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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not at all, a few people have had glimpses but I have not met anyone for 4 1/2 years and no one has ever really go to know me"
I’d go as far as to say no one on the planet knows the real me and I’m not sure that I do yet either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm cautious about dropping my guard too much on here.
Oh definitely. In public you see my shield as I painted it, I suppose. "
See I’m not cautious at all but I am complex so people would have to spend a lot of time with me to see the real me. As I don’t feel I’ve fully expressed all parts of me I know I haven’t met the whole of me yet |
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"I'm cautious about dropping my guard too much on here.
Oh definitely. In public you see my shield as I painted it, I suppose.
See I’m not cautious at all but I am complex so people would have to spend a lot of time with me to see the real me. As I don’t feel I’ve fully expressed all parts of me I know I haven’t met the whole of me yet"
I'm complex too, but (some) people on Fab take vulnerability or authenticity (at least from women? I'm only speaking for my own experience) and turn it into a weapon against us. I get enough baseless crap let alone feeding the trolls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think I'm me but I don't think I'm perceived the same without seeing my expressions or hearing my tone.
People I speak to often comment how I'm different than they expect because my sense of humor is quite cheeky or sarky which can seem a bit grumpy if you don't know I'm smiling. |
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When I am dressed as Rachel, I am very much not myself.
I can hide behind a mask, that enables me to be very confident. In real life I am very shy and nervous, I use humour and sarcasm to hide my nerves. |
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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago
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"I think I'm me but I don't think I'm perceived the same without seeing my expressions or hearing my tone.
People I speak to often comment how I'm different than they expect because my sense of humor is quite cheeky or sarky which can seem a bit grumpy if you don't know I'm smiling. "
That's the nail on the head. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don't think you are ever you online! The written word never comes across the same as when you are in person! You can't see the twinkle in your eye, the little cheeky smile, or the tone of the comment! I'm me on here 100% but probably only one or two people really know the real life me!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm cautious about dropping my guard too much on here.
Oh definitely. In public you see my shield as I painted it, I suppose.
See I’m not cautious at all but I am complex so people would have to spend a lot of time with me to see the real me. As I don’t feel I’ve fully expressed all parts of me I know I haven’t met the whole of me yet
I'm complex too, but (some) people on Fab take vulnerability or authenticity (at least from women? I'm only speaking for my own experience) and turn it into a weapon against us. I get enough baseless crap let alone feeding the trolls. "
I understand how on the forum or on Fab in general you wouldn’t wish to display too much a vulnerability. I think it’s different for me, maybe as a man, as my vulnerability is a strength and no one can really take advantage of it. I guess my shield is my self-deprecating humour, but that is very much a part of how I enjoy expressing myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's very difficult to see how people percieve you via the written word when they only see a snapshot of comments on threads.
I believe I'm true to myself but my sarcasm and dark humour can often be misconstrued as confidence that isn't there.
There's a huge difference between being comfortable in your own skin and being confident others will like who you are and how you present yourself.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’m not the real me to the outside world because they think I’m innocent. I’m not the real me in this world because I need a lady partner to get wild with |
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!"
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it  . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it . "
Hello kindred spirit.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm just an illusion...
Just a waking dream"
I said that to someone here once in a pm.
Pixels will never reveal the real person, how can they. They lack all the real world interaction and nuances that make each of us unique.
It's easy here to hide behind a screen a jokey exterior or whatever front anyone wishes to present as to others.
Authentic, human, all those real world elements that make us human are only seen through a glass darkly online.
I don't really think anyone in fab ever truly knows another here by txt alone, either in forums or pm's.
But then I don't really play the game here.
It leads to an obvious question if people know any of us by pixels alone, how much do they miss of the real person posting the messages....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am brutally honest. I hide my real me though.
One or two forumites know the man behind the tights but they are sworn to secrecy."
Say what! You mean you’re not a mean selfish fucker!   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am brutally honest. I hide my real me though.
One or two forumites know the man behind the tights but they are sworn to secrecy.
Say what! You mean you’re not a mean selfish fucker! "
Who knows? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am brutally honest. I hide my real me though.
One or two forumites know the man behind the tights but they are sworn to secrecy.
Say what! You mean you’re not a mean selfish fucker!
Who knows?"
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it .
Hello kindred spirit. "
I wouldn’t say I was shy or a shrinking violet in my everyday life. But, if I’m normally a 7, I switch it up to a 10+ on here.
As and when people from here meet me they find out a lot more about the real me.
Fab is a shop window and I intend it to be self selecting - if you don’t “get” my alter-ego on here you probably won’t get the real me.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it . "
I like that about you though. And I love watching people bite! |
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it .
I like that about you though. And I love watching people bite! "
Thanks .
You “get it”, others don’t, that’s fine by me.
I enjoy watching them bite as well.
So, when are we meeting? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it .
I like that about you though. And I love watching people bite!
Thanks .
You “get it”, others don’t, that’s fine by me.
I enjoy watching them bite as well.
So, when are we meeting? "
Sorry I have a beard phobia  |
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it .
I like that about you though. And I love watching people bite!
Thanks .
You “get it”, others don’t, that’s fine by me.
I enjoy watching them bite as well.
So, when are we meeting?
Sorry I have a beard phobia "
Haha in that case, if you met me, you’d be positively terrified. Not the best foundation for a meet, I agree.
Thanks for the vote of confidence though. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only you know your real self but do you think our glorious Fab community know you, the true you?
Me: I'm a very shy person who isn't at all comfortable in unfamiliar surroundings and is very defensive with his true feelings and although in reality I'm really a passionate loving loyal person unfortunately outwardly I think I come across as abrasive, flippant and a complete t*at.
Are you misunderstood, Fabsters?
Ps, yes I'm currently full of alcohol!
I go out of my way to come across as an arrogant, abrasive, flippant, twat on here (not everyone gets my humour), so virtually nobody here knows the real me.
And that’s just how I like it .
I like that about you though. And I love watching people bite!
Thanks .
You “get it”, others don’t, that’s fine by me.
I enjoy watching them bite as well.
So, when are we meeting?
Sorry I have a beard phobia
Haha in that case, if you met me, you’d be positively terrified. Not the best foundation for a meet, I agree.
Thanks for the vote of confidence though. x "
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I'm fairly open here, although not the most raved after. I'm reasonably direct with my opinions and stay quiet if just likely to hurt someone.
My collection of expressed needs and opinions sums me up and people who know me outside would identify me from my comments. In life I live similarly, associating widely yet smartly, as I'm picky. I'm never lost for an opinion on anything, like to guide others and share. |
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