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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
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There’s definitely more than one ‘the one’ and I’m coming to realise that it’s generally the last kind of person I’d expect it to be. He isn’t on my horizon at the moment I don’t think but I’m actually excited by the prospect of another ‘one’ in the future.
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over a year ago
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Statistically, no not just one. Or for the sake of it, yes if there is then the odds of them being within your life to actually meet them are very low.
I do however think there are a few "ones" that are perfect matches for that eternal soul mate love deal. Still not a massive jump in favorable odds but much more realistic.
I do think far too many people settle for what they have though instead of looking for their "one" |
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By *VineMan
over a year ago
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"There’s definitely more than one ‘the one’ and I’m coming to realise that it’s generally the last kind of person I’d expect it to be. He isn’t on my horizon at the moment I don’t think but I’m actually excited by the prospect of another ‘one’ in the future.
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I agree, there will be a number of people that could be ‘the one’. But at the moment I’m looking for ‘the one for now’ and maybe another for later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love "
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along. |
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along. "
my thoughts exactly |
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along. "
I've never looked, in complete honesty. Thats why ive spent most of my life single... with blips in between |
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along.
I've never looked, in complete honesty. Thats why ive spent most of my life single... with blips in between "
Given up is perhaps the wrong word. Scared of it, is perhaps the best way to describe it. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along.
I've never looked, in complete honesty. Thats why ive spent most of my life single... with blips in between
Given up is perhaps the wrong word. Scared of it, is perhaps the best way to describe it. "
Why scared? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along. "
I agree however I do believe in fate.
I think there are people that come into your life at certain times, sometimes it's not the right time, as you have more learning to do, more "finding yourself". A chance encounter can bring you into contact when the time IS right, and the rest as they say is history.
You aren't looking for it, you have no intention of it happening but it does.
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By *educedWoman
over a year ago
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I often get an influx of messages which I don't read because of time or inclination and I wondered just the other day, whether in amongst the cock pics, invitations to fuck in their car/truck/submarine on their way through Brum or can we meet now so I can lick you for hours messages, if I'm deleting a message from someone who could be the one?
I'm not necessarily talking about the 'one' in a romantic way, I doubt anyone is that brave, but in terms of a potential friend/ fuck buddy etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along.
I've never looked, in complete honesty. Thats why ive spent most of my life single... with blips in between
Given up is perhaps the wrong word. Scared of it, is perhaps the best way to describe it.
Why scared? "
I suffered a heartbreaking loss just after i turned 18. Ever since then, I've run before things have gotten too deep. It's a form of self preservation. I know that i do it. I just dont know how to change it. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I often get an influx of messages which I don't read because of time or inclination and I wondered just the other day, whether in amongst the cock pics, invitations to fuck in their car/truck/submarine on their way through Brum or can we meet now so I can lick you for hours messages, if I'm deleting a message from someone who could be the one?
I'm not necessarily talking about the 'one' in a romantic way, I doubt anyone is that brave, but in terms of a potential friend/ fuck buddy etc. "
I do that, it's why I can't bring myself to bulk delete!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers... "
The global population is, what, over 7 billion today? Closer to 8 billion. If there really is just 'the one' for each of us, the odds of winning the lottery are far, far, far, FAR better than finding 'the one'.
I don't believe in 'the one', but I do believe some folk are fortunate enough to meet other folk who compliment each other, who make each other stronger and better somehow. Synergy, if you like. I'd love to meet the beans to my toast, or the gin to my tonic, but I don't believe there is just one individual to be synergistic with. |
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There's only been one girl I've seriously thought was 'the one', and that was over 10 years ago now. There have been others that I've liked a lot before and after her, but she is the only one I can safely say I fell unheard, deep and unconditional love with. Right person, wrong time and that ship has firmly sailed. |
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers...
The global population is, what, over 7 billion today? Closer to 8 billion. If there really is just 'the one' for each of us, the odds of winning the lottery are far, far, far, FAR better than finding 'the one'.
