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“Some people just want to watch the world burn.”
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at 
The target is pinned to your back  "
But you are always at my back  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at "
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours? |
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By *W ChapMan
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?"
I guess everything we need to know is right here in this passage of dialogue
However, we all can spot a tongue in cheek post, so why not just pass it by if it winds the reader up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?"
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
Yourself in the foot mostly "
Yeah you said that on the other thread too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours? I guess everything we need to know is right here in this passage of dialogue
However, we all can spot a tongue in cheek post, so why not just pass it by if it winds the reader up. "
You kidding me?! If it offends me I’ll have a right go at the person and wish death on them on the internet by my words shaming  |
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
I've been told before that I like to cause drama. Completely not my intention.
It depends on the type of thread as to how I react. Ones by a couple of guys on here I know to take with a pinch of salt. Proper discussion ones, I forget that some people don't actually know how to debate so they makes things personal (including name calling).
There are some responses I get where I think, "just grow up" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments. "
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You kidding me?! If it offends me I’ll have a right go at the person and wish death on them on the internet by my words shaming Type slower, you may make sense. "
You can read slower |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
I think diversity of opinion is positive, and robust debate healthy. It is incredibly difficult to intuit how words on a screen are read and received, and what is happening for someone at the point they do, so often there can be a mismatch of intent, sensitivity and enjoyment of interaction. I often wish people were a little more confident and comfortable in their vulnerability to say, “ouch that’s hurt reading that, was that what you intended?” and that others would be willing to temper and adjust if that happens. But, it’s unrealistic.
And then there are people that simply don’t care if their words attack, hurt, or upset - but gosh I feel for them, what a toxic little world they must operate in, or if not and if they’re simply oblivious and blissfully ignorant - well I still choose to have the full range of feels in life from melancholy to pure joy. Always preferred the rollercoaster to the roundabout. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some "
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish "
Because it’s funny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush "
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some "
You should watch Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette (Netflix). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Gave my opinion last week....
It's not changed...
Where is the 
I've never managed to find it in the sort of banter that hurts another..."
I agree with you. I’d rather healthy discussion and informed posting with respect. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
I think its usually borne out of huge insecurity |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some "
And you’re ok with hurting some? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms! "
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention "
Who doesn’t?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some? "
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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I don't see the appeal in what you've described, but if people weren't so quick to bite the trolls would eventually head back under their bridge. If it's an obvious attempt to offend and provoke, ignore it, report if it breaks the rules, anything else is just feeding it, it's what they want! |
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Who doesn’t? "
Well, lots of people are quite happy in themselves and don't need constant attention.
And most people don't want attention at any cost; attention that comes from upsetting or annoying people. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet "
That wasn’t my question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet "
But most of your jokes aren't funny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention "
Oh! Hello  |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet "
"can't you take a joke?" is what every bully says.
Not saying you *are* a bully, but it really isn't a defence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
That wasn’t my question."
A joke is not intended to hurt some but make many laugh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
But most of your jokes aren't funny"
I’m sorry you don’t find them funny, I’m working on my material |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
"can't you take a joke?" is what every bully says.
Not saying you *are* a bully, but it really isn't a defence. "
Try posting a love thread and some people will say it’s cheesy.. there is always somebody who won’t find you funny |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet "
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Oh! Hello "
Mmmmm....hello (twiddles his imaginary moustache and smiles in a rather louche manner) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't see the appeal in what you've described, but if people weren't so quick to bite the trolls would eventually head back under their bridge. If it's an obvious attempt to offend and provoke, ignore it, report if it breaks the rules, anything else is just feeding it, it's what they want! "
That’s very true and I would normally agree with you. Today I’m just at the end of my tether and tired of the constant polarisation of opinion and people. I probably need to go and lie down |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide."
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't see the appeal in what you've described, but if people weren't so quick to bite the trolls would eventually head back under their bridge. If it's an obvious attempt to offend and provoke, ignore it, report if it breaks the rules, anything else is just feeding it, it's what they want!
