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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
We all know that it happens, little stories about other people, tales of bad behaviour and the like, scintillating tit-bits that we hear from the friend of a friend...
Do you enjoy these things though? Do you actively seek out finding out what the story is behind a banning or a forum fallout?
Where do you draw the line at gossiping?
Do you stop to find out both sides of the story before making assumptions?
Im interested to hear people's input on this. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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Goes over my head like an aeroplane.
There's usually at least 15 versions of the same rumour floating around and 16 of those are BS.
People do sometimes love being gossiped about though. And almost do their best to encourage it.
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over a year ago
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I have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. It's clear that people have returned on new profiles and I have no idea who the heck they are. 
I judge on every new piece of information I know. My opinion means nothing so need for anyone to be bothered by what I think. 
In 2019 can we have a weekly Forum Omnibus thread please? Details of who fucked who, LPP to watch out for, who the secret kik group is slagging off this week etc etc. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Gossip is malicious or talk that is untrue or unconfirmed.
Finding out the truth about something is not gossip."
True, but if the truth is of no relevance to you and the story then gets passed around, isn't that gossip too?
If it's just finding out what happened out of idle curiosity then is that not potentially damaging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I struggle a bit to believe that there's all this background bitching and Kik gossiping etc. Surely no one can be bothered, or is interested enough in what other people are up to, for that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve no idea half of what’s being gossiped about. And if it’s about me then I’m glad I’m interesting enough conversation. I do sometimes like to hear from my friends what they’ve done to get a forum ban because it’s mostly funny. But I’m mostly oblivious to what’s going on behind the scenes x |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I struggle a bit to believe that there's all this background bitching and Kik gossiping etc. Surely no one can be bothered, or is interested enough in what other people are up to, for that? "
Sadly it does go on, some indulge in it, some don't, some enjoy making up things just to get attention. |
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"I struggle a bit to believe that there's all this background bitching and Kik gossiping etc. Surely no one can be bothered, or is interested enough in what other people are up to, for that?
Sadly it does go on, some indulge in it, some don't, some enjoy making up things just to get attention. "
Sounds like you’ve got all the gossip |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
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"I struggle a bit to believe that there's all this background bitching and Kik gossiping etc. Surely no one can be bothered, or is interested enough in what other people are up to, for that?
Sadly it does go on, some indulge in it, some don't, some enjoy making up things just to get attention.
Sounds like you’ve got all the gossip "
I do! Want to hear?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. It's clear that people have returned on new profiles and I have no idea who the heck they are.
I judge on every new piece of information I know. My opinion means nothing so need for anyone to be bothered by what I think.
In 2019 can we have a weekly Forum Omnibus thread please? Details of who fucked who, LPP to watch out for, who the secret kik group is slagging off this week etc etc. "
A forum omnibus would be great. No need for watching Coronation Street anymore.
As for gossip and what happens behind the scenes, no. It all seems rather like a lot of hard work, and then profiting on others miseries a bit. Im happy enough being ignorant. (Unless anyone wants to give me the full omnibus version  ) |
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over a year ago
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I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad. |
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"I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I struggle a bit to believe that there's all this background bitching and Kik gossiping etc. Surely no one can be bothered, or is interested enough in what other people are up to, for that? "
Yes people DO go to all that trouble!
I've seen things wrote on Facebook group chats before now about a guy. Which were very untrue. There are spiteful, revengeful people with a lot of time on their hands! |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad. "
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t like gossip either online or real world. It’s often spiteful and totally unnecessary. Much rather say and be told something to my face. "
Ditto, but these people generally don't have the balls.
They hide behind a computer screen. |
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"I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad.
Well wrote "
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I don’t like gossip either online or real world. It’s often spiteful and totally unnecessary. Much rather say and be told something to my face.
Ditto, but these people generally don't have the balls.
They hide behind a computer screen."
Dare I agree with you to a certain extent...
It's not about being behind a computer screen, it's about being nosey, meddlesome or at some points malicious.
If I have a problem with someone I will speak to them about it privately and deal with them directly. I won't go whispering where they can't defend themselves. I think it's important to remember that there are two sides to every story. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad.
Well wrote thank you x"
Re your point about being the subject of gossip it's tricky.
It'll go straight over my head whereas I know it affects and upsets Fox. The difficulty is in biting your tongue and not reacting to those acting out of spite or for whatever twisted motivation they have, as any reaction from you is more often than not exactly what they seek. If you don't rise to their efforts and maintain a dignified silence in response you will, to those with any common sense, look the better person.
Never easy, but definitely the best course of action.
