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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hello gang,

When going out on a date, who should pay, The Gentleman or do you go dutch?

What does everyone think?

I've got my own opinion but I'll keep it to myself, till the conversation gets going.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are no rules about who pays, do what makes you both feel comfortable.

For example if the guy I’m with goes to pay I would offer to pay my half, if he declines I’ll accept and say I’ll pay next time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello gang,

When going out on a date, who should pay, The Gentleman or do you go dutch?

What does everyone think?

I've got my own opinion but I'll keep it to myself, till the conversation gets going."

50/50

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Split it, it's 2018 man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If the lady doesn’t offer to pay half.. I always ask do you wanna share the bill?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"There are no rules about who pays, do what makes you both feel comfortable.

For example if the guy I’m with goes to pay I would offer to pay my half, if he declines I’ll accept and say I’ll pay next time. "

This!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have always paid in the past but I let the lady pay the tip.

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By *av_55Man over a year ago

I’m old school due to the fact I am,,, old,,

Always the man if he is a gent,,

But define date ? Swinging social date or a vanilla date? Are we talking food drinks hotel and wine and breakfast,, that would be a swinging date,,

Vanilla date just the food and wine ,,,

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are no rules about who pays, do what makes you both feel comfortable.

For example if the guy I’m with goes to pay I would offer to pay my half, if he declines I’ll accept and say I’ll pay next time.

This!!

If there is a next time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do? "

Don’t sit on the fence

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

If we're talking Fab meets then 50/50 all the way - I wouldn't want the people I am meeting to feel beholden to me in any way if I paid or think that I have any expectation because I have done so.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

Equally, I’m more than happy to pay too!!. But whatever feels right. If it’s a second date & they paid last time, I’m definitely paying this one! But I’d always offer to split or take turns

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege

I do actually like the guy to at least pay for the first drink,then I'll obviously get the next and take turns or share the cost of any meals and so on.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege

I do actually like the guy to at least pay for the first drink,then I'll obviously get the next and take turns or share the cost of any meals and so on."

Do you not want to date him?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege

I do actually like the guy to at least pay for the first drink,then I'll obviously get the next and take turns or share the cost of any meals and so on.

Do you not want to date him? "

What?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege

I do actually like the guy to at least pay for the first drink,then I'll obviously get the next and take turns or share the cost of any meals and so on.

Do you not want to date him?

What?"

Quote: Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I always offer to pay/grab the bill first. But if she offers to pay half then i would accept that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There are no rules about who pays, do what makes you both feel comfortable.

For example if the guy I’m with goes to pay I would offer to pay my half, if he declines I’ll accept and say I’ll pay next time.

This!!

If there is a next time

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do? "

I'm a bit old school, I feel the man should pay for the first date and lady should give the tip. Then from the next date, the roles can be reversed or split, however you want.

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By *hinypants77Man over a year ago

Leeds

On a date, If she offers to pay half I’ll say it’s my treat and pay.

If she makes no attempt to pay anything I’ll say let’s split it or ask if she wants to pick up the tab.

If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

Lol! Personally, i always offer to pay. I like to pay. It's gentlemanly and polite and that is how i was brought up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. "

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" Vanilla date just the food and wine ,,,

Yeah, Just Vanilla, going out for a meal type,date.

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

This is a minefield for the modern Twat...I have always paid if there is a mismatch in resources available, but with somebody who earns an equivalent or greater salary, we have discussed it first...I dated a strong and relatively wealthy feminist once, and she insisted on paying...I just went with the flow on that...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

Lol! Personally, i always offer to pay. I like to pay. It's gentlemanly and polite and that is how i was brought up

You were brought up a long time ago.. world has changed my friend. You are a nice guy so I’m going to tell you that Some of my lady friends just go on dates for nice dinners.. I watch and learn..

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

Lol! Personally, i always offer to pay. I like to pay. It's gentlemanly and polite and that is how i was brought up

You were brought up a long time ago.. world has changed my friend. You are a nice guy so I’m going to tell you that Some of my lady friends just go on dates for nice dinners.. I watch and learn.. "

Lol i may be getting on a bit but i'm not stupid! Lol

For a start, i'm a good judge of character and very picky. Plus, i am never going for a meal on a first date. That just isn't happening!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I dated a strong and relatively wealthy feminist once, and she insisted on paying...I just went with the flow on that..."

