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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
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By *andonmessMan
over a year ago
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"She lives in a house like mine and is embarrassed."
It may well be that, but if it were, I'm be devastated that someone should feel that way. What I earn and what I "own" etc has no bearing on how I treat anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"She lives in a house like mine and is embarrassed."
whats to be embarrassed about? the last thing im bothered about is where someone lives or what type of living accommodation they have 
I didn't know this was even a thing  |
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"She lives in a house like mine and is embarrassed.
It may well be that, but if it were, I'm be devastated that someone should feel that way. What I earn and what I "own" etc has no bearing on how I treat anyone. "
I agree, however, she may not want him thinking that's why she's interested.
She may feel inferior, which unfounded, as a society where we're constantly being judged on how well we're doing in life it's certainly possible.
We're our own worst critics. |
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Do nothing, for whatever reason she's decided not to contact you. I think that's a particularly cowardly way to behave but that's another story.
She might be disappointed that you didn't make a pass.
It might be about your house, she could be intimidated or an inverted snob. We lived in a really cheap house in a really expensive road once and people's attitudes changed when they heard our address.
She might have decided that she just doesn't want to see you again.
Us humans prefer to know why someone doesn't want to see us again. It ties up lose ends and stops us wondering.
I wish people would just say.
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There's some insecure people out there and maybe, after being at your place, she may be comparing herself to you and thinking she's not good enough. She may even think that you may be just playing around with her as (in her mind) you seem to be from very different worlds. She may have had a bad previous experience with someone in a similar situation. Who knows?
Like I said, one never knows what may be in someone else's mind or the reasons why someone acts the way they do.
All you can do is get in touch and ask her directly. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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I dont think its anything to do with the house. Have you not met someone a few times and just thought nope it's not quite right and there's not always a direct reason.
However you sound like a great guy and what a refreshing breath of fresh air you are.
I wouldn't contact her just leave it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I tend to keep shtum about this kind of stuff. I'd rather they liked me for who I am first. Maybe meet out in future until you feel there's a connection there to build on  |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
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She has been watching too much of the tv show called through the keyhole.
Who lives in a house like this?
At least its out in the open now that you live in a big house. No more nasty surprises for the next girl....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated "
Well if she came round your house she was probably very disappointed if you didn't ravish her - "bored" can mean horny in woman speak if she thinks you are a bit square. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well you've 2 options here:
1) chalk it up to experience, and forget about her.
2) message her and say something along the lines of "hope your ok, you've been quiet lately, hope I haven't done anything to upset you?" And see what she says.
Suppose it depends how much you like her, personally I couldn't be bothered to peraue a relationship with someone who actively ignores me. I've no patience for the silent treatment, but that's me lol.
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Hmmm....I’ll wager it is a furnishings related issue; women are funny, pernickety creatures regarding all colour schemes having to match.
Sofa not the same colour as your curtains? God forbid! - The woman will never speak to you again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont think its anything to do with the house. Have you not met someone a few times and just thought nope it's not quite right and there's not always a direct reason.
However you sound like a great guy and what a refreshing breath of fresh air you are.
I wouldn't contact her just leave it "
Indeed...it is her problem not yours....sadly one cannot fix everybody, and there is nowt so queen as folk x  |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated "
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe she's annoyed that you didn't make a pass at her? She's come round for Netflix and chill and you've given her mansion and relax  "
This crossed my mind too |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think something smells fishy.
Judging by your profile header, maybe you thought it would do quite the opposite and she would drop her knickers on your cream shag-pile and fuck you over the grand piano!!  |
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"I think something smells fishy.
Judging by your profile header, maybe you thought it would do quite the opposite and she would drop her knickers on your cream shag-pile and fuck you over the grand piano!! "
To be fair, I would have expected that too |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab "
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab "
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KzNyv6OdZuo
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Ahh but how many businesses have you built up single handedly in the West Midlands? "
That made me laugh!
And actually, I am a business owner in the West Midlands! |
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KzNyv6OdZuo
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Ahh but how many businesses have you built up single handedly in the West Midlands?
That made me laugh!
And actually, I am a business owner in the West Midlands!"
Oh you're flaunting it now are you!  It must be catching
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=KzNyv6OdZuo
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Ahh but how many businesses have you built up single handedly in the West Midlands?
That made me laugh!
And actually, I am a business owner in the West Midlands!
Oh you're flaunting it now are you! It must be catching
Faf? "
Yeah bragging about all my employee (me) |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck "
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
Yeah I like her "
It's through experience though.
