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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Not only am I going slightly crazy being locked up lol but am starting to loose even more confidence in myself as I post on here no one talks to me I just feel fed up an lonely today guess just part of bein stuck indoors...

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Why are you housebound?

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post"

Ahhhh sorry to hear this...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post"

Have you spoken to your partner about how you feel?

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

I would not feel safe coming to a house of someone I don't know. Dangerous surely

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By *ensuallover1000Man over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It’s not much help I’m afraid but sincere manly hugs to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would not feel safe coming to a house of someone I don't know. Dangerous surely"

This is probably the reason, tty not to take it personally - know that's hard when you're in the wrong frame of mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?"

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post

Ahhhh sorry to hear this...

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post

Have you spoken to your partner about how you feel?"

Yeah she knows how bad it’s impacting me, even she has tried reach out to ppl but no one seems interested to help dunno why

So my only contact with ppl is her, my parents and occasionally her family when they wanna come (only her dad has visited)

So I use forum an fab a lot now to speak to ppl obviously that only in forum cos no one replies to messages lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I would not feel safe coming to a house of someone I don't know. Dangerous surely

This is probably the reason, tty not to take it personally - know that's hard when you're in the wrong frame of mind."

Ano is totally agree and understand thinking about it guess just feel needy an alone

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

So, could you maybe use the time to learn a new skill? Guitar maybe... there's loads of lessons on YouTube. Or knitting, even a foriegn language,or what about an online course that might help you further your career?

I understand the pain of boredom,I hate to have nothing to do, but there's always something that I can find to occupy my self.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's loads of stuff you can do - watch films, read, talk bollocks online, learn something new.

Being housebound is depressing - but don't wallow in it - enjoy it!

Before you know it you'll be back at work wishing you were at home

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's loads of stuff you can do - watch films, read, talk bollocks online, learn something new.

Being housebound is depressing - but don't wallow in it - enjoy it!

Before you know it you'll be back at work wishing you were at home

Well I have done lots of reading, films, and other stuff I enjoy

I miss people and social interactions I think

Ano my parents keep saying need rest and enjoy it as soon be back in work an most ppl would kill for time off lol think if was more mobile and could do stuff be better but being limited just gets frustrating

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

How long are you stuck inside for? If it was me I'd learn a language.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So, could you maybe use the time to learn a new skill? Guitar maybe... there's loads of lessons on YouTube. Or knitting, even a foriegn language,or what about an online course that might help you further your career?

I understand the pain of boredom,I hate to have nothing to do, but there's always something that I can find to occupy my self.

Cal"

Cool ideas I already play guitar due to brace and positioning of leg I can’t okay that is a big frustration as I would love to use time to record music and play guitar hopefully when brace off or even when leg position altered be able to play

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"How long are you stuck inside for? If it was me I'd learn a language. "

I have brace and restrictions to mobility 8weeks

It’s more social interaction I miss I have never been good at being friendly or making friends now I feel am paying for that as time I need ppl I don’t have em

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would take the opportunity to read lots of books and paint or draw, catch up on movies, explore the world through google earth, draw up and plan a trip to somewhere so when I was mobile I could do it and reward yourself with a trip.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was in the same position as you back in Jan after a knee op so I know how you feel! It really helped me to challenge myself to do one thing per day didn't matter what it was as long as it was a challenge. Chin up chap it'll get easier!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I was in the same position as you back in Jan after a knee op so I know how you feel! It really helped me to challenge myself to do one thing per day didn't matter what it was as long as it was a challenge. Chin up chap it'll get easier! "

Thanks I’ve had some huge set backs I ended up with a dvt week after op which made shit scary and kinda knocked confidence then week after that when I felt good an strong had bad cramp in leg which made me fall causing pain- the hospital were so worried about damage got rushed in but I’ve torn calf muscles this again is a big set back as now I have to sleep an live in living room till muscle heals.

Thank you for all the posts just speaking to people is nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Thank you for all the posts just speaking to people is nice "
just keep looking forward little challenges and you'll be squared away in no time!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I understand the pain of boredom,I hate to have nothing to do, but there's always something that I can find to occupy my self.

Cal"

These are some really great ideas. Always good to learn something new.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I think that because the plight of a single man on Fab is particularly hard - usually in relation to getting sex - then it's not the ideal place to aim to create an effective social support network very quickly. Someone who continues to rely on fab may thus meet with disappointment, further exacerbating their predicament, which isn't ideal.

Consider exploring other interests and enriching your life, possibly in non-sex related arenas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I think that because the plight of a single man on Fab is particularly hard - usually in relation to getting sex - then it's not the ideal place to aim to create an effective social support network very quickly. Someone who continues to rely on fab may thus meet with disappointment, further exacerbating their predicament, which isn't ideal.

Consider exploring other interests and enriching your life, possibly in non-sex related arenas."

I’m not just looking for sexual gratification on here

Yes I’d love to meet for sexual fun but in past have had friend who chatted to on here but then people moved on but enjoy speaking to people also

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By *hips n FursMan over a year ago

Huddersfield

I've been there,I was laid up for 4 months after having leg surgery, I went back to work last week. What put things into perspective for me was watching a program about kids with cancer. After that I looked at my leg and thought,this is fuck all compared to what them poor little buggers were going through. It was sad,but a very good reality check.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

Can you get about on crutches, if so go for a hobble to your local park or something. It’ll get you out and help with healing process too. Sitting on your arse moping won’t do you any good at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been there,I was laid up for 4 months after having leg surgery, I went back to work last week. What put things into perspective for me was watching a program about kids with cancer. After that I looked at my leg and thought,this is fuck all compared to what them poor little buggers were going through. It was sad,but a very good reality check. "

Oh I am under no underestimation that what am goin through is nothing compared to what others who goin through stuff worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

I can manage to get from living room to kitchen only after that due to pain can’t get further. Due to operation am not allowed to go on uneven surfaces at present due to my bones being fractured and pinned so needs stay stable.