That’s very true and I would normally agree with you. Today I’m just at the end of my tether and tired of the constant polarisation of opinion and people. I probably need to go and lie down "
No, go on Twitter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People will always read things differently depending on how they are feeling.
I can be a bit of a sarcastic cunt, but I'll usually throw in a  for those not fluent in sarcasm.
BUT
There are some who sit with their feet up, that seem like they enjoy being a twunt & hurting people. Those people need a hug. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't see the appeal in what you've described, but if people weren't so quick to bite the trolls would eventually head back under their bridge. If it's an obvious attempt to offend and provoke, ignore it, report if it breaks the rules, anything else is just feeding it, it's what they want!
That’s very true and I would normally agree with you. Today I’m just at the end of my tether and tired of the constant polarisation of opinion and people. I probably need to go and lie down "
Im still in bed, come have a lie down with me x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Iv been guilty of throwing the odd personal dig in frustration yesterday and i wish to appologise to her i was out of order so im truelly sorry hope u read this and wishb you well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Oh! Hello
Mmmmm....hello (twiddles his imaginary moustache and smiles in a rather louche manner) "
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults "
So behave like one? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults
So behave like one?"
But can adults be funny? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults "
I think you should heed your own advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults
I think you should heed your own advice "
I think you need to stop disliking me |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults
So behave like one?
But can adults be funny? "
Yes they can. However, the majority of stuff that you post is childish humour which is hurtful to some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
But most of your jokes aren't funny"
Replace ‘most’ with ‘all’. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
Apart from the forums, I don't know you. You don't know me (most probably even from the forums).
It's all well and good saying people should be able to take a joke, but you don't know other people's triggers.
Genuinely, how you you feel if a joke you made upset someone so much they either ended up in tears, or (worst case scenario) committed suicide.
You are right o don’t know what trigger who but I’m being accused of knowing and causing chaos.
I think adults need to behave like adults
So behave like one?
But can adults be funny?
Yes they can. However, the majority of stuff that you post is childish humour which is hurtful to some."
Can a post a joke on the internet without offending someone?
I once posted that a women reversed into me and people were saying why didn’t you move??
Do you get the gist? |
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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago
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I have to say that yesterday i thought some regular posters comments were downright rude on some of the threads. I know every one can have an off day but still.
If people just stopped and thought before pressing the post button maybe there could be a lot more fun and a lot less snarkiness. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
But most of your jokes aren't funny
Replace ‘most’ with ‘all’."
So rich coming from you mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
And you’re ok with hurting some?
I think people should be able to take a joke on the internet
But most of your jokes aren't funny
Replace ‘most’ with ‘all’."
na il credit you some are really good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say that yesterday i thought some regular posters comments were downright rude on some of the threads. I know every one can have an off day but still.
If people just stopped and thought before pressing the post button maybe there could be a lot more fun and a lot less snarkiness."
Drop names and I’ll have a word with them |
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
I see some people on here like to court drama and actually set out to be contentious. Most of the time I avoid their threads and can see what direction it’s going to go in. Personally I don’t like it, I don’t mind a tongue in cheek post but not something that is just going to deliberately wind a section of the forum up.
I’m not one for upsetting people, so perhaps I’m too sensitive to it at times. I much prefer the fun threads, though I do like a good debate as well x
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I think we should all have a nice cup of tea and sit down in a quiet room for a few minutes.
The forums are fun and they allow us to throw topics into the ring that are wider ranging than you might have expected from such a focused peer group but they can become bogged down in arguments about personality which to be frank gets a little boring. We all know that some posters enjoy stirring the pot to the extent that they become a little tiresome but this place is the modern day equivalent of speakers corner in Hyde park and god knows there were enough freakish and offensive viewpoints expounded there. It’s a bugger but democracy allows all sorts of opinion to be expressed and sometimes that is unwelcome and leads to power being handed to the Trumps of this world but only if people sit back and don’t take part in it.
So my lovelies, you are all right to express yourselves but some of you are just plain naughty and should behave yourselves!
