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Would you date a single mum?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It shouldn’t matter if someone has children, if you like the person you shouldn’t mind if that have baggage of some kind, be that kids or whatever. So no it wouldn’t put me off dating someone with kids. I can’t believe it would put some people off, but that’s just how my mind works I guess
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over a year ago
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"As a single dad i quite often get tarred because i cant always accomadate. So some women automatically presume im married or got a woman at home."
I’m single and I face the same issue..
Bitches will be bitches
Bros before hoes
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"As a single dad i quite often get tarred because i cant always accomadate. So some women automatically presume im married or got a woman at home.
I’m single and I face the same issue..
Bitches will be bitches
Bros before hoes
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On the plus side it sorts the wheat from the chaf lol |
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"Already filled a thread on the subject recently: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/794553"
I would've liked to have commented on that but it's full. I'm not a single mum now but i have my opinions on why MGTOW and MRA are single. |
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"Already filled a thread on the subject recently: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/794553
I would've liked to have commented on that but it's full. I'm not a single mum now but i have my opinions on why MGTOW and MRA are single."
Go on? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum |
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My ex had 3 kids which the father lived away n only came down 2 weeks a year, so it was good to have that male role model so to speak. Difficult when separated coz the kids are involved emotionally. When I'm ready for that kind of commitment then yeah i would |
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"Already filled a thread on the subject recently: https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/794553
I would've liked to have commented on that but it's full. I'm not a single mum now but i have my opinions on why MGTOW and MRA are single.
Go on?"
Will take this off topic so i will wait for the next discussion.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum "
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad "
That's not how I read it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad "
Sorry. Did I muddle my point there? I said I'd almost rather date a single mum. |
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Single mums or dads have to move on same as anyone without kids as for would I date a single mum yes I would and have done.
But there has to be respect for each other’s kids and time spent with your own kids without hassle for doing so. |
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For the first time since becoming a mum, the label single mum applies to me. I wouldn’t like to think that the fact that I have a child would be a factor in deciding whether to date me or not. I get why it is but it wouldn’t make a jot of difference to me if he had kids and I’d wish the same in return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad
Sorry. Did I muddle my point there? I said I'd almost rather date a single mum. "
Yes i get easily muddled at this time of night |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad
Sorry. Did I muddle my point there? I said I'd almost rather date a single mum.
Yes i get easily muddled at this time of night "
No worries. I'm on the Whitley Neill baobab gin... So not too far behind  |
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I've married two of them, do I win?
I think as you get older, there's a certain amount of inevitability that partners will have had kids. To rule someone out on that basis seems a bit pointless, and possibly needy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Was a single mum, met matty at a club and got to know eachother through fab and now live together after 2 years
We both have kids with different people and both understand that the kids come first, if his kids need him i take a back hand and vice versa..
The fact we both have children means theres a mutual understanding of what being a parent is all about.. responsibilities etc.
We Couldn't be happier.
There is men that date single mums and understand and are happy to not always be first and can deal with not having 100% of a womens attention/affection.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single mums or dads have to move on same as anyone without kids as for would I date a single mum yes I would and have done.
But there has to be respect for each other’s kids and time spent with your own kids without hassle for doing so. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends for me. If she was a single mum with kids that would not be an issue even if she had lots of kids. If she was a single mum with lots of kids who all had a different Dad then things would be different. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Single dad although my son is now an adult....
Everyone on here has some sort of history and often kids too.
If it's the right person why would dating someone with kids ever be an issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It shouldn’t matter if someone has children, if you like the person you shouldn’t mind if that have baggage of some kind, be that kids or whatever. So no it wouldn’t put me off dating someone with kids. I can’t believe it would put some people off, but that’s just how my mind works I guess
M x"
i also think there is nothing sexier than a man who is a good dad and takes care of his kids! Its a quality i look for..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
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being a parent comes first, we all need our fun but dont let it get in the way of being a parent. if your partner doesnt agree or doesnt try and work with the situation is it worth it? ps shout out to all the Milfs and Dilfs |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
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I have dated snd FB a number of mammas in my time. Descretion for the kids is paramount unless things get a bit more serious.. to stop them getting hurt.
Why wouldn't you?.. a single mam has as much right as anyone else to happiness or (a penis) as Ken Dodd would have you believe. |
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Clearly yes, I am. In my age group as a single dad I've found that 90% of the women I've dated have been single mum's. Partly because the lions share of singles in my age group have kids and mum's tend to have parental responsibility. And of those in my age group that don't that fact that I'm a single dad with young kids is limiting factor. But the good tging about dating a single mum as a single dad is they understand your challenges and situations. Single women with out kids my age are just in a different phase of life from me. So for me I would always prefer single mum's in general. |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
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"Clearly yes, I am. In my age group as a single dad I've found that 90% of the women I've dated have been single mum's. Partly because the lions share of singles in my age group have kids and mum's tend to have parental responsibility. And of those in my age group that don't that fact that I'm a single dad with young kids is limiting factor. But the good tging about dating a single mum as a single dad is they understand your challenges and situations. Single women with out kids my age are just in a different phase of life from me. So for me I would always prefer single mum's in general."
'that boy needs therepy'!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
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stats mean nothing really it's all about a connection if a guy connects with you it's you he's interested in if you have a child that may well have some impact on a more serious relationship but that's about time surely not about a date |
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By *igg13Man
over a year ago
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
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For me, being a single parent would not determine whether or not I was attracted to and liked someone.
If the person you like happens to be a single parent then why should that stop the way you feel... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both of us were single parents. So it works well for us. Our kids are the same age and get on well. For me as a man with kids if I was looking to date I wouldn't date somebody who didn't have kids because they don't understand as much about kids and family life. Being a parent is a challange that's very rewarding but kids have to come first end of. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships? As i came from a broken home and feeling dumped when both my parents started new lives i made a decision to never expect a woman to put me before her kids as i wouldn't in my children's young days put a woman before them.
