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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Keep going... I’m nearly there!!... |
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By *r.BlondeMan
over a year ago
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
The guy is probably married with kids |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No thats a give me your number and il see you even sooner convo
Close the deal"
Shit, is it, so if he didn’t ask then that’s a not interested then?
Right, age filters are coming off, I’m getting fucked before the end of this year! |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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You know what I think. I'm not a guy but I think by now if he wasn't interested he would of said ~ surely?
I think he's being cool, flirting with you and loving the attention you give him. Maybe he's shy and isn't sure how to go to the next level. Maybe he hasn't found the clips on YouTube yet!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No thats a give me your number and il see you even sooner convo
Close the deal
Shit, is it, so if he didn’t ask then that’s a not interested then?
Right, age filters are coming off, I’m getting fucked before the end of this year! "
thats what id do good lass line em up and knock em down thats the spirit |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Go for it!
All of us here on Fab expect a full report of events!
I'll just go grab me popcorn. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not sure there's enough information. If there were other people around I'd be unsure; if the two of you were alone though, I'd lean towards brush-off."
There were people around, public in the gym, public that could walk in any time, public that could come out of changing rooms, other members of staff that could appear from nowhere. |
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Not nesersary a brush off. Some people are a bit socially awkward, not always confident in their reply or just awkward of judging/handling social cues. I guess you have to base your reading on this more in line with your wider knowlage of the receptionist, how everything had been going to that point and understand you own abilities of reading people. If intrested with the wider context may be worth testing the waters some more and just grow a pair of big boy balls and simply ask them out clearly and directly. If they so no then clearly you have your answer and you have misread it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why not just talk to him?
Surely he'd be the best person to ask instead of people on the Internet who don't really know you and only know what you've told us about him.
And unless he's really shy, if he did fancy you he would've probably given you some solid hints that you finds you attractive too by now. IIRC it's been a good few months now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I totally misread this? I thought the OP is a woman, and she said “Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are“
Am I missing something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Save your self esteem and just ignore this guy....
Assertive men have no problem verbalizing their intentions....
If you like him many other women do , I’m sure he is not short of attention... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Not nesersary a brush off. Some people are a bit socially awkward, not always confident in their reply or just awkward of judging/handling social cues. I guess you have to base your reading on this more in line with your wider knowlage of the receptionist, how everything had been going to that point and understand you own abilities of reading people. If intrested with the wider context may be worth testing the waters some more and just grow a pair of big boy balls and simply ask them out clearly and directly. If they so no then clearly you have your answer and you have misread it. "
Thing is I’m bolshy and loud and confident and can talk to anyone and make people laugh, but when it’s someone I’m attracted to I’m like a bumbling fool, it’s like eating, I could inhale the food in front of me if I was with a friend or a guy I wasn’t attracted to, put me in front of a guy I fancy and I’ll hold my fork politely and in the correct hand and push my food around the plate and nibble.
I think the best thing to do now for the receptionist is to just be cool, be polite but that’s what she does anyway. She doesn’t initiate conversations it’s always the dude asking her things or calling her even if she’s busy doing something on the computer the guy calls her and starts conversations. |
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Honestly
I'd say we genuinely do not know , all men are different
I'd also say however we know more than we did and we know the kind of man he isn't
He still could be a very shy gent who likes you
If you like very shy gents you will have to take a lead
If not move on regardless
I will say I can be an absolute devil at hard to get if a lady is confident and I think she must have lots of male attention , that said many woman play that game with me as they think I'm confident with lots of female attention
GOSH it's a vicious tightrope
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talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you. "
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself! |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
In that hypothetical situation I'd think I'll see you next time I'm at the site and we'd chat giggle and do the same as the other times  |
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself! "
Did the receptionist show him or was she being demure and declined ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself!
Did the receptionist show him or was she being demure and declined ? "
She declined and said they’re not for sharing and he said I wish you would. |
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself!
Did the receptionist show him or was she being demure and declined ?
She declined and said they’re not for sharing and he said I wish you would. "
Don’t show him, you’ll just end up on the shag list and that’s not what you want |
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself!
Did the receptionist show him or was she being demure and declined ?
She declined and said they’re not for sharing and he said I wish you would.