Now, where was I? Oh yes that rather lovely young lady in London.... |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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We seem to forget that these threads that we all post reach a far bigger audience than those that post. So hence everyone and I include myself needs to be careful with what we say sometimes. Yes let’s express ourselves but let’s not insult or belittle anyone who contrIbutes
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"I think we should all have a nice cup of tea and sit down in a quiet room for a few minutes.
The forums are fun and they allow us to throw topics into the ring that are wider ranging than you might have expected from such a focused peer group but they can become bogged down in arguments about personality which to be frank gets a little boring. We all know that some posters enjoy stirring the pot to the extent that they become a little tiresome but this place is the modern day equivalent of speakers corner in Hyde park and god knows there were enough freakish and offensive viewpoints expounded there. It’s a bugger but democracy allows all sorts of opinion to be expressed and sometimes that is unwelcome and leads to power being handed to the Trumps of this world but only if people sit back and don’t take part in it.
So my lovelies, you are all right to express yourselves but some of you are just plain naughty and should behave yourselves!
Now, where was I? Oh yes that rather lovely young lady in London...."
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
How about people stop getting offended by things they read on the internet? We control our emotions and I truly believe it will solve this issue.
What do you lovely forumites think?
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Oh! Hello
Mmmmm....hello (twiddles his imaginary moustache and smiles in a rather louche manner)
Gasps and tries to control her breathing to still her heaving bosom. "
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters |
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Oh! Hello
Mmmmm....hello (twiddles his imaginary moustache and smiles in a rather louche manner)
Gasps and tries to control her breathing to still her heaving bosom.
Now that is a far more delightful prospect..... "
Why don’t you two get a room? |
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"Drop a reference please so we can have an opinion.. can’t shot an arrow if I don’t know what I’m shooting at
I’m asking for peoples opinions. Rather than giving you examples that you can ‘target’, why don’t give yours?
I think you need to be more specific rather than sweeping everyone with the same brush
This is such a wonderful malapropistic mix up of idioms!
Your command of the English language is fabulous - I think I’m in love!
Oh and banana man we all know you just love the attention
Oh! Hello
Mmmmm....hello (twiddles his imaginary moustache and smiles in a rather louche manner)
Gasps and tries to control her breathing to still her heaving bosom.
Now that is a far more delightful prospect..... "
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You only have to miss a comma, or put it in the wrong place.... and a message can be taken.out of context so easily ... plus there is no tone of voice... so you dont know if that person is trying to be funny or intentionally nasty . |
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Someone has just messaged me with a huhr compliment, and nothing to do with how great my tits look etc. It was a genuine compliment about something non sexual.
That has made me week.
This is the how more people should be. Kind. Simples |
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"Someone has just messaged me with a huhr compliment, and nothing to do with how great my tits look etc. It was a genuine compliment about something non sexual.
That has made me week.
This is the how more people should be. Kind. Simples "
What compliment? |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters "
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence. |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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Massive difference between non hurtful wit and and laugh and nasty little comments obviously designed to hurt , veiled in the I'm a straight shooter bullshit . The vast majority here are the former , but I have seen a couple of nasty little digs and just thought , was that really necessary , but to be fair it has only been a couple |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence. "
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
I think its usually borne out of huge insecurity"
Or maybe seeing through the insecurities of others, using it to their disadvantage. If the thread had of been headed 'I'd like to cry about upsetting words' would it of went down as well.
'Oversensored Nonsense Request' I'd name it as there's always a few that feel the forum needs to change to suit their delicate needs. |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap "
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap |
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By *abs..Woman
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence. "
Yes they do exactly that and I suppose it’s your choice whether to rise to it or move on. There are regular characters on here that will always do it. I’m not bothered by silliness but I don’t like it when people attack people personally. I think it’s unnecessary and very immature. Not that they see their actions that way. Ultimately, I believe if they had happy lives and kind hearts they wouldn’t do it. But what do I know? |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence. "
Forum relevance mods, could be called for. Could solve that issue. |
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over a year ago
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap"
Or if they are really keyed in shit in both |
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try. "
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't. |
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't."
