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Blocking and why does it offend so much?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is blocking such a hot subject amongst people? There seems to be a lot of people offended that they get blocked for not replying to messages. A few questions to start off.
Why does it offend if youre not interested?
How do you feel if you're blocked for not replying for whatever reason?
In what way does it really matter to you?
Surely people can use the site functions however they wish to use them.
This is to be non personal and hopefully some good points to help understand each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never get why people are offended, its really nothing personal.
If you're really so delicate that being blocked by a complete stranger you'll never meet offends then not sure this site is for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So far I've not noticed anyone blocking me but I can't imagine I'd care either way. If they don't want to speak to me then I don't want to speak to them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me it's a mute button.
After all you could unmute them.
I love the mute button stops those who I am not interested in or the rude ones from contacting |
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"So far I've not noticed anyone blocking me but I can't imagine I'd care either way. If they don't want to speak to me then I don't want to speak to them!"
I agree entirely, I’ve been blocked a couple of times, but don’t know why. I sometimes think it would be nice to know why, if I caused offence I’d love to know! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Cause no-one likes rejection. And some handle it badly because they have low self-esteem and/or a sense of entitlement."
Think there is a lot of truth in what you say.
There seems to be a few who are using the block as a filter for those who show/demonstrate no interest. Helps to narrow searches for those who are and some feel it's unfair they can no longer view or maybe change their mind in the future and have that option given to them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I never get why people are offended, its really nothing personal.
If you're really so delicate that being blocked by a complete stranger you'll never meet offends then not sure this site is for you."
This. And there are 50,000 more hopefuls to search through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never blocked anyone. It just closes doors for ever and we all know that's a good thing, because nothing ever changes, does it.
Those who block me. Their choice and I have no insight into the mind of another who i have probably never met, so why would it ever matter to me. |
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over a year ago
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"If someone says they don't want to meet me I block them so I don't end up messaging them again a few months later. Saves everyone's time and effort"
This seems to offend a lot. Arguments about not replying there and then because it takes too long with hundreds to go through, I'll read later and send a longer reply are a few some give.
Maybe Fab needs to reconsider the often requested... automated reply button with a couple options like 'no thank you', 'not atm', 'I'm interested and will reply soon'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it funny when some messages go wrong and someone finishes with a 'well your blocked now'. Am I meant to burst into tears or something. Feels a childish response from a supposed adult.
Being blocked for other reasons doesnt bother me either. I'll never know why so cant give it a moments thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages! "
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to."
Thanks for that, does it then delete the attached pics.. as, if I don't get a reply i tend to remove them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to."
Would one then remember or context of what you said? Does you sent message reappear so you can see? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to.
Would one then remember or context of what you said? Does you sent message reappear so you can see?"
If you're a site supporter you will see the whole message feed should they reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to.
Thanks for that, does it then delete the attached pics.. as, if I don't get a reply i tend to remove them. "
No it won't but if you tick the delete photo when read box when you send the message the photo will be removed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to.
Thanks for that, does it then delete the attached pics.. as, if I don't get a reply i tend to remove them.
No it won't but if you tick the delete photo when read box when you send the message the photo will be removed. "
Fab thanks for that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Delete your sent messages as soon as you've sent them, you won't know what the recipient has done with it then. It only deletes in in your sent box, it still gets to the user you sent it to.
Thanks for that, does it then delete the attached pics.. as, if I don't get a reply i tend to remove them.
No it won't but if you tick the delete photo when read box when you send the message the photo will be removed.
Fab thanks for that! "
No problem my lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But I’m lovely, why would you want to block me?
Occasionally, when I’ve been chatting to someone and getting on well, then we exchange face pics and they block without a ‘Thanks but you are not for us’ it feels like a bit of a slap. I’m a big girl, just tell me I’m not for you. I’m hardly going to chase you round fab begging for a meet. So on those occasions it feels a bit cowardly and like they don’t trust your emotional maturity to deal with a ‘thanks but no thanks’.
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages! "
Having messages read but not deleted? Take it as a compliment my friend. Your obviously not what that person is looking for at that precise moment, but they have obviously seen something in your profile that they like, so they are saving you for a rainy day, so to speak.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can’t say I’ve noticed if I’ve been blocked and if so it wouldn’t really bother me. I’m certain that I’m not for everyone, that would just be exhausting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can’t say I’ve noticed if I’ve been blocked and if so it wouldn’t really bother me. I’m certain that I’m not for everyone, that would just be exhausting! "
And that would mean that you aren't yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't mean a thing but I've had a couple of people feel the need to tell me that they've blocked me because of something I've said in the forums, which I find a bit odd.
Not odd that that they felt the need to block me but odd that they felt the need to tell me. It's like they're making sure I know I'm blocked in case I don't look at their profile to find out.