Don’t show him, you’ll just end up on the shag list and that’s not what you want "
I mean the receptionist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Work place flirting is a minefield, get it wrong and the man can lose his job, and a lot more if he's married.
If I'm away from home, I'll ask what there is to do in the evening around here?" I can usually judge if someone wants to take it further by the response. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"talk to him when I say to him just bring it up in a conversation that you fancy him, simple. likely he is shy or feels he is not in the right frame of mind to be meeting women, maybe he is working on himself, a career or you are not his cup of tea.
Reckon he has knocked one out thinking of you.
Last week he did ask to see some semi naked pics the receptionist had on her phone of herself!
Did the receptionist show him or was she being demure and declined ?
She declined and said they’re not for sharing and he said I wish you would.
Don’t show him, you’ll just end up on the shag list and that’s not what you want
I mean the receptionist "
Yeah I told her she didn’t want to go down that route, she won’t show him! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Work place flirting is a minefield, get it wrong and the man can lose his job, and a lot more if he's married.
If I'm away from home, I'll ask what there is to do in the evening around here?" I can usually judge if someone wants to take it further by the response."
He’s not married. He’s single 100% they ask each other all the time if there’s anyone on the horizon. |
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I’ve always thought it bloody strange that one of the most attractive people on this site continually asks the forums of Fab what she should do in ‘hypothetical’ situations.
I really can’t imagine that she has any less experience in dealing with this sort of thing than anyone else here.
Yet the OP (who I fancy a little bit) continually posts about her difficulties with finding suitable men. She must be deluded |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I’ve always thought it bloody strange that one of the most attractive people on this site continually asks the forums of Fab what she should do in ‘hypothetical’ situations.
I really can’t imagine that she has any less experience in dealing with this sort of thing than anyone else here.
Yet the OP (who I fancy a little bit) continually posts about her difficulties with finding suitable men. She must be deluded"
It’s different when it’s regarding yourself though. I can give people really good advice and if someone was describing signals or signs I’m pretty confident I’d be able to gauge the situation. When it’s yourself though it’s different, everyone has little elements of self doubt.
Also in this situation it’s difficult, it’s not just about whether the dude fancies me or not. It’s the what happens afterwards, if he just wants to fuck me what happens after that when I have to see him in work. He can’t just ignore and never have to cross paths like when people meet on here, if we dated and it went to shit, same situation. He got out of a relationship beginning of the year so is well aware that things can and do end. It’s very difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you really want to reduce your chances of being attacked whilst out and about, apart from not frequenting dodgy areas, just look alert and confident. Don't look like a potential victim. Predators prey on those who look vulnerable. If you walk along staring at the floor with your headphones on, you are a potential victim. Walk up straight and be looking around, aware of your surroundings. If you catch someones eye, do not look away immediately. Just hold their gaze for a second before you look away without looking down. Don't try and stare someone at as that's provocative. If you look alert and aware, you are less likely to be attacked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If you really want to reduce your chances of being attacked whilst out and about, apart from not frequenting dodgy areas, just look alert and confident. Don't look like a potential victim. Predators prey on those who look vulnerable. If you walk along staring at the floor with your headphones on, you are a potential victim. Walk up straight and be looking around, aware of your surroundings. If you catch someones eye, do not look away immediately. Just hold their gaze for a second before you look away without looking down. Don't try and stare someone at as that's provocative. If you look alert and aware, you are less likely to be attacked."
Wrong thread?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it is time for a cheeky salesman to come to your reception and chat up this receptionist xx"
She gets customers asking for her number and to take her out already, the other week the security guard that collects the money asked for her signature on the electronic pad and then passed her a piece of paper saying to put her phone number on it and she went to write it down till the guy she fancies who was also standing there said he’s joking you don’t have to write your number down! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would drop my number and say - let me know how interested you really are we will go from there . Ball in your court , let’s play ... but that is just me lol |
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It's not difficult.
Ok a hypothetical for you, if you died tomorrow after letting the chance slip away again would you sit on your cloud thinking of all the chances you let slip by or would be happy with the risks you took?
Sorry to bring it to a life or death scenario but you started it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It's not difficult.
