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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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Lighter note
Great nipples   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Worth sending a reply of “I’ve changed my mind, you are my type, wanna cum on my tits?” and see what he replies?  "
tempting. I'll report back with my findings |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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and there's another one that gets on my nerves
'your loss babe'
no it's not. a loss is when you can't have what you want. I've turned them down. no loss.
oops I'm in full fledged bitch mode now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why i state on my profile that if i dont reply its a polite no thanks.
They message again and instant block. If they didnt read my profile and think im rude, well they should of been polite enough to read my profile in the first place |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I would of just left it at 'thanks', if I replied at all.
I wouldn't assume that someone wanted to meet me from a message like that, he might of just wanted to pay you a compliment.
No excuse for being a cunt though!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would of just left it at 'thanks', if I replied at all.
I wouldn't assume that someone wanted to meet me from a message like that, he might of just wanted to pay you a compliment.
No excuse for being a cunt though!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And this is exactly why us women don't reply saying thanks but no thanks to a lot of men on here (not all) because of the abuse when they can't handle the rejection |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"And this is exactly why us women don't reply saying thanks but no thanks to a lot of men on here (not all) because of the abuse when they can't handle the rejection "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rejection is painful for some!
I got serious racial abuse after I politely told a guy he wasn’t what I was looking for and I wish him well.
I was so shocked! It was laughable that someone would be that angry over a polite rejection from someone they haven’t met! |
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Unfortunately guys can’t take rejection I get same comments some times when I politely say they are not my type , so specificity put my type in capitals in my profile thought I would make it idiot proof , doesn’t work hmmmm  |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"I would of just left it at 'thanks', if I replied at all.
I wouldn't assume that someone wanted to meet me from a message like that, he might of just wanted to pay you a compliment.
No excuse for being a cunt though!!"
Was going to say exactly the same, sometimes it's just a compliment and not a meet invite. No need to be nasty though. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow."
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse. |
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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago
deptford London |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse. "
a polite no thanks no matter where you are does not mean you should receive any abuse especially racial, all people like this should be reported and kicked off |
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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago
deptford London |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse. "
we are not all idiots, you have given me a polite no thanks and i was just gutted thats all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
we are not all idiots, you have given me a polite no thanks and i was just gutted thats all "
Ha bless you!
The good outweighs the bad on here of course! X |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
I have tried to answer with just thanks or thanks and happy fabbing to kind of draw a line under it. I don’t remember one single time that it has not lead to further messages that I have tried to reply to in a friendly way but they have still,more often than not, culminated in the request for a meet. So then when you say that they are not your type or you’re not looking at the moment, you get accused of wasting their time and leading them on. Obviously this does not happen with all of them but all the same you can’t do right for doing wrong on here sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
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sadly this is a perfect example of what I have thought for a couple of years now. Too many single guys have been drawn in to the site by a) free cams and b) phone App and they are the sort who far from meeting and getting involved need instant gratification. Its all 'self'. And when that is rejected they hurl abuse because they don't care what people think - They just move on to the next unfortunate lady. You see them knocking one out in chat rooms and uttering really well thought out compliments like "Get your tits out".
I know what the answer is but it will never happen. Either ban all cams or charge single blokes a fortune to view and use them. We managed to get up to all sorts of naughtiness before cams came along and the quality of chat was brilliant. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse. "
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that. |
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By *rwhite30Man
over a year ago
deptford London |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that."
i would say 99.9 % are messaging as they want to get into the ladies knickers, |
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"I have tried to answer with just thanks or thanks and happy fabbing to kind of draw a line under it. I don’t remember one single time that it has not lead to further messages that I have tried to reply to in a friendly way but they have still,more often than not, culminated in the request for a meet. So then when you say that they are not your type or you’re not looking at the moment, you get accused of wasting their time and leading them on. Obviously this does not happen with all of them but all the same you can’t do right for doing wrong on here sometimes "
Search for the guys that are your type and message them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow."
The compliment was that she was as sexy as hell. If he didn't fancy her a possible playmate, he wouldn't have sent that compliment on a sex site.