You got financially dominated by an Alpha female.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???"

The troll game is strong, with this one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

Lol! Personally, i always offer to pay. I like to pay. It's gentlemanly and polite and that is how i was brought up

You were brought up a long time ago.. world has changed my friend. You are a nice guy so I’m going to tell you that Some of my lady friends just go on dates for nice dinners.. I watch and learn..

Lol i may be getting on a bit but i'm not stupid! Lol

For a start, i'm a good judge of character and very picky. Plus, i am never going for a meal on a first date. That just isn't happening!

Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hello gang,

When going out on a date, who should pay, The Gentleman or do you go dutch?

What does everyone think?

I've got my own opinion but I'll keep it to myself, till the conversation gets going."

You should both leg it for a laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???"

Well unless you have a zip on your c*nt, everything will fall out!

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By *hinypants77Man over a year ago

Leeds

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

That’s what text messaging is for. If in doubt get the man a pint!

If I arrive first I’ll always buy the lady a drink. If I don’t know what she likes I’ll take a guess at a glass of wine. Nothing worse than after meeting someone having to go que at the bar.

That’s the litmus test for me. If she fails I doubt I’ll being seeing her again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???"

Funny place to keep your money but hey ho each to their own

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You should both leg it for a laugh

Her: "Why have you got your air max on?"

Me: "You'll find out later!"

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

I fully agree with paying 50/50 on a date but what about if you go to a club as a couple? Say it's £20 for couples and £5 or free for ladies, should I pay £10 to halve the couple cost although I could get in cheaper on my own?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???"

Where do you keep your phone? X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???

Well unless you have a zip on your c*nt, everything will fall out!

Check out my profile pic

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be a bit put off if the guy didn't offer to pay, I'd all ways offer to pay half.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan over a year ago

For a first or one of date I would pay, Or say I will get the bill and see what she says,

Repeat dates share the bill or I will pay for this one you get the next one, Even for a gf/Wife

I’m not made of money

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

First date would be for a drink and we both pay. I don't like going for dinner with a man, but I would want to pay my part. Men tend to want an argument over who pays, which I don't like.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Betsu betsu for me every time. Well it would be if I ever went on a date. When Mr N and I go out he usually pays though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

K,f.c is pretty cheap I always pay

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have a vagina, why should I even bring my purse???

Well unless you have a zip on your c*nt, everything will fall out!

Check out my profile pic

Ah the modern woman!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always offer to go 50/50. If I wasn't so sure about them I'd insist so I didn't feel like I owed them another date or anything. If I liked them and they insisted on paying I'd let them but with a comment along the lines of "ok, but that means you have to let me buy you dinner next time"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The male normally buys the first drink I find, but if there's a second I always offer to get it. Likewise with food, I always offer half. Some men accept and some dont.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Is this a dating site? I'm in the wrong place !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"K,f.c is pretty cheap I always pay

Is this where I'm going wrong?

So, I've got to take them the Kentucky for a Zinger meal?

What say you, ladies?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Is this a dating site? I'm in the wrong place !!"

I was just asking, to get some varying opinions. We've also had a bit of a laugh too. Job done.

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Is this a dating site? I'm in the wrong place !!

I was just asking, to get some varying opinions. We've also had a bit of a laugh too. Job done. "

A good job done too OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is this a dating site? I'm in the wrong place !!"

Why do you think the OP means with people on here? Some people do call a social a date though. It's pretty much like a date, with the possibility of sex or a sexual relationship after.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"K,f.c is pretty cheap I always pay

Is this where I'm going wrong?

So, I've got to take them the Kentucky for a Zinger meal?

What say you, ladies?"

A bag of chips from the chippy

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

Lol! Personally, i always offer to pay. I like to pay. It's gentlemanly and polite and that is how i was brought up

You were brought up a long time ago.. world has changed my friend. You are a nice guy so I’m going to tell you that Some of my lady friends just go on dates for nice dinners.. I watch and learn.. "

I’d be inclined to say that ‘lady’ isn’t a word I’d use to describe someone who uses a guy she’s not interested in to get a nice meal by going on a date with him!