Ok a hypothetical for you, if you died tomorrow after letting the chance slip away again would you sit on your cloud thinking of all the chances you let slip by or would be happy with the risks you took?
Sorry to bring it to a life or death scenario but you started it. "
I get what you’re saying but I don’t want to look in the box. It’s Schrödinger's cat at the moment. If I straight up ask him and it’s a no I’m not ready for it. |
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off?
Keep going... I’m nearly there!!..."
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Obviously he’s gay, as your far to hot to turn down by any man |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From my own personal experience of being shy and not recognising when a girl is interested I’d say he’s just playing it cool and enjoying what he’s getting cause he doesn’t what to make the move and get shot down and ruin everything, he’s playing things safe for sure, don’t lose interest xx |
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"It's not difficult.
Ok a hypothetical for you, if you died tomorrow after letting the chance slip away again would you sit on your cloud thinking of all the chances you let slip by or would be happy with the risks you took?
Sorry to bring it to a life or death scenario but you started it.
I get what you’re saying but I don’t want to look in the box. It’s Schrödinger's cat at the moment. If I straight up ask him and it’s a no I’m not ready for it. "
Uhum when was your "cat" last given the reigns?
Stop thinking with your head.
I'm a push the button kind of person, genuinely I'm like donald trump with the big red one i just can't help myself 
It has gotten me into some god awful scrapes over the years but also some of the best times of my life, and even the scrapes are looked back on with a certain affection now. |
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Ok let me break it down as i have just had 4 pork pies with pickle and they have me in a philosophical mood.. Also a little gassy.
What you seem to be looking for is negative reinforcement, for someone to say no don't do it just keep enjoying it as it is. I. E
Like for like.
The problem with that is keeping going until you find someone who feels the same is the easy and safe option, which is easy and safe afterall. No one gets hurt, no one gets shamed, no friendships are ruined... No one has the time of there lives, no one has a fleeting but exciting romance, no one meets the man of there dreams or just maybe no one gets to have a date and feel good for a night  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry  There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx |
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Invite her out for a drink after work and see what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx"
You might be right. You might not be. It’s arrogant to assume you *must* be right. |
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"Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx
You might be right. You might not be. It’s arrogant to assume you *must* be right. "
I think at this point it's inhumane to give her false hope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx
You might be right. You might not be. It’s arrogant to assume you *must* be right.
I think at this point it's inhumane to give her false hope "
Yes, but given you aren’t the guy...and you’ve made your opinion clear...and that it’s only an opinion... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx
You might be right. You might not be. It’s arrogant to assume you *must* be right.
I think at this point it's inhumane to give her false hope "
You have no idea what this blokes personality is like, he could be extremely shy and lack confidence, maybe he needs the woman to do all the leg work. I know someone who used to be like that. |
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By *unaBelleWoman
over a year ago
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He may be shy?
He may be trying to maintain a professional demeanour?
He might not be into you?
He might be into you but weary about new relationships?
He might be really slow on the uptake?
Maybe you need to be more forthcoming? What is the worse that will happen? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Woman I fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh. Say "really? I think you're beautiful too". Then linger before insisting that we must meet up some time and asking her for her number.
Woman I don't fancy calls me back. Tells me I'm beautiful. I laugh it off. Say awww behave. Tell her I think she's nice too. Then high tail it out of there
Thems the facts. Sorry There's absolutely no way a man who fancied you even remotely and who was emotionally available wouldn't have closed on that. But... the truth shall set you free xx"
He didn’t say I think you’re nice too he said I think you’re beautiful too. |
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over a year ago
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"I’ve always thought it bloody strange that one of the most attractive people on this site continually asks the forums of Fab what she should do in ‘hypothetical’ situations.
I really can’t imagine that she has any less experience in dealing with this sort of thing than anyone else here.
Yet the OP (who I fancy a little bit) continually posts about her difficulties with finding suitable men. She must be deluded
It’s different when it’s regarding yourself though. I can give people really good advice and if someone was describing signals or signs I’m pretty confident I’d be able to gauge the situation. When it’s yourself though it’s different, everyone has little elements of self doubt.