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
People will always be negative, people will always instigate drama especially here. It’s down to you how to react to it. Plus the written word can be difficult to decipher sometimes as in we read a comment using the emotion we feel at the time.
Don’t stress over it OP, life is too short for that. |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap"
You do that a lot |
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
People will always be negative, people will always instigate drama especially here. It’s down to you how to react to it. Plus the written word can be difficult to decipher sometimes as in we read a comment using the emotion we feel at the time.
Don’t stress over it OP, life is too short for that."
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap
You do that a lot "
Out of the two of us, I'm not sure many would agree that that is more applicable to me |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish "
Because we are all different, offence is often taken when it wasnt intended |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish "
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't.
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
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Bill Bullard's opinion about the worthyness of opinions!.
Followed by an opinion on the value of empathy!
Touche |
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap
You do that a lot
Out of the two of us, I'm not sure many would agree that that is more applicable to me"
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't.
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
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Bill Bullard's opinion about the worthyness of opinions!.
Followed by an opinion on the value of empathy!
Touche "
Missing the point. |
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't.
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
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Bill Bullard's opinion about the worthyness of opinions!.
Followed by an opinion on the value of empathy!
Touche
Missing the point. "
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish
Because we are all different, offence is often taken when it wasnt intended"
People take offence at anything esp here! |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish
Because we are all different, offence is often taken when it wasnt intended
People take offence at anything esp here! "
Thank you! What I’ve been saying all along! Finally! |
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish
Because we are all different, offence is often taken when it wasnt intended
People take offence at anything esp here!
Thank you! What I’ve been saying all along! Finally! "
One wonders, however, how the jokers would respond if the 'jokes' were turned on them? |
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over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish
Because we are all different, offence is often taken when it wasnt intended
People take offence at anything esp here!
Thank you! What I’ve been saying all along! Finally!
One wonders, however, how the jokers would respond if the 'jokes' were turned on them?"
Probably be too tick to even get the joke in the first place |
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't.
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
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"Estella can you do me a favour please?
I can try.
How can I say politely say in word's I probably haven't heard of before and don't know the meaning to...
"Failing to give a poop at the moment what people who I don't know say on here".
Yes I know I should care,but at this present moment I don't.
You could quote Bill Bullard and say;
“Opinion is really the lowest form of human knowledge. It requires no accountability, no understanding. The highest form of knowledge… is empathy, for it requires us to suspend our egos and live in another’s world. It requires profound purpose larger than the self kind of understanding.”
And finish with, “but I currently have neither opinion or empathy”.
(Hope you’re okay btw)
Yes I'll go for that thankyou especially the finish."
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When I first ventured into the lounge I found one poster to be hugely antagonistic and felt many of their comments to be directed at me personally.
So much so that my reaction won me a short holiday.
Of course they weren't, I just didn't know their "style".
Now I know them better i find their posts quite chuckle worthy most of the time.
There are a couple of posters whose style I really don't gell with and try to avoid any thread they start or post on. They're probably lovely people in the real world though.
Doubtless others will have exactly the same thoughts/feelings/reaction to my threads and posts.
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"I think there’s a bit of a difference between those usual characters that start threads under the guise of humour to the ones that deliberately join a thread to comment in a negative, personal way at someone else’s expence. Both ridiculous but you have a choice not to comment on a silly thread, but you have no control over offensive remarks in response to something you have commented on. Those that deliberately just want to upset people and they really do know who they are.
There will always be people that think their humour is ‘correct’ and funny. There will also be those that have some sort of unhappiness within them that they have to hit out at others and are only satisfied when they are causing trouble.
I’m pleased I’m neither of these characters
This is one of the main problems, it's easy to avoid threads made by people you know are antagonistic, but these same people will come Into threads that have no relevance to them just to try to get a rise out of people and cause offence.
