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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i have the only say in who i meet
as my OH is a non-swinger, the diary we have together dictates the when i meet
the constraints of the relationship and what we have agreed ref me playing dictates what goes on on a meet
just to complicate matters for ya  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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...hate to swing your stats in the direction of the one percenters soaps, but unanimity is in charge of our swinging relationship... if it ain't unanimous, it ain't happening... simples.
so really no one is.
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"...hate to swing your stats in the direction of the one percenters soaps, but unanimity is in charge of our swinging relationship... if it ain't unanimous, it ain't happening... simples.
so really no one is.
Wolf
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Any tips gratefully received xx |
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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago
Livingston |
serious now... we don't play together as a couple so who I play with is and always will be my decision alone. On the rare occasion that we have a 3sum then it is a joint decision as it has to be someone we both feel "right" about. |
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By *umourCouple
over a year ago
Rushden |
I sometimes look at profiles and may suggest, but normally both together and decide. Mostly it is the guy who halts the process as I am sure that is the same when people look at our profile.
But neither one will "take one for the team"...   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "
I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx
I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean "
Bugger off hes loads taller than you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when i've been to the sauna with my fb looking for a threesome, i generally allow him to make the suggestions on the playmate as i have much wider sexual tastes than he does
so if i did the suggesting 90% of um would be a 'no' from him anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx
I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean "
precisely
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx
I seriously cannot answer that one as we are so much on the same level if you know what I mean
Bugger off hes loads taller than you xx "
Get lost lanky  |
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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago
dirtybigbadsgirlville |
"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "
my OH is most definitely in charge, then we discuss and hes usually right lol |
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I met a couple a little while ago, who said I was an exception as they had seen a face pic of me, before we met.
Usually they just invite couples over to their house without seeing a photo, and if one is happy, the other takes it for the team! It is very rare for them both to be happy with a couple they meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
my evil twin decides... mwhahahahahaha...
seriously though, I thought it must always be harder for couples meeting couples, than meeting singles, because there are 4 people that have to be happy as opposed to both liking a single...
taking one for the team would never cross me mind... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either"
Doing things for the sake of the 'body count' isn't a reality. It's like saying to someone younger than you that they're catching you up each time they have a birthday... lol
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We decide together if its a yes or no... naturally i may fancy the man more than mat may fancy the lady and vice versa, however we both must be attracted to the people to some extent.
We have met some couples that you can clearly tell one of them had the final say and the other wasnt as comfortable... this is the reason we like social meets first to see if everyone wants to take the next step
Sarah xx |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
South West London / Surrey |
"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "
Would say both of us as we only ever meet if both of us are in agreement. Tend to find couples the hardest to agree on. |
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Neither of us, i do my thing and he does his. If where meeting as a couple though hes usually arranged it as its generally someone he knows where going to be doing it with. But i always see faces and chat to the person/people |
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By *tomComMan
over a year ago
Wellingborough |
"I sometimes look at profiles and may suggest, but normally both together and decide. Mostly it is the guy who halts the process as I am sure that is the same when people look at our profile.
But neither one will "take one for the team"... "
ooo pity .. lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"when I was part of a couple(we met from here), I hated some aspects of swinging coupledom- especially looking for meets, and I'd met many more than my ex so i wanted to return to a few...never really happened either
Doing things for the sake of the 'body count' isn't a reality. It's like saying to someone younger than you that they're catching you up each time they have a birthday... lol
Wolf
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body count???...this was and is friends ive known for a long time-Ive never had to or would never rely on needing a female to get meets..altho the increased attention from those who simply ignored in the past was funny lol |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"neither as both have to be comfortable if we agree to meet .. and then all 4 have to be in agreement else nowt will happen"
very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra |
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very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra "
wahoo.. i might have a chance my pulse is racing. he he he
in answer to your question soapy.. As a couple we decide together,, never gonna take one for the team. lol. if no on anyone of the 4 sides,, no play..
on our single profile, we will talk and discuss and listen to one anothers point of _iew. but unless one of us has a really good reason , such as he/ she looks like an axe murderer. then we each have the deciding vote as it were. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
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very true but K says I look on a pulse as an optional extra
wahoo.. i might have a chance my pulse is racing. he he he
in answer to your question soapy.. As a couple we decide together,, never gonna take one for the team. lol. if no on anyone of the 4 sides,, no play..
on our single profile, we will talk and discuss and listen to one anothers point of _iew. but unless one of us has a really good reason , such as he/ she looks like an axe murderer. then we each have the deciding vote as it were. "
I thought it was the other way round, me having a chance with you - really must get that satnav fixed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody is in charge here ......
We both decide what goes on with whom, where and when. It's a 100% joint decision
Is there such a thing as a 100% joint decision or would it be 50/50 ? well you know what I mean lol
If either one of us is not 100% happy with any aspect of anything relating to this side of our lives, it doesn't go ahead, simple as that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!
When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further. "
Would you take one for us? Just asking |
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"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!
When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further.
Would you take one for us? Just asking "
We thought about this long and hard, ok about 2 seconds and decided, yes please.
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By *ISPCouple
over a year ago
Nottingham |
We always decide together but have both taken one for the team! It's so difficult to find couples equally sexy, good looking or that actually want the same things as us!
May one day do FFM or MMF but just need to find the right people. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
Cyprus |
"Of your relationship swinging wise
And be truthful lol
Cause most of the couples i know its the woman
I know its discussed between the two but who has the final say? xx "
Jason.........
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Or so I let him believe....... As you all know..... I wear the trousers in this house! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don't play with many couples. We hvae both 'taken one' before now (including both at the same time!!) - we need to come up with a code!!
When it comes to meeting just men I get the say as to whether they're shaggable or not (obviously!) but sometimes there are guys he would rather I didn't meet, for whatever reason, and in that case I wouldn't meet them. Social meets I've met ones of his choosing, but they've usually turned out not to be shaggable and so it hasn't gone any further.
Would you take one for us? Just asking
We thought about this long and hard, ok about 2 seconds and decided, yes please.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening
+1 in all seriousness, we discuss everything to the max at times "
To the max???? Fancy a fuck???? |
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"We would never, ever take one for the team. If either of us are not comfortable with the situation...........it ain't happening
+1 in all seriousness, we discuss everything to the max at times
To the max???? Fancy a fuck???? "
we have discussed and have decided ... ok then |
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