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I just want to have sex with you part 2.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Can you keep this going cos I wanted to answer a post but it's too full. I'm just going to Asda and I'll be back.
Thread was guys how would you feel if a woman said it to you outside of fab.
Women how would you feel if a guy said it to you outside of fab.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Was this comment I wanted to answer
"I do so love these posts without context -did you bump into said person on street, are you working in a psychiatric or demtia ward, is the person in a full body cast/ a victim of a horrific accident and suffering the effects of concussion, are you attracted to or repulsed by their habits or apparrent hygene...
As in all things, it has more to do with what led up to the moment that the person thought it was appropriate to ask such a question -Even themost desperate of us may have doubts if when waiting for the car to be serviced, the mechanic/ receptionist popped in with the remains of their lunch smeared across their face and asked whether you wanted to have a ride in the used parts bin while the boss is looking the other way.
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To put it into context for me it's a guy who I fancied as soon as I first saw him 3 years ago when I started working as a casual receptionist in a gym. I only work there as and when I can around my other job but my other job involves taking people's to the swimming pool and gym so I'm at this place a lot.
He's in the building 3x a week and I never really used to speak to him apart from general pleasantries, he had a bird but the last year or so I started talking to him properly. The last 9 months or so when I was working he would sit in reception with me in between his clients and we'd have proper conversations and flirty banter (hate that word) New Year's Eve he had an argument with his bird and was asking for advice and I told him then, don't talk about problems with your current gf with another female for a start and said that most things can be solved by simply apologising, even if you don't believe you've done anything wrong. March time (that's the next time I worked there) talked again and he said it was on the rocks, didn't see him for a while till last week. He said it was done and we had flirty chats again. As per my other thread about sticking my tongue up a work colleagues arse hole. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Oh my god, seriously. Was expecting loads of advice when I got back to this.
Nothing, not one jot, doesn't anyone have an opinion?
In the context I've described would it be acceptable to tell someone you want to have sex with them. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
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To put it into context for me it's a guy who I fancied as soon as I first saw him 3 years ago when I started working as a casual receptionist in a gym. I only work there as and when I can around my other job but my other job involves taking people's to the swimming pool and gym so I'm at this place a lot.
He's in the building 3x a week and I never really used to speak to him apart from general pleasantries, he had a bird but the last year or so I started talking to him properly. The last 9 months or so when I was working he would sit in reception with me in between his clients and we'd have proper conversations and flirty banter (hate that word) New Year's Eve he had an argument with his bird and was asking for advice and I told him then, don't talk about problems with your current gf with another female for a start and said that most things can be solved by simply apologising, even if you don't believe you've done anything wrong. March time (that's the next time I worked there) talked again and he said it was on the rocks, didn't see him for a while till last week. He said it was done and we had flirty chats again. As per my other thread about sticking my tongue up a work colleagues arse hole. "
Ah yes I have been following your other posts with interest -a bit like being hooked on Eastenders -a guilty pleasure really
Anyway, veering back to the topic, it's obvious that there is some level interest/ possible reciprocation -so my advice would be to go for it.
To me it wouldn't matter if the person was on fab or not but I wouldn't bring up the arse licking thing on the first date -some boys are awful sensitive about that |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh my god, seriously. Was expecting loads of advice when I got back to this.
Nothing, not one jot, doesn't anyone have an opinion?
In the context I've described would it be acceptable to tell someone you want to have sex with them. "
All the advice was on the thread about sticking your tongue up his bum. The rest of the advice was on the other thread.
In the context you've set out it's clearly fine to just ask. You know that if he says no you'll be miffed but he may not ask for fear of being hit with a sexual harassment claim. It's up to you.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Oh my god, seriously. Was expecting loads of advice when I got back to this.
Nothing, not one jot, doesn't anyone have an opinion?
In the context I've described would it be acceptable to tell someone you want to have sex with them.
All the advice was on the thread about sticking your tongue up his bum. The rest of the advice was on the other thread.
In the context you've set out it's clearly fine to just ask. You know that if he says no you'll be miffed but he may not ask for fear of being hit with a sexual harassment claim. It's up to you.
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Just want to give as much detail as possible so I have an idea what the outcome would be. If it leans strongly that it wouldn't be welcomed I won't approach. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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To put it into context for me it's a guy who I fancied as soon as I first saw him 3 years ago when I started working as a casual receptionist in a gym. I only work there as and when I can around my other job but my other job involves taking people's to the swimming pool and gym so I'm at this place a lot.
He's in the building 3x a week and I never really used to speak to him apart from general pleasantries, he had a bird but the last year or so I started talking to him properly. The last 9 months or so when I was working he would sit in reception with me in between his clients and we'd have proper conversations and flirty banter (hate that word) New Year's Eve he had an argument with his bird and was asking for advice and I told him then, don't talk about problems with your current gf with another female for a start and said that most things can be solved by simply apologising, even if you don't believe you've done anything wrong. March time (that's the next time I worked there) talked again and he said it was on the rocks, didn't see him for a while till last week. He said it was done and we had flirty chats again. As per my other thread about sticking my tongue up a work colleagues arse hole.