I don't believe in 'the one', but I do believe some folk are fortunate enough to meet other folk who compliment each other, who make each other stronger and better somehow. Synergy, if you like. I'd love to meet the beans to my toast, or the gin to my tonic, but I don't believe there is just one individual to be synergistic with."
Well damn it! I said it yet you said it better than me. I'm off to go and cry in a corner!   |
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By *akie32Man
over a year ago
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I thought I had met the one, until she fucked off with someone else while I was working away, I came home to an empty house, we had been together 12 years , no signs at all, it's really put me off long term relationship s |
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers...
The global population is, what, over 7 billion today? Closer to 8 billion. If there really is just 'the one' for each of us, the odds of winning the lottery are far, far, far, FAR better than finding 'the one'.
I don't believe in 'the one', but I do believe some folk are fortunate enough to meet other folk who compliment each other, who make each other stronger and better somehow. Synergy, if you like. I'd love to meet the beans to my toast, or the gin to my tonic, but I don't believe there is just one individual to be synergistic with.
Well damn it! I said it yet you said it better than me. I'm off to go and cry in a corner! "
Don't cry sweet pea! Remember, your chances of winning the lottery have just got soooooo much better! Ha ha ha haaaaa! XX |
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers...
The global population is, what, over 7 billion today? Closer to 8 billion. If there really is just 'the one' for each of us, the odds of winning the lottery are far, far, far, FAR better than finding 'the one'.
I don't believe in 'the one', but I do believe some folk are fortunate enough to meet other folk who compliment each other, who make each other stronger and better somehow. Synergy, if you like. I'd love to meet the beans to my toast, or the gin to my tonic, but I don't believe there is just one individual to be synergistic with.
Well damn it! I said it yet you said it better than me. I'm off to go and cry in a corner!
Don't cry sweet pea! Remember, your chances of winning the lottery have just got soooooo much better! Ha ha ha haaaaa! XX"
Silver linings, forever alone but loaded!  I'll give you £5 for the pep talk |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I dont actually believe that there's that one person who will be the perfect fit. I think that there are potentials. Ive also realised that compromise is essential in making a relationship work. As long as they don't compromise your values or you as a person, then they are worth making for that special person. I've yet to be willing to make those compromises, the reason i am still single i suppose. Maybe one of those potentials havent come along yet, or perhaps ive already missed the boat a few times, i'm not sure. But i am of the mindset that ive come too far, to even spot them, if they had it written in neon above their heads. I do believe deep down, that I'll never meet someone that i want to spend my life with.... But maybe that's the cynical part of me, whis given up on love
I sometimes think that people come into your life when you're least expecting and catch you off guard. I don't believe in fate or anything like that, I do however think that looking for love is a bit like looking for your keys. You can search and search but it's only when you stop and relax that you realise they were in your pocket all along.
I've never looked, in complete honesty. Thats why ive spent most of my life single... with blips in between
Given up is perhaps the wrong word. Scared of it, is perhaps the best way to describe it.
Why scared?
I suffered a heartbreaking loss just after i turned 18. Ever since then, I've run before things have gotten too deep. It's a form of self preservation. I know that i do it. I just dont know how to change it. "
I don't know if changing it is the answer, maybe its a case of knowing and stopping or the right person finding the chink in your armour.
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I often get an influx of messages which I don't read because of time or inclination and I wondered just the other day, whether in amongst the cock pics, invitations to fuck in their car/truck/submarine on their way through Brum or can we meet now so I can lick you for hours messages, if I'm deleting a message from someone who could be the one?
I'm not necessarily talking about the 'one' in a romantic way, I doubt anyone is that brave, but in terms of a potential friend/ fuck buddy etc. "
You'd better get replying then!
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you probably have more than one 'One' and agree they normally pop up when you least expect it and are nothing like who you would imagine they would be. |
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If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One". |
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"If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One"."