I also don’t know anyone who would do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

" A bag of chips from the chippy

#wifematerial

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

" A bag of chips from the chippy

#wifematerial

Only if she eats most of yours too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Why do you think the OP means with people on here? Some people do call a social a date though. It's pretty much like a date, with the possibility of sex or a sexual relationship after."

I was just on about in general. Out there in Vanilla land.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"K,f.c is pretty cheap I always pay

Is this where I'm going wrong?

So, I've got to take them the Kentucky for a Zinger meal?

What say you, ladies?

A bag of chips from the chippy

I put out for a chip butty

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

That’s what text messaging is for. If in doubt get the man a pint!

If I arrive first I’ll always buy the lady a drink. If I don’t know what she likes I’ll take a guess at a glass of wine. Nothing worse than after meeting someone having to go que at the bar.

That’s the litmus test for me. If she fails I doubt I’ll being seeing her again. "

A gentleman would never let a lady arrive first on a date

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"The man of course.

Why should ladies pay?

Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege

I do actually like the guy to at least pay for the first drink,then I'll obviously get the next and take turns or share the cost of any meals and so on.

Do you not want to date him?

What?

Quote: Yeah quite blooming right,you want to date us then pay for the privilege.

Nope not with you. You do know I was joking about the first sentence yeah?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I put out for a chip butty"

More #wifematerial

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"I put out for a chip butty

More #wifematerial

#perfectfabwoman more like lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I put out for a chip butty

More #wifematerial

Let’s not get carried away

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I put out for a chip butty

More #wifematerial

Let’s not get carried away

Hey I am wife material, my verifications say so

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"K,f.c is pretty cheap I always pay

Is this where I'm going wrong?

So, I've got to take them the Kentucky for a Zinger meal?

What say you, ladies?

A bag of chips from the chippy

Don't forget the savaloy

I put out for a chip butty "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll offer to pay 1 st time.... maybe 2nd time but then I'll think come on! Time to stump up equal rights & all that garbage.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I put out for a chip butty

More #wifematerial

#perfectfabwoman more like lol"

"Me: Hello is that Just eat?

Chippy: Yeah!

Me: Can I have a delivery, please?

Chippy: What would like?

Me: 2 Bags of chips pronto"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hey I am wife material, my verifications say so

Goes to see.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The male normally buys the first drink I find, but if there's a second I always offer to get it. Likewise with food, I always offer half. Some men accept and some dont. "

Do the ones that accept ever get a second date, or are you secretly seething!?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

That’s what text messaging is for. If in doubt get the man a pint!

If I arrive first I’ll always buy the lady a drink. If I don’t know what she likes I’ll take a guess at a glass of wine. Nothing worse than after meeting someone having to go que at the bar.

That’s the litmus test for me. If she fails I doubt I’ll being seeing her again. "

Now I kinda know what you mean,but I don’t want a guy choosing a drink for me which I may not like,that's just a waste of money and a but arrogant to me,I really don't see an issue with going back to the bar which I'd do myself and get my own drink.

This would never happen anyway as I meet people outside the pub incase the bugger doesn't turn up,then I'd just leave.

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"I'll offer to pay 1 st time.... maybe 2nd time but then I'll think come on! Time to stump up equal rights & all that garbage. "

But what if (for example) you are employed in a good job and she is a single mum on benefits? Does that change it? Surely it’s unfair to ask someone to pay for something they can’t afford?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"But what if (for example) you are employed in a good job and she is a single mum on benefits? Does that change it? Surely it’s unfair to ask someone to pay for something they can’t afford?"

If I met someone in that situation, I'd pay for the whole night and it wouldn't bother me.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Hello gang,

When going out on a date, who should pay, The Gentleman or do you go dutch?

What does everyone think?

I've got my own opinion but I'll keep it to myself, till the conversation gets going."

So what is your opinion if you've not already said,we've told you ours?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The male normally buys the first drink I find, but if there's a second I always offer to get it. Likewise with food, I always offer half. Some men accept and some dont.

Do the ones that accept ever get a second date, or are you secretly seething!?

