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When is it to late to have children?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I had an interesting discussion about it yesterday and we said around 40, while the ideal age would be around 20, whats your view? I reckon at 20, cos you got more time to be with your parents, my parents got me at the age of 22. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn’t want children but 20 would have been way too young for me if I had. I wanted to enjoy my life and I did say that if I had wanted children then closer to 40 was the preferred age for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a personal thing, I had my eldest when I was 27 and that was the right age for me. Though even then in hospital I was classed as a geriatric first time mom. 
The average age now has got older, there’s no longer the pressure or expectancy to get married and have children so young now x |
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"I reckon the ideal age is 30."
Yes me too,20 is way too young. You need to live some of your own life first and be stable in a relation and be able to afford to bring another life into this world and be mature enough.
You sure as heck 'probably' don't want your kid's still living with you when they're in their thirties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What the right time is for one person is not for another (I had my last & 5th child at the age of 35 whereas my bestie had her first & only at 16 - she now ‘only’ 27!!!). At the age of 16 I couldn’t bring up phlegm let alone a baby.
My ages when I had my children were
1) 22
2) 26
3) 27
4) 30
5) 35 |
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My husband, who has a warped sense of humour, was telling me about a work mate. They have just last year packed their youngest off to collage and were looking forward to starting their next phase of life, pretty much kid free..... until Mrs found out she is pregnant. That kid will be off to Uni about the same time as Dad retires.
My hubby was pretty much crying with laughter as he was telling me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had my 3rd and last child at the age of 21.
I got pregnant in my late late 30s and panicked that I wouldn't be able to cope any more.
I lost it so I didn't get to know. |
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I had my first small person at 28, my second at 30, my third at 32  they are beautiful, good children and no where near as hard work as I know some have, I couldn’t have anymore  which at the time I felt so sad about, but now when I think how tired I get, the idea and ideals of a new baby become less and less appealing and so I no longer yearn something I can’t have and I count my blessings for the three beautifuls ones I do have, so take from that what you will, want I take from it is that I’m so glad I didn’t wait until my 40s to have children, whilst I understand the complications people have trying to have babies which then takes them into their 40s and so a baby is a happy blessing, there is no doubt in my mind I wouldn’t have managed a baby now in the same way I did in my thirty’s, as much as it pains me to say it Mrs blue eyes |
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"My husband, who has a warped sense of humour, was telling me about a work mate. They have just last year packed their youngest off to collage and were looking forward to starting their next phase of life, pretty much kid free..... until Mrs found out she is pregnant. That kid will be off to Uni about the same time as Dad retires.
My hubby was pretty much crying with laughter as he was telling me."
I have to be honest... if I found out I was pregnant now, I would have it terminated. I never wanted to be an older parent and I'm pretty sure I would be a terrible mother if I went through with it, as I would resent them.
As to when is the best age...it varies. Younger people are maybe best able to cope with the physical side of parenting and older parents may be able to provide a more secure financial environment.
Personally, I think becoming a parent any older than your 40s is wrong. Though I know many do, especially men.
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Partly because all my grandparents had passed away by the time I was 11, I knew I wanted to have kids when I was reasonably young so that my children would have lots of time to know their grandparents, and that my parents wouldn't be too old to play an active part in their lives.
I had my first kid when I was 23, my mum was 54 and my dad was 59. I had my second 11 months later lol. They have a great relationship with their grandparents. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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20 would of been too young for me, I was too busy going out with my friends!
I was 29 when I had my first one, 32 with my second and 34 with my youngest. Looking back it was very tiring having 3 so close together, if I'd of left having kids any later I'm not sure I'd of survived!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had my first at 22, second at 28 and 3rd at 36. I don't know how parents who have children close together do if. But I bet it's far better they are, as If I'd had them when I was younger and closer together I suspect it would have been better now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All my mates were pregnant as soon as they left School. I didn’t particularly want children so carried on living life, travelling etc and then fell pregnant at 35 and 38.
