
Which actually is another thing any Domme will ask and want to know - what your limits are (both soft and hard ones) which will enable her to understand you better and know what buttons she can and can't press "
Tx for the info. Very informative |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion."
It's definitely not acting although those concerned do assume a role - for me my submissive side comes from within and whilst it's not an over-riding all consuming part of my life, it's very much deep seated and anything but an act.
Giving someone control, and allowing them to use it is a very powerful thing and not something I could give to just anyone that calls themselves Dominant, there needs to be a match and connection just as there is with any other relationship, and probably a deeper one than a more superficial swingers match - trust, respect and more are implicit to it too. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"What is it about submission that interests you OP? What styles of domination appeal? What are your main interests from a submissive perspective?Why do you think you'd make a good submissive? And more importantly how do you define Domination and submission or in a wider context BDSM?
Are you looking for a 24/7 Domme/sub relationship or just some occasional kink play?
All of the above and more are questions any decent dominant will ask and expect answers to - submission is something that comes from within and is almost a feeling more than something you just suddenly decide to switch on.
It might also help find what you're looking for if you provide some detail about your submissive side in your profile text if it isn't there already
I’m just finding my feet with it.
I was in a position for the first time last night whereby I was in a situation where I found myself stimulated.
I’ve never thought of it before, hence the OP
Everyone has to start somewhere and for starters I'd recommend giving some thought to the questions above, as well as doing some serious reading about that side of things, there are some great resources and blogs out there you can find through Google that will help get your mind round things - may also be worth searching for and completing an on-line BDSM questionnaire that will help you understand your potential likes and dislikes. You could also do worse than get along to a local munch (social for kinksters) just Google your area and munch and you'll usually find something.
You may of course find that your interest is purely "kink play" with a willing partner and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that either so long as you discuss boundaries and limits beforehand.
Which actually is another thing any Domme will ask and want to know - what your limits are (both soft and hard ones) which will enable her to understand you better and know what buttons she can and can't press
Tx for the info. Very informative "
All very good information. The other thing I ask or look at is your mental wellbeing and health etc |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! "
https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix."
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine "
Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all."
To understand you'd first have to understand BDSM and that's not a quick 5 minute learn
That's not to cloud anything either, BDSM is or can be a very different kind of sexuality that doesn't have to include anything sexual in the conventional sense - it's as much a mental state as it is a physical one, possibly more so. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
Cambridge |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all."
I made no negative comments about vanilla sex. I said I find it 'Meh' It just doesnt mentally stimulate me that's all |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all.
I made no negative comments about vanilla sex. I said I find it 'Meh' It just doesnt mentally stimulate me that's all "
No I know you didn't, i've just seen it from the kink community when looking into it. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all.
To understand you'd first have to understand BDSM and that's not a quick 5 minute learn
That's not to cloud anything either, BDSM is or can be a very different kind of sexuality that doesn't have to include anything sexual in the conventional sense - it's as much a mental state as it is a physical one, possibly more so."
I've done 1 of them tests haha but it's not in my nature to hurt anybody. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all.
To understand you'd first have to understand BDSM and that's not a quick 5 minute learn
That's not to cloud anything either, BDSM is or can be a very different kind of sexuality that doesn't have to include anything sexual in the conventional sense - it's as much a mental state as it is a physical one, possibly more so. I've done 1 of them tests haha but it's not in my nature to hurt anybody."
And that's absolutely fine - but in a BDSM context no-one is getting "hurt" it's very much about agreed boundaries between two (or more) consenting people and in some instances pain doesn't even come into it - as I said it's about a mental state as much as anything.
Yes pain and restraint *can* come into it and some crave it more than others and get a high from the pain alone but it's not all about pain as the tabloids would have you believe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all.
To understand you'd first have to understand BDSM and that's not a quick 5 minute learn
That's not to cloud anything either, BDSM is or can be a very different kind of sexuality that doesn't have to include anything sexual in the conventional sense - it's as much a mental state as it is a physical one, possibly more so. I've done 1 of them tests haha but it's not in my nature to hurt anybody.
And that's absolutely fine - but in a BDSM context no-one is getting "hurt" it's very much about agreed boundaries between two (or more) consenting people and in some instances pain doesn't even come into it - as I said it's about a mental state as much as anything.
Yes pain and restraint *can* come into it and some crave it more than others and get a high from the pain alone but it's not all about pain as the tabloids would have you believe."
I was just going to say that. I like the idea of Post Orgasm Torture. The torture part isn't inflicting pain. |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
Chester/Wirral |
"I love it!!! Prefer it to sex Is that because there is a facade to hide behind?
No not at all. I find sex a bit meh. I love reading someones body and exploring the mind to achieve pleasure. The power exchange is electric and having someone trust you that much is intense I'm trying to understand it, seems like acting to me. You're more vulnerable just being yourself in my opinion.
If that's your opinion that's cool. I know what I like and that's it. I don't understand why you think I'm 'vulnerable' if I'm myself?! https://coffeeandkink.me/2017/10/12/vanilla/
Read that from a famous dominatrix.
Look I'm very secure in myself and who I am. If you don't think thats the case based on a article thats absolutely fine Just see negative connotations regarding vanilla sex. I'm just curious that's all.
To understand you'd first have to understand BDSM and that's not a quick 5 minute learn
That's not to cloud anything either, BDSM is or can be a very different kind of sexuality that doesn't have to include anything sexual in the conventional sense - it's as much a mental state as it is a physical one, possibly more so. I've done 1 of them tests haha but it's not in my nature to hurt anybody.
And that's absolutely fine - but in a BDSM context no-one is getting "hurt" it's very much about agreed boundaries between two (or more) consenting people and in some instances pain doesn't even come into it - as I said it's about a mental state as much as anything.
Yes pain and restraint *can* come into it and some crave it more than others and get a high from the pain alone but it's not all about pain as the tabloids would have you believe."
Yeah I get that it's all about the trust. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a great Domme at the moment. During the week she sets me tasks to do. One day a week I go clean her house. And one night a week she sits on my neck and slaps me in the face as hard as she can... All while pulling in my collar and ch oking me!
It's great! (no you can't have her username) |
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