Now they have grown up women still want to know about my kids then i get sorry your not for me feels like i shouldn't have had a life just had to sit on a shelf till im needed lol but wouldn't change how i did it no regrets her
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a no from me (single guys with kids, obvs)
I've brought two of my own up on my own. They are now older, I have no intention doing it all over again 
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It's all about the person. I've dated and been in relationships with single mum's and it always made me proud to think that they want me in theirs and their child's life 
If I really liked them and wanted to see them with the possibility to take it further then whether they have a child doesn't even come into my mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Love is amazing it knows no bounds and can and dose overcome the oddest strangest things.a child is least of my worries at least theres a reason to play board games and act like over grown kid......o wait i do that most days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm almost inclined to say I'd prefer it as we'd have common experiences and needs and we could hopefully create a lovely family all together. But in all honesty the most important thing for me is compatibility with the woman both with myself and my approach to parenting. I'd rather have this with a single woman than not have it with a single mum
So you wouldn't date a single mum yet you started a thread because a single woman wouldn't date a single dad "
I don't think that's what he's saying tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Love is amazing it knows no bounds and can and dose overcome the oddest strangest things.a child is least of my worries at least theres a reason to play board games and act like over grown kid......o wait i do that most days "
True true |
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
stats mean nothing really it's all about a connection if a guy connects with you it's you he's interested in if you have a child that may well have some impact on a more serious relationship but that's about time surely not about a date "
Ah, that depends if you view dating as a kind of hobby or as a search for a longterm relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single dads getting into new relationships?
stats mean nothing really it's all about a connection if a guy connects with you it's you he's interested in if you have a child that may well have some impact on a more serious relationship but that's about time surely not about a date
Ah, that depends if you view dating as a kind of hobby or as a search for a longterm relationship."
True would have to be long term when kids invovled. |
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In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! X"
you have a man don't be greedy |
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By *aranelloMan
over a year ago
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Yes absolutely.
I actually had a situation once where I was arranging a date with a lady, who had children herself, and when she found out that I did and that I take a very active part in my children's lives that she would not date me as I had kids !
Work that one out ! |
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"My ex had 3 kids which the father lived away n only came down 2 weeks a year, so it was good to have that male role model so to speak. Difficult when separated coz the kids are involved emotionally. When I'm ready for that kind of commitment then yeah i would "
Agreed... a good role model whether biological or not has to be a good thing, personally I still have my stepdaughter living with me who’s now in her 20’s after her mother cheated on me last year, she decided to stay with me. Love her to bits, Good can come from bad. |
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! Xyou have a man don't be greedy"
I do? Who? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! Xyou have a man don't be greedy
I do? Who? "
the guy who was in your profile pic, thought you said you loved him |
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! Xyou have a man don't be greedy
I do? Who? the guy who was in your profile pic, thought you said you loved him "
You mean Chillout? I do love him! As an amazing friend! It’s unlikely we’ll ever have a ‘real’ relationship! Xx |
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My other half never wanted kids. Packed up and moved to another country to leave girlfriend who wanted kids.
Then he met me, divorced with three kids, albeit grown ups and now five grandchildren.
If you love the person it doesn't matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! Xyou have a man don't be greedy
I do? Who? the guy who was in your profile pic, thought you said you loved him
You mean Chillout? I do love him! As an amazing friend! It’s unlikely we’ll ever have a ‘real’ relationship! Xx"
Somebody has read your profile very closely lol... He's not missed a thing! |
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"In all honesty I can’t imagine (seriously) dating someone who ISN’T a dad! Becoming a parent changes most of us profoundly (there are exceptions - my selfish shit of an ex amongst them) and makes us far less selfish and more focused on the needs of others! I’m aware this is a generalism - but most guys I’ve met/dated in the past who didn’t have kids (by choice) were very self focussed!
Dating a fellow parent with the same priorities would be far easier! X"
I agree. It's very rare someone who isn't a parent will "get" being a parent. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always found that women that have had kids are a far better shag than ones that haven't.
I think it's because they know how much stick it can take without breaking 
Steve"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've always found that women that have had kids are a far better shag than ones that haven't.
I think it's because they know how much stick it can take without breaking
Steve
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You beat me to it... |
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"I've always found that women that have had kids are a far better shag than ones that haven't.
I think it's because they know how much stick it can take without breaking
Steve
You beat me to it... "
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"I've always found that women that have had kids are a far better shag than ones that haven't.
I think it's because they know how much stick it can take without breaking
Steve"
Hahaha funny as x |
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When I didn't have kids, I preferred to long term with women who didn't have kids. In theory it's just easier.
Didn't always work out like that though and did end up dating fair share of single moms. Which was always quite handy and they always had their own place and would also allow me to have my freedom and alone time as they would be spending time with their kids.
After having my own kids though, it's easier to date single moms now. |
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By *aloMan
over a year ago
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as a single dad my kids come before anything, myself and certainly relationships. Personally I'd prefer to meet single mums as there is at least a bit of mutual understanding in time allocation, availability, energy! & also what you want emotionally from a relationship. |
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I am dating a single mum. In fact my past 3 relationships have been single mums. Never been an issue not to. Always looked at it as a whole package,cant pick and choose what part you want and ignore the rest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Following a thread posted by a guy I’m just wondering others opinions regarding their children coming first.
If this is really how guys see it so I don't need any sugar coating. What do you honestly think?
I'll admit... it would be a bit depressing if she's right. Does anyone know the stats on single
dads getting into new relationships?
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Well I'd say most of my exs have been single mums I guess it's hard to find singles wo haven't kids! |
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