I think I would have been more of a laid back mum if i’d had them younger, and my children would have had more family around to dote on them, otherwise I have no regrets at the age I had them. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I had my first at 22, second at 28 and 3rd at 36. I don't know how parents who have children close together do if. But I bet it's far better they are, as If I'd had them when I was younger and closer together I suspect it would have been better now "
Mine were close together and it's great now as they are all able to do everything for themselves! |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had my first at 22, second at 28 and 3rd at 36. I don't know how parents who have children close together do if. But I bet it's far better they are, as If I'd had them when I was younger and closer together I suspect it would have been better now
Mine were close together and it's great now as they are all able to do everything for themselves!"
Very true. But then I have had a babysitter on tap since my youngest was born, and 2 babysitters now whose houses my youngest can stay over at if I want to go out. Pluses on both sides |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"I had my first at 22, second at 28 and 3rd at 36. I don't know how parents who have children close together do if. But I bet it's far better they are, as If I'd had them when I was younger and closer together I suspect it would have been better now
Mine were close together and it's great now as they are all able to do everything for themselves!
Very true. But then I have had a babysitter on tap since my youngest was born, and 2 babysitters now whose houses my youngest can stay over at if I want to go out. Pluses on both sides "
Yes, definitely. Our eldest babysit for us to!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was still a virgin at 20 so I definitely wouldn't have been having kids at that age 
I'm 29 in a couple of months and I definitely won't be having kids for a good few years. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question."
I wouldn't get involved with someone who wanted kids. I'm seeing someone now and made it clear before we got 'serious' that I am not interested in going back to having young babies/kids. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question."
I have never wanted children. Despite everyone saying I would, I haven't changed my mind and I'm not likely to. Although the question has changed in the last couple of years from 'when do you think you'll have kids' to 'do you think you'll regret not having kids'
When my dating profiles are active I state it very clearly that I have no intention of having children of my own, and if someone has that in their goals I won't engage with them. |
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I'm 37 and never had kids and don't think I ever will. I don't even know if my sperm even works lol.
My family through the last few generations seem to have had kids in their 30s. My sister was 32.
I saw this guy on TV who's a world leading fertility expert saying he urges women who want kids to try and get it done before 30 as the chance of conceiving greatly goes down for a lot of women after 30 and some miss the boat or find it very difficult to get pregnant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is a lot off research at the moment about freezing eggs while your young. I had my first child at 19. But now I am 40 she is 20 and my youngest is 16 so still young enough to enjoy life x |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.
I wouldn't get involved with someone who wanted kids. I'm seeing someone now and made it clear before we got 'serious' that I am not interested in going back to having young babies/kids. "
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.
I have never wanted children. Despite everyone saying I would, I haven't changed my mind and I'm not likely to. Although the question has changed in the last couple of years from 'when do you think you'll have kids' to 'do you think you'll regret not having kids'
When my dating profiles are active I state it very clearly that I have no intention of having children of my own, and if someone has that in their goals I won't engage with them."
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22 when I had my eldest.
I had a good job, ran a successful business, very career minded.
Juggling both was not easy, but I had a live in nanny.
I missed a lot of his early years
I had my youngest days after my 34 birthday, I was a housewife, devoted to raising him & his brother only a year older.
The ideal time isn't age related, it's when you have time to actually raise the child & give him/her the attention they need. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question."
Is this your case _eeside?
i remember your thread saying you had gotten the female of a couple pregnant?
If your in love with her that makes things so much weirder.   |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.
Is this your case _eeside?
i remember your thread saying you had gotten the female of a couple pregnant?
If your in love with her that makes things so much weirder. "
No you got the rong end of the stik thar.
In fact its not even the same stik.....
That post wos about donoring/ helping out a couple. And unfortunately thay had a Mc so no luck yet. And no I'm not in love with them eather. Don't no wot gave you that idear |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question."
i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children |
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For me it was 33. I had my son at 25 i split up with my ex husband so had no more. When i got to 33 i made a serious decision that i didnt want anymore as there would be too big an age gap. Also i wouldnt have dated anyone with young children.
