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"If I was looking to date I wouldn't mind if they were on fab. On the other hand I don't much care if the men I meet on fab would date me or not. " I don't really care if they'd date me or not either. What interests me is that they wouldn't date anyone on fab  | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. If someone ticks all the boxes of who you'd like to date then I don't understand what the issue is, especially as the men themselves are also on fab! I really can't understand the reasoning behind that. Personally I don't think it matters where you happened to meet someone you like. I understand that most people on fab (me included) aren't using it to meet a potential significant other but if it happened why turn it down because of how ye met? Is it a matter of we're good enough to fuck but not to date? Do they think women in vanilla land are all vestal virgins?! I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons." Sweet Jesus, I’d take you for a Nando’s any time. I said before on another thread that if it felt right I’d date a girl I met in here, I don’t see why not. If the chemistry is there then it matters not where you meet. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. " I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. " The question is about dating, not swinging | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. " If you say so. And yes, I bit. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. " I get it, I just don't want to do it. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case" Yeah, don't we fucking know it!  | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it! "You’re obsessed  | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons." If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. | |||
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"Theirs no such thing as vanilla land and the guys that don't want to date you just don't want to date you simple as, an awful lot depends on you and how you come across, some women say they're looking for a partner but look very much like they are enjoying the lifestyle so depends where you are in that regard "Ya I get that. My question is why they wouldn't date anyone on fab, regardless of chemistry etc. | |||
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging "That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around. | |||
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"Theirs no such thing as vanilla land and the guys that don't want to date you just don't want to date you simple as, an awful lot depends on you and how you come across, some women say they're looking for a partner but look very much like they are enjoying the lifestyle so depends where you are in that regard
Ya I get that. My question is why they wouldn't date anyone on fab, regardless of chemistry etc."they should if you're what they are looking for...... I would but based on what I just said | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed "You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it. | |||
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging
That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around. "Interesting. Thank you | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it."I’m not moaning though. I want a swinging relationship, just need to find the willing partner. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it."I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question. "That’s what I thought. | |||
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging
That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around. "Yes, and you could forgive men for thinking the same - it's too easy, too 'throwaway' to make a connection on fab. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question.
That’s what I thought. "
It was a general question. I'm not concerned about whether they're swingers or not, only in why they wouldn't consider dating a woman who's on fab.
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"If I were single, I’d date a lady from Fab. I’d like it if she had sex with other men and women. " Totally agree | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question.
That’s what I thought. "Ah! Sorry! i I thought you ment that guys you'd interacted with on fabswingers (a site where the perception is that women are easy) had told you that they'd fuck you but they wouldn't date you because they thought that women here were easy and that's not the sort of woman that they'd want to date or settle down with. My mistake. | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. " Some of us do. | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. If someone ticks all the boxes of who you'd like to date then I don't understand what the issue is, especially as the men themselves are also on fab! I really can't understand the reasoning behind that. Personally I don't think it matters where you happened to meet someone you like. I understand that most people on fab (me included) aren't using it to meet a potential significant other but if it happened why turn it down because of how ye met? Is it a matter of we're good enough to fuck but not to date? Do they think women in vanilla land are all vestal virgins?! I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons." I wouldn't date anyone from this or other sites purely because I don't want to date anyone. Been there, done that, and the sight of me in the t-shirt was horrifying. | |||
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"I'd date someone from fab. I've had the reverse happen on dating sites, they've seen me on fab and expect me to meet with them because I'm here. " omg they expect a date that's bad | |||
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"I'd date someone from fab. I've had the reverse happen on dating sites, they've seen me on fab and expect me to meet with them because I'm here. omg they expect a date that's bad " My point being they don't want a date, just a quick fuck lol | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating." ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume? | |||
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"In my opinion it’s fragile jealous stricken people who think like that. They want to fuck the women/men on Fabswingers but wouldn’t get in a relationship probably because of their own insecurities and probably because that have issues with the fact we are sexual and aren’t ashamed of it. If I was dating I would have no issues dating someone from Fabswingers infact it’d be good as I think people on here are going to be far more open minded. "