Those people seem a bit up themselves.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't mean a thing but I've had a couple of people feel the need to tell me that they've blocked me because of something I've said in the forums, which I find a bit odd.
Not odd that that they felt the need to block me but odd that they felt the need to tell me. It's like they're making sure I know I'm blocked in case I don't look at their profile to find out.
Those people seem a bit up themselves.
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oh yes I had that too
#youknowwhoyouare
(This is the only time I have used that hashtag seriously ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't mean a thing but I've had a couple of people feel the need to tell me that they've blocked me because of something I've said in the forums, which I find a bit odd.
Not odd that that they felt the need to block me but odd that they felt the need to tell me. It's like they're making sure I know I'm blocked in case I don't look at their profile to find out.
Those people seem a bit up themselves.
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That’s really funny. Did you know them beforehand? |
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"If someone says they don't want to meet me I block them so I don't end up messaging them again a few months later. Saves everyone's time and effort
This seems to offend a lot. Arguments about not replying there and then because it takes too long with hundreds to go through, I'll read later and send a longer reply are a few some give.
Maybe Fab needs to reconsider the often requested... automated reply button with a couple options like 'no thank you', 'not atm', 'I'm interested and will reply soon'."
What and then what about the "why not" "what's wrong with me" automated response to follow that up with. No thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only block men who pester us in chat no is no ....
Only been blocked by 2 ppl that ive noticed not sure y but oh well just here to have a laugh life really is too short u know |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We only block men who pester us in chat no is no ....
Only been blocked by 2 ppl that ive noticed not sure y but oh well just here to have a laugh life really is too short u know "
They may have recognised your tits |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is blocking such a hot subject amongst people? There seems to be a lot of people offended that they get blocked for not replying to messages. A few questions to start off.
Why does it offend if youre not interested?
How do you feel if you're blocked for not replying for whatever reason?
In what way does it really matter to you?
Surely people can use the site functions however they wish to use them.
This is to be non personal and hopefully some good points to help understand each other."
Dunno- just blocked you so you can tell me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We only block men who pester us in chat no is no ....
Only been blocked by 2 ppl that ive noticed not sure y but oh well just here to have a laugh life really is too short u know
They may have recognised your tits "
From where ? I dnt show them in public u know only to the lovely ppl of fab |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a newbie then obiously a lot to learn. Blocking doesn't bother me. you know where you stand. reading messages then having them deleted that's no problem as you know their not interested, but having messages read but not deleted and no reply is a tad annoying, however I can appreciate the single females must be snowed under with messages!
Having messages read but not deleted? Take it as a compliment my friend. Your obviously not what that person is looking for at that precise moment, but they have obviously seen something in your profile that they like, so they are saving you for a rainy day, so to speak.
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Plan B |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone says they don't want to meet me I block them so I don't end up messaging them again a few months later. Saves everyone's time and effort
This seems to offend a lot. Arguments about not replying there and then because it takes too long with hundreds to go through, I'll read later and send a longer reply are a few some give.
Maybe Fab needs to reconsider the often requested... automated reply button with a couple options like 'no thank you', 'not atm', 'I'm interested and will reply soon'.
What and then what about the "why not" "what's wrong with me" automated response to follow that up with. No thanks "
This is old...And has been resonated too often.
The answer to that is simply...allowing the receiver to be nice and polite and if it's a no thank you...Then the sender is prevented from replying. Simple...But the simpler things are often the things most don't like. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It doesn't offend me. If i see someone has blocked me, i counter block then carry on enjoying fab . "
it prevents them unblocking and sending something and reblocking again so you can't reply. It's good to prevent that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Half the time you've no idea you've been blocked Unless it was a friend you fell out with?
Yes I've peeked at the odd forums posters profile to find I'm blocked. No idea why, but no time spent worrying about it...I never knew them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been offended by being blocked. Each to their own!
It does make me laugh when someone blocks me as I haven’t replied in 0.2 seconds though, I just think “how impatient”. Lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It doesn't offend me. If i see someone has blocked me, i counter block then carry on enjoying fab .
it prevents them unblocking and sending something and reblocking again so you can't reply. It's good to prevent that."
Most definitely |
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I think it's a mix of things -
It's not typical behavior in our culture
Some people have grand assumptions. They've shown a festering cock pic and assume the shags in the bag
Others are somewhat clueless
I think for many here, it can be so tough to get any interaction going that it's a massive deflation event when it happens, followed by a block. Projection of their emotional baggage follows.
As many people use fab in isolation, they've no one to share the devastation with, so they rant |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can’t say I’ve noticed if I’ve been blocked and if so it wouldn’t really bother me. I’m certain that I’m not for everyone, that would just be exhausting!
And that would mean that you aren't yourself. "
You’ve lost me, that would mean that I’m not what? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can’t say I’ve noticed if I’ve been blocked and if so it wouldn’t really bother me. I’m certain that I’m not for everyone, that would just be exhausting!