I have a friend who had her first and only at 45 and i see her struggling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We had our children at 17 and 18.
If I'm being honest, I would have liked to have been more financially stable. But we managed and I wouldn't change a thing.
We have two great kids who are both excelling in school.
Both have great manners and are no trouble what so ever.
I will be 36 when my eldest is 18. We will get "our time" then. (I hope)
But an honest answer would be around 30.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone is different and people will have them when there ready imo... i dont think there is a right age ...but i agree with earlier the better as then more time with parents |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d say 28-32 personally.
My mom had me at 29, 30 later on in the year and I’d say that was the perfect age, I was planned.
She had my sister at 21 & she wasn’t planned and she always said if she had the choice she’d have waited.
Everyone is different and people mature very differently so I don’t think there is a universal perfect age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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64 is ideal age coz by time you have the little rotter you'll be retired you can spend the next 36 years raising it until you get your telegram from the king |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children "
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
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Are you deliberately mis spelling stuff as it's quite funny. Sorry if not intentional |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had my first at 18 and last at 35...
It is easier when you're young...could live easily without sleep... Now I'm just a tired old bag... Youngest was a surprise. We were just about getting lie ins and able to leave the younger kids with older ones, had to start all over again.
Knackered
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By (user no longer on site)
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Too many kids need fostering
Depends if you want to be without social life
Age does not matter.
My aunt had hers at 43
Sad she died of cancer
They say later causes things wrong but my cousin was born normally and grew up with me looking after him.
I can't really say if it matters |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
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well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
Are you deliberately mis spelling stuff as it's quite funny. Sorry if not intentional "
No I'm not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question."
I dont personally want any more children with anyone but there are plenty of people who are willing to start up again with the love of their life, you might have to accept they have children already with someone else though. I think men can get away with having childen later in life, its not quite so hard on their body as it is the woman. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.
I dont personally want any more children with anyone but there are plenty of people who are willing to start up again with the love of their life, you might have to accept they have children already with someone else though. I think men can get away with having childen later in life, its not quite so hard on their body as it is the woman. "
Can we just practice then |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite"
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then."
ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.
I dont personally want any more children with anyone but there are plenty of people who are willing to start up again with the love of their life, you might have to accept they have children already with someone else though. I think men can get away with having childen later in life, its not quite so hard on their body as it is the woman. "
fair comment. And if sumone had kids allredey that woodount bother me 1 bit. I'd treet them just as good and well as id treet my own. The problem wood be if i coodount have any of my own to. |
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By *eesideMan
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children"
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book."
for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about |
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over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about"
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller."
Fab forum is in no way representative of all people. You are only 30. Yrs left ahead of you. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller."
and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.
Fab forum is in no way representative of all people. You are only 30. Yrs left ahead of you. "
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over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.
Fab forum is in no way representative of all people. You are only 30. Yrs left ahead of you. "
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over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally"
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.
Fab forum is in no way representative of all people. You are only 30. Yrs left ahead of you. thats true. I wouldnt be giving up yet at 30"
I've not giving up yet.
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
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im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site |
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I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
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over a year ago
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site"
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything."
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I am a single parent never got a penny for my two and they will always come first and we come as a package if people can't accept that then they can do one. This one of the reasons I like this lifestyle personal and private life seperate x |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?"
If my name is on it i cood be yes. |
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children "
I keep meeting those guys and it’s not compatible with me so had to let a few great guys go. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes."
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children "
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children
Im Almost in the Same boat."
But if you fell in love it wouldn't matter all senses go out the window and you learn to love the kids x |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office."
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents."
It works the same for adoption giving up all legal rights x |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents."
your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.
It works the same for adoption giving up all legal rights x"
In a way yes. But that's just donoring. Co parenting very different. |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside."