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume?" Obviously!!! If we decided to swing we would make a couples profile | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume?" How is that question even relevant? | |||
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"After being cheated on a couple of times I’d prefer someone who is honest and do it together rather than behind my back so if they’re on here already I’d see that as a bonus " I'm not sure I'd ever trust anyone again if I was cheated on.  | |||
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"Yes OP, it's a sad fact of life that double standards still exist. A lot of guys on here consider the women on here to be nothing more than free hookers. " well let them f##k off then | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. "
That's exactly how I feel about it too. | |||
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"After being cheated on a couple of times I’d prefer someone who is honest and do it together rather than behind my back so if they’re on here already I’d see that as a bonus I'm not sure I'd ever trust anyone again if I was cheated on. "It does sit in the back of one's mind. | |||
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"I'd date someone from fab. I've had the reverse happen on dating sites, they've seen me on fab and expect me to meet with them because I'm here. omg they expect a date that's bad My point being they don't want a date, just a quick fuck lol" ahhhh well that would be last thing on my mind | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. " Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards! | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards! "Who genuinely expects this? | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?"Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected. One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex. His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage. This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar. | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected.
One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex.
His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage.
This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar.
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected.
One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex.
His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage.
This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar.
"I'd date you. Although I suppose most men on here are probably the type who don't have the clearest grasp of how the world works and have 'traditional' views. Or the wretched souls like me. What a fun place! | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?"Also, read any debate about “body counts” on Twitter or Facebook and you’ll see plenty men stating they wouldn’t go near a woman who’s slept with more than X amount of men or wears revealing clothing. Or those memes you see about women who party on the weekend not being wife material regularly shared on social media by men who have probably slept with dozens of women. I find it’s more the younger men than the older in my experience but no doubt there are men of all ages with outdated opinions like this. | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected.
One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex.
His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage.
This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar.
I'd date you.
Although I suppose most men on here are probably the type who don't have the clearest grasp of how the world works and have 'traditional' views.
Or the wretched souls like me. What a fun place! "Aw well thank you! A lot of people have traditional views, and it’s shocking how many people view women as being on this earth to carry children, marry, and stay at home whilst the husband works and sleeps with the secretary hahaha! | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected.
One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex.
His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage.
This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar.
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Good luck finding your virgin princess, she’ll be boring in the sack anyway and you’ll find yourself back on fab | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Also, read any debate about “body counts” on Twitter or Facebook and you’ll see plenty men stating they wouldn’t go near a woman who’s slept with more than X amount of men or wears revealing clothing.
Or those memes you see about women who party on the weekend not being wife material regularly shared on social media by men who have probably slept with dozens of women.
I find it’s more the younger men than the older in my experience but no doubt there are men of all ages with outdated opinions like this. "Yeah see that's the calibre of people who bother with social media and 'memes'. A whole different world. As long as a woman wasn't shagging 50 men whilst she is in a relationship with me, not arsed. | |||
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"I’d someonw didn’t want to date me just because I like sex - I’d say it’s his loss
Good luck finding your virgin princess, she’ll be boring in the sack anyway and you’ll find yourself back on fab "This. There's nothing worse than being in a sex starved relationship. | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Also, read any debate about “body counts” on Twitter or Facebook and you’ll see plenty men stating they wouldn’t go near a woman who’s slept with more than X amount of men or wears revealing clothing.
Or those memes you see about women who party on the weekend not being wife material regularly shared on social media by men who have probably slept with dozens of women.
I find it’s more the younger men than the older in my experience but no doubt there are men of all ages with outdated opinions like this.
Yeah see that's the calibre of people who bother with social media and 'memes'. A whole different world. As long as a woman wasn't shagging 50 men whilst she is in a relationship with me, not arsed.