I once had a boyfriend who I lived with. The majority of the time we were together, he was too ill to work so we lived off my wage (plus a little he got in benefits).
I then had an issue and couldn't work, while he'd actually got a job (he earned more than I did). All I got was constant earache about not working and pulling my weight!
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"I dont think its anything to do with the house. Have you not met someone a few times and just thought nope it's not quite right and there's not always a direct reason.
However you sound like a great guy and what a refreshing breath of fresh air you are.
I wouldn't contact her just leave it
Indeed...it is her problem not yours....sadly one cannot fix everybody, and there is nowt so queen as folk x "
Queer...bloody autocorrect!! |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch. "
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Women are just crazy.... don’t try to figure them out... you will just drive yourself mad....
But honestly Op.... some women go for creative types and could careless about money...
For you to own a big house at your age , you probably have a white collar job or are the scion of a rich family...
She probably feels inferior.... |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
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I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch.
You must be hanging around with the wrong people..."
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch.
You must be hanging around with the wrong people...
Ones that aren't dumb"
That will be a yes then judging by that comment... |
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch.
You must be hanging around with the wrong people...
Ones that aren't dumb
That will be a yes then judging by that comment... "
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch.
You must be hanging around with the wrong people...
Ones that aren't dumb
That will be a yes then judging by that comment...
Well I'm impressed that _alking disaster gets it, even if you don't "
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"Wondering if anyone could shed some light on this.
Met this lovely lady a couple of times not a fabs lady, just general social type meets a couple of meals and been out to drink as well.
So the other night she text me saying she was bored I said im not sure what you want to do but you can come round mine watch a film if you want, she hadn't been to my house before this. She arrived and this first thing she said was, is this really your house? well yes? she said oh ok well you never told me it was like this.
Pretty much from that point she seemed more interested as to why I didn't say my house was big or anything along those lines I Kindly explained I didn't think it would matter plus its never been a problem well ever. I mean who meets and says ( hi by the way I have a big house or anything like that.
She hasn't contacted me or replied which was a few days ago now, I can't figure out exactly what the issue is here, Im not going to say how much my house is worth or any questions like that as its not relevant but I can't get my head around it. Is she intimidated or embarrassed or what. I don't judge what anyone has so I can't figure it out. We got on great before this point and no I didn't make any type of sexual passes or anything like that either lol
any ideas on what to do or if anyone else ever had experienced this type of situation would be appreciated
I can only say how I would feel in this situation. As you said it's off FAB, I'm assuming that it's a dating/possible long term relationship you are looking for with her (yes, I know you can get into one from here, but it is different).
As someone who knows they will never be able to afford their own home (and is likely to live in shared accommodation for the rest of their life) and struggles to make ends meet, I would feel a bit intimidated by visiting a big house.
I'm an independent person, so I wouldn't want to be "looked after". I'd be looking for someone on my own pay scale. It's very annoying if one partner can afford to go on holidays and the other can't (there is a reason I'm single!)
Why? In this day and age it can be thrown back at you. Why aren't you putting out when I've provided all this for you?
most honest post I've ever read on fab
I have met people from FAB that meet that description, some who would actually want to "provide" for me.
They just get nicely told no and we continue to fuck
Most guys who provide, definately expect sex on tap in return. There's no such thing as a free lunch.
You must be hanging around with the wrong people...
Ones that aren't dumb
That will be a yes then judging by that comment...
Well I'm impressed that _alking disaster gets it, even if you don't
Ummmmm, thanks?"
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Thanks for all the posts it’s been a nice eye opener. For the moment I will just leave her be I reached out to her so if she doesn’t get back then I shall leave it at that.
As for the whole keeping women I had no interest in keeping her or anything if I had a partener to work then she can by all means. Maybe others were correct with the whole I didn’t try it on ha
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"Thanks for all the posts it’s been a nice eye opener. For the moment I will just leave her be I reached out to her so if she doesn’t get back then I shall leave it at that.
As for the whole keeping women I had no interest in keeping her or anything if I had a partener to work then she can by all means. Maybe others were correct with the whole I didn’t try it on ha
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It's not "keeping" her that's the issue. It's the disparity in income that might be an issue. But then again, maybe not |
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"Thanks for all the posts it’s been a nice eye opener. For the moment I will just leave her be I reached out to her so if she doesn’t get back then I shall leave it at that.
As for the whole keeping women I had no interest in keeping her or anything if I had a partener to work then she can by all means. Maybe others were correct with the whole I didn’t try it on ha
It's not "keeping" her that's the issue. It's the disparity in income that might be an issue. But then again, maybe not"
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