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
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"I had an interesting discussion about it yesterday and we said around 40, while the ideal age would be around 20, whats your view? I reckon at 20, cos you got more time to be with your parents, my parents got me at the age of 22."
I was far too busy enjoying myself and having a life at 20... and didnt want to saddle myself with kids
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?"
no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing |
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children
Im Almost in the Same boat.
But if you fell in love it wouldn't matter all senses go out the window and you learn to love the kids x"
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I wasn't sure, so opted for both to decide.... Teasing . Though i had one at 22 and my other at 38. There are pros and cons to both. I have less energy with my 2 year old, but more patience. It was the other way round with my eldest. I also feel I'm a proper parent with my younger one, but did not have the same maturity and there was more an older sister dynamic with my eldest as she was growing up |
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing"
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children
Im Almost in the Same boat.
But if you fell in love it wouldn't matter all senses go out the window and you learn to love the kids x"
I got a very strong drive to have kids. If sumone didn't want kids at all thar wood be no love for them. Be friend maybe. But that wood be it.
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
fuck me theres going to be a lot of _eesides running around. I can only say good luck"
Lol no that meny.
I'm Onley helping 2 couples and 1 has had a MC.
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
fuck me theres going to be a lot of _eesides running around. I can only say good luck
Lol no that meny.
I'm Onley helping 2 couples and 1 has had a MC.
After that ill be looking for eather sumone to co parent with or sumone to date and have kids or mor kids /at lest 1 mor if thay all redey have kids."
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
fuck me theres going to be a lot of _eesides running around. I can only say good luck
Lol no that meny.
I'm Onley helping 2 couples and 1 has had a MC.
After that ill be looking for eather sumone to co parent with or sumone to date and have kids or mor kids /at lest 1 mor if thay all redey have kids."
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"It’s a personal thing, I had my eldest when I was 27 and that was the right age for me. Though even then in hospital I was classed as a geriatric first time mom.
The average age now has got older, there’s no longer the pressure or expectancy to get married and have children so young now x "
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"A question for all that say the cut off time to have kids is around 35 +
Wot if you wos to meet sumone you really get on with and you wanted a relationship with them cos thay are your love of your life...... But thay didn't have any kids but want to have Thar own kids.
Wood you not date them cos of that or wood you be willing to have mor kids so you cood be with the love of your life ?
Serious question.i wouldnt date them because we would be looking for different things in life.
Turn it around _eeside. What would you do if you met someone you really liked but they didnt want children
That wood depend on surcoumstancies on the donoring side. But atm no i woodount date them if thay didn't want kids.
well theres your answer. Wanting/not wanting kids is probably the biggest thing in a relationship. Most people dont get involved with someone who wants the complete opposite
On that side of the page yes.
On the other side thoe..
If i found sumone on the donor side that wanted to co-parent.. then if i met sumone i got on well with but thay didn't want kids then i probably wood date them as id all redey have kids/family sumwear els so it woodount be a problem then.ok. By co parent im assuming you mean shared responsibilities. Having the child to stay. Taking them on holiday and all round doing what a normal parent wants. The person you meet if they dont want kids why would they want a child in there lives. Its the reason i never dated guys with young children
I'd try and find a way to balance both worlds if thay woodount mix together.
And if the kids wos that mutch of a problem with them then again i probably woodount date them. As family comes 1st in my book.for me it was a double edged sword. I wouldnt want to be with a man who didnt put his kids first but i also didnt want to be with someone where his life was taken up co parenting.
My ex boyfriend had never had kids and although my son was older he went into the relationship knowing my son came first. Theres plenty of people that do take on other peoples kids or start a fresh and have kids with new relationships its just something you both need to be 100% sure about
That is very true.
