Don't swim against the tide, as much as it's tempting to force yourself to a different place. It takes each of us our own time to recover ourselves from a break up.
That said, you can nurture yourself, fostering compassion and tenderness where needed. Sometimes there are things to learn, the pain, confusion, uncertainty etc need our energies to heal and we reconsolidate who we are after being part of a union. |
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Break-ups are hard. My little piece of advice is to talk about it, don’t follow them on social media and be kind to yourself. It’s going to be shit at first, but it does get better! X |
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"Don't swim against the tide, as much as it's tempting to force yourself to a different place. It takes each of us our own time to recover ourselves from a break up.
That said, you can nurture yourself, fostering compassion and tenderness where needed. Sometimes there are things to learn, the pain, confusion, uncertainty etc need our energies to heal and we reconsolidate who we are after being part of a union. "
This is just perfect! |
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"Don't swim against the tide, as much as it's tempting to force yourself to a different place. It takes each of us our own time to recover ourselves from a break up.
That said, you can nurture yourself, fostering compassion and tenderness where needed. Sometimes there are things to learn, the pain, confusion, uncertainty etc need our energies to heal and we reconsolidate who we are after being part of a union.
This is just perfect!"
Seconded, thats great advice right there.......  |
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"Don't swim against the tide, as much as it's tempting to force yourself to a different place. It takes each of us our own time to recover ourselves from a break up.
That said, you can nurture yourself, fostering compassion and tenderness where needed. Sometimes there are things to learn, the pain, confusion, uncertainty etc need our energies to heal and we reconsolidate who we are after being part of a union. "
I concur, brought a tear to my eye. |
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" There's a humorous but still absolutely brilliant and helpful book called "It's called a breakup because it's broken" .
I have used this and recommended it to others."
Thanks, just ordered for a pal who’s struggling x |
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It's been years for me and I still don't feel right.
Having been with him since I was a teenager I'm not really sure how I should feel.
Perhaps writing down life goals might help, saying what you you want to be and feel now you are without her. |
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"Theres something wrong with me as it has never taken me anytime to get over a broken relationship. A week at the most. If its ended its ended. Guess im just a cold fish"
you heartless sod  |
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It took me a while to get over my marriage ending but then the way we split and how we did it so the kids didn’t suffer too much probably didn’t help me in the long run but I’m glad we did it that way as the kids are happy. It wasn’t until I met Ads almost a year to the day that I truly felt ‘myself’ again.
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As the saying goes, ‘If you fall off a horse......shoot it and upgrade to a motor cycle!’ (or maybe I misheard that now I come to think of it...)
But seriously, my advice; be sure to keep yourself well occupied with other things so as not to dwell (as best possible) on the inevitable emotional pain. It can take as little as weeks to as long as years but rest assured, as the (this time real) saying goes, ‘Time is the great healer.’ |
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Yes there is. But different for everyone. It took me a while because my ex was quite controlling and knocked my confidence a lot. It's being built back up now by someone I adore. I'm learning to love myself again and it's helped me get over him |
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