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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you greet the lady with a hug or a handshake?
Neither. Just _ello.
I had you down as someone who would fist bump.
Oh how misguided you are young man."
I can't disagree with that. |
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"Some very mixed opinions  .
We only started chatting yesterday, I think a kiss might be too much."
Being serious now, the best greeting will be determined by how long you have been chatting with the lady plus how familiar you have become with her. A gentle hug is usually socially acceptable but make sure to study her body language in order to gauge that which she is comfortable with. Have fun  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on how well you've been getting on. If a couple of messages have been swapped then probably a _ello, if the convo has been over a period of time and you've really gotten on then a hug maybe a cheek kiss.
For me I don't do kisses _ello or goodbye with non family, it makes me uncomfortable. I'm a hugger.
Though with your body OP I'd welcome any greeting you'd like! Haha.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So handshake, a hug or just a smile for the greeting, I'm panicking already  "
Don't panic, she may go in for a hug on the day and surprise you.. Or failing that how about asking her beforehand how she would like to be greeted? |
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"Some very mixed opinions .
We only started chatting yesterday, I think a kiss might be too much.
Being serious now, the best greeting will be determined by how long you have been chatting with the lady plus how familiar you have become with her. A gentle hug is usually socially acceptable but make sure to study her body language in order to gauge that which she is comfortable with. Have fun "
Good point on body language. Personally I think a hug is too familiar, but a continental greeting or a very quick kiss to the back of the ladies hand would be acceptable. You need to deliver in a Respectful and non cringey way, unless encouraged further.
The end of the date of course is quite another thing. Giggling now remembering how mine and FTs first date went  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So handshake, a hug or just a smile for the greeting, I'm panicking already
Smile. Hug. And tell her something nice. "
say 'nice of you to make an effort' in a sarcastic voice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last time I went out and met someone for a date, I had agreed in advance that I’d do a rooster hand move to indicate I wanted to kiss.
Do not follow my example. I bomb at dates. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Last time I went out and met someone for a date, I had agreed in advance that I’d do a rooster hand move to indicate I wanted to kiss.
Do not follow my example. I bomb at dates. "
Rooster hand move ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So handshake, a hug or just a smile for the greeting, I'm panicking already
Smile. Hug. And tell her something nice. say 'nice of you to make an effort' in a sarcastic voice "
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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Level of interaction determines it for me. Op you have had brief contact so I think what I call a loose hug and as suggested above a compliment on what she is wearing would be appropriate.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Last time I went out and met someone for a date, I had agreed in advance that I’d do a rooster hand move to indicate I wanted to kiss.
Do not follow my example. I bomb at dates.
Rooster hand move ?"
Hand with fingers extended upwards from head. Like a rooster.
I’m so fanciable. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I met someone outside Canary Wharf station. I rang him because I wasn't sure which entrance he was at, and there were a lot of people outside. We were talking on the phone as we spotted each other, laughed and smiled.
When I got to him he kissed me on the cheek, took my hand and led me around the wharf, to look for the bar he had chosen for us.
I like a man who takes charge like that; it is a terribly hot aphrodisiac to me. |
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"I met someone outside Canary Wharf station. I rang him because I wasn't sure which entrance he was at, and there were a lot of people outside. We were talking on the phone as we spotted each other, laughed and smiled.
When I got to him he kissed me on the cheek, took my hand and led me around the wharf, to look for the bar he had chosen for us.
I like a man who takes charge like that; it is a terribly hot aphrodisiac to me."
Yes but can all men carry this off ? It’s a fine line from gentlemanly to too touchy too soon in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I met someone outside Canary Wharf station. I rang him because I wasn't sure which entrance he was at, and there were a lot of people outside. We were talking on the phone as we spotted each other, laughed and smiled.
When I got to him he kissed me on the cheek, took my hand and led me around the wharf, to look for the bar he had chosen for us.
I like a man who takes charge like that; it is a terribly hot aphrodisiac to me.
Yes but can all men carry this off ? It’s a fine line from gentlemanly to too touchy too soon in my opinion. "
I think it's either natural to them or not. I'm not one for walking around hand in hand, but I felt very comfortable holding his hand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Definitely a pick on the cheek, i think if i didn't get that on a first meet then the person wasn't attracted to me."
You are large/fat/ample/curvy perfection!! (It's how she describes herself on her profile, to whom it concerns)
I tend to give the peck on the cheek and a big smile if I'm attracted and for the very reason that attraction is unclear until you do, usually. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"At the start of a social meet he kissed my cheek. I could smell he was a smoker although his profile says "non smoker". A bad start!"
