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Embracing your stretchmarks...
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm absolutely not fishing for compliments here (my stretchmarky bits aren't on show here) but I've recently acquired a bigger, lumpy and pretty dark stretchmark on my stomach with a few similar littler ones near it. Naturally I have a few on the side of my boobs which have faded quite a bit, but these new ones have knocked my confidence a bit!
I need help with accepting them!  |
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Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love the look and feel of strechmarks. Bio oil (I've been told) can help reduce the appearance, but why cover up or hide the natural changes the body goes through.
You are a gorgeous lady and im sure have a personality that fit's, and that's what matters.
Jay xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Guys seem to love mine but I hate them. Had them since i was in my twenties they have all faded but they are almost transparent in places. But guys seem to like them for a weird reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Guys seem to love mine but I hate them. Had them since i was in my twenties they have all faded but they are almost transparent in places. But guys seem to like them for a weird reason. "
I think its all about the package. You have a wonderfully sexy figure and that will just add to the attraction x |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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I personally, spelt wrong I think, hate mine but others don't seem to care or pay any attention to them. I've got them all over some have faded with time others not so much.
I also have very blotchy skin as I have psorissis. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate mine. I hate my tummy full stop. I hide it as much as I can. I remember the first time someone went to kiss it. I froze in fear that he would recoil and run. He didn't. It was a bit of a life changing moment for me. While I'm still not confident or embracing it in the way I wish I could, I no longer fear it.
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"I hate mine. I hate my tummy full stop. I hide it as much as I can. I remember the first time someone went to kiss it. I froze in fear that he would recoil and run. He didn't. It was a bit of a life changing moment for me. While I'm still not confident or embracing it in the way I wish I could, I no longer fear it.
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I agree. After you sent me those two hundred pictures of you naked I can confirm that your tummy is lovely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate mine too. I'm glad I'm not alone.
As I am loosing weight... slowly. I am seeing them more and dislike them more than ever!!! Hubby has never said a bad comment nor has our FWB, but it's a woman thing, imperfections make us paranoid  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference "
Ooh.sooo tactful! |
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"Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference
Ooh.sooo tactful! "
Maybe not, but the point I’m trying to make is that it matters less to most blokes than the colour of a woman’s eyes. She’s got brown eyes, what the hell, if she’s fun to be with and wants to get naked the stretch marks, eye colour or many other things don’t matter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had some with my first child, many moons ago. They have faded now. I don't like them, but I don't hate them either. I know there will be some who will be turned off by them, but I have no control over that, so don't dwell on it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference
Ooh.sooo tactful!
Maybe not, but the point I’m trying to make is that it matters less to most blokes than the colour of a woman’s eyes. She’s got brown eyes, what the hell, if she’s fun to be with and wants to get naked the stretch marks, eye colour or many other things don’t matter "
Okay, you're forgiven. However, your first response sounded like as long as your naked, who gives a fuck! |
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory "
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit? 
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference
Ooh.sooo tactful!
Maybe not, but the point I’m trying to make is that it matters less to most blokes than the colour of a woman’s eyes. She’s got brown eyes, what the hell, if she’s fun to be with and wants to get naked the stretch marks, eye colour or many other things don’t matter
Okay, you're forgiven. However, your first response sounded like as long as your naked, who gives a fuck! "
I have a feeling some genuinely do think like this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Accept them.
I know blokes give it all that about not fancying a woman unless she’s better looking than a supermodel and could suck a tennis ball down a garden hosepipe but the truth is that we’re so grateful to get a woman naked that a few marks on the skin make no difference
Ooh.sooo tactful!
Maybe not, but the point I’m trying to make is that it matters less to most blokes than the colour of a woman’s eyes. She’s got brown eyes, what the hell, if she’s fun to be with and wants to get naked the stretch marks, eye colour or many other things don’t matter
Okay, you're forgiven. However, your first response sounded like as long as your naked, who gives a fuck!
I have a feeling some genuinely do think like this. "
Me too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel the same way. 3 kids and fluctuating weight over the years have left me with a stomach I don’t care to share, but I always find an outfit or two to cover the bits I’m not happy with and no one has ever complained.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I feel the same way. 3 kids and fluctuating weight over the years have left me with a stomach I don’t care to share, but I always find an outfit or two to cover the bits I’m not happy with and no one has ever complained.
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This exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short"
Absolutely. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have Mum tum, I also have a lot of stretch marks and I do accept them....but I also have a love of Ink...so I have a big tattoo over my a-z map of stretch marks
MrsK x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I feel the same way. 3 kids and fluctuating weight over the years have left me with a stomach I don’t care to share, but I always find an outfit or two to cover the bits I’m not happy with and no one has ever complained.
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I'm the same, and I often get compliments on how horny it is to keep a little sexy underwear on....all vital parts are exposed of course  |
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I had two large babies and it left me with a lot of stretch marks and an apron, but even though I hate it I have had it kissed and carressed by several partners over the years so it can’t be as horrendous to them as it seems to me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have tons of stretchmarks! On my belly, on my boobs, inner thighs, groin, calves and probably on my ass too! All from pregnancy.
I don't really notice them anymore, its just me. Nothing I can do about them, scars of battles won in my opinion.
Embrace them doll! Most men worth their Salt won't even notice them. I'm sure you look fantastic! 