She politely thanked him for the compliment and pointed out politely that he wadn't her type.
He then hurled a hurtful response. Not sure where your criticism springs from ? |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that.
i would say 99.9 % are messaging as they want to get into the ladies knickers, "
And I would say that 99.9% of those approaching a lady at a bar with a compliment are the same... The difference being a lady wouldn't shut him down immediately face to face so why would she here? Sure if you thank him he's going to try to strike up a conversation, in reality or on here, there's no harm in being kind and if you can't be arsed to do that send the thanks then block him... Just as at a bar you would probably make an excuse and walk away. |
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An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
Hull |
"I have tried to answer with just thanks or thanks and happy fabbing to kind of draw a line under it. I don’t remember one single time that it has not lead to further messages that I have tried to reply to in a friendly way but they have still,more often than not, culminated in the request for a meet. So then when you say that they are not your type or you’re not looking at the moment, you get accused of wasting their time and leading them on. Obviously this does not happen with all of them but all the same you can’t do right for doing wrong on here sometimes
Search for the guys that are your type and message them?"
I do that already thanks . I’m not blocking all single men though as not all messages are unwanted. |
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
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I agree with the use of filters. Search for men yourself and stop men from messaging you. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
The compliment was that she was as sexy as hell. If he didn't fancy her a possible playmate, he wouldn't have sent that compliment on a sex site.
She politely thanked him for the compliment and pointed out politely that he wadn't her type.
He then hurled a hurtful response. Not sure where your criticism springs from ?"
No critisism... Simply trying to see thing from both sides. How would you feel if you approached a man and complimented him and his reply was an abrupt " thanks, not my type"? I'm pretty sure I would say "hey that's ok, you're not mine either I just liked your suit!".
Abuse is always wrong. Report and block them.
I can honestly say in 12 years here, the first 8 as a single female, I don't recall ever getting an abusive message AND I reply to every single message individually and have no filters set and only a neighbour blocked.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
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Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message. |
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message. "
Politeness and manners cost nothing. I might be old fashioned but I would never be rude to a woman. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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I've had loads of these today. Chin up lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message.
Politeness and manners cost nothing. I might be old fashioned but I would never be rude to a woman. "
I wouldn’t even say that’s old fashioned, it’s just being a decent person to anyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message.
Politeness and manners cost nothing. I might be old fashioned but I would never be rude to a woman.
I wouldn’t even say that’s old fashioned, it’s just being a decent person to anyone! "
Very true I guess some people are brought up better than others
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message. "
Absolutely this...
"too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want."
Not just men, women and couples too!
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"An alternative view (unlikely) might be.
Stop whinging. Ban yourself from the site for 48 hours, go and do something to cheer yourself up.
When you come back, only message the guys you like the look of and see how you go from there.
Or how about those who can’t handle rejection should learn to accept it and understand that not every woman on this website wants to sleep with them, too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want.
I don’t mind receiving messages from men, that’s how I like it, the ones I don’t like I delete, and then block if necessary, I personally don’t need to change my filters, what needs to change is people thinking it’s okay to abuse others after a polite “no thanks” or a deleted message.
Absolutely this...
"too many entitled individuals who think being on here means guaranteed sex with who they want."
Not just men, women and couples too!
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"Feel better now OP?
Breathe smile move on.
No one died. No one got hurt. The world didn't stop turning.
Have a happy day x"
She did get hurt. He hurled a hurtful reply calling her a fatty  |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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In fareness alltho hes a cunt for being a baby not all messages i send are to get a meet tho most are just a bit of a giggle |
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"Feel better now OP?
Breathe smile move on.
No one died. No one got hurt. The world didn't stop turning.
Have a happy day x"
You wouldnt say that if it was YOU that had to put up with cunty men talking to you like that. For absolutely no reason
You know, everyone craps on about the fact that there are so many men on here, compared to the number of women.
And thats why lots of them cant get layed.
Nah
Its because they behave like arseholes |
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So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time. |
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I don’t understand why people can’t take rejection. Yes it’s annoying when you make the effort to contact someone you think looks (and if you’ve read the profile - sounds) good and they say they’re not interested, but that’s life. If I get a rejection I either just move on or send a polite “thanks for the response, good luck” message. |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow."