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"I don’t like gossip either online or real world. It’s often spiteful and totally unnecessary. Much rather say and be told something to my face.
Ditto, but these people generally don't have the balls.
They hide behind a computer screen.
Dare I agree with you to a certain extent...
It's not about being behind a computer screen, it's about being nosey, meddlesome or at some points malicious.
If I have a problem with someone I will speak to them about it privately and deal with them directly. I won't go whispering where they can't defend themselves. I think it's important to remember that there are two sides to every story. "
We nearly agree on everything now.
Some don't even give you a chance to defend yourself or investigate properly. When things can be done in person and not on a phone it is cowardly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find that gossip only ever tells one side of a story and that side is often misinterpreted or very biased. It can even be malicious, the person spreading it has often been burned and wants revenge so I would take it with a pinch of salt and certainly wouldn't go passing it on.
Being the subject of gossip is one of those things I'd like to say I don't care about but I do, especially if I know that someone is telling lies to damage my reputation. I'm a private person in general so knowing I'm being talked about makes me quite anxious. Spiteful people upset me, I don't understand the need to hurt others and those who help them spread that rubbish are just as bad.
Well wrote thank you x
Re your point about being the subject of gossip it's tricky.
It'll go straight over my head whereas I know it affects and upsets Fox. The difficulty is in biting your tongue and not reacting to those acting out of spite or for whatever twisted motivation they have, as any reaction from you is more often than not exactly what they seek. If you don't rise to their efforts and maintain a dignified silence in response you will, to those with any common sense, look the better person.
Never easy, but definitely the best course of action.
A"
That's the thing. That's what they want. Especially those taking pleasure in spreading lies and getting sick thrills by telling you they're doing it.
It definitely says more about them than it does you, you just have to hope people see them for what they are and if they don't then more fool them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
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"I have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. It's clear that people have returned on new profiles and I have no idea who the heck they are.
I judge on every new piece of information I know. My opinion means nothing so need for anyone to be bothered by what I think.
In 2019 can we have a weekly Forum Omnibus thread please? Details of who fucked who, LPP to watch out for, who the secret kik group is slagging off this week etc etc. "
Please. I'm so confused half of the time.
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"What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
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There is a kik and Facebook fab group 
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"What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
There is a kik and Facebook fab group
Mrs"
Yes. Few of my friends have left it due to the amount of bitchy behaviour.
I'm not on Facebook but when with a friend stuff she showed me was eye-opening.
Nasty. |
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"What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
There is a kik and Facebook fab group
Mrs
Yes. Few of my friends have left it due to the amount of bitchy behaviour.
I'm not on Facebook but when with a friend stuff she showed me was eye-opening.
Nasty."
Who's on the groups? |
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"I have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. It's clear that people have returned on new profiles and I have no idea who the heck they are.
I judge on every new piece of information I know. My opinion means nothing so need for anyone to be bothered by what I think.
In 2019 can we have a weekly Forum Omnibus thread please? Details of who fucked who, LPP to watch out for, who the secret kik group is slagging off this week etc etc. "
I need to get in on this secret kik group... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A lie gets halfway round the world before the truth has the chance to put its trousers on - Winston Churchill
Don't believe everything you read on the fab forums - Sir Isaac Newton
Selfish Fucker is misunderstood - Mother Theresa of Calcutta |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cannot bear it, gossip is damaging and unnecessary
Just started a new job, and there is lots of it, people thinking they are being 'nice' no, love you just making yourself look like a cunt.
Oh the joys of managing a team of six 20 somethings! Not for the faint hearted |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hate gossip. Didn’t know there was a FB group. I wouldn’t join it anyway my FB is private. I’ve heard there are a few kik groups
though. I was on a girls one but I left it ages ago. That one wasn’t gossipy though to be fair.
Not interested. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
There is a kik and Facebook fab group
Mrs
Yes. Few of my friends have left it due to the amount of bitchy behaviour.
I'm not on Facebook but when with a friend stuff she showed me was eye-opening.
Nasty."
Aren’t you just believing one side of a story there though?
It’s interesting to me that people totally believe what their Fab ‘mates’ tell them.
I speak as I find. I give everyone a fair go. If I see and hear it for myself then I base my opinions on that. Like nasty people that name other people on threads or awful people that bad mouth someone on a thread when that person hasn’t even commented and then are cheeky enough to say they get abuse or are ‘bullied’. Shameful behaviour in my opinion.
Those are the things you should look out for and if people are daft enough to believe something just because a random stranger on a sex site says something then more fool them. They are also ones to avoid.