Also in this situation it’s difficult, it’s not just about whether the dude fancies me or not. It’s the what happens afterwards, if he just wants to fuck me what happens after that when I have to see him in work. He can’t just ignore and never have to cross paths like when people meet on here, if we dated and it went to shit, same situation. He got out of a relationship beginning of the year so is well aware that things can and do end. It’s very difficult. "
I think you should just keep flirting with him but find someone else to fuck. The whole thing is a head fuck and you deserve better than that.
If he really wanted to ask you out he's had plenty of chances. I think you're feeding his ego. He likes the chase. Maybe you both do. So keep the chase and don't ever give in. If he's a crap shag you lose your flirty friend. |
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"He may be shy?"
He'd have to be painfully excruciatingly shy now based on all we know
"He may be trying to maintain a professional demeanour?
He might not be into you?"
Agreed 
"He might be into you but weary about new relationships?"
Emotionally unavailable. Still hankering after his ex. Agreed.
"He might be really slow on the uptake?"
Really?  The guy's gotta be as thick as two planks by now not to see the receptionist is interested.
"Maybe you need to be more forthcoming?
What is the worse that will happen?"
She could directly ask him for a drink. But the prognosis isn't looking good on how that'd pan out you'd agree.
Sorry to use your post Luna but it was a really good summary of the options. A final option is the guy could have been socially embarrassed by the public place it occurred in. But since the guy already has the receptionists number he could easily have called her after.
Bottom line. The receptionist gave a clear green light. The guy didn't act on it. Imo that's a shrug off. Even for me... and you lot know from my posts on how crap I am at asking women out in public. If the woman in the cafe the other day had done this to me I'd be fucking her right now. Literally right now. Balls deep groaning and moaning. Damn! Hold that thought |
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The *only* way to know what he thinks is to ask him.
Anything else is salesman pseudo-psychology crap supposition and subjective opinion based solely on projecting from a bubble of personal thinking and experience. |
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"He may be shy?
He'd have to be painfully excruciatingly shy now based on all we know
He may be trying to maintain a professional demeanour?
He might not be into you?
Agreed
He might be into you but weary about new relationships?
Emotionally unavailable. Still hankering after his ex. Agreed.
He might be really slow on the uptake?
Really? The guy's gotta be as thick as two planks by now not to see the receptionist is interested.
Maybe you need to be more forthcoming?
What is the worse that will happen?
She could directly ask him for a drink. But the prognosis isn't looking good on how that'd pan out you'd agree.
Sorry to use your post Luna but it was a really good summary of the options. A final option is the guy could have been socially embarrassed by the public place it occurred in. But since the guy already has the receptionists number he could easily have called her after.
Bottom line. The receptionist gave a clear green light. The guy didn't act on it. Imo that's a shrug off. Even for me... and you lot know from my posts on how crap I am at asking women out in public. If the woman in the cafe the other day had done this to me I'd be fucking her right now. Literally right now. Balls deep groaning and moaning. Damn! Hold that thought "
In the cafe eh. At least the cream would of been stired.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"The *only* way to know what he thinks is to ask him.
Anything else is salesman pseudo-psychology crap supposition and subjective opinion based solely on projecting from a bubble of personal thinking and experience."
Stop being so bloody sexy!  |
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"The *only* way to know what he thinks is to ask him.
Anything else is salesman pseudo-psychology crap supposition and subjective opinion based solely on projecting from a bubble of personal thinking and experience.
Stop being so bloody sexy! "
Come here and kiss me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Where are you all reading it as 'him'?"
Because it’s based on the OP’s scenario with a guy she fancies at work - she’s the receptionist in the scenario. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"The *only* way to know what he thinks is to ask him.
Anything else is salesman pseudo-psychology crap supposition and subjective opinion based solely on projecting from a bubble of personal thinking and experience.
Stop being so bloody sexy!
Come here and kiss me."
I so need a good snog  |
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"Hypothetical situation, your work takes you to a site once sometimes twice a week where the receptionist there is quite flirty with you, or very flirty and over a period of months. You talk, laugh and get on when you’re there, playful touching like rubbing of her shoulders or slapping her back when she was choking on an apple pip. Say you were leaving as you’d finished your shift and the receptionist called you back and said come here, hold my hand and you gave her your hand and she said you’re beautiful you are, and you said aww behave and then she said you are and then you said I think you’re beautiful too then she let go of your hand and said right off you go, and you said ok see you soon.