Thow if wot people are saying on hear is anything to go by then I'm thinking me donoring is the right choice as it looks like the odds of me finding sumone to date that dus want to have kids are going to be very slim. And will Onley get smaller.and youve got to be 100% sure that the person you donate to would want you in the childs life and personally its something id get done legally
We'll its all legal anyway but yes to co parent thar wood be sum extra paperwork to enshor thar wood be no problems down the line. as unlike just donoring wear both the couples names go on the birth certificate it wood be my name.
im really releaved to here this. Id hate to think of someone becoming pregnant by you without all the legalities being put in place first. Just a question though. If your just a donor why would you be on the birth certificate. Surely its their child. Or is it some kind of co parenting site rather than just a donor site
We'll to start with yes thar are donor and co parenting sites.
Wen donoring to a couple its easy as both the couples names go on the birth certificate. So i have no legal rite to the child and have no risk of any financial support wen i may not see the child. Then the amount of contact is agreed butreen me and the couple.
Donoring to a single person is a bit different and has a lot mor risk as the birth certificate needs 2 names. So even as a donor to a single lady i cood be reliable for the child financially. Hints y i Onley help married couples.Thar is no risk.
Wen it comes to co parenting that needs a bit of extra legal paper work that points out that both sides want to co parent so if sumthing wos to happen in the future the child wood still see both parents. And both sides cood/wood give financial support to eatch other not just the normal 1 side of the guy pays for everything.ok. So going on the birth certificate you will be financially responsable for that child.?
If my name is on it i cood be yes.
The only way your name would be on there is if you signed it both parents have to be at the registry office.
Ezakley.
So wen helping / donoring to a couple. As my name is not on it I teknikley give up all rites and responsibilities so the couple are legally the parents. so thar for im exempt from any financial support as a child can not have 3 parents.your wrong _eeside. Not having your name on the birth certificate does not automatically exempt from financial responsibility. You will biologically be the childs parent a dna sample will prove that not a birth certificate. You really do need to be reading about stuff _eeside.
I have read about it thow and thar is a lot to read. As long as i have everdounce I'm a donor i then have no rites at all so thar for am not financial responsibility.
By lour a child can not have 3 parents. So dispite ill be the DNA dad. The couple will legally be the parents. If i wos to pay child support to a child in a couple the child wood have 3 parents witch carnt be dun.
Dus that make sence now. ?no. It makes not a blind bit of sense to me. Youve gone from talking about being a donor to having your name put on the birth certificate to co parenting to not having your name on the birth certificate. I have no idea which one of those you are doing
We'll I'm doing both.
Donoring and looking to co parent.
I'm on 4 different sites.
2 donor sits and 2 co parenting sites.
As a donor for a couple i don't pay anything.
If i co parent then yes i do pay support but so dus the other person. As we both see and rase the child.
All cleard up now ?
fuck me theres going to be a lot of _eesides running around. I can only say good luck
Lol no that meny.
I'm Onley helping 2 couples and 1 has had a MC.
After that ill be looking for eather sumone to co parent with or sumone to date and have kids or mor kids /at lest 1 mor if thay all redey have kids.what does strike me as odd is that your on more of these types of sites than dating sites looking to have a baby the traditional way"
Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
So i go to the sites wear people do want to have kids in hope i mate have a bit mor luck finding sumone |
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s..."
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible. |
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I wanted to have my children young so I could enjoy my later life and my children could enjoy their life without having to juggle their young family and aging parents.
I was married at 20 and had my children when I was 22, 27 and 29. My last child died so I had my fourth child at 31 and sterilised at the same time.
My eldest is 35 with two year old twins and a one year old. My middle daughter is 31 and has a one year old and expecting her second child in January. My youngest is 26 been married three years and not ready for kids yet.
My sister are 49 and 51 with children 11 to 16.