Ah yes I have been following your other posts with interest -a bit like being hooked on Eastenders -a guilty pleasure really
Anyway, veering back to the topic, it's obvious that there is some level interest/ possible reciprocation -so my advice would be to go for it.
To me it wouldn't matter if the person was on fab or not but I wouldn't bring up the arse licking thing on the first date -some boys are awful sensitive about that"
Need to have some more signs and signals.
Men what are signs and signals that you'd be ripe for a fucking? |
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"Why don’t you test the water.... just throw it in as a casual ... not joke but light hearted... "
That’s right, just do it like this:
Diamond, you have a delectable arse, would you mind if I stuck my tongue up it in some kind of consensual but extremely perverted meet?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Think it has been answered to death actually ! Just go for it why don’t you , call the bloke at home and put yourself out of this misery.
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Like go into the system and steal his contact details, that's frowned upon and punishable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To put it into context for me it's a guy who I fancied as soon as I first saw him 3 years ago when I started working as a casual receptionist in a gym. I only work there as and when I can around my other job but my other job involves taking people's to the swimming pool and gym so I'm at this place a lot.
He's in the building 3x a week and I never really used to speak to him apart from general pleasantries, he had a bird but the last year or so I started talking to him properly. The last 9 months or so when I was working he would sit in reception with me in between his clients and we'd have proper conversations and flirty banter (hate that word) New Year's Eve he had an argument with his bird and was asking for advice and I told him then, don't talk about problems with your current gf with another female for a start and said that most things can be solved by simply apologising, even if you don't believe you've done anything wrong. March time (that's the next time I worked there) talked again and he said it was on the rocks, didn't see him for a while till last week. He said it was done and we had flirty chats again. As per my other thread about sticking my tongue up a work colleagues arse hole.
Ah yes I have been following your other posts with interest -a bit like being hooked on Eastenders -a guilty pleasure really
Anyway, veering back to the topic, it's obvious that there is some level interest/ possible reciprocation -so my advice would be to go for it.
To me it wouldn't matter if the person was on fab or not but I wouldn't bring up the arse licking thing on the first date -some boys are awful sensitive about that
Need to have some more signs and signals.
Men what are signs and signals that you'd be ripe for a fucking?"
Shuffling closer in seat creaping my hand close to u see if you mirror you know if she mirrors your actions well also there will be a bulge in my pants on first contact so make sure you have a peak |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Think it has been answered to death actually ! Just go for it why don’t you , call the bloke at home and put yourself out of this misery.
Like go into the system and steal his contact details, that's frowned upon and punishable. "
Nooo! Don't go into the system, ask him for his number. It's not that unusual these days. If he refuses then you know sex in his cubby hole is unlikely. If he gives it to you then you can send a picture message and take it from there.
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"Think it has been answered to death actually ! Just go for it why don’t you , call the bloke at home and put yourself out of this misery.
Like go into the system and steal his contact details, that's frowned upon and punishable. "
Oh really ? Where I work there is a list of everyone and their mobiles in a book on the desk for anyone to use whenever needed. I imagine one of your mutual work mates has his number just ask around |
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"Why don’t you test the water.... just throw it in as a casual ... not joke but light hearted...
That’s right, just do it like this:
Diamond, you have a delectable arse, would you mind if I stuck my tongue up it in some kind of consensual but extremely perverted meet? "
Oh   I didn’t realise I was on your hit list! .... but since you asked ....  |
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"Why don’t you test the water.... just throw it in as a casual ... not joke but light hearted...
That’s right, just do it like this:
Diamond, you have a delectable arse, would you mind if I stuck my tongue up it in some kind of consensual but extremely perverted meet?
Oh I didn’t realise I was on your hit list! .... but since you asked .... "
Cool, rumour has it that you fart like a vegetarian student so I’ll bring a breath mint for afterwards
There you go, OP. Easy as that |
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"Why don’t you test the water.... just throw it in as a casual ... not joke but light hearted...
That’s right, just do it like this:
Diamond, you have a delectable arse, would you mind if I stuck my tongue up it in some kind of consensual but extremely perverted meet?
Oh I didn’t realise I was on your hit list! .... but since you asked ....
Cool, rumour has it that you fart like a vegetarian student so I’ll bring a breath mint for afterwards
There you go, OP. Easy as that "
Cheeky sod!  |
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OP I didn't read the other thread so no idea what's already been said.
Just go for it, the worst that can happen is he turns you down. It's not like you have to work closely with him on a daily basis so unlikely to make your work environment uncomfortable if it doesn't work out.
I've been in a similar situation with a guy I work with. Loads of flirting for months, eventually I messaged him privately on Facebook. We swapped numbers and have been chatting a lot. Looked like it was definitely going somewhere until last night when he revealed he "doesn't use condoms". I refuse to bareback so that's it finished before it really got started unless he backs down because I sure as hell won't  |
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I think it’s acceptable behaviour and would definitely consider the offer after firstly looking behind me to check I hadn’t overheard someone else’s conversation then finding a mirror to check my reflection then pinching myself to check I wasnt asleep x if only you shopped in my local Asda x hope it all goes well op x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd say in your context Atropos its not guaranteed to work. "Fancy a fuck?" just isn't how most people see themselves.