Gossip? You can keep it. I will chat to those I like and trust and I will use my own judgement based on behaviour to form my opinions because I’m a grown up. |
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I know who are the gossips. Drama queens and shit stirers are on here and i stay well fucking clear. However it is always a source of cringeworthy entertainment when theres obviously been a fall out of theives and its played out in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What about all the slagging off that goes on the Kik fab group and on Facebook.
Some in here told others not to meet me just over a one of my forum posts.
When I hit back guys jumped up looking for a sympathy fuck defending their princesses.
There is a kik and Facebook fab group
Mrs
Yes. Few of my friends have left it due to the amount of bitchy behaviour.
I'm not on Facebook but when with a friend stuff she showed me was eye-opening.
Nasty.
Aren’t you just believing one side of a story there though?
It’s interesting to me that people totally believe what their Fab ‘mates’ tell them.
I speak as I find. I give everyone a fair go. If I see and hear it for myself then I base my opinions on that. Like nasty people that name other people on threads or awful people that bad mouth someone on a thread when that person hasn’t even commented and then are cheeky enough to say they get abuse or are ‘bullied’. Shameful behaviour in my opinion.
Those are the things you should look out for and if people are daft enough to believe something just because a random stranger on a sex site says something then more fool them. They are also ones to avoid.
Gossip? You can keep it. I will chat to those I like and trust and I will use my own judgement based on behaviour to form my opinions because I’m a grown up. "
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"A lie gets halfway round the world before the truth has the chance to put its trousers on - Winston Churchill
Don't believe everything you read on the fab forums - Sir Isaac Newton
Selfish Fucker is misunderstood - Mother Theresa of Calcutta"
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"We all know that it happens, little stories about other people, tales of bad behaviour and the like, scintillating tit-bits that we hear from the friend of a friend...
Do you enjoy these things though? Do you actively seek out finding out what the story is behind a banning or a forum fallout?
Where do you draw the line at gossiping?
Do you stop to find out both sides of the story before making assumptions?
Im interested to hear people's input on this. "
I can honestly say we have never been involved in any gossip whatsoever on the forum , on fab or in life generally . Perhaps it’s because we don’t have Facebook or Kik or any of those things .
We have been gossiped about though , and we have confronted the gossipers face to face .
Life’s too short to get involved in it all , so we will do our best to avoid it .
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Work is the worst place for it, apparently me and my assistant are shagging according to duty rumour, we're actually not, but we do get on well and find it funny when we nip out for lunch together and all the gossips start up again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Gossip is malicious or talk that is untrue or unconfirmed.
Finding out the truth about something is not gossip.
True, but if the truth is of no relevance to you and the story then gets passed around, isn't that gossip too?
If it's just finding out what happened out of idle curiosity then is that not potentially damaging? "
Not if you don't pass it on.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""Always be careful of what you hear about a woman.
Rumours are either from a man who can't have her, or a woman that can't compete"
The same applies visa versa.
One thing Fab has taught me. "
This is so true and people should really bear this in mind |
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"I know who are the gossips. Drama queens and shit stirers are on here and i stay well fucking clear. However it is always a source of cringeworthy entertainment when theres obviously been a fall out of theives and its played out in the forums. "
I never see this. I'm crap at picking things up. Omnibus thread needed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good morning,
I am going to do this in one swoop. For the good folk with true intentions:
Gossip is the route of all evil. Cut it out of your life permanently. Don't look back. Don't dwell on it. Put your shield up to protect yourself.
I did not want to believe the following, but it is true what they say:
"Evil girls have the prettiest faces"
As for the bad boys hell bent on danger and destruction. You think you're special... well... this is for you:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QDYbXTP1jig
Have a lovely day because Christmas and New Years is around the corner!
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Oh. I heard some wonderful things about myself over the years. I find the worst gossips are the ones that don’t know they’re doing anything wrong. Life is easier when you leave them to trip themselves over.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think I must be shit at this fab malarkey because I don't hear any gossip. And I don't know these bitchy kik/facebook groups. I need to find a friend of a friend to help resolve.
That being that, I think it's normal for people to discuss other people - it's more about the intention behind it.
It's Christmas soon which is exciting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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""Always be careful of what you hear about a woman.
Rumours are either from a man who can't have her, or a woman that can't compete"
The same applies visa versa.
One thing Fab has taught me. "
This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So there isn't enough gossip and childish behaviours here, so some of the users need more of a fix on FB or KIK? That's hilarious, and what they say about me/us couldn't care less, they're only potential objects of list or sex games.
Be different if it was my friends or family. |
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