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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t arrange to meet if I couldnt afford to buy drinks on here or real world and if a meal is involved I always insist on going halves, if the other person insists they pay I would pay the next time ,,, |
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"I wouldn’t arrange to meet if I couldnt afford to buy drinks on here or real world and if a meal is involved I always insist on going halves, if the other person insists they pay I would pay the next time ,,, "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been on a couple of socials and the man has always paid (not that I haven’t offered) with Ads when we went on our first social we both bought drinks.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree that women should share with costs although I do feel compelled to pay on the 1st few dates at least possibly because I'm moulded by what society deems to be right
If I think I'm gettin the piss taken out of me though I drop em like a hot coal no matter who it is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I agree that women should share with costs although I do feel compelled to pay on the 1st few dates at least possibly because I'm moulded by what society deems to be right
If I think I'm gettin the piss taken out of me though I drop em like a hot coal no matter who it is"
Good for you too many women do take the piss these days...  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Was bought evening meal, must admit I "felt" a little uncomfortable about it as it was the first time it had happened to me."
I feel uncomfortable like that every time a man insists on paying.
I went on a date last week and the guy insisted on paying, which made me uncomfortable. So I just walked out and left him to it. He clearly didn't respect me enough to let me pay half, as I expressed was my wish, so I figured he wouldn't respect me if we got into bed. |
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"Was bought evening meal, must admit I "felt" a little uncomfortable about it as it was the first time it had happened to me.
I feel uncomfortable like that every time a man insists on paying.
I went on a date last week and the guy insisted on paying, which made me uncomfortable. So I just walked out and left him to it. He clearly didn't respect me enough to let me pay half, as I expressed was my wish, so I figured he wouldn't respect me if we got into bed."
If a bloke cannot see what the percieved obligation on a woman is, by ignoring the wishes of her insisting on paying her share and how she may feel about this, needs to look at themselves. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Was bought evening meal, must admit I "felt" a little uncomfortable about it as it was the first time it had happened to me.
I feel uncomfortable like that every time a man insists on paying.
I went on a date last week and the guy insisted on paying, which made me uncomfortable. So I just walked out and left him to it. He clearly didn't respect me enough to let me pay half, as I expressed was my wish, so I figured he wouldn't respect me if we got into bed. If a bloke cannot see what the percieved obligation on a woman is, by ignoring the wishes of her insisting on paying her share and how she may feel about this, needs to look at themselves. "
And yet so often on this website it is touted as appropriate behaviour (and "chivalrous") that the man pays for everytbing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was bought evening meal, must admit I "felt" a little uncomfortable about it as it was the first time it had happened to me.
I feel uncomfortable like that every time a man insists on paying.
I went on a date last week and the guy insisted on paying, which made me uncomfortable. So I just walked out and left him to it. He clearly didn't respect me enough to let me pay half, as I expressed was my wish, so I figured he wouldn't respect me if we got into bed. If a bloke cannot see what the percieved obligation on a woman is, by ignoring the wishes of her insisting on paying her share and how she may feel about this, needs to look at themselves.
And yet so often on this website it is touted as appropriate behaviour (and "chivalrous") that the man pays for everytbing."
As far as I'm concerned, offering to pay on a date is the right thing to do, that's the way I was bought up, but it's not a black and white issue, at the same time I feel more comfortable I'm paying for the meal and drinks, I'm not looking to push the issue if it makes my date feel uncomfortable.
I think it foreshadows the way the relationship will be if you both can't compromise on the first date, then there shouldn't be a second |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was bought evening meal, must admit I "felt" a little uncomfortable about it as it was the first time it had happened to me.
I feel uncomfortable like that every time a man insists on paying.
I went on a date last week and the guy insisted on paying, which made me uncomfortable. So I just walked out and left him to it. He clearly didn't respect me enough to let me pay half, as I expressed was my wish, so I figured he wouldn't respect me if we got into bed."
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If she offers to buy a drink that's great, if not I don't mind buying. It shouldn't be a problem unless she's on her 8th drink when it gets a bit expensive but by that stage I don't think I want the evening to continue  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id i ask a lady on a date I'd pay.. If it was mutually arranged I'd still offer to pay but would go halves if the lady wanted to."
