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Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?"
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack ."
The knowledge you get from a longer relationship, trust, exploring stuff ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack .
My first relationship wasn't good i gained nothing from it, that's probably led to my insecurities
The knowledge you get from a longer relationship, trust, exploring stuff ?"
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Serious relationships have you had ? I feel that my lack of sexual experiences and knowledge is holding me back on here .
Thoughts please
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Only done anything sexual with four men. Probably because I got married at 20  |
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack ."
I didn’t find my sexual confidence until my marriage ended. Best thing to happen to me |
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack ."
I get that, but I’ve learned more about sexual experience and exploration through not having relationships. It’s easier to explore with people you don’t know that well cos you don’t have to look them in the eye every day haha
Now I’ve found a woman that we can do almost anything and it’s even more fun. But that only came about because of exploration before and now together and sometimes apart.
Don’t think lack of experience holds you back from gaining experience, you can easily get it by just saying “fuck it” and going for it anyway. If you like it, do it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Serious relationships have you had ? I feel that my lack of sexual experiences and knowledge is holding me back on here .
Thoughts please
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Only two, but i would have thought that more sexual experience would come with having plenty of casual flings rather than with fewer more serious relationships. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack ."
I get that. I've only had one serious relationship and that was with a woman so I've had a lot more sex with women than men. I can still be a little shy with a man's body, but if a man is patient and allows me to relax it helps a lot. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Only one serious relationship with the man I met at age 15, married and which lasted 23 years.
What makes you think that lack of relationships hold you back ?
It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack .
I didn’t find my sexual confidence until my marriage ended. Best thing to happen to me "
Same here. I didn’t realise how good sex could be until I got divorced. Serves me right for marrying the first girl I slept with  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" Serious relationships have you had ? I feel that my lack of sexual experiences and knowledge is holding me back on here .
Thoughts please
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serious only 3 |
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
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Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things "
I wasn't in a relationship exactly but I have experience of insecurities coming from that kind of environment too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
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That figures. An abusive relationship for 20 years would rob all your self confidence. Well done for being on here, and re-discovering 'you' |
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things
I wasn't in a relationship exactly but I have experience of insecurities coming from that kind of environment too. "
Shit isn’t it? Even though the relationship ended 17 years ago it still makes me sceptic of when people pay compliments etc makes me harder to accept them & think they’re being serious etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
That figures. An abusive relationship for 20 years would rob all your self confidence. Well done for being on here, and re-discovering 'you' "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things
I wasn't in a relationship exactly but I have experience of insecurities coming from that kind of environment too.
Shit isn’t it? Even though the relationship ended 17 years ago it still makes me sceptic of when people pay compliments etc makes me harder to accept them & think they’re being serious etc "
Mine finished 15 years ago .
To this day i find people paying me compliments difficult to accept |
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things
I wasn't in a relationship exactly but I have experience of insecurities coming from that kind of environment too.
Shit isn’t it? Even though the relationship ended 17 years ago it still makes me sceptic of when people pay compliments etc makes me harder to accept them & think they’re being serious etc
Mine finished 15 years ago .
To this day i find people paying me compliments difficult to accept "
When they do I usually brush it off as I find it hard to accept people find me attractive, thanks to the ex |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks all
Iv had 2
First was abusive ...which lasted 20 years ...I think that's where my thoughts and insecurities stem from .
Abusive relationships will do that to you, I was in one luckily it wasn’t long but long enough to leave mental scars that still lead me to be insecure about certain things
I wasn't in a relationship exactly but I have experience of insecurities coming from that kind of environment too.
Shit isn’t it? Even though the relationship ended 17 years ago it still makes me sceptic of when people pay compliments etc makes me harder to accept them & think they’re being serious etc
Mine finished 15 years ago .
To this day i find people paying me compliments difficult to accept
When they do I usually brush it off as I find it hard to accept people find me attractive, thanks to the ex "
I'm exactly the same . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack ."
I am not sure a relationship necessarily means more experience and/or confidence.
The benefits of swinging and fan is you can try all manner of things.
On the forums you can explore in a safe way. A social is a good way to get a confidence boost in a friendly and relaxed setting.
When you are ready for something more a club visit will let you get hands on without the pressure of a individual meet.
Really, it all depends on what you are looking for - a relationship or just a bit more spice in your life.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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It's the knowledge you gain ... sexual experience ,confidence which sadly i feel i lack .
I am not sure a relationship necessarily means more experience and/or confidence.
The benefits of swinging and fan is you can try all manner of things.
On the forums you can explore in a safe way. A social is a good way to get a confidence boost in a friendly and relaxed setting.
When you are ready for something more a club visit will let you get hands on without the pressure of a individual meet.
Really, it all depends on what you are looking for - a relationship or just a bit more spice in your life.
Q"
Of that im unsure ... if im honest this probably isn't the best site for me as i explained my confidence is rock bottom  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ? |
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"There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ?"
That's a lovely idea.  |
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"There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ?"
Great advice. |
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"There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ?"
I’m kinda local and more than happy to chat with OP via inbox etc can never have too many friends on here |
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"There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ?
I’m kinda local and more than happy to chat with OP via inbox etc can never have too many friends on here "
Perfect. I think I luv you just a little bit |
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"There are some lovely grounded men who regularly post in the forums. Perhaps a couple of purely social meets from said men, would help you gain some confidence in just meeting men ?
Would any regular posters do that if you live somewhere near ?
I’m kinda local and more than happy to chat with OP via inbox etc can never have too many friends on here
Perfect. I think I luv you just a little bit "
Aww thanks |
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
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" Serious relationships have you had ? I feel that my lack of sexual experiences and knowledge is holding me back on here .
Thoughts please
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1 very long marriage, 1 x affair and a couple of long standing fwb's |
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