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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
I know this has been talked of many times but, how long after does it kick in for you.
Its only been a few hours and I'm suddenly so grumpy and emotional! I know tomorrow I'll hopefully be fine. Its just not usually so extreme so soon!
Someone needs to re programme my brain I think!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I have one it's usually a day or two afterwards. Usually dancing around the house for the first day. I hate it. It almost stops me meeting when it's really bad x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never had one normally after about ten minutes I just want more.
I do too. But now I literally just want to cry!
What you need is a big hug
I definitely do!"
Send in you one now would give you one myself if only we were closer to each other. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to get it a lot. I wonder if where you are in your cycle has made it worse or maybe you had such great orgasms the drop is more noticeable ?
I’d suggest rest, maybe a bath, some choccie, snuggle under a blanket doing something you enjoy like watching a film or reading. Early night and tomorrow, hopefully you’ll feel much better. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know this has been talked of many times but, how long after does it kick in for you.
Its only been a few hours and I'm suddenly so grumpy and emotional! I know tomorrow I'll hopefully be fine. Its just not usually so extreme so soon!
Someone needs to re programme my brain I think!
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I've had it within hours too, usually the stronger the orgasm the worse it is. I had to stop seeing someone as the whole experience was too intense.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get this too. Sometimes more than others.
If the sex is amazing I'm normally okay for a couple of days and then it hits me.
It also depends if I'm busy after and don't have time to drop.
I think I'm about to drop now after Friday.
Feeling low now and wished I'd never come on fab today!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t normally get this. I just tend to get frustrated and aggy as I want the next round and the next round.
Actually thought about going doctors to ask is it possible to be this horny ALL the time haha.
(But thought I better not. Didn’t wanna loose my MoJo)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get this too. Sometimes more than others.
If the sex is amazing I'm normally okay for a couple of days and then it hits me.
It also depends if I'm busy after and don't have time to drop.
I think I'm about to drop now after Friday.
Feeling low now and wished I'd never come on fab today!!! "
Sorry to hear you’re feeling low. Can you try and do something nice for yourself this evening. And log out if here is making you feel worse today. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get this too. Sometimes more than others.
If the sex is amazing I'm normally okay for a couple of days and then it hits me.
It also depends if I'm busy after and don't have time to drop.
I think I'm about to drop now after Friday.
Feeling low now and wished I'd never come on fab today!!!
Sorry to hear you’re feeling low. Can you try and do something nice for yourself this evening. And log out if here is making you feel worse today. x "
Aww thank you. I'll log out shortly and then become the family slave for the evening!!! |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I know this has been talked of many times but, how long after does it kick in for you.
Its only been a few hours and I'm suddenly so grumpy and emotional! I know tomorrow I'll hopefully be fine. Its just not usually so extreme so soon!
Someone needs to re programme my brain I think!
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Just a thort op but y not just re meet your larst meet ? 
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"I know this has been talked of many times but, how long after does it kick in for you.
Its only been a few hours and I'm suddenly so grumpy and emotional! I know tomorrow I'll hopefully be fine. Its just not usually so extreme so soon!
Someone needs to re programme my brain I think!
Just a thort op but y not just re meet your larst meet ?
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If only it was that easy lovely. |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"I know this has been talked of many times but, how long after does it kick in for you.
Its only been a few hours and I'm suddenly so grumpy and emotional! I know tomorrow I'll hopefully be fine. Its just not usually so extreme so soon!
Someone needs to re programme my brain I think!
I've had it within hours too, usually the stronger the orgasm the worse it is. I had to stop seeing someone as the whole experience was too intense. "
That sucks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmmmm.....you ladies are highly complex creatures; I don’t believe we chaps suffer from this phenomenon as such. Hugs and chocolates to you all x"
Why would you think only women experience this?
Its caused by a huge release of 'happy' chemicals in the brain, during intense sex
Certainly not exclusive to women |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh my!! I can’t believe this is a thing, I thought it was just me. 
Happens me too, OP. Usually the day after and it lasts for a few days. Total downer.
Big hugs for you xx |
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Ah.....a probable serotonin related come down is ostensibly the cause from what is being reported. I’m going to definitely prescribe dark chocolate for everyone, males and females alike therefore - it has been scientifically validated to increase the levels of this neuro transmitter. Or....have sex again of course. I would of made a great doctor me |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh my!! I can’t believe this is a thing, I thought it was just me.
Happens me too, OP. Usually the day after and it lasts for a few days. Total downer.
Big hugs for you xx"
Thanks, I used to think it was just me too! Its basic chemistry, the rush of hormones, all that oxytocin and then it subsides. Its where that empty feeling comes from.
I think a lot of people experience it, they maybe just don't want to talk about it in case someone assumes they might be catching feelings!
I know he doesn't experience it and finds it a little un nerving that I do.
I guess its a compliment when it happens.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've had it within hours too, usually the stronger the orgasm the worse it is.
I’ve got an idea how to market myself - guaranteed no sex drop!
It’s a winner for sure  "
You might have found a gap in the market there
Or maybe not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always feel a bit empty after sex. Thought it was just me. Didn't know it was a thing that happened. It explains a lot. "
I agree...I also feel a bit empty after sex... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting thread. I've never heard of this before and don't recall ever feeling low after sex. Maybe I just didn't notice, or didn't connect the two!?! |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"Never had one normally after about ten minutes I just want more.
I do too. But now I literally just want to cry!
Go on then, if it puts a smile on your face again, I'll fuck you..........  "
A sympathy shag! Lucky me |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Ugh - I hate this. I find the more intense the meet, the harder I drop and the longer it takes to kick in. I’m still trying to shake one off from last weekend.
I find planning another meet helps - helps kick the endorphins off again  |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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Op you need to find a memory of a time and place you felt safe and warm, the memory, if strong enough, will bring back the chemical in balance.
Give yourself a little you time.
Drop for either sex is my a nice thing.
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This is a thing in BDSM too, we call it subdrop although can affect all parties whatever their role. We combat it by keeping in contact with each other afterwards for a few days either via phone or WhatsApp, communicating clearly and for me some funny films, a soak in the bath, a generous amount of cake or icecream and plenty of sleep |
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"Ah.....a probable serotonin related come down is ostensibly the cause from what is being reported. I’m going to definitely prescribe dark chocolate for everyone, "
I always prescribe myself a pain au chocolat after a meet - dark chocolate and a dose of carbs seems to help. I usually need nurturing for a day or two after a good meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The day after the day after.
I wonder if we are just junkies, constantly searching for that high."
I think the high can be very addictive. I'm learning to cope with mine but I used to go looking for the next meet before the drop kicked in. That is very unhealthy for the body and mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's because you were loved, and the love has gone, we all crave love. "
I think if the cause of the high, sexual partner stays and nurtures you. The drop is far less intense. If they live with you, it’s even less. Cuddles and being cared for really help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As someone has mentioned it sounds very somiliar to sib drop.
It os caused by your hormone and endorphin levels building up to a higher than normal level. Your body and brain become accustomed to these higher than normal levels and When the whole thing is over those levels suddenly drop causing depression that can last a from a few hours to a few weeks.
Maybe you be better suited to longer term fb or friends with bennefits situation where you could feel emotionally supported but still remain outside of a full relationship.
Just my thoughts and of course opinions will vary. |
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