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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What did it say before (when you were meeting)- how is it different? It's possible they really are looking for one open minded woman. Be cautious though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What did it say before (when you were meeting)- how is it different? It's possible they really are looking for one open minded woman. Be cautious though. "
I can't even remember.
It's probably shorter and more to the point now though.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!"
Poor you. I've had one message today from someone that didn't read my profile. Everyone else has so far |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!"
I was d*unk those 25 times ! Sorry ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"People will say anything to get in someones knickers"
Do you think that they think I'll put out on the first date if they know I'm looking for a serious relationship? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Is this the place to look for a monogamous relationship? Maybe ask those messaging?
It would apear so.
You think they'd be honest?
I think they would be 'fabhonest'  "
How would that benefit them? |
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"People will say anything to get in someones knickers
Do you think that they think I'll put out on the first date if they know I'm looking for a serious relationship?"
maybe they will just the sex elsewhere. Keep their options open |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!
Poor you. I've had one message today from someone that didn't read my profile. Everyone else has so far "
Some do read profiles. When I change mine the amount of mail does change depending on what I say.
Sounds like you want a fuck buddy type relationship so maybe they like that idea.  |
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Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op? |
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!
Poor you. I've had one message today from someone that didn't read my profile. Everyone else has so far "
Guess they must all want relationships then - happy days!! |
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An fwb once suggested that I take OFF my profile that I am looking for a relationship - because I was simply telling people HOW to con me into sex. 
A carry on regardless, ing them out by my other ruthless means! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!
Poor you. I've had one message today from someone that didn't read my profile. Everyone else has so far
Some do read profiles. When I change mine the amount of mail does change depending on what I say.
Sounds like you want a fuck buddy type relationship so maybe they like that idea. "
Does it? |
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"An fwb once suggested that I take OFF my profile that I am looking for a relationship - because I was simply telling people HOW to con me into sex.
A carry on regardless, ing them out by my other ruthless means! "
Haha, w**ding them out!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op? "
Yep |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Judging by the number of cock pics I get in my inbox, the majority don't even read the first paragraph of a profile!!
Poor you. I've had one message today from someone that didn't read my profile. Everyone else has so far
Some do read profiles. When I change mine the amount of mail does change depending on what I say.
Sounds like you want a fuck buddy type relationship so maybe they like that idea. "
I don’t think I’ve noticed this version of your profile before  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People will say anything to get in someones knickers
Do you think that they think I'll put out on the first date if they know I'm looking for a serious relationship?maybe they will just the sex elsewhere. Keep their options open"
That doesn't make any sense |
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op?
Yep "
Well in that case I hope you get what you are looking for. Just watch out for the chancers though who would blow smoke up your derrière just to shag and run. (To my eternal shame I was a bugger for this when younger)
I got my monogamy of the swiping app. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op?
Yep
Well in that case I hope you get what you are looking for. Just watch out for the chancers though who would blow smoke up your derrière just to shag and run. (To my eternal shame I was a bugger for this when younger)
I got my monogamy of the swiping app. "
You think I'd shag someone without being sure they were in love with me? You think anyone would wait that long to shag me? |
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op?
Yep
Well in that case I hope you get what you are looking for. Just watch out for the chancers though who would blow smoke up your derrière just to shag and run. (To my eternal shame I was a bugger for this when younger)
I got my monogamy of the swiping app.
You think I'd shag someone without being sure they were in love with me? You think anyone would wait that long to shag me? "
I used to love the chase so it’s possible.
But from being on here for around six years I have seen people find love and live happy ever after.
Call me a romantic fool but I believe there is someone for everyone in time |
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Even if a mans primary motivation is for a quick roll in the hay, Cupid’s arrow will invariably strike home at some point. It could happen any time and anywhere and even on here will likely prove no exception
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"In my experience most men that message don't take the slightest bit of notice what's on my profile.
Bad luck "
Yeah it's a shagging site though isn't it and the people that do say they want the same I don't believe them.
Then when I do believe one he fucks it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is your profile a reverse psychology thing OP? 
I personally think a swingers site isn't really about monogomy...
But you never know- I have seen a few people on the forums here that have formed relationships- not monogamous ones - because they continue swinging.