Eve. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short"
This is male logic! It doesn't address female emotions! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short
This is male logic! It doesn't address female emotions! "
Exactly this. Not all women hate their stretch marks because they worry men won't find them attractive. It's about self perception and how it makes the woman feel. |
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I understand that, but demonstrating that stretch marks are no more than a part of who you are will hopefully help a bit.
I’m no oil painting myself but if a woman pointed and laughed at me naked I might get self conscious. If she planted her moist lips on my kisser and hugged me I’d probably feel less self conscious |
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OK what can I say...
20 years ago I hated my stretch marks..but I have never had a guy in a relationship or a random fuck comment on them so now at my grand old age I don't give a flying fuck..in the same way I wouldnt be bothered by freckles or scars.
All those women magazines are airbrushed to fuck. I am so pleased Rihanna has released pix with all her perfect imperfections unairbrushed.
Embrace what makes you you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short
This is male logic! It doesn't address female emotions! "
But it's how I view it. I'm a woman. Are you saying I have male logic? Sorry that's bollocks. I just have self confidence that many seem to be lacking for whatever reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have stretch marks on my inner thighs.
They bother me sometimes but I try not to let them bother me. My other half isn't bothered by them in the slightest.
I've no doubt you're beautiful |
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I have stretch marks and a big tummy. When I was first joined Fab I was hugely embarrassed by it, would die rather than be naked and felt I would never get a meet. Fast forward a year and although I’ve not dancing about nude all the time, there have been a 2 or 3 guys that I’ve actually got fully naked with and it’s been ok. One was even with the lights on and not under the covers! He made me feel it was ok to do that, and although for whatever reason we don’t really chat now,which makes me a bit sad, I’ll be forever appreciative of the fact he gave me the confidence to do that.
You are beautiful, find the right guys to play with who will help you believe that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had stretch marks since puberty. I was a skinny kid but got them when my hips grew.
I'm now covered after kids and weight gain/loss.
They used to bother me a lot but not so much now.
I think you will find more people have them than not.
You are 100% not alone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh no stretch marks, the horror. If you stood naked in front of a group of strangers I seriously doubt anybody would give them a second look if they even noticed them at all. Everybody has things they dont like about themselves and are usually tiny details nobody cares about, we build it up in our own heads into something massive when its not. How about instead of getting worked up about a tiny detail on your body try being proud of your sexy figure or your spankable bum, pretty eyes or nice smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How do women feel about guys with stretchmarks?"
Adam has some on his back and legs but I honestly don't care. He's sexy as hell and a pattern on his skin isn't going to change that! 
Eve. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short
This is male logic! It doesn't address female emotions! "
That's what I thought but I didn't want to comment again x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a massive wobbly tummy and bat wings and stretch marks... I’ve recelty lost a lot of weight and clothes on I feel great... the best I’ve felt for years but naked I’ve always struggled... I’m trying to embrace me and my body and it’s my life story... but when your confidence had been metaphorically beaten to a pulp it does take some rebuilding!!
At the end of the day we are who we are some people will like us and others won’t... we are all beautiful so don’t be hard on yourself... hugs |
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"I have a massive wobbly tummy and bat wings and stretch marks... I’ve recelty lost a lot of weight and clothes on I feel great... the best I’ve felt for years but naked I’ve always struggled... I’m trying to embrace me and my body and it’s my life story... but when your confidence had been metaphorically beaten to a pulp it does take some rebuilding!!
At the end of the day we are who we are some people will like us and others won’t... we are all beautiful so don’t be hard on yourself... hugs "
You look amazing!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I used to absolutly hate mine, still do to a point however, since being on here i have discovered that people, either a) dont notice them or b) arent bothered by them or c) are just very polite and dont draw attention to them. Either way i am a little more accepting of them.
They are part of me, part of what makes me me and if they dont like them that they can happily pass me by x
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"3 kids & a love of food has contributed to lots of stretch marks & the dreaded overhang mum-tum..I never show my stomach,always keep something on during the rare event of sex. Couldn't bare someone seeing it in all its glory
Keep something on during sex? Like a boob tube that’s slipped down a bit?
Like I said, women are worrying over nothing with stuff like this, life’s too short
This is male logic! It doesn't address female emotions!
But it's how I view it. I'm a woman. Are you saying I have male logic? Sorry that's bollocks. I just have self confidence that many seem to be lacking for whatever reason. "
Hiya, I was replying to Adam's comment. Glad you have self-confidence! |
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"I'm absolutely not fishing for compliments here (my stretchmarky bits aren't on show here) but I've recently acquired a bigger, lumpy and pretty dark stretchmark on my stomach with a few similar littler ones near it. Naturally I have a few on the side of my boobs which have faded quite a bit, but these new ones have knocked my confidence a bit!
I need help with accepting them! "
I love to get my head into a good book |
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I have them on my boobs, stomach, hips going round to my back and legs. Sixteen years of fade but still very noticeable, I've had one or two nasty comment on here as you can see them in some pics but never in person. I'm very lucky that I have the confidence that I do as they don't bother me at all it is what it is, I have no problem getting naked in front of a guy or walking around naked in a club or whatever or having them on shown in an outfit. If someone doesn't want me because of them the doors over there send in the next guy on your way out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have them.. (Male half) I gained and lost weight.. I hate them but have accepted them..they tell the story of my journey and are part of who I am now.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Embrace them I finally embraced my body and put up a couple of pics showing mine fully often I’d hide with good angles etc but if people don’t like they don’t have to look ! Xx Mrs |
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