My grandad used to say, you need two hands to clap
And yet, some people shit in the hand first before they clap
You do that a lot
Out of the two of us, I'm not sure many would agree that that is more applicable to me
Try taking less offence.. it helps "
Try not to be offensive, it helps more |
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"When I first ventured into the lounge I found one poster to be hugely antagonistic and felt many of their comments to be directed at me personally.
So much so that my reaction won me a short holiday.
Of course they weren't, I just didn't know their "style".
Now I know them better i find their posts quite chuckle worthy most of the time.
There are a couple of posters whose style I really don't gell with and try to avoid any thread they start or post on. They're probably lovely people in the real world though.
Doubtless others will have exactly the same thoughts/feelings/reaction to my threads and posts.
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I find though that there is a consistent level for people, we all have good days and bad days but I find that a persons character shows through. I may not always agree with someone but I can at least respect a reasoned approach. I think that’s the same for many people on here |
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Way I see it is if someone is a prick it's their problem - they have to put up with themselves all day long, I can turn them off.
Doesn't make them any less of a prick, but it does make them less of my problem
*shrugs* |
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"Way I see it is if someone is a prick it's their problem - they have to put up with themselves all day long, I can turn them off.
Doesn't make them any less of a prick, but it does make them less of my problem
*shrugs*"
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
Michael Caine in The Dark Knight? |
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
Michael Caine in The Dark Knight?"
That’s correct yes |
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"Way I see it is if someone is a prick it's their problem - they have to put up with themselves all day long, I can turn them off.
Doesn't make them any less of a prick, but it does make them less of my problem
*shrugs*
What a strange comment "
I very rarely get offended by people on the internet, you have to try pretty hard to rub me up the wrong way, but I get why other people might take offence to stuff when people are pretty much going out of their way to be offensive.
I just don't really let it get to me |
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When you enter into a conversation you risk offending somebody, it's subjective, what offends one person doesn't another, however if we can manage to be civil through our objections and offense at least we stand the chance of a further conversation in which we might learn from each other.
Or we could just be the three monkeys and see, hear and say nothing out of fear of offence, but obviously calling someone a fat bastard is different than saying your over weight, there's always context |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Some folk can be a laugh, can be funny without causing offence and hurt.
Others think they’re being funny by making offensive and hurtful comments.
In a joke there is always a victim, hence it makes you laugh
Yes, it will hurt some
But why should it?
Why say anything hurtful at the expense of others
In my opinion its very childish
Because it’s funny "
No, it's nasty and hurtful. Too many on here don't know when to stop and keep bringing the same things up which have nothing to do with the OP on other threads just to have a petty swipe at others. It's not a bloody playground. We are all supposed to be adults over the age of 18. |
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"When you enter into a conversation you risk offending somebody, it's subjective, what offends one person doesn't another, however if we can manage to be civil through our objections and offense at least we stand the chance of a further conversation in which we might learn from each other.
Or we could just be the three monkeys and see, hear and say nothing out of fear of offence, but obviously calling someone a fat bastard is different than saying your over weight, there's always context"
There’s context yes, a misplaced word or comma can be devastating in the wrong place. There’s also consistency...
That’s far more telling. |
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"Way I see it is if someone is a prick it's their problem - they have to put up with themselves all day long, I can turn them off.
Doesn't make them any less of a prick, but it does make them less of my problem
*shrugs*
What a strange comment
I very rarely get offended by people on the internet, you have to try pretty hard to rub me up the wrong way, but I get why other people might take offence to stuff when people are pretty much going out of their way to be offensive.
I just don't really let it get to me"
That’s good |
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"When you enter into a conversation you risk offending somebody, it's subjective, what offends one person doesn't another, however if we can manage to be civil through our objections and offense at least we stand the chance of a further conversation in which we might learn from each other.
Or we could just be the three monkeys and see, hear and say nothing out of fear of offence, but obviously calling someone a fat bastard is different than saying your over weight, there's always context
There’s context yes, a misplaced word or comma can be devastating in the wrong place. There’s also consistency...