I'm guessing most of the "singles" are looking for a shag or a FWB they can swing with ..
But I hope you find what you're looking for x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op?
Yep
Well in that case I hope you get what you are looking for. Just watch out for the chancers though who would blow smoke up your derrière just to shag and run. (To my eternal shame I was a bugger for this when younger)
I got my monogamy of the swiping app.
You think I'd shag someone without being sure they were in love with me? You think anyone would wait that long to shag me?
I used to love the chase so it’s possible.
But from being on here for around six years I have seen people find love and live happy ever after.
Call me a romantic fool but I believe there is someone for everyone in time "
I think most men like the chase. I'm flattered you think men from here would chase me for that long just to get their leg over. They may as well fall in love with me |
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"Whilst I do think it’s possible to find a relationship on here. I think due to the nature of the site you may struggle with the monogamy part.
Are the messages you receive onboard with what you are looking for Op?
Yep
Well in that case I hope you get what you are looking for. Just watch out for the chancers though who would blow smoke up your derrière just to shag and run. (To my eternal shame I was a bugger for this when younger)
I got my monogamy of the swiping app.
You think I'd shag someone without being sure they were in love with me? You think anyone would wait that long to shag me?
I used to love the chase so it’s possible.
But from being on here for around six years I have seen people find love and live happy ever after.
Call me a romantic fool but I believe there is someone for everyone in time
I think most men like the chase. I'm flattered you think men from here would chase me for that long just to get their leg over. They may as well fall in love with me "
Ha ha I’m going to take my bow and wish you the best of luck.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mine says not looking for men at the moment. Yet still get lots of messages asking for meets.
Personally I don't think fab is the place to
Find a monogamous relationship. A open or swinging one - absolutely but looking for monogamy on here your setting your self up for a big pile of being hurt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just to clarify, I'm not desperate for a relationship but I'd quite like one. I'm experimenting"
There are all three:
Some will say anything for the slightest chance of a shag.
Some are looking for a monogamous relationship/fwb, call it what you will, but without emotional attachment.
Some are looking for luuurve.
Throw the dice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mine says not looking for men at the moment. Yet still get lots of messages asking for meets.
Personally I don't think fab is the place to
Find a monogamous relationship. A open or swinging one - absolutely but looking for monogamy on here your setting your self up for a big pile of being hurt "
If you delete men off your 'looking for' list it takes you off the searches and reduces mail. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I hint at what I'm looking for in the wanting a guys that's exclusive part but I wouldn't out and out put that I want a relationship on my profile. Guys will say that's want they want in order to get a fuck. You'd 'think' that as we're on a sex site a guy would be upfront in saying he only wanted a shag but that's often not the case.
I had a detailed profile in November explaining exactly what I wanted. I said to the guy that I wanted one guys that's exclusive to me as I would be to him. He said that's what he wanted too. I met him and fucked him. He went overseas for 3 weeks in contact every day and eager beaver to meet again, we met and fucked again and then I had the it is what it is it's a sex site, casual that's all.
Still went on to meet another 5 times with each encounter me becoming more and more into him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hint at what I'm looking for in the wanting a guys that's exclusive part but I wouldn't out and out put that I want a relationship on my profile. Guys will say that's want they want in order to get a fuck. You'd 'think' that as we're on a sex site a guy would be upfront in saying he only wanted a shag but that's often not the case.
I had a detailed profile in November explaining exactly what I wanted. I said to the guy that I wanted one guys that's exclusive to me as I would be to him. He said that's what he wanted too. I met him and fucked him. He went overseas for 3 weeks in contact every day and eager beaver to meet again, we met and fucked again and then I had the it is what it is it's a sex site, casual that's all.
Still went on to meet another 5 times with each encounter me becoming more and more into him. "
but if he made it clear after the 3 weeks, then you carried seeing him, either he may have assumed you didn't mean it, or didn't mind or he just didnt care...either way...he was clear that he wasnt looking for monogamy after your 3 weeks meet.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On think you're all getting the wrong end of the stick...."
i think so too... you'll probably notice if they assume they want a quick shag.. dont think the required attention span will be there.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I hint at what I'm looking for in the wanting a guys that's exclusive part but I wouldn't out and out put that I want a relationship on my profile. Guys will say that's want they want in order to get a fuck. You'd 'think' that as we're on a sex site a guy would be upfront in saying he only wanted a shag but that's often not the case.