This to a certain extent yes. I say thankyou, but then just ignore or delete follow up messages.
No excuses at all for name calling, but I can see why some may feel slighted at a snubbed compliment. |
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"oh no. not 1 guy. I get loads like this a day.
if I was nasty and told them why I was rejecting them I'd understand the abuse"
Tightening your filters and not replying to men you're not interested in should reduce the number of abusive messages considerably.
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"So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time. "
I don't quite follow all of that.
What do you mean by "too scared to take the risk themselves"?
And the actual site rules are pretty clear on expecting all parties to effectively "man up and accept your rejection". No one should have to expect any comeback from declining an unwanted advance. |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that.
i would say 99.9 % are messaging as they want to get into the ladies knickers,
And I would say that 99.9% of those approaching a lady at a bar with a compliment are the same... The difference being a lady wouldn't shut him down immediately face to face so why would she here? Sure if you thank him he's going to try to strike up a conversation, in reality or on here, there's no harm in being kind and if you can't be arsed to do that send the thanks then block him... Just as at a bar you would probably make an excuse and walk away."
I'd say, the majority of women love the fact they can do that here, more's the pity in a bar they don't have that option and just be able to delete the compliment and get on with trying to enjoy their evening.
To whoever gets a rebutal, just move on and leave the angst out of it. If you must reply! just make it thanks for the reply and wish them happy fabbing...
Apart from being the right thing to do, people gossip and are likely to mention that abusive messenger who is looking for a good time. You do yoursleves no favours straying from the decency path. |
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"Feel better now OP?
Breathe smile move on.
No one died. No one got hurt. The world didn't stop turning.
Have a happy day x
You wouldnt say that if it was YOU that had to put up with cunty men talking to you like that. For absolutely no reason
You know, everyone craps on about the fact that there are so many men on here, compared to the number of women.
And thats why lots of them cant get layed.
Nah
Its because they behave like arseholes"
I passed no comment on his behaviour. And agree he sounds like an arse.
But how OP reacts is her choice. In the scheme of things it's not worth getting ranty about an abusive reply from an idiot. If necessary simply block and move on.
He's probably sat somewhere reading this thread getting his jollies that he has provoked such a reaction.
In the meantime OP is giving him oxygen by posting this thread.
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
"
Haven't read the thread.
I quite often send a similar first message only to be told 'I'm not their type'.
I'm not bothered. How do they know?
I get they might not fancy me just by looking at pics.
Talking of which I will also send messages wether they are complimentary or not but that still doesn't mean I'd like to meet them.
I can't excuse the guys reply calling you a fatty and what not, don't take any notice OP. See as it is in the street, you'd probably take no notice of them hatred. |
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"Feel better now OP?
Breathe smile move on.
No one died. No one got hurt. The world didn't stop turning.
Have a happy day x
You wouldnt say that if it was YOU that had to put up with cunty men talking to you like that. For absolutely no reason
You know, everyone craps on about the fact that there are so many men on here, compared to the number of women.
And thats why lots of them cant get layed.
Nah
Its because they behave like arseholes
I passed no comment on his behaviour. And agree he sounds like an arse.
But how OP reacts is her choice. In the scheme of things it's not worth getting ranty about an abusive reply from an idiot. If necessary simply block and move on.
He's probably sat somewhere reading this thread getting his jollies that he has provoked such a reaction.
In the meantime OP is giving him oxygen by posting this thread.
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Yes, quite possibly sitting in the back bedroom of his mum's house, waiting for her to dry his vests and make him a haslet sandwich
Thats hardly the point though.
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"Feel better now OP?
Breathe smile move on.
No one died. No one got hurt. The world didn't stop turning.
Have a happy day x
You wouldnt say that if it was YOU that had to put up with cunty men talking to you like that. For absolutely no reason
You know, everyone craps on about the fact that there are so many men on here, compared to the number of women.
And thats why lots of them cant get layed.