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Men I’ve spoken to and men I’ve politely rejected.
One recently who wanted to meet and I stated he is too far and I’m not into unprotected sex.
His words were basically I’m a slag, I’m disgusting and nobody would ever want to marry a woman that is on here. As if I’m looking for marriage.
This isn’t the first time someone has said similar and I’ve only been here 6 weeks so I imagine those who have been here much longer have had similar.
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards!
Who genuinely expects this?
Also, read any debate about “body counts” on Twitter or Facebook and you’ll see plenty men stating they wouldn’t go near a woman who’s slept with more than X amount of men or wears revealing clothing.
Or those memes you see about women who party on the weekend not being wife material regularly shared on social media by men who have probably slept with dozens of women.
I find it’s more the younger men than the older in my experience but no doubt there are men of all ages with outdated opinions like this.
Yeah see that's the calibre of people who bother with social media and 'memes'. A whole different world. As long as a woman wasn't shagging 50 men whilst she is in a relationship with me, not arsed.
Good man!
Haha. "A good man nobody wants to date. Maybe it's all my sexual partners i've had!! | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. Me too. They expect the women they date to be single housewives who have only slept with under 5 men and don’t go out at the weekends or show too much skin. Yet they’re allowed to join a swingers site and fuck all and sundry. You gotta love double standards! "Ha! Yep it's the double standard that gets my back up. | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume? How is that question even relevant?" the person I posed it to didn't have an issue with it... | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume? How is that question even relevant? the person I posed it to didn't have an issue with it..." No issue. I just wondered how it was relevant considering it was your only contribution to the thread. | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume? How is that question even relevant? the person I posed it to didn't have an issue with it... No issue. I just wondered how it was relevant considering it was your only contribution to the thread." I wasn't aware i had to ask for permission to post...i'll bear it in mind in future... | |||
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"Makes me laugh when single men say they won’t meet women/couples with loads of veris. Some people have no idea what this site is supposed to be about " +1 I'm not on on here to "Date", like the couples i meet, i'm here for fun. One couple that i have known for nearly 8 years have 2 profiles on here and more Veris than you can shake a stick at. It means they love sex as as much or even more than i do. A few couples i have met have become good friends and we meet regularly, would i want to date the Females of those couples ? NO, it would spoil everything all round. On the other hand, if i was to meet a single lady on here and things really "clicked", i would have no hes_tation in dating her. It's human nature at the end of the day. | |||
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"I only meet guys that are good enough to fuck. I wouldn't care if they are dating material or not. It's a swingers site after all. And you’re married to the only other swinger on the site so that makes sense
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"I only meet guys that are good enough to fuck. I wouldn't care if they are dating material or not. It's a swingers site after all. " That's exactly what I'm here for. The only difference is I don't have a husband at home waiting for me. I'm not here to look for potential husbands. | |||
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"I only meet guys that are good enough to fuck. I wouldn't care if they are dating material or not. It's a swingers site after all. And you’re married to the only other swinger on the site so that makes sense
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You’re married so don’t date "That's not quite what you said. But hey whatever. | |||
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"I only meet guys that are good enough to fuck. I wouldn't care if they are dating material or not. It's a swingers site after all. That's exactly what I'm here for. The only difference is I don't have a husband at home waiting for me. I'm not here to look for potential husbands." So dating is out too? | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I’m not moaning though. I want a swinging relationship, just need to find the willing partner. "Ditto | |||
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"My man and I met on Fab but neither of us are actually swingers. I was on here because I didn’t want a relationship but did want repeat meets NSA. I’ve only ‘met’ one swinger on this site and he definitely wasn’t wanting to date anyone on Fab, but that was because he’s a Swinger and wasn’t interested in dating. My man and I are still on Fab because we use the forum and attend the Lounge socials, we don’t ‘meet’. We trust each other so remaining on Fab isn’t a problem, it may have been different had we both been Swingers. Maybe it’s a trust thing that men are concerned about when it comes to dating someone on Fab especially if one or both is a swinger. I can understand that as there are swinging couples cheating on here "but isnt your "man" a cheating husband playing away? | |||