I had a detailed profile in November explaining exactly what I wanted. I said to the guy that I wanted one guys that's exclusive to me as I would be to him. He said that's what he wanted too. I met him and fucked him. He went overseas for 3 weeks in contact every day and eager beaver to meet again, we met and fucked again and then I had the it is what it is it's a sex site, casual that's all.
Still went on to meet another 5 times with each encounter me becoming more and more into him.
but if he made it clear after the 3 weeks, then you carried seeing him, either he may have assumed you didn't mean it, or didn't mind or he just didnt care...either way...he was clear that he wasnt looking for monogamy after your 3 weeks meet.. "
Was the initial 2 meets that I thought he wanted more. After we had an argument we met again in a causal basis but I wanted more. When I said that he said it was best we don't meet again if I can't do the casual thing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?"
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think there's a huge hunger among men to marry a woman with a big sex drive. What there's less hunger for (understatement) is a woman who has slept around alot. Maybe this explains it? |
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"I think there's a huge hunger among men to marry a woman with a big sex drive. What there's less hunger for (understatement) is a woman who has slept around alot. Maybe this explains it? "
Judging by the amount on here playing away, they marry the wrong women! |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship. "
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper? |
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"I think there's a huge hunger among men to marry a woman with a big sex drive. What there's less hunger for (understatement) is a woman who has slept around alot. Maybe this explains it? "
Madonna - whore. |
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I think a good few men on here are probably open to the idea of looking for more. I chatted to folk for months often before i met them, and sometimes you get the little glimpses of their true wants, along with the usual sexual bravado. A lot of men on here have been in crappy relationships and when it ends they come on here looking for sexual nirvana, when in reality they’d probably be happier cwtched up on the sofa with a gal they adore and eating a takeaway.
And whilst there are bounders who try it on, i’m guessing a few may have genuine honest intentions.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?"
A women looking for a relationship is like a man looking for sex. I know that's a generalisation, but my point is that she will always make more of an effort for a relationship.
The moment she's making an effort, she's playing the game (even though she probably doesn't see it that way).
As soon as she's playing, she can be played....and many are |
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"Amazing, your on a swingers site! People are looking for a fuck not love! If it isn’t what you want then try Match. Good luck! "
I would like to meet someone, I want to explore a swinging relationship. Not so easy to find that on match. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
A women looking for a relationship is like a man looking for sex. I know that's a generalisation, but my point is that she will always make more of an effort for a relationship.
The moment she's making an effort, she's playing the game (even though she probably doesn't see it that way).
As soon as she's playing, she can be played....and many are"
I would agree there, and I agree that a woman will make more of an effort for a relationship. ...but I don't get why you say then she's playing and can be played more easily - or do you mean because she is prepared to make an effort she is easier to manipulate?
I guess it also boils down to how much time a man is willing to invest in the game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
A women looking for a relationship is like a man looking for sex. I know that's a generalisation, but my point is that she will always make more of an effort for a relationship.
The moment she's making an effort, she's playing the game (even though she probably doesn't see it that way).
As soon as she's playing, she can be played....and many are
I would agree there, and I agree that a woman will make more of an effort for a relationship. ...but I don't get why you say then she's playing and can be played more easily - or do you mean because she is prepared to make an effort she is easier to manipulate?
I guess it also boils down to how much time a man is willing to invest in the game. "
Yes that's more or less what I mean.
Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
A women looking for a relationship is like a man looking for sex. I know that's a generalisation, but my point is that she will always make more of an effort for a relationship.
The moment she's making an effort, she's playing the game (even though she probably doesn't see it that way).
As soon as she's playing, she can be played....and many are
I would agree there, and I agree that a woman will make more of an effort for a relationship. ...but I don't get why you say then she's playing and can be played more easily - or do you mean because she is prepared to make an effort she is easier to manipulate?
I guess it also boils down to how much time a man is willing to invest in the game.
Yes that's more or less what I mean.
Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway."