As it is I'm 57, retired and having the time of my life: my choices worked for me. |
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Was 20 wen my oldest was born shes now 26 my other daughter came along wen i was 40. Would say i have a lot more patience this time round.must admit do feel a little out of place wen doing school things as am miles older than the other parents |
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Well having an older parent isn't fun as a kid, my mom was 40 when she had me, which in the 70s was very old, when I started to grow up and get to where I wanted to do things I couldn't, she was poorly for pretty much all of my youth, with angina and a triple heart bypass operation, it really wasn't fun, and when other kids thought your grandma was picking you up from school, on the other end L was only 18 when we had our eldest which us way too young she had no life experience really, and we both struggled to start with, especially financially both been young and trying to work full time,
I would say 25 to 30 is ideal, you are still fit healthy and able to run round with them generally, and you are much more financially stable and have settled in to a career again mostly not everyone, |
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible."
It's not impossible to find sumone with no kids and they don't want kids...
it is almost impossible to find sumone that don't have kids but dus want kids. Or thay do have kids but thay are happy to have mor kids.
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible.
It's not impossible to find sumone with no kids and they don't want kids...
it is almost impossible to find sumone that don't have kids but dus want kids. Or thay do have kids but thay are happy to have mor kids.
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible.
It's not impossible to find sumone with no kids and they don't want kids...
it is almost impossible to find sumone that don't have kids but dus want kids. Or thay do have kids but thay are happy to have mor kids.
You're kidding, right?"
Nop I've seen a couple of profiles on...a dateing web site that involves the word fish in its name that state thay have no kids and thay don't want any.
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We may all have thoughts about what is ideal but life rarely works out that way. So very often it can be difficult to find the person you want to I’ve kids with, or you have difficulty conceiving or you have losses.
For me personally, I wasn’t ready to be a parent in my 20’s. I was having far too much fun and I was very selfish. It wasn’t until I was about 28/29 that I thought about growing up and actually becoming an adult. I became pregnant at 30, miscarried at 9 weeks. I then suffered many many more miscarriages and also a period of secondary unexplained infertility. Ultimately, the desire to have kids was what drove my ex husband and I apart.
When I met Shaggy I told him all about my history and was up front, said if he wanted kids then I wasn’t the woman to give them to him. He had never thought he would meet anyone who he would want to spend his life with, let alone have kids so it didn’t phase him.
We decided a few years ago, when I was age 39, to allow nature to take its course. Not only is my past against us but also my age too. Our chances of having a child are so tiny that it’s almost medically impossible but we haven’t completely given up hope. If fate one day decides that it will happen then we will be ecstatic to become older parents |
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"I had my first at 18 and last at 35...
It is easier when you're young...could live easily without sleep... Now I'm just a tired old bag... Youngest was a surprise. We were just about getting lie ins and able to leave the younger kids with older ones, had to start all over again.
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I can relate, being 17 for first, 35 for last and a few in between. |
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible.
It's not impossible to find sumone with no kids and they don't want kids...
it is almost impossible to find sumone that don't have kids but dus want kids. Or thay do have kids but thay are happy to have mor kids.
You're kidding, right?
Nop I've seen a couple of profiles on...a dateing web site that involves the word fish in its name that state thay have no kids and thay don't want any.
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a couple is hardly all though. How about going for a woman slightly younger than yourself. Your only 30 so say a woman in her earlier 20s is less likely to have had her family and not want more |
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over a year ago
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"Cos most people from wot I've seen on dateing sites don't want Mor kids as thay have had like 2-3 all redey in thar 20s...
Dating sites are kind of skewed in that regards - I guess it's an easier way for single mums to look for dates when you've got kids to look after.
Try looking for a woman in their late 20-30s who hasn't got kids and doesn't want any - practically impossible.
It's not impossible to find sumone with no kids and they don't want kids...
it is almost impossible to find sumone that don't have kids but dus want kids. Or thay do have kids but thay are happy to have mor kids.
You're kidding, right?
Nop I've seen a couple of profiles on...a dateing web site that involves the word fish in its name that state thay have no kids and thay don't want any.
a couple is hardly all though. How about going for a woman slightly younger than yourself. Your only 30 so say a woman in her earlier 20s is less likely to have had her family and not want more"
I'm open to most ages. It's just finding sumone in the 1st place. But that sed most not all but most in thar arley 20s are to bizey partying at clubs ect and haveing 1nite stands. Both are not my thing or i just carnt go to cos of medical. |
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I never wanted kids. Even the idea makes my skin crawl with revulsion. Just as well really as I've never got to a 'life situation' where it would even have been an option.