I’m happy to pay my way, no seething lol x

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"But what if (for example) you are employed in a good job and she is a single mum on benefits? Does that change it? Surely it’s unfair to ask someone to pay for something they can’t afford?

If I met someone in that situation, I'd pay for the whole night and it wouldn't bother me."

Nor me...I’d feel too guilty otherwise!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

Or she didn't know how long you'd be or what drink you wanted

That’s what text messaging is for. If in doubt get the man a pint!

If I arrive first I’ll always buy the lady a drink. If I don’t know what she likes I’ll take a guess at a glass of wine. Nothing worse than after meeting someone having to go que at the bar.

That’s the litmus test for me. If she fails I doubt I’ll being seeing her again. "

I don't drink wine, would I then have to drink it to not upset you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would always go with the intention of paying half but I wouldn't make a fuss if he offered to pay. I'm probably of the bag of fish and chips by the river type of date though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"So what is your opinion if you've not already said,we've told you ours?"

I'm a bit old school, I feel the man should pay for the first date and lady should give the tip. Then from the next date, the roles can be reversed or split, however you want.

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By *ensuallover1000Man over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I always pay being the fine gentleman that I am. Mind you, I always also insist on taking dates to the absolutely cheapest, rat infested eateries

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm probably of the bag of fish and chips by the river type of date though

This thread has revealed the #wifematerial has't it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hey I am wife material, my verifications say so

Goes to see. "

Was I right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

With everyone I've dated, we've taken it in turns and that's always been their suggestion. I don't actually mind paying .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hey I am wife material, my verifications say so

Goes to see.

Was I right?

You most certainly where and they are traveling many miles to see you. The Jammy feckers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

According to my inbox only bitches get taken on dates, real women cook!!!

I'm fucking creased!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My natural instinct is to pay. It's just the way I am. Having said that if I feel like I am being taken advantage of or my kindness is taken for weakness I won't be paying again.

"This thread has revealed the #wifematerial has't it.

Haha love that! Anything is possible...

I am sure plenty of us singles can be:

#hubbymaterial

#wifeymaterial

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The male normally buys the first drink I find, but if there's a second I always offer to get it. Likewise with food, I always offer half. Some men accept and some dont. "

Yes this. I am old school and if a guy wants to treat me, I graciously let him. Sometimes I want to treat someone, and then they accept graciously too. Sometimes I like to buy a friend a surprise present if he has been generous to me. It all works fine!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"According to my inbox only bitches get taken on dates, real women cook!!!

I'm fucking creased!! "

Hahaha! Love it!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

There's something off putting about mean men.

It may be old fashioned to some but on a first date I'd expect the man to pay as he invited me out. The next time I'd pick up the tab or split it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"According to my inbox only bitches get taken on dates, real women cook!!!

I'm fucking creased!! "

Ok Bitch, where's your fave chippy.

and do you know that Bitch is an acronym for either, Babe In Total Control Of Herself or Because I Totally Challenge Him

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"The male normally buys the first drink I find, but if there's a second I always offer to get it. Likewise with food, I always offer half. Some men accept and some dont.

Do the ones that accept ever get a second date, or are you secretly seething!?

I’m happy to pay my way, no seething lol x"

Add to hotlist.... haha

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I fully agree with paying 50/50 on a date but what about if you go to a club as a couple? Say it's £20 for couples and £5 or free for ladies, should I pay £10 to halve the couple cost although I could get in cheaper on my own?"

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't date a female who expected me to pay the bill/tab whatever.

That's because I believe all people are equal and should act accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

Excuse me while I throw my phone at the wall....

*Think!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't date a female who expected me to pay the bill/tab whatever.

That's because I believe all people are equal and should act accordingly."

But not all people earn the same amount of money.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't date a female who expected me to pay the bill/tab whatever.

That's because I believe all people are equal and should act accordingly.

But not all people earn the same amount of money."

Then they should stay home. I wouldn't go out with friends if I couldn't afford to pay my way, dates are no different

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd be happy to pay half on a date, and half to get into a club. A hotel the man can pay for, as I couldn't afford it. XXX

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

Excuse me while I throw my phone at the wall....

*Think!

While you're at it throw your calculator too...