No, I never 'made a man wait' in my life lol, I don't play silly games and if I want a relationship with someone I don't want to invest weeks and then find out he's useless in bed anyway!
However, because I am wanting an fwb type scenario at the very least now, I have to see some evidence of social interest before I become attracted and agree to meet at all, and few can sustain a pretense of that if it is not actually there, so they tend to themselves out and wander off before my mojo gets revved up anyway! |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
A women looking for a relationship is like a man looking for sex. I know that's a generalisation, but my point is that she will always make more of an effort for a relationship.
The moment she's making an effort, she's playing the game (even though she probably doesn't see it that way).
As soon as she's playing, she can be played....and many are
I would agree there, and I agree that a woman will make more of an effort for a relationship. ...but I don't get why you say then she's playing and can be played more easily - or do you mean because she is prepared to make an effort she is easier to manipulate?
I guess it also boils down to how much time a man is willing to invest in the game.
Yes that's more or less what I mean.
Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway.
No, I never 'made a man wait' in my life lol, I don't play silly games and if I want a relationship with someone I don't want to invest weeks and then find out he's useless in bed anyway!
However, because I am wanting an fwb type scenario at the very least now, I have to see some evidence of social interest before I become attracted and agree to meet at all, and few can sustain a pretense of that if it is not actually there, so they tend to themselves out and wander off before my mojo gets revved up anyway! "
Damn it's so annoying when a word in common parlance gets removed...... lets say 'they tend to filter themselves out...' |
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"Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway."
 And additionally... if a guy just wants sex and you give him that and then do all the leg work to try and turn it into a relationship, messaging him every day, etc... you still can't turn it into a relationship. He'll eventually just up and walk away, completely oblivious to all the work you put in. This, of course, works for women too.
Be wise. Invest in people who want to invest in you and just have fun with the rest. |
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"Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway.
And additionally... if a guy just wants sex and you give him that and then do all the leg work to try and turn it into a relationship, messaging him every day, etc... you still can't turn it into a relationship. He'll eventually just up and walk away, completely oblivious to all the work you put in. This, of course, works for women too.
Be wise. Invest in people who want to invest in you and just have fun with the rest. "
Wise words Kinky!! |
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"Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway.
And additionally... if a guy just wants sex and you give him that and then do all the leg work to try and turn it into a relationship, messaging him every day, etc... you still can't turn it into a relationship. He'll eventually just up and walk away, completely oblivious to all the work you put in. This, of course, works for women too.
Be wise. Invest in people who want to invest in you and just have fun with the rest. "
Exactly. And be canny in discerning who they truly are. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?"
WILL YOU MARRY ME, PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE |
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"I think there's a huge hunger among men to marry a woman with a big sex drive. What there's less hunger for (understatement) is a woman who has slept around alot. Maybe this explains it?
Madonna - whore."
This!
A woman who does everything they desire, but must not have done it with anyone before 
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"Don't fall for that nonsense about investing time. If a man's driver is wanting a relationship then it doesn't matter if you have sex in the first week or wait 6 months.
If his driver is just having sex with you then making him wait isn't going to suddenly make him want a relationship. That's why so many women who use those tactics end up so disillusioned with men.
The game has changed.
Besides, if he's a reasonably attractive guy then while your making him wait he's probably getting it somewhere else anyway.
And additionally... if a guy just wants sex and you give him that and then do all the leg work to try and turn it into a relationship, messaging him every day, etc... you still can't turn it into a relationship. He'll eventually just up and walk away, completely oblivious to all the work you put in. This, of course, works for women too.
Be wise. Invest in people who want to invest in you and just have fun with the rest.
Wise words Kinky!! "
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"I think there's a huge hunger among men to marry a woman with a big sex drive. What there's less hunger for (understatement) is a woman who has slept around alot. Maybe this explains it?
Madonna - whore.
This!
A woman who does everything they desire, but must not have done it with anyone before
Ridiculous outdated double standards "
But dahling, I'm just a natural! |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
WILL YOU MARRY ME, PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE "
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Probably a bit of both Ellis. I’ve lost count of the number of profiles (male and female) who claim to be looking for a relationship. The usual reason is that it’s a more overt way to find people with similar sexual interests than taking pot luck on Tinder or Match. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
WILL YOU MARRY ME, PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE
I thought you'd never ask.....Thursday week OK for you?? "
Can we squeeze in a wee quicky before then ? |
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"On think you're all getting the wrong end of the stick....
i think so too... you'll probably notice if they assume they want a quick shag.. dont think the required attention span will be there.."