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"If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One"."
damn! A potential 4/5 ain't bad. I'm a miserable bastard. |
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"If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One". damn! A potential 4/5 ain't bad. I'm a miserable bastard. "
That's where a lot of men fail |
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"If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One". damn! A potential 4/5 ain't bad. I'm a miserable bastard.
That's where a lot of men fail "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't actually think there is. But I do believe in love. Either someone works well for you or they don't but I don't think that's necessarily one person above all others. Until you learn someone's flaws which you don't often learn until you live with them and even then they may not materialise for a while I just don't think there can be just one person. Yes I've a couple of marriages under my belt  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I believe in fate, sometimes someone can come into your life at just the right time and become the one even though you’re not looking for them or they fit what you think you’re looking for. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't believe there is "The one", that's too much pressure to put on one person and one relationship, it's not fair and sets you up for failure. What I do believe is you can have enough in common with one person to want to share your home and life with them, then you can find friends to share the other bits with happily and without jealousy or resentment |
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"Some people say that there is someone out there for everyone...
I really don't believe that that is true "
Now see, I disagree with this exact wording. There are far too many people in the world that it is very unlikely that they will not be exactly what you want and you what they want. The kicker to that is they could be anywhere in the world. |
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I think there’s definitely more than one “one”.
What is love? Often it’s about reciprocation as much as anything.
Or, it’s made up of a million tiny things which often pass by unnoticed.
Or, it’s a heartbeat. |
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I don't believe in "the one". I think you connect with different people in different ways and it's all about compromising on the other parts so while one person appeals to your sense of humour you could fall for someone else because of their sexuality.
There is no perfect person, there are many people who could fit it just depends if you're willing to put the effort in to accept them completely. |
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"If I can find someone I can stand being in the same room as for more than day; the sex is great; he shares the housework and bills; he likes animals and isn't miserable- I'll call him "The One". damn! A potential 4/5 ain't bad. I'm a miserable bastard.
That's where a lot of men fail
Positive lifestyle change incoming! haha"
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I don't think there is such a thing as "the one", a soul mate or the one that got away. I do think that people waste a lot of time holding out for an ideal or pining after someone that they can't be with though |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"Some people say that there is someone out there for everyone...
I really don't believe that that is true
Now see, I disagree with this exact wording. There are far too many people in the world that it is very unlikely that they will not be exactly what you want and you what they want. The kicker to that is they could be anywhere in the world. "
Is that why I see so many old guys with Thai ladies? |
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"Some people say that there is someone out there for everyone...
I really don't believe that that is true
Now see, I disagree with this exact wording. There are far too many people in the world that it is very unlikely that they will not be exactly what you want and you what they want. The kicker to that is they could be anywhere in the world.
Is that why I see so many old guys with Thai ladies? "
Of course! What did you think, that they got them through the mail? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think there are a few "the one's" that we meet in our lifetime, but the timing has to be right for the stars to align and for it to work out.  "
Timing and locations
Im not suggesting your my one btw
But location is a huge factor |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Why have one when you can have many? better off staying single and live the swinger lifestyle! UNLESS!!.... you meet someone on here and you fall for each other and then you can do it together! Win win |
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers... "
Nope I don’t believe there’s “the one”. I think there are many “one”s. Millions in fact. You match with more people then you could ever meet in your lifetime.
I feel like the concept of “the one” originated in a time when people didn’t leave their small towns or villages, so there was a small pool to choose from. Nowadays the world is your oyster. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Truth is how do u know if you found the one people change with time and circumstance
Im not sure anyone could truelly know until 20 to 30 years in
I had the one but we grew apart due to lifes challenges iv found the right amount of chemestry with a few more but again life timing and geography have got in the way but its not something iv ever activly chased and im not even sure if its a real thing easier to just not think about these things |
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"Truth is how do u know if you found the one people change with time and circumstance
Im not sure anyone could truelly know until 20 to 30 years in
I had the one but we grew apart due to lifes challenges iv found the right amount of chemestry with a few more but again life timing and geography have got in the way but its not something iv ever activly chased and im not even sure if its a real thing easier to just not think about these things"
I think there's an element of truth in your comment about not knowing until
20 or 30 years in. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don't believe in "the one". I think you connect with different people in different ways and it's all about compromising on the other parts so while one person appeals to your sense of humour you could fall for someone else because of their sexuality.