As with me, you're better off asking him out for a drink, ignore all the people on here who think this is the same as asking him on a date, and then just get frisky with him, see where it leads, and tell him after that it was lovely but you're not looking for a relationship. I think most guys would be more than happy (if not relieved) to have it that way around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't have a relationship with him. He's indiscreet- he talked to you about his girlfriend.
I'd ask how he's doing and if he's seeing anyone. Then chuck a comment in like "I'd do ya!". See how he reacts and go from there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't have a relationship with him. He's indiscreet- he talked to you about his girlfriend.
I'd ask how he's doing and if he's seeing anyone. Then chuck a comment in like "I'd do ya!". See how he reacts and go from there. "
I don't know if mine would be a common reaction among guys but whenever someone has said stuff like this to me it really embarrassed me and I pretty much ran away.
I'd honestly advise what I said in my previous response. Wayyy less embarrassing and cheap and just lets things flow naturally to wherever they're going to go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldn't have a relationship with him. He's indiscreet- he talked to you about his girlfriend.
I'd ask how he's doing and if he's seeing anyone. Then chuck a comment in like "I'd do ya!". See how he reacts and go from there.
I don't know if mine would be a common reaction among guys but whenever someone has said stuff like this to me it really embarrassed me and I pretty much ran away.
I'd honestly advise what I said in my previous response. Wayyy less embarrassing and cheap and just lets things flow naturally to wherever they're going to go "
Oddly enough men do run away from me. Now I see why.  |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
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Hey i have read almost all the threads and my only question would be, do you fancy him just for sex or would you like more ?
Because it is pretty simple if its just for sex: ask him if he would like to go out in a club/pub/whatever sometimes but don't make it sound like a date, more like 2 friends going out and relaxing. After a couple of drinks just pot the question as if its just another normal question. And if he says no its fine you can still be friends if he says yes you got what you wanted and problem solved.
If you want more from him that question will not get you want you want hun.
And everything that i have written its been tested and it works around 80%. And it will not make things wierd between you to either. It will be a bit of tension for a week or so but the things will be alright.
Kisses and hope i helped you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oddly enough men do run away from me. Now I see why.
Maybe it's all that steel in those heels -could be you've accidentally impaled one or two along the way  "
They wouldn't be running if they were impaled. |
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By *tirluvMan
over a year ago
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"Need to have some more signs and signals.
Men what are signs and signals that you'd be ripe for a fucking?"
Ummm -the fact that he is still talking and flirting with you -most guys only keep talking to casual female aquaintances for 2 reasons:
1. He thinks he might have a slight chance.
2. he thinks you are so hot that you are way out of his leaugue but will keep talking so that he can drink up as much of you as he can.
It's when they stop talking/ flirting that you have to worry
Honestly i can't work out why the two of ye haven't jaumped each other yet. |
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan."
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer "
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
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So many UNLOS! I miss TD and Dee. |
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
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Ahh it's just fanny prep. Sounds great. I love a sweet tasting pussy. Makes a BIG difference. I drink pineapple juice for the same reason. I thought she was going to insist he undergo some weird grooming ritual like shoving a lufa up his arse |
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"Oh my god, seriously. Was expecting loads of advice when I got back to this.
Nothing, not one jot, doesn't anyone have an opinion?
In the context I've described would it be acceptable to tell someone you want to have sex with them. "
Yup |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Hi OP, apologies - only just saw your response to my question on the first thread (work day got in the way). And yes, that makes sense to me, I understand. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
Ahh it's just fanny prep. Sounds great. I love a sweet tasting pussy. Makes a BIG difference. I drink pineapple juice for the same reason. I thought she was going to insist he undergo some weird grooming ritual like shoving a lufa up his arse "
There is a prep for the man but I can't remember the thread title that covered that. I don't think a loofah was involved. Abstinence is a requirement.
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
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OMG was that Atropos .. hilarious thread. had no idea, I often think of that when eating starbursts.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
Prep plan? Whatever that is it sounds like a buzz killer
It takes some time. Here's one of the threads. I can't remember the name of the original.
https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/415046
OMG was that Atropos .. hilarious thread. had no idea, I often think of that when eating starbursts.. "
Yep! I've been here a long time! |
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"OP, my only worry would be that if you ask and the answer is favourable it's a seize the moment sort of thing. How will you manage with your prep routine and requirements for him? He may not want to adhere to the prep plan.
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I'd just do foreplay stuff there and then. |
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By *nmjCouple
over a year ago
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Pretty simple u you are both having flirty banter he is already giving you a signal. Ok bloke half typin maybe tongue up the bum might be a few shags down the road lol. The fun is having dirty banter and then test the water by throwing it in as a have you ever tried, I always test women and push boundaries Im a cheeky flirt by nature . |
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