Ya. Exactly. |
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"They think you're easy prey. A woman with an open heart will believe anything kind of thing.
Bullshit "
I think it's correct. Once they know you want something from them they play it to their advantage. That wouldn't be all men of course, some have integrity. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
WILL YOU MARRY ME, PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE
I thought you'd never ask.....Thursday week OK for you??
Can we squeeze in a wee quicky before then ? "
Haha, BUSTED, you BOUNDER! |
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This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?"
ijust fancy you cos your attractive and sexy ................simple as that . |
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman."
I’ve met many guys from dating apps that I stated I didn’t do ons but it ended up that way for whatever reason. I just don’t meet with the intention of that happening. Bit like I’m not really into girls but I have had mff in the past, I wouldn’t organise one but I may go with the flow spontaneously. |
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman."
Also, if you are not sure about the woman you are about to meet then don’t sleep with her. Spend some time and see if you like her first. |
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You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up. "
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you. "
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me."
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
Easy sex.
That's why many guys find it easier to get sex on dating sites.
It's so much easier to play a woman who's looking for a relationship.
How come? Just because she 'wants' more, her thirst is deeper?
WILL YOU MARRY ME, PLEASE, PRETTY PLEASE
I thought you'd never ask.....Thursday week OK for you??
Can we squeeze in a wee quicky before then ?
Haha, BUSTED, you BOUNDER! "
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman."
Interesting male perspective.
Always find it frustrating when people say 'this is a swinging site, casual not relationships etc'. Why can't it be everything and anything?
Good luck OP |
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman.
Interesting male perspective.
Always find it frustrating when people say 'this is a swinging site, casual not relationships etc'. Why can't it be everything and anything?
Good luck OP "
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman."
Very well said.
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should. "
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub."
Is that from here or other apps? |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me."
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"This site is a turkey shoot. Men want sex and the women here have total power over whether they're going to give that out or not.
Dating is a real battlefield, with each side haggling forcefully over what they're offering and what they want. Virtually every other woman writes "not into hookups or ons". But how the heck am I supposed to know in advance if it's going to last beyond one fuck or not? Delaying that fuck until the 4th meet doesn't change anything. Do it on the 1st and get it over and done with I say.
I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
It would be wonderful if women played the same game. We'd all have lots of sexy fun and end up settling on people who shon out from the crowd. But women insist on this ass backwards "commit to me first then I'll fuck you" nonsense. And then get disappointed and call guys cunts when they end up getting "played"... which of course isn't being played at all... you just tried it out, it didn't work, and the dude moved onto the next woman.
Interesting male perspective.
Always find it frustrating when people say 'this is a swinging site, casual not relationships etc'. Why can't it be everything and anything?
Good luck OP "
It can. It's less about where you look for a relationship and more about how you go about it.
Some women are very naive but some on here are pragmatic. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up. "
I'm surprised it's only three.