There is no perfect person, there are many people who could fit it just depends if you're willing to put the effort in to accept them completely. "
I agree, I think timing is a big part of it too. That person matching you at that part of your life when you meet. |
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I believe in love and forever after, am lucky to have quite a few friends that can testify this. I've never found the person I would like to spend the next year with, let alone the rest of my life hence why I'm happily long term single and never been married. This year though my lufe is heading for major changes and I might be open to another non fab proper friend with benefits again after a decade without one. |
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I think for some people there is 'The One'. In my younger self I subscribed to the concept, but several relationships later I am very sceptical. However, I do believe that there are people you are compatible with and build a relationship for life.  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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Speaking from my personal experience I've known 3 people in my life that at the time I was in love with, each in very different ways at different point in my life. None of them lasted (obviously) however at that point in our lives we matched but then grew apart.
I think for some they grow together, for others it doesn't work like that. I don't think there is 'the one' I do however think that there are many 'the one now's' |
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i believe in the one. i lived with a guy been married and a couple more engagemwnts but i didnt find the man i truelly loved until i was 41. Hes a lot older than me if nature takes its course he will die way before me. We spend our whole relationship.just making memories
After 13 years i still love him more and more each day
When he passes i will never look to date hecause im living.my happy ever after now |
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"i believe in the one. i lived with a guy been married and a couple more engagemwnts but i didnt find the man i truelly loved until i was 41. Hes a lot older than me if nature takes its course he will die way before me. We spend our whole relationship.just making memories
After 13 years i still love him more and more each day
When he passes i will never look to date hecause im living.my happy ever after now"
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Thought I had found the one
Turns out he was married heard all the usual excuses that his wife didn’t like sex and it was a marriage of convience
Broke my heart to break this off but I couldn’t as I would have hated it if his wife had found out and I had broken family
Hopefully one day the one will walk into my life. |
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I think there is a one.
I let my one slip through my hands many years ago when a lot younger. We remain friends and my heart skips when I see her or hear her name mentioned.
We both have other lives but I don't think she feels the same for me, but she's the closest to come to be the one for me  |
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No I think there's plenty out there - what are the chances, statistically, if there was only one, that you'd meet? What if he was born in Outer Mongolia?
Nah, there's a bunch of people on the planet you could love for ever, who'd love you right back! |
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"As is becoming frequently more prevalent on here, I'm seeing more and more people looking to date or being more open about finding partners. That in itself is not a bad thing in my mind, but it's got me thinking. Do you think that there is just one person out there for you? The mythical 'one' that will match and compliment you in all things or do you think that it's much more about timing and compromise when you find someone that fits at that moment?
Over to you fabbers... "
No such thing as "the one". Or if there is "the one" lives nowhere near me!!!!
Joking aside, I think there are too many people in the world for there to be "a" one. As others have posted, I think there are people that come into your life for a reason, and soulmates can also be just friends. |
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There's a lathing doing the rounds that says we have 3ckoves in out life.
1. The love that looks right. Usually early love that confirms to all the hallmark moments.
2. The hard life. The one that hurts when it ends. The love we wished was right.
3. The love that lasts. the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer.
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"No I think there's plenty out there - what are the chances, statistically, if there was only one, that you'd meet? What if he was born in Outer Mongolia?
Nah, there's a bunch of people on the planet you could love for ever, who'd love you right back! "
Now that sounds more desirable. |
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