If he had to pay £40 because they each pay the relevant gender fee rather than the couples one - he'd be £20 worse off than paying the couples fee which is £10 more than she would be if they did pay it

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By *litterbabeWoman over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

If we are going for drinks or a meal I will always offer to pay half, I do feel it is chivalrous if it is refused, but I always go with the intention and funds to pay my way.

The bit that bothers me is, when I go to a club with a guy, and because of the way of the world, some clubs are free for the lady and expensive for the guy, but it's cheaper as a couple than for the guy alone.

I would be happy for him to come in with me as a couple, if we are a playing that night as a couple, but I don't really see why I should pay half, and I do feel some guys try to take you to a club purely to get in cheaper and still expect you to pay half of the cheaper price.

If it is a bring your own drinks club I will always bring the drinks for both of us, and if not I was always get a few rounds in if he is happy with that.

I have even had suggestions such as, I will give you a lift if you pay for the door fee.

That to me is taking the mickey a little bit.

They never get a second meet.

If it is a regular playmate,

or fwb, I am glad to pay half, if he would like to as I feel we are a legitimate couple and that changes the dynamic for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll offer to pay 1 st time.... maybe 2nd time but then I'll think come on! Time to stump up equal rights & all that garbage.

But what if (for example) you are employed in a good job and she is a single mum on benefits? Does that change it? Surely it’s unfair to ask someone to pay for something they can’t afford?"

Yeah if I like the woman I'll keep paying. If not then I wouldn't see her again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

Excuse me while I throw my phone at the wall....

*Think!

While you're at it throw your calculator too...

That was her point. It's £20 cheaper for the guy to pay the full couple price, but more expensive for her if she went half. So, the guy should just pay it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"According to my inbox only bitches get taken on dates, real women cook!!!

I'm fucking creased!! "

A date doesn't have to be a meal. It could be a trek or a walk on the beach. Then nobody pays ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never let a man pay for me on the first date. And all subsequent dates should be paid for in turns. But I like a man to OFFER to pay the bill, in its entirety, every time.

The best people, I find, are those with whom you have a little fight, over who gets to pay, because we BOTH want to!

Any man who asks if I want to split the bill, or even worse, expects me to pay without offering, I wouldn’t meet again.

Tightness is a real pet-hate. In my experience it’s indicative of other unpleasant traits.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just naturally pay if paying is involved.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a date, If she offers to pay half I’ll say it’s my treat and pay.

If she makes no attempt to pay anything I’ll say let’s split it or ask if she wants to pick up the tab.

If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. "

Wow, that's quite an idea you've got there. So what, if the lady arrives first or her date is late, she is just supposed to sit there, waiting? And get everyone, staff in particular, looking at her like she's a weirdo? If the situation was reversed, would you not get yourself a drink while waiting???

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's been so long since I've had a date but I would offer to pay half

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm probably of the bag of fish and chips by the river type of date though

This thread has revealed the #wifematerial has't it.

I can see an opening for a kinky chip shop

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I can see an opening for a kinky chip shop "

Downloads business plan software.

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By *is vixen at playCouple over a year ago

Dundee

Whoever wants to, as long as both ok with it. G

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you're drinking its a round each, if you're eating I'd offer to split. If someone insists on paying they can knock themselves out, it doesn't offend me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If you're drinking its a round each, if you're eating I'd offer to split. If someone insists on paying they can knock themselves out, it doesn't offend me."

i agree and sometimes its a nice guesture

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" A bag of chips from the chippy

#wifematerial

Only if she eats most of yours too!"

Pinched chips taste so much better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"There's something off putting about mean men.

It may be old fashioned to some but on a first date I'd expect the man to pay as he invited me out. The next time I'd pick up the tab or split it.

If someone asked to take me out to dinner they want to pay. If a friend says shall we go out for dinner we both pay. If I invite someone out to dinner/cinema/whatever, I pay.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

Excuse me while I throw my phone at the wall....

*Think!

While you're at it throw your calculator too...

That was her point. It's £20 cheaper for the guy to pay the full couple price, but more expensive for her if she went half. So, the guy should just pay it."

Just two different ways of looking at it I guess - either way if you're going as a couple and intending to stay as a couple while at the club then the couples rate split down the middle would be the way to go in my book

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"According to my inbox only bitches get taken on dates, real women cook!!!