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"I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot. "
And I'm really glad I went. Despite the standoffish prudish language on her profile, she's suddenly stroking my leg, cosying up next to me, smiling and flirting and the next thing you know we're kissing passionately and sensually, grabbing at each other and pulling each other close. Thanks to her sexuality she's just massively improved her chances of being the right person for me |
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"I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
And I'm really glad I went. Despite the standoffish prudish language on her profile, she's suddenly stroking my leg, cosying up next to me, smiling and flirting and the next thing you know we're kissing passionately and sensually, grabbing at each other and pulling each other close. Thanks to her sexuality she's just massively improved her chances of being the right person for me "
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"I’ve met many guys from dating apps that I stated I didn’t do ons but it ended up that way for whatever reason. I just don’t meet with the intention of that happening. Bit like I’m not really into girls but I have had mff in the past, I wouldn’t organise one but I may go with the flow spontaneously. "
This is how I interpret it too poochie I don't go on any dates with the intention of having a ons, finding a fuck buddy, a friend with benefits, or a hookup. I'm dating as a way of auditioning for a life partner. That, to my mind, means I'm good to go regardless of what transpires. I went in with the right intention |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up. "
I don't know about anyone else but I'm talking about the men on here, not you. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
I don't know about anyone else but I'm talking about the men on here, not you. "
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"I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
And I'm really glad I went. Despite the standoffish prudish language on her profile, she's suddenly stroking my leg, cosying up next to me, smiling and flirting and the next thing you know we're kissing passionately and sensually, grabbing at each other and pulling each other close. Thanks to her sexuality she's just massively improved her chances of being the right person for me
The right person to just have sex with? "
She definitely gets to go through to stage two of my auditioning process if that's what you're talking about We'll see about the "just" bit after that |
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"I’ve met many guys from dating apps that I stated I didn’t do ons but it ended up that way for whatever reason. I just don’t meet with the intention of that happening. Bit like I’m not really into girls but I have had mff in the past, I wouldn’t organise one but I may go with the flow spontaneously.
This is how I interpret it too poochie I don't go on any dates with the intention of having a ons, finding a fuck buddy, a friend with benefits, or a hookup. I'm dating as a way of auditioning for a life partner. That, to my mind, means I'm good to go regardless of what transpires. I went in with the right intention "
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"I'm just about to have coffee with a woman who has only just updated her profile to say she's looking for a real relationship and doesn't want messing around. Am I messing her around? I'd like to fuck her. And there's a fair chance that's as far as it's going to get. But am I meeting her under false pretenses? No. I am similarly open to a real relationship. I just have high goals and a high sex drive. So I'm happy to have fun until the right person comes along. She might be that right person. Unlikely. But I'm willing to give her a shot.
And I'm really glad I went. Despite the standoffish prudish language on her profile, she's suddenly stroking my leg, cosying up next to me, smiling and flirting and the next thing you know we're kissing passionately and sensually, grabbing at each other and pulling each other close. Thanks to her sexuality she's just massively improved her chances of being the right person for me
The right person to just have sex with?
She definitely gets to go through to stage two of my auditioning process if that's what you're talking about We'll see about the "just" bit after that "
It’s like the SE’X’ factor |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps? "
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up. "
Were they dates or a social before meeting for possible sex? |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up. "
I’ve met some great guys from here and still friends with a few. I did take a while to meet. We chatted lots on whatsapp etc and still do. Only one or two have caught my attention in a big way. One moved to Oz and the other is ongoing. Do you talk over the phone or build up a bit of a connection via online first? |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up.
Were they dates or a social before meeting for possible sex?"
It was a date. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up.
I’ve met some great guys from here and still friends with a few. I did take a while to meet. We chatted lots on whatsapp etc and still do. Only one or two have caught my attention in a big way. One moved to Oz and the other is ongoing. Do you talk over the phone or build up a bit of a connection via online first? "
We were messaging over Kik for a while,I told him I haven't been feeling particularly sociable for a while,but he kept asking. So I thought I'd better get myself back out there and sort something,then he forgets. |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up.
I’ve met some great guys from here and still friends with a few. I did take a while to meet. We chatted lots on whatsapp etc and still do. Only one or two have caught my attention in a big way. One moved to Oz and the other is ongoing. Do you talk over the phone or build up a bit of a connection via online first?
We were messaging over Kik for a while,I told him I haven't been feeling particularly sociable for a while,but he kept asking. So I thought I'd better get myself back out there and sort something,then he forgets."
That was a bit annoying on his part but don’t let it put you off. Plenty of guys that will remember and want to make an effort. Just finding one you connect with first. xx |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
Ooh thankyou I still can't get someone to turn up for a date though,the last guy 'forgot' and left me waiting at the pub.
Is that from here or other apps?
From here,yeah I know stupid eh. I'm just going to give up.
I’ve met some great guys from here and still friends with a few. I did take a while to meet. We chatted lots on whatsapp etc and still do. Only one or two have caught my attention in a big way. One moved to Oz and the other is ongoing. Do you talk over the phone or build up a bit of a connection via online first?