And that would mean that you aren't yourself.
You’ve lost me, that would mean that I’m not what? "
Sorry I was tipsy when I have written that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i block people who say im not there type so i dont bother them again later down the line"
I do the same thing, i also block peeps that look at my profile and when i read their profile it's obvious we would never talk or even meet. It saves me loads of wasted time that way. Sometimes i also block peeps that have looked at my profile in stealth mode and then sent me a message asking for a face pic.............really ? A conversation first would actually help. |
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When you block someone, I think they no longer appear in your search (i may be wrong here as I only joined the site 7 weeks ago). Perhaps someone else here can clarify. So in that respect it can be used as means of filtering out people who you might have contacted and where they have confirmed they are not interested. In this scenario, blocking is not meant to offend just a way of ensuring you don’t accidentally contact them again at some point in the future. Probably more useful method for the ladies who have to manage a higher volume of mail..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never been blocked as far as I know. Where does it say who blocked us?"
You can only tell when you try to view someones profile and it doesnt allow you to it says either youve blocked then or theyve blocked you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So far I've not noticed anyone blocking me but I can't imagine I'd care either way. If they don't want to speak to me then I don't want to speak to them!" you're dotty though
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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago
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I wouldn't mind being blocked it would save a lot of time. As a poster above said if I look at a profile or fab a pic, they look at me and aren't interested, then fine block me. It cuts out the pointless message that i might send. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When you block someone, I think they no longer appear in your search (i may be wrong here as I only joined the site 7 weeks ago). Perhaps someone else here can clarify. So in that respect it can be used as means of filtering out people who you might have contacted and where they have confirmed they are not interested. In this scenario, blocking is not meant to offend just a way of ensuring you don’t accidentally contact them again at some point in the future. Probably more useful method for the ladies who have to manage a higher volume of mail..
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I wasn't arsed about blocking, I block very few people and if people block me then so what.
But recently I went to perve photos of someone I like, who is a frequent forumite
. .only to get a message I was blocked. Must say I was a bit miffed...but later found out their profile had been been blocked by admin so nowt I'd done...
Did give me wtf moment.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wasn't arsed about blocking, I block very few people and if people block me then so what.
But recently I went to perve photos of someone I like, who is a frequent forumite
. .only to get a message I was blocked. Must say I was a bit miffed...but later found out their profile had been been blocked by admin so nowt I'd done...
Did give me wtf moment.
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How do you know it was blocked by Admin? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Blocking saves getting repeated copy and paste messages, rude and crude messages, anyone local I don’t want to meet, the list is endless. "
This.
I did block someone who sent 12 messages in a row over an 8 hour period whilst I was at work, I got home and blocked them only for a few hours later them make another account to send more abuse haha!
Admin dealt with them! |
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By *unscot44Man
over a year ago
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Being blocked doesn't offend me, but i do find it strange when you have exchanged a few messages with someone and everything seems to be going well then bang like a bolt from the blue you find on trying to reply to their latest message you have been blocked .
I cannot understand that someone cannot simply send you a message saying "sorry but we have changed our minds", it seems like a common courtesy to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because it's a negative, it's a bridge burnt and that avenue is cut off forever based on very little quite often "
I suppose from others who have a different view they could say it's the opposite... taking control, empowering and therefore a positive move forward rather than looking behind and wishing what if. New avenues opening up with more likely possibilities from those who show an interest. I suppose it may also depend if one knows what one is looking for and focuses on that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being blocked doesn't bother me unless we have been chatting then it makes me wonder what i did
What does bother me is the rudness of some replies that get sent theres no need for it a simple no thanks takes seconds to type even for a fat thumbed idiot like me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because it's a negative, it's a bridge burnt and that avenue is cut off forever based on very little quite often
I suppose from others who have a different view they could say it's the opposite... taking control, empowering and therefore a positive move forward rather than looking behind and wishing what if. New avenues opening up with more likely possibilities from those who show an interest. I suppose it may also depend if one knows what one is looking for and focuses on that." Well I suppose I agree to a certain extent blocking people who's profiles you look at who totally the opposite of what you want but do many of us do that? Most blocks come from things said or pics sent and generally it's the women or couples that block, I wonder if they would block so easily if they were the majority and men were in short supply, it's a fickle world is fab but it is what it is, try not to dwell on the negatives and enjoy the positives |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usually have no idea I’ve been blocked so no offence taken.
I think I’ve only been blocked by one person I’ve met which was a little confusing at the time. Others blocks I’ve picked up along the way are from fellow forum users - I guess I’ve said something that’s pissed them off... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually have no idea I’ve been blocked so no offence taken.
I think I’ve only been blocked by one person I’ve met which was a little confusing at the time. Others blocks I’ve picked up along the way are from fellow forum users - I guess I’ve said something that’s pissed them off... " you piss people off I find that hard to believe |
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