And yes dating wise...a man having kids does put me off. |
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children "
And until you explore all possibilities that feeling will never go away, never just “settle” and hope someone will change their mind because I tell you now, they won’t. |
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"I've always wanted kids, Around 4 years ago I met a woman who was 2 years older then me, She told me straight away that she never wanted children, I told her that it wasn't worth taking it any further as at some point having children would come up and it would always be on my mind, It was on our first date that we had that conversation but I needed to know her opinions about having children,
I didn't want to date someone fall in love and know we would never have children
And until you explore all possibilities that feeling will never go away, never just “settle” and hope someone will change their mind because I tell you now, they won’t."
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"I never wanted kids. Even the idea makes my skin crawl with revulsion. Just as well really as I've never got to a 'life situation' where it would even have been an option.
And yes dating wise...a man having kids does put me off."
I’m the same but I wouldn’t rule out a guy with kids but I would prefer to meet someone that doesn’t have kids. |
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65 is too late you've retired body clock has stopped grey hairs are growing quicker than you can say delete and block everything headed south forever and getting yourself out of bed is like a white knuckle ride |
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I was 37 last week.
I've had two long term relationships where I could have had children. For many reasons I walked away from both.
I know my clock is ticking. At 37 I can hear it. I love children and love being around them. But I am putting no pressure on myself to settle and just find a guy.
I'm now happy that if I meet someone and he wants kids we can try; but I'm also happy to maybe take the Step Mum role to a blokes children.
My other plan is that if it comes to a point where I REALLY want a child; I will adopt. Help a child that hasn't had the best start in life and give them a really good life. |
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"I was 37 last week.
I've had two long term relationships where I could have had children. For many reasons I walked away from both.
I know my clock is ticking. At 37 I can hear it. I love children and love being around them. But I am putting no pressure on myself to settle and just find a guy.
I'm now happy that if I meet someone and he wants kids we can try; but I'm also happy to maybe take the Step Mum role to a blokes children.
My other plan is that if it comes to a point where I REALLY want a child; I will adopt. Help a child that hasn't had the best start in life and give them a really good life. "
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"I was 37 last week.
I've had two long term relationships where I could have had children. For many reasons I walked away from both.
I know my clock is ticking. At 37 I can hear it. I love children and love being around them. But I am putting no pressure on myself to settle and just find a guy.
I'm now happy that if I meet someone and he wants kids we can try; but I'm also happy to maybe take the Step Mum role to a blokes children.
My other plan is that if it comes to a point where I REALLY want a child; I will adopt. Help a child that hasn't had the best start in life and give them a really good life. "
isnt 40 the cut off age for adoption or has it changed? |
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I had my kids young, my first when I was 22, their mother was only 18 when we had our first. Although we were only just starting out in life ourselves and we struggled it is paying off now. I’m still young enough to enjoy life with them, I go for a pint with my older boys, they invite me on their lads holidays too whereas if I waited until later life I’d be in my mid 60’s and I doubt they’d include me quite so much. |
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"I was 37 last week.
I've had two long term relationships where I could have had children. For many reasons I walked away from both.
I know my clock is ticking. At 37 I can hear it. I love children and love being around them. But I am putting no pressure on myself to settle and just find a guy.
I'm now happy that if I meet someone and he wants kids we can try; but I'm also happy to maybe take the Step Mum role to a blokes children.
My other plan is that if it comes to a point where I REALLY want a child; I will adopt. Help a child that hasn't had the best start in life and give them a really good life. isnt 40 the cut off age for adoption or has it changed?"
It don't look like it. thar is a minimum age of 21 but no max age limit.