I'm fucking creased!!

Ok Bitch, where's your fave chippy.

and do you know that Bitch is an acronym for either, Babe In Total Control Of Herself or Because I Totally Challenge Him

Ah, but there’s only one Bitch...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ah, but there’s only one Bitch..."

No, there's quite a few, I've been out them.

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By *illyjohnyCouple over a year ago

brighton

"There's no 'should' pay or rule for this. Its whatever you feel yourself. What do you normally do?

Don’t sit on the fence

He likes the feel of them spikes in his arse

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Hello gang,

When going out on a date, who should pay, The Gentleman or do you go dutch?

What does everyone think?

I've got my own opinion but I'll keep it to myself, till the conversation gets going."

I'm happy to pay, if the evening goes well it's the best investment ever

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By *itch and TwatCouple over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

"Ah, but there’s only one Bitch...

No, there's quite a few, I've been out them."

They’re bitches, not Bitch lol

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By *agneto.Man over a year ago

Bham

Dutch. Women want the best of both worlds these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve paid the bill once and told him to leave the tip.

He seemed surprised, didn’t see him again lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’ve paid the bill once and told him to leave the tip.

He seemed surprised, didn’t see him again lol"

Was that on a first date?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Maybe I'm a bit old fashioned or just a cave man but I would always expect to pay if I invited anyone anywhere....

But why the need for so many rules who should do what; what's acceptable if; etc.

It's always simple if two people meet for whatever reason are we not all grown up enough to decide between us such details without the need to follow any "rule book".

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By *hingy2Woman over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If a single guy is going to a club with a fem(doubling up as a cpl) then I think the guy should pay as it's normally twice as much if he goes on his own and meets the fem in there.

I do offer though...towards fuel buying drinks etc

Thingy

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By *hingy2Woman over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Well said xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’ve paid the bill once and told him to leave the tip.

He seemed surprised, didn’t see him again lol

Was that on a first date?"

Yes,

I don’t see why a woman can’t pay, I knew I wasn’t going to see him again he was boring.

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By *hingy2Woman over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

An interesting thought - but conversely as it's usually more expensive for single men, should he have to pay more if he's accompanying you?

Say it's £40 for single men - he'd be more out of pocket than you would be in your example

I tho k your calculator might be broken. Give it a little tap.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well said xx

Nothing to fight for at Atlantis club in Stoke. They charge full price for single women

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Yes, I don’t see why a woman can’t pay, I knew I wasn’t going to see him again he was boring.

Oh well. You Alpha Female'd him to death, Is what you did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes, I don’t see why a woman can’t pay, I knew I wasn’t going to see him again he was boring.

Oh well. You Alpha Female'd him to death, Is what you did."

Yes I did,

Well I’m sure a strong man would have been ok with it. Equality isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I pay for my own. If he gets a massive steak I'm not splitting the bill!

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I pay for my own. If he gets a massive steak I'm not splitting the bill!"

Yes, they're so greedy those men!!

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

when i used to go on dates with my husband he always used to pay, i think the man should pay but it depends on how much money he has got, i met a man not on here who bought me a meal so i bought the drinks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ladies pay obviously

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, since men allowed women to vote and let them burn their bra's for equality and equal pay/rights.. It's only reasonable to ask them to pay if you're not flush. I like to ask them to hold doors open for me as well and if they pull my chair out for me before I sit down, they'll get extra brownie points and maybe I'll let them cum first later on if I allow her to have sex with me.

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Ladies pay obviously

"
our dates off

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

"I pay for my own. If he gets a massive steak I'm not splitting the bill!"

What about if you like him a lot and he doesnt earn as much as you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pay for my own. If he gets a massive steak I'm not splitting the bill!"

You're not one of those people that sit there and add up exactly what their meal cost are you?

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

Yes you are

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

Yes you are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

Yes you are

Bin him Spidey, you should be getting taken to 5 star hotels.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple over a year ago

Surrey

"There are no rules about who pays, do what makes you both feel comfortable.

For example if the guy I’m with goes to pay I would offer to pay my half, if he declines I’ll accept and say I’ll pay next time.

This!!