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"I don't think this is an issue exclusive to here. There will always be people who put others into boxes. I'm forever in the ok to have fun with but not date box." Me too unfortunately, experienced the double standards of a few guys sadly. They always seem to reappear both on here and the dating sites in my inbox. I’d like to say it’s their loss but I sometimes wonder if it’s mine too  | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. ...and, of course, you would also leave once you started dating, I presume? How is that question even relevant? the person I posed it to didn't have an issue with it... No issue. I just wondered how it was relevant considering it was your only contribution to the thread. I wasn't aware i had to ask for permission to post...i'll bear it in mind in future..." I asked a simple question. No need for dramatics. | |||
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"My man and I met on Fab but neither of us are actually swingers. I was on here because I didn’t want a relationship but did want repeat meets NSA. I’ve only ‘met’ one swinger on this site and he definitely wasn’t wanting to date anyone on Fab, but that was because he’s a Swinger and wasn’t interested in dating. My man and I are still on Fab because we use the forum and attend the Lounge socials, we don’t ‘meet’. We trust each other so remaining on Fab isn’t a problem, it may have been different had we both been Swingers. Maybe it’s a trust thing that men are concerned about when it comes to dating someone on Fab especially if one or both is a swinger. I can understand that as there are swinging couples cheating on here but isnt your "man" a cheating husband playing away?"He was when he joined the site and so was I. Neither of us have been since just after we first met. Our relationship wasn’t a contributing factor to the end of our previous relationships, that was already happening | |||
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"I initially came here for sex. Then realised I wanted a primary partner with the option of an open and honest relationship. I'd hoped this place would be full of sexual libertines who were accepting of sexually empowered women. As the recent slurry of misogynistic post proves, they're in short supply or are already coupled up. Numerous men have told me they'd never date someone from here "Absolutely agree And those are the men that go on to marry little Miss beige, and whine about how dull she is forever. | |||
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"I met my partner in a sec cinema while i was happily shagging my way through 30 guys. Think he realized he wasnt getting the virgin mary "I find that absolutely adorable
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"I initially came here for sex. Then realised I wanted a primary partner with the option of an open and honest relationship. I'd hoped this place would be full of sexual libertines who were accepting of sexually empowered women. As the recent slurry of misogynistic post proves, they're in short supply or are already coupled up. Numerous men have told me they'd never date someone from here
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And those are the men that go on to marry little Miss beige, and whine about how dull she is forever.
Yup....how many married chaps are on here bemoaning their sexless marriage? "Not just chaps, sexist | |||
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"I initially came here for sex. Then realised I wanted a primary partner with the option of an open and honest relationship. I'd hoped this place would be full of sexual libertines who were accepting of sexually empowered women. As the recent slurry of misogynistic post proves, they're in short supply or are already coupled up. Numerous men have told me they'd never date someone from here
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And those are the men that go on to marry little Miss beige, and whine about how dull she is forever.
Yup....how many married chaps are on here bemoaning their sexless marriage? "Or that their wife isnt 'adventurous?' Heard it a thousand times. | |||
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging
That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around. "This would be my thinking too. I'm closed to dating someone on fab for this primary reason. If I found after starting to date that they were on here then I'd probably change they way I viewed how the dating would go too. I wouldn't be looking at swinging with someone so it will have an impact on where I look for a dating partner. I'd leave fab if I started dating someone. | |||
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And those are the men that go on to marry little Miss beige, and whine about how dull she is forever.
Yup....how many married chaps are on here bemoaning their sexless marriage?
Or that their wife isnt 'adventurous?'
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be. "Funny you should say that. My husband called me a plank in bed, yet refused to kiss me and wouldn't let me even look at him while I sucked his cock. He couldn't let go in bed but expected me to. | |||
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That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around.