That’s far more telling."
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Could you elaborate? |
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I’m late to the party OP and must admit I haven’t read the whole thread through, but do you mean there are some people that deliberately go out of their way to post wind up threads and sit back and take enjoyment when people do indeed get wound up by them?
And then pass it off as “obviously just a joke” and bemoan (or get their fan clubs to at least) that “people should get a sense of humour” when they get upset?
Nah, that would never happen on here, would it!  |
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"When you enter into a conversation you risk offending somebody, it's subjective, what offends one person doesn't another, however if we can manage to be civil through our objections and offense at least we stand the chance of a further conversation in which we might learn from each other.
Or we could just be the three monkeys and see, hear and say nothing out of fear of offence, but obviously calling someone a fat bastard is different than saying your over weight, there's always context
There’s context yes, a misplaced word or comma can be devastating in the wrong place. There’s also consistency...
That’s far more telling..
Could you elaborate?"
I think they're saying if it looks like a duck, waddles like a duck and quacks... |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
How about people stop getting offended by things they read on the internet? We control our emotions and I truly believe it will solve this issue.
What do you lovely forumites think?
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We also control how we *choose* to interact with others. Those choices have consequences. I will be offended and react to the offensive and offenders.
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"Agreed OP, I am a positive person where possible and it drains me ar times in here hence I am not around in the forums so much anymore  "
and there's the answer,if people don't like what's written in this forum why be here,if it's so flipping dire just use the site for other things.
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think? "
Do you mean the threads I sometimes do? |
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
Do you mean the threads I sometimes do?"
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By *ucyfur77Woman
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"I’m late to the party OP and must admit I haven’t read the whole thread through, but do you mean there are some people that deliberately go out of their way to post wind up threads and sit back and take enjoyment when people do indeed get wound up by them?
And then pass it off as “obviously just a joke” and bemoan (or get their fan clubs to at least) that “people should get a sense of humour” when they get upset?
Nah, that would never happen on here, would it! "
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"Some threads and posts have put this quote in my mind this morning. Personally I don’t see the appeal of agitating and drawing negativity from people, setting arguments and instigating drama is contrary to my sensibilities.
What do you lovely forumites think?
Do you mean the threads I sometimes do?
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"When I first ventured into the lounge I found one poster to be hugely antagonistic and felt many of their comments to be directed at me personally.
So much so that my reaction won me a short holiday.
Of course they weren't, I just didn't know their "style".
Now I know them better i find their posts quite chuckle worthy most of the time.
There are a couple of posters whose style I really don't gell with and try to avoid any thread they start or post on. They're probably lovely people in the real world though.
Doubtless others will have exactly the same thoughts/feelings/reaction to my threads and posts.
I find though that there is a consistent level for people, we all have good days and bad days but I find that a persons character shows through. I may not always agree with someone but I can at least respect a reasoned approach. I think that’s the same for many people on here"
I hope I'm in some small way consistent.
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Attention seekers usually try to appear 'together' yet more often than not are very vulnerable people, who are searching often in the wrong places to fill a void that's been created by pain or demands not being met. They lack in an undeveloped maturity which in turn leaves them even more vulnerable when appearing in public. Often the best way to approach them is with minimal contact and give them less exposure in order to minimise the extent of their ignorance. This is just to be kind to them and safeguard others from making silly remarks about them too. We can't get rid of them however we can choose to ignore them. |
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"Attention seekers usually try to appear 'together' yet more often than not are very vulnerable people, who are searching often in the wrong places to fill a void that's been created by pain or demands not being met. They lack in an undeveloped maturity which in turn leaves them even more vulnerable when appearing in public. Often the best way to approach them is with minimal contact and give them less exposure in order to minimise the extent of their ignorance. This is just to be kind to them and safeguard others from making silly remarks about them too. We can't get rid of them however we can choose to ignore them. "
The forums should be closed if all the attention seekers were ignored. The majority of the forum posters are attention seekers. They like to think the term applies to a certain few, yet are oblivious to the fact it refers to them too. |
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