So I can’t get out house to park I can’t even get out into my garden due to slope an step height

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

So I can’t get out house to park I can’t even get out into my garden due to slope an step height "

Bummer. Break up your day into segments. Do something different in each segment. Two hours in the morning to read the papers and watch the news etc. Another two hours to learn a new skill, language or guitar as suggested, another two hours to read a book, two hours for an afternoon nap. Your day will soon pass and you’ll have a new skill by the end of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

So I can’t get out house to park I can’t even get out into my garden due to slope an step height

Lol yeah bummer tell me about it can’t wait 4 more weeks hopefully bone heal an can go park etc lol

I do split my day up it’s to social and human contact I miss an need

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the advice people telling me how split up my day and improve it

I am doing stuff but as my post was about being lonely and down cos I am alone and stuff doin stuff fills time but doesn’t change my loneliness

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice people telling me how split up my day and improve it

I am doing stuff but as my post was about being lonely and down cos I am alone and stuff doin stuff fills time but doesn’t change my loneliness "

Unfortunately the loneliness is a short term by product of your operation, but it is short term. In a matter of weeks it will be a distant memory. Just suck it up and try to make best use of your time. You have a partner who I assume comes home to you after work, so it’s just 8 hours a day you need to fill. Even if you had the odd social visitor from here it would only be an hour or so here and there. I’d learn to get used to your own company and make best use of it.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

What about online gaming where you can talk to people on headsets? Maybe not the same as meeting in person but it’s still an interaction.

Are there any voluntary organisations that do visits?

You can play scrabble and monopoly online and interact with people too. Even on your phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post

Have you spoken to your partner about how you feel?

Yeah she knows how bad it’s impacting me, even she has tried reach out to ppl but no one seems interested to help dunno why

So my only contact with ppl is her, my parents and occasionally her family when they wanna come (only her dad has visited)

So I use forum an fab a lot now to speak to ppl obviously that only in forum cos no one replies to messages lol"

Erm thats not true !

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Radio on, on a chat channel. Join twitter you can sit and virtually chat/argue/debate all day long on there. Like others have said just learn a new skill. Research something deep and complicated. Enter a load of magazine competitions. If you have free minutes on your phone ring up all your utility companies and rehash a better deal for yourself,they'll have you talking for hours if they think you want to leave. Umm cant think of anything else x

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By *tingly ByronMan over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Yes I may be on here a lot recently that’s because am housebound. During day friends and family are all working so am stuck indoors.

I have posted meets for people to visit even if it’s just a social as need company but no interest.

Sorry I don’t have any real friends most have are through partner or family, even people I work with I have tried to reach out to an still nothing

I know I’ve always been a bit of a loner but being stuck inside no real contact is making me upset loads sorry for this silly post"

It's not a silly post.

Very easy to go stir crazy when you're stuck at home on your own.

Are you able to get out in the garden and Potter about?

I appreciate you've just had an op and it might not be that simple....

Could you get some pots, compost and seeds, maybe try a bit of indoor growing?

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple over a year ago

Bedworth

Have you thought about venturing into the chat rooms? I would recommend either general chat or one of the regional rooms.

At first it can be hard getting going but preserve and people will start to notice you there. Before you know it you’ll be having conversations about random shit and making friends in there.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Consider exploring other interests and enriching your life, possibly in non-sex related arenas.

I’m not just looking for sexual gratification on here

Yes I’d love to meet for sexual fun but in past have had friend who chatted to on here but then people moved on but enjoy speaking to people also"

I understand that but a single male inevitably will almost always have a very tough time establishing a new network here, with others largely due to the reputation of most being here for sex. That influences others in their restraint

If you are able to offer any thing to others, skills, support, whatever - you may find that very rewarding

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

So I can’t get out house to park I can’t even get out into my garden due to slope an step height

This! I'm currently a "stay at home mum" and get easily bored! And very much miss interacting with other adults! I spend way too much time on this site!! (My partner is returning from working abroad this Friday

)

I like these suggestions. Sorry for your suffering OP...

Mrs x

(Ps If you're one of the lucky ones who has never watched Breaking Bad then I urge you to use this opportunity to do so! I got lost in that series. Twice!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Radio on, on a chat channel. Join twitter you can sit and virtually chat/argue/debate all day long on there. Like others have said just learn a new skill. Research something deep and complicated. Enter a load of magazine competitions. If you have free minutes on your phone ring up all your utility companies and rehash a better deal for yourself,they'll have you talking for hours if they think you want to leave. Umm cant think of anything else x"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why are you housebound?

Had a big operation on leg just under 4 weeks ago and cos mobility I can’t get out house, when have to go an appointment and get in car it’s the worse pain ever so I can’t even go out in a car.

So I can’t get out house to park I can’t even get out into my garden due to slope an step height

)

I like these suggestions. Sorry for your suffering OP...

Mrs x

(Ps If you're one of the lucky ones who has never watched Breaking Bad then I urge you to use this opportunity to do so! I got lost in that series. Twice!)"

Haha already watched B.B. and Gotham and most er plus watched every football match in World Cup lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thank you everyone for the comments and nice messages today meant a lot

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By *ard.bodMan over a year ago

Lincoln

"Thank you everyone for the comments and nice messages today meant a lot "

Good to know you feel better. I know exactly how you feel. I am working professional at a new place and stuck here for a few years. Some people just can't get the right people to click with. Hope you are feeling better.

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