Maybe he was holding it for a friend? |
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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago
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Email her a list of alternative greetings asking her to tick which she prefers.
Follow this up with another email asking to which level you will be allowed to touch her during the evening.
Are you allowed to grope her, finger her etc.
Never fails. |
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Hand shake, then swiftly slide your hand up her wrist and grab it with your other hand too and proceed to give her a Chinese burn.
She won't know what the fucks going on but you're letting her know that you're edgy and don't respect traditional boundaries, Ladies love an edgy man. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hand shake, then swiftly slide your hand up her wrist and grab it with your other hand too and proceed to give her a Chinese burn.
She won't know what the fucks going on but you're letting her know that you're edgy and don't respect traditional boundaries, Ladies love an edgy man."
love it.. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take her hand firmly but gently, and a kiss on the cheek. Face, that is, for the uncertain. If you get a slap or a kick in the nuts you know you don't need to waste each other's time any further.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hand shake, then swiftly slide your hand up her wrist and grab it with your other hand too and proceed to give her a Chinese burn.
She won't know what the fucks going on but you're letting her know that you're edgy and don't respect traditional boundaries, Ladies love an edgy man."
Haha! Fantastic! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just a hi nice to meet you or a gentle kiss on the cheek with hand placed gently on her arm or middle of her back followed with nice to meet you but then that's it for contact unless she initiates it |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"Hand shake, then swiftly slide your hand up her wrist and grab it with your other hand too and proceed to give her a Chinese burn.
She won't know what the fucks going on but you're letting her know that you're edgy and don't respect traditional boundaries, Ladies love an edgy man."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go for the handshake, although it’s a habit thing which basically causes awkwardness straight away .
Which is why I don’t date. It’s even worse when you drop the lady home. “Well thanks for your time I enjoyed myself” -extending hand. Even my eyes look at my hand thinking ‘what on earth are you doing’.  |
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"Say Hi and give her a nice cock pic. That seems to be an acceptable introduction around here!
Framed? I would judge on the choice of frame "
Laminated.
Seriously OP maybe let her make the move. I would say a handshake but then I tend to get nervous and throw myself into a hug which can be awkward and take people by surprise. |
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By *olexMan
over a year ago
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"Last time I went out and met someone for a date, I had agreed in advance that I’d do a rooster hand move to indicate I wanted to kiss.
Do not follow my example. I bomb at dates.
Rooster hand move ?
Hand with fingers extended upwards from head. Like a rooster.
I’m so fanciable. "
You are actually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I expect you to serenade me with Sheeran when we meet. Just sayin’
Pffff...I expect 7 types of cheesecakes on my arrival!"
I have 12 (one of them is not really a cheesecake, just a promise of one) |
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"Id presume some chemistry already if you're meeting. A kiss on the cheek, surely. 
I can't tell if I have chemistry with somebody I've never met. "
It’s happened to me a couple of times, last time was with Sir. We messaged intensely for two weeks before we met and spoke most days. So when we met the fire was glowing hot to the point I was worried meeting in person might ruin it. It didn’t of course |
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"I met someone outside Canary Wharf station. I rang him because I wasn't sure which entrance he was at, and there were a lot of people outside. We were talking on the phone as we spotted each other, laughed and smiled.
When I got to him he kissed me on the cheek, took my hand and led me around the wharf, to look for the bar he had chosen for us.
I like a man who takes charge like that; it is a terribly hot aphrodisiac to me."
That sound's lovely,suppose it could be a bit of a bugger if you'd have changed your mind when you clapped eyes on him though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just say _ello have a conversation
Make sure u listen when asking her questions as there may be a suprise exam later just chill stay calm have a nice chat see what happens worst thing that can happen is you dont meet again
That may or may not be in your control |
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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago
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"Just say _ello have a conversation
Make sure u listen when asking her questions as there may be a suprise exam later just chill stay calm have a nice chat see what happens worst thing that can happen is you dont meet again
That may or may not be in your control"
You do realise he’s been and met her and come back again to report? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just say _ello have a conversation
Make sure u listen when asking her questions as there may be a suprise exam later just chill stay calm have a nice chat see what happens worst thing that can happen is you dont meet again
That may or may not be in your control
You do realise he’s been and met her and come back again to report? "
No i didnt just read the first one and put my opinion |
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