You're from Yorkshire I'm amazed you offered to go halves!
I'm old school and insist on paying every time. It's nice if a woman offers to chip in but I flatly refuse (in a nice way of course!). I dated a girl a couple of years back who never once offered to pay for anything though after 4 or 5 dates. She was full as dishwater as well so I can't believe I spent my hard earned on her for that long!! |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Id i ask a lady on a date I'd pay.. If it was mutually arranged I'd still offer to pay but would go halves if the lady wanted to.
You're from Yorkshire I'm amazed you offered to go halves!
I'm old school and insist on paying every time. It's nice if a woman offers to chip in but I flatly refuse (in a nice way of course!). I dated a girl a couple of years back who never once offered to pay for anything though after 4 or 5 dates. She was full as dishwater as well so I can't believe I spent my hard earned on her for that long!! "
I often find that "old school" is just another word for chauvinistic.
Although I must confess that I laughed at your post stating you always pay and then whining that someone let you pay for four or five dates... perhaps you might learn a lesson there, eh? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Id i ask a lady on a date I'd pay.. If it was mutually arranged I'd still offer to pay but would go halves if the lady wanted to.
You're from Yorkshire I'm amazed you offered to go halves!
I'm old school and insist on paying every time. It's nice if a woman offers to chip in but I flatly refuse (in a nice way of course!). I dated a girl a couple of years back who never once offered to pay for anything though after 4 or 5 dates. She was full as dishwater as well so I can't believe I spent my hard earned on her for that long!!
I often find that "old school" is just another word for chauvinistic.
Although I must confess that I laughed at your post stating you always pay and then whining that someone let you pay for four or five dates... perhaps you might learn a lesson there, eh?"
Chauvinistic? I dunno, maybe it is, but not intended in an offensive way. I also like to open doors for women etc and guess I'm a bit of an old school romantic. I guess I'll have to relax those views if it genuine pisses people off but it's never come to that quite yet. 
As for the "learning a lesson", nah she was just so fucking boring!!  |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Id i ask a lady on a date I'd pay.. If it was mutually arranged I'd still offer to pay but would go halves if the lady wanted to.
You're from Yorkshire I'm amazed you offered to go halves!
I'm old school and insist on paying every time. It's nice if a woman offers to chip in but I flatly refuse (in a nice way of course!). I dated a girl a couple of years back who never once offered to pay for anything though after 4 or 5 dates. She was full as dishwater as well so I can't believe I spent my hard earned on her for that long!!
I often find that "old school" is just another word for chauvinistic.
Although I must confess that I laughed at your post stating you always pay and then whining that someone let you pay for four or five dates... perhaps you might learn a lesson there, eh?
Chauvinistic? I dunno, maybe it is, but not intended in an offensive way. I also like to open doors for women etc and guess I'm a bit of an old school romantic. I guess I'll have to relax those views if it genuine pisses people off but it's never come to that quite yet.
As for the "learning a lesson", nah she was just so fucking boring!! "
So you paid for four or five dates even though she was "fucking boring"? Mate, I think you've got more money than sense! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Id i ask a lady on a date I'd pay.. If it was mutually arranged I'd still offer to pay but would go halves if the lady wanted to.
You're from Yorkshire I'm amazed you offered to go halves!
I'm old school and insist on paying every time. It's nice if a woman offers to chip in but I flatly refuse (in a nice way of course!). I dated a girl a couple of years back who never once offered to pay for anything though after 4 or 5 dates. She was full as dishwater as well so I can't believe I spent my hard earned on her for that long!!
I often find that "old school" is just another word for chauvinistic.
Although I must confess that I laughed at your post stating you always pay and then whining that someone let you pay for four or five dates... perhaps you might learn a lesson there, eh?
Chauvinistic? I dunno, maybe it is, but not intended in an offensive way. I also like to open doors for women etc and guess I'm a bit of an old school romantic. I guess I'll have to relax those views if it genuine pisses people off but it's never come to that quite yet.