Nah
Its because they behave like arseholes
I passed no comment on his behaviour. And agree he sounds like an arse.
But how OP reacts is her choice. In the scheme of things it's not worth getting ranty about an abusive reply from an idiot. If necessary simply block and move on.
He's probably sat somewhere reading this thread getting his jollies that he has provoked such a reaction.
In the meantime OP is giving him oxygen by posting this thread.
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And it's not like the forum folk will keep feeding the trolls regardless of them happily gorging themselves on the attention is it? |
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"So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time. "
So how about those who can’t stand rejection and have to abuse leave the site?
Since we are talking about taking control as you say and women should block all men, even those of us that don’t mind being messages, maybe all men who can’t stand rejection and are so entitled that they think we all want to sleep with them, maybe the should leave the site or hide their profile to protect their fragile egos and prevent them from being rejected.
Or, we could block and report the abusive, like we already do. |
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We can all add filters & block, it doesn’t stop the abuse, but it MAY reduce it.
I’ve said thanks have a nice day, got abuse.
I’ve politely declined and wished them well, got abuse.
I’ve ignored and deleted a message, got abuse.
I’ve ignored, deleted & blocked a profile, they made a new one... I got abuse.
I’ve messaged men myself who I’ve been interested in, one of which I was at work when they messaged so couldn’t reply straight away, I got abuse.
What next? Shall I delete my profile and twiddle my thumbs? LOL.
The point is, you can do the most to avoid or prevent soemthing, it doesn’t always stop it happening. |
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"So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time.
So how about those who can’t stand rejection and have to abuse leave the site?
Since we are talking about taking control as you say and women should block all men, even those of us that don’t mind being messages, maybe all men who can’t stand rejection and are so entitled that they think we all want to sleep with them, maybe the should leave the site or hide their profile to protect their fragile egos and prevent them from being rejected.
Or, we could block and report the abusive, like we already do. "
Of course it would be wonderful if all the men you described left the site. Something tells me that's highly unlikely though.
The option we're then left with is to protect ourselves as much as we can from abusive messages i.e. tighten filters, not replying to people we're not interested in etc. |
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"So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time.
So how about those who can’t stand rejection and have to abuse leave the site?
Since we are talking about taking control as you say and women should block all men, even those of us that don’t mind being messages, maybe all men who can’t stand rejection and are so entitled that they think we all want to sleep with them, maybe the should leave the site or hide their profile to protect their fragile egos and prevent them from being rejected.
Or, we could block and report the abusive, like we already do.
Of course it would be wonderful if all the men you described left the site. Something tells me that's highly unlikely though.
The option we're then left with is to protect ourselves as much as we can from abusive messages i.e. tighten filters, not replying to people we're not interested in etc. "
We can only dream! Haha.
The thing is, most of us women have done all of that and still manage to get abuse and yet some on here still think the blame lies with the person receiving the abuse and not the person sending the abuse!
It doesn’t ever stop me enjoying this site though. |
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Of course it would be wonderful if all the men you described left the site. Something tells me that's highly unlikely though.
The option we're then left with is to protect ourselves as much as we can from abusive messages i.e. tighten filters, not replying to people we're not interested in etc.
We can only dream! Haha.
The thing is, most of us women have done all of that and still manage to get abuse and yet some on here still think the blame lies with the person receiving the abuse and not the person sending the abuse!
It doesn’t ever stop me enjoying this site though. "
Bear in mind that the larger proportion of males to females on here skews the perception that it is only men that can't handle a no thank you, or a message deleted without reading. Or even just taking too long for the senders liking to reply. Ego can be a fragile thing. |
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Why do guys think it’s acceptable behaviour to send abusive messages once they’ve been ejected? I’ve received all sorts of messages when I’ve politely declined an offer.
We can’t win if we ignore a message we get sent several more, if we block with no response we’re considered ignorant and rude and if we respond with a decline we get abuse from a few.
Here’s to growing a thick skin and meeting all the lovely charming guys that are out there. I know there are many of you.