We were messaging over Kik for a while,I told him I haven't been feeling particularly sociable for a while,but he kept asking. So I thought I'd better get myself back out there and sort something,then he forgets."
Did you read my thread asking men if online is ruining their game? At least on dating apps there's the sense that people are on there to try and meet. I fear sites like this have a much higher percentage of beta male keyboard warriors who want to catch a woman but 1) are completely clueless about how to do that and 2) have absolutely no idea of what to do when it works. Sorry you had to go through that  |
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I’ve become jaded with meeting anyone online for a serious relationship....
I’m the inverse to the online universe...
Match , Pof , Tinder = nothing but one night stands and very casual sexual relationships.
Aff, Sls , Fet = serious long term monogamous relationships |
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"I’ve become jaded with meeting anyone online for a serious relationship....
I’m the inverse to the online universe...
Match , Pof , Tinder = nothing but one night stands and very casual sexual relationships.
Aff, Sls , Fet = serious long term monogamous relationships "
I’ve has serious relationships from online since 2003, my ex of 10 years who I married and a guy for 18 months before and 6 months before that. I don’t know any different but it was very different back then. You focused on one person at a time and there wasn’t as much choice. It wasn’t as disposable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve become jaded with meeting anyone online for a serious relationship....
I’m the inverse to the online universe...
Match , Pof , Tinder = nothing but one night stands and very casual sexual relationships.
Aff, Sls , Fet = serious long term monogamous relationships "
Better way to see it...
Mainstream dating sites... flooded with people looking for sex
Niche sites based around niche interests... less flooded and with common ground already clear upon which to base a relationship |
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I'm a bit tired of this implication about game playing. I won't have sex with anyone until i love them and vice versa. That's no game.
Thanks for the positive messages, they're appreciated |
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"I'm a bit tired of this implication about game playing. I won't have sex with anyone until i love them and vice versa. That's no game.
Thanks for the positive messages, they're appreciated "
Wow, that is some commitment, not sure I could wait that long but I wish you good luck in your search.
Are you looking on just here or got your toes dipped elsewhere? x |
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"I'm a bit tired of this implication about game playing. I won't have sex with anyone until i love them and vice versa. That's no game.
Thanks for the positive messages, they're appreciated "
Please be patient enough to wait a long time...
Falling in love with someone takes a long time , and with the internet being flooded with potential sex partners. This will be a daunting task...
God speed my friend |
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"I'm a bit tired of this implication about game playing. I won't have sex with anyone until i love them and vice versa. That's no game.
Thanks for the positive messages, they're appreciated
Wow, that is some commitment, not sure I could wait that long but I wish you good luck in your search.
Are you looking on just here or got your toes dipped elsewhere? x"
Nah. It doesn't take that long.
I don't really care that much, to be honest. If quite like the idea but I'm not desperate. I meet men at work, it's cool |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?"
My profile is the same and still 9/10 don’t read the profile |
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should. "
What she said.. |
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Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making |
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making "
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers. |
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers."
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you. |
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers.
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you."
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
What she said.."
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"You all seem to think I'm some silly naive Virgin who hasn't every had either a serious relationship or a ons before. I think I know how it works.....
I have three dates fixed up.
Good for you.
I've got four set up.
Ps I haven't,no-one wants me.
Don’t be silly. You’re a beautiful woman. I’m sure you are being picky, like you should.
What she said..
Ta."
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers.
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you."
Don't worry Steel. I knew exactly what I was getting into. It didn't bother me and I'm sure the op enjoyed writing it. But I do usually charge an hourly fee for being a punch bag
It's funny isn't it. After a few clutzy msgs on a dating app a woman asked if I'd like to meet. I explained that I wasn't sure yet, as the discussion so far had been a bit disjointed and that maybe she could tell me a little bit more about herself so I could gauge if there's likely to be any common ground. She replied with a massive rant about how I was an arse hole. I mean... it's very flattering that she went to all that effort over me... But it was a major waste of her time. I've never met her. I have absolutely no emotional involvement with her. She imagines her words might effect me. They just looked silly. Like a baby girl having a hissy fit with a total stranger. There's almost the instinct to say "hey calm down it's all going to be ok". But then you realise you'd only be doing the same thing i.e that you're a total stranger to this person and that your words of kindness carry absolutely no meaning or weight for them. So the kindest thing is just to walk away. It didn't mean anything. It doesn't mean anything. End of story |
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers.