This would be my thinking too. I'm closed to dating someone on fab for this primary reason. If I found after starting to date that they were on here then I'd probably change they way I viewed how the dating would go too.
I wouldn't be looking at swinging with someone so it will have an impact on where I look for a dating partner.
I'd leave fab if I started dating someone."So you wouldn't date a woman on fab. Fair enough. Why would you expect a woman to date you then seeing as you're on fab? Genuine question. | |||
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed "I dont think that was what was said at all. I said that men sometimes complain that their wives are dull and not sexually adventurous. I know this, because its my ear they are bending | |||
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed
I dont think that was what was said at all.
I said that men sometimes complain that their wives are dull and not sexually adventurous.
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That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around."I think you're confusing cheating and swinging... | |||
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed
I dont think that was what was said at all.
I said that men sometimes complain that their wives are dull and not sexually adventurous.
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That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around.
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No I'm not."Sorry but I don't understand. If you wouldn't trust them not to fuck around (your words), that's your trust issue not a swinging issue surely? It's a hobby, it's not bloody heroin. If they're a decent person and respect you and the relationship, they would respect your wish for them not to have sex with other people - doesn't matter whether they're a swinger or not. | |||
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed "My reply was to show she maybe wasn't dull, just not stimulated by 'himself'. There's many fabbers that don't stimulate me, nothing to do with them being on fab or not though.  | |||
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Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable." I think you misinterpreted the OP. | |||
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And those are the men that go on to marry little Miss beige, and whine about how dull she is forever.
Maybe she's dull not because of herself but more because she isn't stimulated enough not to be.
I love that stereotype. If you're not on fab or something similar you'll be dull in bed
My reply was to show she maybe wasn't dull, just not stimulated by 'himself'.
There's many fabbers that don't stimulate me, nothing to do with them being on fab or not though.
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That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around.
I think you're confusing cheating and swinging...
No I'm not.
Sorry but I don't understand. If you wouldn't trust them not to fuck around (your words), that's your trust issue not a swinging issue surely?
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP." you are the Op | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op" I meant opening post | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op I meant opening post "by George I think I got it | |||
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"I did dating sites for a few months , and found them cold and meaningless . Every date led to sex which was very forgettable . A bit like chocolate , nice at the time but often regretting it afterwards , and wondering why you had it in the first place . So I asked S out on a date , and we started dating eight years ago . Not a thought about swinging , and neither of us had done anything like it until we began after a year . But we have each other for the meaningful and important stuff , like love , understanding , depth and so on . We can talk about our experiences , or simply forget them , whatever takes our fancy . We never feel used , or that a meet was pointless or had no meaning . And that’s because we feel that we have each other and really that’s all that matters . So we totally get anyone who says they wouldn’t date a swinger . A single swinger has the mentality of the self as being the main outlet of desire and need . Hardly relationship material really . Swinging is a soulless pastime for singles , and nothing more than a pleasant hobby for us . Swinging is a non exclusive , nsa sexually liberating lifestyle , and not many people look for that in a relationship . Certainly not if you’re looking for something that means anything anyway ." I'm sorry but I'm confused by your post
A single swinger isn't relationship material?
And someone looking for something that means anything shouldn't date a swinger?
