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That is a very good question there are some that I want to meet because their posts are brilliant,witty and funny... The thing is with the internet is that people come across differently as they do in real life.. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
Yes...... if they are not mature enough to keep personal issues out of the forums.
Differing opinions is exactly what I look for in an interesting debate......and I like my meets to be interesting.
Snide and nasty comments, naming the person they 'bare a grudge' with isn't what I want in a meet. |
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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago
north west |
It depends on what our differences were lol ,we had a debate with a couple on here a while ago who thought an illegal immigrant who run over a kid and killed her should be forgiven so on that i could not have met them but on minor banter its a bit different lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I posted a few days back, I have had differences of opinions with a few people, would I still meet them for a coffee? Of course, why wouldnt I? Its a bit like text messages, there is no tone in the message, so it can come across as cold, or be misinterpreted, and I think we have to take the things that people write at face value.
I am sure I have turned alot of people off, but to be fair, thats ok, because thats their choice, I still wish them well, and I bear no anomosity to anyone on the forums (in fact the whole site), even though things have sometimes gone awry.
But meeting someone for a coffee or an intimate liaison is different, there would have to be some "connection" there, and I would hope that we could both be adult enough to accept our differences in opinions.
No meets for 3 years now...... My posts are goinf down a storm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There are some people i wouldnt want to be on the same continent as for the things they post and its not because of differing of opinions but because of their attitude"
+1, Much more likely to meet someone we have had a disagreement with, than someone who has a bad attitude even if we have never posted on the same topic. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have gone off a couple of people because of what they write on the forums yes. Sometimes think the less you know about someone the better, if you are just meeting for sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"
If someone doesn't share the same _iews then I respect their _iews and continue to value mine and could still want to meet them.
If someone comes across as bigoted, racist, sexist, miserable (from their very first post... we can all have bad days), whingy and/or gives me the impression they are a bully, troll or think just being on a swinging site means they should have 'access all areas' when it comes to sex.... I'll make a decision to avoid them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id have to say no to that, because people on here usually arnt the same in real life, i have read some posts that have made me think the person is a bit of a dick but then bumped into them in real life at a club or party and found them to be real nice, ive always said because theres no emotion in font its easy to take someones post the wrong way, i dont read to much into forums posts |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I differ sufficiently in my _iews to them, possibly, yes.... but it depends, its more about general attitude.
I can have a healthy disagreement with someone on the forums and still like their persona, equally I can have not interacted with them at all if I dislike their attitiude, so obviously wouldn't choose to meet the latter, but would meet the former- socially...
Sex, whole different matter, but would meet socially first. |
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When someone/a couple post about arranging to meet someone, all the time it took, the journey, the cost and then say how it all went tits up because they used the wrong brand of toothpaste.... I think that makes them more appealling. I dream of having a thread started about me to show everyone what a fussy fucker I really am. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me to really connect with someone sexually I have to connect with their mind too, and if I've had 'words' with them in the forums it's doubtful I'll find that connection face to face that enables a successful sexual encounter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I wouldn't let what's written on here put me off. Firstly I probably wouldn't remember having a disagreement with them and on the whole its never personal. On a meet I am not usually confrontational because the questions and conversations on a meet are rarely thought provoking or political or the kind of in depth thing we talk about on here. And secondly things written on here may lead you to believe people are a certain way and in real life if you see them in a club they are entirely different.
However if a forum poster appears to be very different from me in terms of personality then I wouldn't meet them.
But in all fairness we don't limit ourselves to playing with people who post on the forums so the majority of our sexual meets are people we've met in clubs, these people may be on fab and verify us after the event, or people who don't post on the forums. Its not deliberate, just seems to work out that way.  |
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Only if I think that they are trying to wind people up for a reaction, or I don't really like their attitude. then No I wouldn't consider meeting them.
However if they had a differnet opinion to me on certain subjects then yes (Mr A and I don't agree on everything) I would meet them. As for a play meet we meet everyone 1st for social.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not so much as differing _iews and opinions, more to do with the way they handle themselves and how they come across in the forums.
I am not interested in meeting argumentative, egoistic, chauvinistic bigots who have a superiority complex.
So I block them to prevent future contacts.
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"
Yes, absolutely. While I would not necessarily consider one isolated incident, you do get to know people a bit through the way they post and what they have to say. If I felt somebody was racist or had fairly extreme _iews, we would not have enough in common to spend time withy each other, which in turn would rule out any sexy encounter anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.
Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.
I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing. |
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By *waymanMan
over a year ago
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"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"
I am at the other end of the spectrum. If you cannot conceive of an occasion when you'd tell someone that you wouldn't shag them if they were the last human being with a pulse (known as the Nick Griffin effect) then I don't want to shag you. |
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"As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.
Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.
I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing."
some would like to meet you based on your forum posts
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As some posts on here end up with very personal and polarised _iews being shared, would you ever decide you could not possibly meet someone due to their forum posts?"
yep...otherwise i'd feel like i was cold fxxking a piece of meat rather a person...kinda find it difficult 2 disregard personality and attitude on the net as well as face2face
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As others have said I would not meet the few on here that clearly hold strong right ring/racist/bigotted _iews. When I say wouldn't meet, I mean I would not even chat to to them at a social. That said there are only 3 or 4 people in that category.
Equally there are a lot of people on here who have differing _iews that I would actively seek out, to hopefully have a laugh and a chat. I donlt see differing opinions as a massive barrier if a person is intelligent.
I expect that there are people on here that would not want to meet us based on my forum posts. To me that is far from a bad thing.
some would like to meet you based on your forum posts
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it appeared conclusive the individual or couple were clearly driven by their egos or status then yes neither of us would find any chemistry and of course would be put off. "
Never understand the status thing, like its swing sex, so y would u give a mad fxxk?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like people that have an opinion. It doesn't have to be the same as mine, I just like people who are not afraid to put their head above the parapet.
There are quite a lot of people I'd love to meet for a coffee/pint, I like the way their mind works.
Conversely, they're some I'd avoid like the plague because of the racist, bigoted _iews or because I think they're stupid, and I can't abide stupid. I'd also avoid those with negative self image. Those types of people are usually negative and boring...can't be dealing with negativity. |
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