As for the "learning a lesson", nah she was just so fucking boring!!
So you paid for four or five dates even though she was "fucking boring"? Mate, I think you've got more money than sense!"
I was flattered, she was younger and obviously swayed by her looks. If you're after a rise you're looking in the wrong place "mate"! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going Dutch is best, however as a couple if we meet another couple we agree on 50/50.
If we meet a single lady/guy it’s our treat. But we find single guys are much more willing to buy drinks all round. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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I've had women pay for drinks and nights out and I have to say it didn't motivate me to sleep with them, more the opposite in fact. Not because of any gender roles - more because my hand couldn't touch my wallet to get a simple round in, no matter how long we were out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always go halves, we are all equal nowadays and people should pay for there own shit on a first date as there is no commitment yet and could end the night going your own separate ways never to be seen again. A first date is when people are meant to be at there nicest and if a woman isn't even going to offer to pay her half of "our" bill then what does that say about her? If all goes well then you can offer to pay the next date to show you like eachother.
I had a date with a woman who ordered all the expensive food on the menu, bottles after bottles of expensive wine and the cost was ridiculous, when the bill came she just looked and slid the bill over to me, she hadn't even brought her purse with her as she expects the man to pay for everything, I paid for my half of the bill and walked out leaving her there with no money to pay for her own. Bitch. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always offer to pay...
Though I know some guys prefer to treat the ladies they meet, so I won't argue...I'll just make sure I get a round in while he's in the loo  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts? "
Disagree, call me old fashioned but I would never expect or allow a woman to buy me a drink! I would be offended if that happened. It’s a gentleman thing!! |
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In this society even when a man and woman are doing the same job, e.g tv presenter or radio presenter , a job that requires no physical strength, where the man and woman are sitting on the same sofa, the man is still payed much higher than the ladies, so to preach we are equal is a bit unfair to the ladies.
Food and drinks is the lowest level of something people should be sharing especially if the man called the date, I believe the man should pay for this , now if the woman calls the date and she is well off and she insists on paying the full bill that is a different case. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"In this society even when a man and woman are doing the same job, e.g tv presenter or radio presenter , a job that requires no physical strength, where the man and woman are sitting on the same sofa, the man is still payed much higher than the ladies, so to preach we are equal is a bit unfair to the ladies.
Food and drinks is the lowest level of something people should be sharing especially if the man called the date, I believe the man should pay for this , now if the woman calls the date and she is well off and she insists on paying the full bill that is a different case."
We'll never find equality at work if blokes don't treat women as their equal socially. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts?
Disagree, call me old fashioned but I would never expect or allow a woman to buy me a drink! I would be offended if that happened. It’s a gentleman thing!!"
I'm not going to call you old fashioned, I'm going to call you selfish for putting your own feelings above those of a woman who might want to pay her own way. |
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts?
Disagree, call me old fashioned but I would never expect or allow a woman to buy me a drink! I would be offended if that happened. It’s a gentleman thing!!"
No, no really it isn't a gentleman thing
It's an antiquated and condescending thing
I am very much a gentleman that is I'm polite and respectful to all people
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Well in my opinion I don't think it looks nice when I see a man and woman sharing bills, if I call a date I would take the lady to a place I can afford and pay the full bill, I would expect same from the ladies. If the lady cannot afford a place and wants us to go there then that is a different scenario, she is asking me to take her on a date somewhere and in that case I will pay the full bill if I accept.
The idea of going to an expensive restuarant and sharing bills does not look nice to me, it is far better to find ones level at the time and accept it , when the level of the bigger place arrives you will go there and not need any bill sharing. This goes for both guys and ladies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never been on a date, but on a social I am not comfortable with being paid for so always offer to pay half, unless I am sure we will be seeing eachother again, then I pay next time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Put everything on the tab for the night and then at the end of the evening make out you forgot your wallet and get her to pay. Only works if you're a Jaguar owner and a bit of a cad according to Clarkson. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts?
Disagree, call me old fashioned but I would never expect or allow a woman to buy me a drink! I would be offended if that happened. It’s a gentleman thing!!