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you."
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers.
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you."
So much anger all the time. I hope the Op finds the long term relationship she craves and that it helps her become generally happier. Good luck on your dates Op. |
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"Fair enough to the op but having been in a ltr I tend to think of love as something that takes many forms. But it usually starts with a kiss. Even when it blossoms out of friendship it may just be friendship until your lips meet and you suddenly want to tear each other's clothes off and fuck. After a while this lustful love abates and a deeper sustaining Love emerges. You can get to that point in a non sexual relationship. But either way it tends to take years of living together to get there. When you do the sex deepens and becomes a very deep form of love making
You think you're the only one to have a long term relationship? You think you're the only one who's fucked? Who's had ons? Who's had a fuck buddy? You need to stop trying to patronise and think you're the only one with the answers.
What on earth made you be so angry all the time? People try and be nice and you just stomp all over them.
Read what you just posted because it refers to you.
So much anger all the time. I hope the Op finds the long term relationship she craves and that it helps her become generally happier. Good luck on your dates Op."
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I think most men and women would like a perfect relationship, but those really don't exist.
The problem with online dating options is it stops many from fighting through the bad days and even the dull days to find the possible great days you can have with the right person.
But the desire for that is still there.
Don't know what you are seeking OP, but I wish you joy and good fun on the journey to finding it. |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?"
I’d say more men looking for a quick one as they will say what you want to hear and vanish
But also off the topic your an absolute stunner that’s why your getting so many messages xxx |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
I’d say more men looking for a quick one as they will say what you want to hear and vanish
But also off the topic your an absolute stunner that’s why your getting so many messages xxx"
Thank you so much. I guess it's the reason for a lot of things. It certainly brings out the attempts at snide put downs as well as the positive attention |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
I’d say more men looking for a quick one as they will say what you want to hear and vanish
But also off the topic your an absolute stunner that’s why your getting so many messages xxx"
Ugly people gets lots of messages as well to be fair,maybe not stating their undying love but we still get them. |
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I always think it’s strange that a lot of people have said because this is a sex site it won’t happen!!?
I’m single and part of me is on the look out... the great thing about here is you don’t have to hide anything sexually and meeting someone who is on your wavelength in that respect is so important! There will always be the ones who take advantage or aren’t genuine... there will be those who you meet and think wow but for whatever reasons the timing is out...or they don’t feel the same.. but life relationships are not risk free... after previous experiences a big part of me thinks everyone is just out to get what they want! But I’m fighting that because if I did meet someone who was sexy as fuck and knew how to hit my buttons and push me to new limits and we got on...and did actually like me then why the hell not!!? If I get hurt I will brush myself down and look again!! Life is short and for living!!
I hope you find what your looking for!! xx |
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"Since changing my profile to looking for a monogamous relationship, I've had more messages than since the deluge I got (and every other woman gets) when I first joined.
Either men think it's an easy in for a shag or there's more men looking for a relationship on Fab than I'd realised.
What do you reckon?
I’d say more men looking for a quick one as they will say what you want to hear and vanish
But also off the topic your an absolute stunner that’s why your getting so many messages xxx
Thank you so much. I guess it's the reason for a lot of things. It certainly brings out the attempts at snide put downs as well as the positive attention "
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"I always think it’s strange that a lot of people have said because this is a sex site it won’t happen!!?
I’m single and part of me is on the look out... the great thing about here is you don’t have to hide anything sexually and meeting someone who is on your wavelength in that respect is so important! There will always be the ones who take advantage or aren’t genuine... there will be those who you meet and think wow but for whatever reasons the timing is out...or they don’t feel the same.. but life relationships are not risk free... after previous experiences a big part of me thinks everyone is just out to get what they want! But I’m fighting that because if I did meet someone who was sexy as fuck and knew how to hit my buttons and push me to new limits and we got on...and did actually like me then why the hell not!!? If I get hurt I will brush myself down and look again!! Life is short and for living!!
I hope you find what your looking for!! xx"
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