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"Why do guys think it’s acceptable behaviour to send abusive messages once they’ve been ejected? I’ve received all sorts of messages when I’ve politely declined an offer.
We can’t win if we ignore a message we get sent several more, if we block with no response we’re considered ignorant and rude and if we respond with a decline we get abuse from a few.
Here’s to growing a thick skin and meeting all the lovely charming guys that are out there. I know there are many of you.
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Of course it would be wonderful if all the men you described left the site. Something tells me that's highly unlikely though.
The option we're then left with is to protect ourselves as much as we can from abusive messages i.e. tighten filters, not replying to people we're not interested in etc.
We can only dream! Haha.
The thing is, most of us women have done all of that and still manage to get abuse and yet some on here still think the blame lies with the person receiving the abuse and not the person sending the abuse!
It doesn’t ever stop me enjoying this site though.
Bear in mind that the larger proportion of males to females on here skews the perception that it is only men that can't handle a no thank you, or a message deleted without reading. Or even just taking too long for the senders liking to reply. Ego can be a fragile thing."
Oh no, it’s definitely all genders!
I’m just going off of my own experience, I don’t doubt there are many women and couples who get nasty after rejection! |
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Oh no, it’s definitely all genders!
I’m just going off of my own experience, I don’t doubt there are many women and couples who get nasty after rejection!"
It’s human nature to not like rejection unfortunately it’s also a fact of life that not everyone is going to like everyone. It’s very disheartening when you find it difficult to make contact in the first place, then spend ages writing a message trying to show that although you’re an ugly fat hairy thing, that you actually have a personality and sense of humour etc, to then get a no thanks or be ignored. However it’s 10 times worse when they send you abusive messages back for “daring to contact them” or similar. Just no need for it. We are all different and like different things. If everyone was civil to everyone it would be a much better place |
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"Any frustration is not that you were rejected by someone you rejected and it's not the name he calls you. It's the simple fact that you can't get him by the throat and bite his fookin' nose off. "
Yep. Well said!
OP, scrape your shoe...move on.
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"So basically if you’re going to just sit off and let things happen to you you’ll probably continue to end up with cause to whinge.
But you can take control and most likely prevent/reduce your own distress..
Yet several posters (women) decline to do it. Why so? Maybe it’s not that much of a hassle after all. Compared to having to make the effort or face the same issues themselves.
I said it was unlikely that people would change the way they use the site. Seems that wasn’t an incorrect assumption.
I’m sorry the OP was offended by the comments made to her. I’m sorry too that those comments were made. But the fact remains that a rejection of any kind, even a ‘no thanks’ or a ‘not my type’ is something that will be taken personally by the men too. It’s unfortunately that despite the fact that we live in 2018 and that such great strides towards equality have been made the general feeling on this forum is that comments that will be taken personally by men are just fine thanks, yet comments made by men are to be deplored.*
I find it strange that the attitude of ‘man up and except your rejection’ still prevails amongst those too scared to take the risk themselves.
*just to reiterate and clarify, under no comments inciting hatred are acceptable at any time.
So how about those who can’t stand rejection and have to abuse leave the site?
Since we are talking about taking control as you say and women should block all men, even those of us that don’t mind being messages, maybe all men who can’t stand rejection and are so entitled that they think we all want to sleep with them, maybe the should leave the site or hide their profile to protect their fragile egos and prevent them from being rejected.
Or, we could block and report the abusive, like we already do.
Of course it would be wonderful if all the men you described left the site. Something tells me that's highly unlikely though.
The option we're then left with is to protect ourselves as much as we can from abusive messages i.e. tighten filters, not replying to people we're not interested in etc.
We can only dream! Haha.
The thing is, most of us women have done all of that and still manage to get abuse and yet some on here still think the blame lies with the person receiving the abuse and not the person sending the abuse!
It doesn’t ever stop me enjoying this site though. "
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow."
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I was polite
just saying thanks opens up to a conversation, hence making it clear I'm not interested.
however, my point is that several guys a day send the same sort of message. a compliment followed by abuse when declined. they also moan bitterly if we don't let them know if we aren't interested. no one has to put up with abuse and no one is entitled to a reply.