I also think this too

If a man (in the past) asked me out, and then suggested we go halves I’d be pissed off... but, if he offered to pay I’d definitely offer half! X

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

Yes you are

Bin him Spidey, you should be getting taken to 5 star hotels.

I should be taken to 5 star hotels, and have grapes fed to me

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By *pider-WomanWoman over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Ladies pay obviously

our dates off

Cheap skate

Yes you are

Bin him Spidey, you should be getting taken to 5 star hotels.

I should be taken to 5 star hotels, and have grapes fed to me

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays?

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

Admin should pay! Sat on their admin cloud watching us mortals make fools of ourselves of the forums

Pay up admin!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The man should pay

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays? "

As the married man has obviously accidentally joined a swingers site and accidentally arranged a meet with a single female, this causes a real dilemna

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is a minefield for the modern Twat...I have always paid if there is a mismatch in resources available, but with somebody who earns an equivalent or greater salary, we have discussed it first...I dated a strong and relatively wealthy feminist once, and she insisted on paying...I just went with the flow on that..."

The best response.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays?

As the married man has obviously accidentally joined a swingers site and accidentally arranged a meet with a single female, this causes a real dilemna"

How come? I said he's not cheating.

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By *eliz NelsonMan over a year ago

The Tantric Tea Shop

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays?

As the married man has obviously accidentally joined a swingers site and accidentally arranged a meet with a single female, this causes a real dilemna

How come? I said he's not cheating. "

Then that leaves the assumption that you are referring to a married man who has no idea that the single woman may enjoy swinging...a business meet? A potential business meet? An old friends meet?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm old school and always hope the chap offers on the first date.. then I always offer to go 50/50 and when I'm a relationship i am happy to pay when we go out.. after all I earn my own money

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By *octor DeleriumMan over a year ago

Wellingborough

If you insist on going to KFC or McDonalds, you can pay.

If we meet up in a restaurant that I like, I'll be footing the bill.

Doctor Delerium

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only had one "date" and the lady paid for the meal. I felt awkward because my natural inclination was to offer to pay but the lady in question appeared to be the type that didn't go for that old fashioned gender role of paying. Although I did insist on paying for subsequent meal, second "date" just never happened.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t date. But when I meet I pay. No question.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t date. But when I meet I pay. No question. "

That’s if she lets you

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By *gnitemybodyWoman over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays? "

What's someone's marital status got to do with it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays?

What's someone's marital status got to do with it?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t date. But when I meet I pay. No question.

That’s if she lets you

Oh really? You gonna buy me breakfast then Sb?

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By *witch4Fun24Couple over a year ago

Leicester

I always do it as however asked for the date pays. I only invite people out for a meal if I can cover the whole cost and assume people would do the same. Why invite someone out if you can't afford to pay for them? If after the first date the other person offers to pay for some I may let them pay for the drinks and I cover the rest but never any more than that. If they are taking me out then I will offer to pay for my own after the first date but splitting 50/50 never works out fair unless you ate and drank exact same things.

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By *witch4Fun24Couple over a year ago

Leicester

*whoever even

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays? "

A question you can ask your next meet..!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Feel like it, do it. Pay your way

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I should be taken to 5 star hotels, and have grapes fed to me

Nice one, mate

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By *arnsley guy100Man over a year ago

Sheffield

Man should pay for first drink... Lady the second

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I pay for my own. If he gets a massive steak I'm not splitting the bill!

You're not one of those people that sit there and add up exactly what their meal cost are you?

Yep down to the last penny.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"What if a married man who is not cheating, has a meet at a hotel with a single female swinger. Who pays? "

He uses money from the joint account surely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I make it an easy decision by always forgetting my wallet

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your mum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"On a date, If she offers to pay half I’ll say it’s my treat and pay.

If she makes no attempt to pay anything I’ll say let’s split it or ask if she wants to pick up the tab.

If you meet a girl in a bar and she arrives first and gets herself a drink but not you. Walk away. She’s selfish and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. "

Lord! If I arrived early enough to be there first I'd buy myself a drink to get over the shock! How shit would it look to be sitting there nursing a glass of water until you arrived to buy me a drink!!

Shared bills all the way, unless we're starting to be a regular friends.

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