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging
That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around. "If anyone ever levelled that at me because I’d been on a swinging site they’d be told precisely where to go. We don’t leave our morals, principles and ability to keep commitments at the door when we register on a swinging site. | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op I meant opening post
by George I think I got it"I didn't say I joined fab to date. I asked why men/women would refuse to date someone here even though they're on the site themselves. | |||
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"I did dating sites for a few months , and found them cold and meaningless . Every date led to sex which was very forgettable . A bit like chocolate , nice at the time but often regretting it afterwards , and wondering why you had it in the first place . So I asked S out on a date , and we started dating eight years ago . Not a thought about swinging , and neither of us had done anything like it until we began after a year . But we have each other for the meaningful and important stuff , like love , understanding , depth and so on . We can talk about our experiences , or simply forget them , whatever takes our fancy . We never feel used , or that a meet was pointless or had no meaning . And that’s because we feel that we have each other and really that’s all that matters . So we totally get anyone who says they wouldn’t date a swinger . A single swinger has the mentality of the self as being the main outlet of desire and need . Hardly relationship material really . Swinging is a soulless pastime for singles , and nothing more than a pleasant hobby for us . Swinging is a non exclusive , nsa sexually liberating lifestyle , and not many people look for that in a relationship . Certainly not if you’re looking for something that means anything anyway . " Swinging is a soulless pastime for singles? I'm not sure what you're trying to say there. If you're saying it's nothing more than a pleasant hobby for you, isn't that soulless? Can a single person not meet another single person on here for something meaningful? | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op I meant opening post
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I didn't say I joined fab to date. I asked why men/women would refuse to date someone here even though they're on the site themselves. "I have seen and heard this quite a few times in my time on fab; ‘If she was my girlfriend I would let her fuck other people.’ Personally I find that kind of comment disrespectful on many levels. A single swinger is not incapable of maintaining a relationship nor of wanting one, for many people; myself included, meeting another person to share this lifestyle with is the holy grail. In direct answer to your OP; I don’t think that there is that definition, however many singles that don’t understand swinging do think that there is... Its simply a case of whether the person ‘gets’ the lifestyle. | |||
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"Guess it all boils down to what you want in life and from fab. I suspect most singles on here are afraid of any commitment. Personally I love the swinging scene and it forms a part of my social life..... So yea .... I would date someone off of the site as they want the same from life "There is a difference between being scared of commitment and knowing commitment is not right for you. | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op I meant opening post
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I didn't say I joined fab to date. I asked why men/women would refuse to date someone here even though they're on the site themselves.
I have seen and heard this quite a few times in my time on fab; ‘If she was my girlfriend I would let her fuck other people.’ Personally I find that kind of comment disrespectful on many levels.
A single swinger is not incapable of maintaining a relationship nor of wanting one, for many people; myself included, meeting another person to share this lifestyle with is the holy grail.
In direct answer to your OP; I don’t think that there is that definition, however many singles that don’t understand swinging do think that there is... Its simply a case of whether the person ‘gets’ the lifestyle. "So you mean single men assume all single women here would want a swinging relationship and that's why some men wouldn't date them? | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question.
That’s what I thought.
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I thought you ment that guys you'd interacted with on fabswingers (a site where the perception is that women are easy) had told you that they'd fuck you but they wouldn't date you because they thought that women here were easy and that's not the sort of woman that they'd want to date or settle down with. My mistake. "Are you sure you made a mistake? I thought you nailed it! It's pretty simple, most vanilla guys do not want a woman who has fucked a lot of guys, if they did, then they would likely be swingers. It's rooted in a biological difference, that historically there is almost never any doubt who the mother of a child is but the father might be disputed. This is a genetic disaster for men and therefore it makes sense that men, on average, would not want to invest resources in a woman who puts them at risk of fathering a child that is not genetically their offspring. I'm not saying this happens at a conscious level anymore but at one time, jealousy was a very rational reproductive strategy and that shaped the culture which is yet to catch up with birth control. | |||
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"I've blocked a handful of men who've publically expressed the view that Fab women are distinct from women they'd date. Not because I'm interested in dating them but because I wouldn't want to meet them via Fab either as I hate those dated and ignorant Madonna and whore stereotypes. " | |||
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"Singles don't get swinging. I'm sure some singles do! And not all singles here consider themselves swingers in any case Yeah, don't we fucking know it!
You’re obsessed
You only notice because i also answer the multitude of similar threads with the same statement! It should be no surprise that single and not so single men come to fab to fuck women. They are not swingers. They want to fuck women. And they do not want to share. I doubt they consider women they meet on fab the "marrying type". Enjoy the sex or don't. But don't moan about it.