It looks like Thay just recommend you have older children if your over 40. |
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I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me. |
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"I was 37 last week.
I've had two long term relationships where I could have had children. For many reasons I walked away from both.
I know my clock is ticking. At 37 I can hear it. I love children and love being around them. But I am putting no pressure on myself to settle and just find a guy.
I'm now happy that if I meet someone and he wants kids we can try; but I'm also happy to maybe take the Step Mum role to a blokes children.
My other plan is that if it comes to a point where I REALLY want a child; I will adopt. Help a child that hasn't had the best start in life and give them a really good life. isnt 40 the cut off age for adoption or has it changed?"
Plus adoption is not the easiest procedure and has very strict rules and can take years. There are lots of parameters and criteria to be met. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me. "
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone. |
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone. "
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone.
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it. "
Yep.
friend zoned is all i seem to ever get with anyone. |
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone.
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it.
Yep.
friend zoned is all i seem to ever get with anyone."
Your time will come mate, just be yourself and you’ll bump into the girl of your dreams when you least expect it. Fate will bring you together. |
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My 3 came along when I was 26, 29 and 32. My ex wife is four years older than me so was classd as a geriactric mother when she gave birth aged 36.
I've recently had the snip, definitely don't want any more - couldn't imagine sleepless nights now or having to deal with a teenager in my 60's |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone.
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it.
Yep.
friend zoned is all i seem to ever get with anyone.
Your time will come mate, just be yourself and you’ll bump into the girl of your dreams when you least expect it. Fate will bring you together. "
Well I keep hopeing. |
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone.
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it.
Yep.
friend zoned is all i seem to ever get with anyone.
Your time will come mate, just be yourself and you’ll bump into the girl of your dreams when you least expect it. Fate will bring you together.
Well I keep hopeing. "
Like I say, it will happen when you least expect it, but it will happen and she’ll be a lucky girl I reckon. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I feel really sorry for a lovely girl at work. Gorgeous, well off, really homely type and would make a fantastic mum. She’s just turned 30 but her fella is in his mid 50’s. He was her uni lecturer and they ended up together when she finished uni, been together nearly 10 years. He has two kids her age but always promised her she could have kids whenever she wanted. Well she’s decided she’s ready and he’s now told her he doesn’t want any more kids and she’s devastated, she loves him dearly but desperately wants kids. I can understand his feelings at his age but he should have made that clear earlier rather than let her believe they would have kids. He played a dirty trick if you ask me.
I got a friend that wos in this situation. In the end she brok up with her partner and went looking for sumone els. cos her drive to have kids took over.
She is now expecting a little girl soon.
Y didn't me and her get to gether at the time you ask.
I'm stuk in friend zone.
I feel your pain mate. Me and another girl at work, both single, get on like a houseon fire, all we do is laugh when we’re together, she’s as lovely as Mary poppins and tells me I’m the luckiest guy she knows, we’d be perfect together, but alas I’m friend zoned. It’s the pits isn’t it.
Yep.
friend zoned is all i seem to ever get with anyone.
Your time will come mate, just be yourself and you’ll bump into the girl of your dreams when you least expect it. Fate will bring you together.
Well I keep hopeing.
Like I say, it will happen when you least expect it, but it will happen and she’ll be a lucky girl I reckon. "
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"I had an interesting discussion about it yesterday and we said around 40, while the ideal age would be around 20, whats your view? I reckon at 20, cos you got more time to be with your parents, my parents got me at the age of 22.
I was far too busy enjoying myself and having a life at 20... and didnt want to saddle myself with kids
I waited almost til it was too late for me at 39, but i wouldn't change anything..he keeps me on my toes lol"
This. I finally decided to go for it at 37, so 38 and just before 41 for me. It was harder on my body during pregnancy, but the thought that I was too old never crossed my mind. |
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"Brigit Neilson was 54 x
Nothing better than being a 10year old who throws out your 64 year old mums back playing "
I'm sure there's a few out there who are coping brilliantly.
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