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that."
Well i would like to meet these guys who will message a compliment without expecting it to lead to a meet
Ive replied to guys who say they just wanna chat as theyre friendly. Before i know it they are asking for a meet.. |
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He should be grateful that he got a reply, I’m sure most would have just deleted his message. Totally childish response from him though, if everyone liked the same things it would be a boring world |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that.
Well i would like to meet these guys who will message a compliment without expecting it to lead to a meet
Ive replied to guys who say they just wanna chat as theyre friendly. Before i know it they are asking for a meet.. "
I like to chat with an intention of hopefully meeting but don’t expect any play. If it happens then bonus |
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"I would of just left it at 'thanks', if I replied at all.
I wouldn't assume that someone wanted to meet me from a message like that, he might of just wanted to pay you a compliment.
No excuse for being a cunt though!!"
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"Rejection is painful for some!
I got serious racial abuse after I politely told a guy he wasn’t what I was looking for and I wish him well.
I was so shocked! It was laughable that someone would be that angry over a polite rejection from someone they haven’t met! "
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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It's people like that that mean messages are deleted without a reply. I'd rather have a 'thanks but no thanks' than just a delete and there's no need for abuse either way, some people are just born twats. |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
Ok... I can see how people get shitty messages now.
He messages to compliment you, you rather abruptly said thanks but not your type... He wasn't asking if you wanted to fuck, just complimenting you. Why not just take the compliment, thank him kindly and leave it there? If he comes back with "faf" then thank him again and say you are not looking at the moment or gently explain why he doesn't meet your requirements?
So many seem to be so harassed they shut down every message harshly... If a man approached you in a bar and complimented you on your dress or hair etc would you say "thanks but not my type"?!
Be kind. Reap what you sow.
She said THANKS key word here.
She thanked him for the compliment, and stated he wasn’t her type.
You’re telling me that warrants sending her abuse?
I politely rejected a man after he asked to meet for some no holes barred fun and got racially abused, there is no excuse.
I'm not saying that at all... Of course abuse is unacceptable.
A simple "Thank you, you're too kind" would have left him nothing to be abusive about. Not every man messaging wants to get into a lady's knickers, it's a little presumptuous to assume he wanted to. Still wrong of him to be abusive but he might equally have taken offense at the assumption he wanted more?
In your case racial abuse should never be tolerated under any circumstances. I hope you reported and blocked him. It's not worth entering into dialogue with folk like that.
i would say 99.9 % are messaging as they want to get into the ladies knickers,
And I would say that 99.9% of those approaching a lady at a bar with a compliment are the same... The difference being a lady wouldn't shut him down immediately face to face so why would she here? Sure if you thank him he's going to try to strike up a conversation, in reality or on here, there's no harm in being kind and if you can't be arsed to do that send the thanks then block him... Just as at a bar you would probably make an excuse and walk away."
Actually you are quite wrong! I have been approached in a public bar, chatted up by a man and it’s not been subtle and I’ve told him in person he wasn’t going to get anywhere with me and would he kindly leave me alone or I call security on him. He walked away but I was very uncomfortable until my friend arrived |
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I had someone message me the other day, when I politely said ‘thanks but no thanks’ he messaged back with ....’ shame, I’d loved to have r*aped you’
I shared his name and what he’d wrote on my status,
Dont know if he deleted profile or was booted off, my friend looked for him and couldn’t find him.
I know not all men take rejection so badly, but this was a first in 7/8 years that really shook me up, and I was worried he was serious (probably not - key board warrior) but named him as warning to all women,
You men that can’t take rejection shouldn’t be on here , I just block and move on when I am, and you guys that can take it, your the guys that make the site bearable
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
whinge over
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One rule for one.
One rule for another I guess? |
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"message from a man:-wow babe, great pics. sexy as hell
my reply.:- thanks but not my type
message from him:-you ain't my type either. I don't touch fatties.
cheers mate. you wouldn't send a message in the first place if you didn't want to try to meet me
I bet this dick has a forum thread along the lines of “why don’t people reply to my messages”.
whinge over
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