I don't care if they're swingers or not. That wasn't my question.
That’s what I thought.
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I thought you ment that guys you'd interacted with on fabswingers (a site where the perception is that women are easy) had told you that they'd fuck you but they wouldn't date you because they thought that women here were easy and that's not the sort of woman that they'd want to date or settle down with. My mistake.
Are you sure you made a mistake? I thought you nailed it! It's pretty simple, most vanilla guys do not want a woman who has fucked a lot of guys, if they did, then they would likely be swingers.
It's rooted in a biological difference, that historically there is almost never any doubt who the mother of a child is but the father might be disputed. This is a genetic disaster for men and therefore it makes sense that men, on average, would not want to invest resources in a woman who puts them at risk of fathering a child that is not genetically their offspring. I'm not saying this happens at a conscious level anymore but at one time, jealousy was a very rational reproductive strategy and that shaped the culture which is yet to catch up with birth control. " from an evolutionary perspective, you're spot on ! | |||
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"I’ve had this levelled at me too, I’ve also been told by men on dating sites that they wouldn’t trust me in a relationship when I’ve bought up the fact that I like swinging
That's one of the reasons I wouldn't date anyone off here. I wouldn't trust them not to fuck around.
If anyone ever levelled that at me because I’d been on a swinging site they’d be told precisely where to go. We don’t leave our morals, principles and ability to keep commitments at the door when we register on a swinging site."Some do though - and I think people realise that. | |||
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"I don't think this is an issue exclusive to here. There will always be people who put others into boxes. I'm forever in the ok to have fun with but not date box." This for me too
If I was looking for a relationship this wouldn't be where I would look.
Not because I wouldn't date a swinger - but because very few of the single men on here are actually single 
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. If someone ticks all the boxes of who you'd like to date then I don't understand what the issue is, especially as the men themselves are also on fab! I really can't understand the reasoning behind that. Personally I don't think it matters where you happened to meet someone you like. I understand that most people on fab (me included) aren't using it to meet a potential significant other but if it happened why turn it down because of how ye met? Is it a matter of we're good enough to fuck but not to date? Do they think women in vanilla land are all vestal virgins?! I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons." Every man I’ve dated with this mind set. Has been a cheat, and a control freak with hints of being a dom. stay well clear. They are very narrow minded. | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating." This is precisely the attitude highlighted in the original post. Double standards. | |||
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" Why did you join fab? State it on your profile if you would fancy dating. I would assume a higher number of women join for more than sex compare to men because y'all are complicated. The core reason a lot of men join is sex or prospect of sex. The value put upon sex is different from men and women. It takes a stronger man to see beyond sex especially when you are young. ever see looking for mmmmmmf - this shape the perception of men views on women of fab, looking for ffffffm is laughable. I think you misinterpreted the OP.you are the Op I meant opening post
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I didn't say I joined fab to date. I asked why men/women would refuse to date someone here even though they're on the site themselves. "that's true you didn't but probably many assumed it | |||
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"It is possible to dare someone met on fab.Its just a question of building up mutual trust and protecting that trust at all costs like any other relationship" | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. This is precisely the attitude highlighted in the original post. Double standards. " Why? The requirements of dating and swinging are totally at odds for the majority of people. | |||
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"After chatting with various men over the years on fab I've encountered a fair few who wouldn't date a woman who they know is on fab/similar sites. I would love to know if many single men or single women have come across people on the site with a similar mindset. I'd also be interested in hearing from men and women who wouldn't date someone if they were on fab. Really curious and open to hear some honest reasons. If I met a woman with whom I clicked I wouldn't exclude the dating option simply because she was on fab. I would struggle if she remained on FAB after we started dating. This is precisely the attitude highlighted in the original post. Double standards. Why? The requirements of dating and swinging are totally at odds for the majority of people." Then as usual, I must be in the minority. | |||
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