What would you do in that situation and what would you think? Is that a brush off? "
Yes it's a brush off |
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I flirt with every women at work, it doesn't necessarily mean that I want to do them (oh maybe it does).
There is a line between flirting and FLIRTING. Few nice words do not mean that he is into you but if he starts to touch you more than it should then he may want more from you |
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By *unaBelleWoman
over a year ago
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"He may be shy?
He'd have to be painfully excruciatingly shy now based on all we know
He may be trying to maintain a professional demeanour?
He might not be into you?
Agreed
He might be into you but weary about new relationships?
Emotionally unavailable. Still hankering after his ex. Agreed.
He might be really slow on the uptake?
Really? The guy's gotta be as thick as two planks by now not to see the receptionist is interested.
Maybe you need to be more forthcoming?
What is the worse that will happen?
She could directly ask him for a drink. But the prognosis isn't looking good on how that'd pan out you'd agree.
Sorry to use your post Luna but it was a really good summary of the options. A final option is the guy could have been socially embarrassed by the public place it occurred in. But since the guy already has the receptionists number he could easily have called her after.
Bottom line. The receptionist gave a clear green light. The guy didn't act on it. Imo that's a shrug off. Even for me... and you lot know from my posts on how crap I am at asking women out in public. If the woman in the cafe the other day had done this to me I'd be fucking her right now. Literally right now. Balls deep groaning and moaning. Damn! Hold that thought "
I guess you could be right.
Maybe you need to ask him outright ? |
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"Right so when is this xmas do exactly?
A month  "
For the sakes of having any possibility with this guy you need some other hunk to jump on you and fuck you silly. Then you won't be so precious about this guy and you may actually be able to talk to him as if he was a human being. Everyone can smell desperation and it's very unattractive. But everyone can also smell sex, when someone has been really sexual recently, and that's very attractive. Well I recon they can But even if they can't it's a win win situation isn't it   |
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"Right so when is this xmas do exactly?
A month
For the sakes of having any possibility with this guy you need some other hunk to jump on you and fuck you silly. Then you won't be so precious about this guy and you may actually be able to talk to him as if he was a human being. Everyone can smell desperation and it's very unattractive. But everyone can also smell sex, when someone has been really sexual recently, and that's very attractive. Well I recon they can But even if they can't it's a win win situation isn't it "
So if I have sex with someone I’ll omit non desperate vibes. Ok I’ll call upon my teenage sweetheart. |
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"Right so when is this xmas do exactly?
A month
For the sakes of having any possibility with this guy you need some other hunk to jump on you and fuck you silly. Then you won't be so precious about this guy and you may actually be able to talk to him as if he was a human being. Everyone can smell desperation and it's very unattractive. But everyone can also smell sex, when someone has been really sexual recently, and that's very attractive. Well I recon they can But even if they can't it's a win win situation isn't it
So if I have sex with someone I’ll omit non desperate vibes. Ok I’ll call upon my teenage sweetheart. "
To be honest it'll probably defuse you Annie and clear your head. Well if you're anything like me it will |
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"Right so when is this xmas do exactly?
A month
For the sakes of having any possibility with this guy you need some other hunk to jump on you and fuck you silly. Then you won't be so precious about this guy and you may actually be able to talk to him as if he was a human being. Everyone can smell desperation and it's very unattractive. But everyone can also smell sex, when someone has been really sexual recently, and that's very attractive. Well I recon they can But even if they can't it's a win win situation isn't it
So if I have sex with someone I’ll omit non desperate vibes. Ok I’ll call upon my teenage sweetheart.
To be honest it'll probably defuse you Annie and clear your head. Well if you're anything like me it will "
But to be even more honest we're now talking about something beyond my knowledge i.e female biology and how women tick. So maybe ask some female Fab friends what they think. If you were a guy this is what I'd suggest. But you're not |
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Write down your number, and when he says oh you don't need to write your number down, finish writing it and say "I know but I want to write it down." Then give it to him with a flirtatious wink. If he calls he calls. Good luck. You are absolutely stunning by the way. |
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