I'm not going to call you old fashioned, I'm going to call you selfish for putting your own feelings above those of a woman who might want to pay her own way."
And in turn a woman who insists on paying half, or for her own is selfishly putting her own comfort before that of her date, like I said, if a compromise can't be reached on a first date there shouldn't be a second.
I see nothing wrong with a woman wanting to pay her half of the bill, but I refuse to accept that just for uttering the words "I'll get this" that it makes me a footsoldier of the patriarchy, especially when how you have described the scenario reads.
Woman pays: showing she is a strong independent woman of means, who in no way shape or form needs a man to look after her or validate her in any way.
Man pays: out of touch patriarchal wanker.
It's called equality for a reason, and we need to not lose sight of that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always offer to pay...
Though I know some guys prefer to treat the ladies they meet, so I won't argue...I'll just make sure I get a round in while he's in the loo "
This is the best way to do it!!!! TEQUILA!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts? "
I agree with you.
I prefer if I can pay first but if he gets there first it's important for me to buy the next cuppa. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always offer to pay...
Though I know some guys prefer to treat the ladies they meet, so I won't argue...I'll just make sure I get a round in while he's in the loo
This is the best way to do it!!!! TEQUILA!!!!"
Yes!!!! |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Well in my opinion I don't think it looks nice when I see a man and woman sharing bills"
Why do you care so much about what other people think? Are you ashamed if people see you splitting the bill? |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts?
Disagree, call me old fashioned but I would never expect or allow a woman to buy me a drink! I would be offended if that happened. It’s a gentleman thing!!
I'm not going to call you old fashioned, I'm going to call you selfish for putting your own feelings above those of a woman who might want to pay her own way.
And in turn a woman who insists on paying half, or for her own is selfishly putting her own comfort before that of her date, like I said, if a compromise can't be reached on a first date there shouldn't be a second.
I see nothing wrong with a woman wanting to pay her half of the bill, but I refuse to accept that just for uttering the words "I'll get this" that it makes me a footsoldier of the patriarchy, especially when how you have described the scenario reads.
Woman pays: showing she is a strong independent woman of means, who in no way shape or form needs a man to look after her or validate her in any way.
Man pays: out of touch patriarchal wanker.
It's called equality for a reason, and we need to not lose sight of that"
I've never said that about a woman.
I think that people should split bills equally. As you said - it's called equality for a reason. |
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If you’re meeting in a bar, whoever gets there first should definitely get the other person a drink. Saves time quing at the bar again.
She was early and got herself a drink but not me! I then got the next four rounds.
I’ve no issue paying at all but if she doesn’t even offer to buy a round the whole night then I think she’s just taking advantage. If she’s selfish with drinks then who know what else she’s selfish with.
Taking it it turns is the way to do it imo.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on who you meet. Some are very insistent on being the one to pay. I've been In a situation where I've bought the drinks, as they are a bit skint at the time. Where we've taken it in turns. Or when they've insisted on paying. It's horses for courses. For me, it's about the interaction itself. Not so much about payment methods . I can see your point though OP. Whoever arrives first, should get the round in haha. Not just sit there, nursing their own.I'd always ask what their poison was, just on case I got there first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I do the right thing and offer to pay my way. But thats because it’s the decent thing to do for the guy. However I will be extremely flattered if he insists on paying, as guys don’t have to do that these days. Personally experience is that I’ve been treated better and with more respect by guys who are more old fashioned in their dating etiquette. Men I’ve been involved with have always regarded me as a competent and independent woman, so when a man considers me worth treating when he knows he doesn’t have to, then I know his intentions are genuine.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If out on a social I will always pay for whoever i am entertaining... it's respectful, also the way I was brought up. "
The man in my family are of this mind. I've only ever associated with men of this calibre x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On the first meeting I always insist on choosing from the menu and paying the bill, I dont really understand what the fuss is about. I even offer to supersize the Big Mac if I think it's going to be a long night. |
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"If out on a social I will always pay for whoever i am entertaining... it's respectful, also the way I was brought up.
The man in my family are of this mind. I've only ever associated with men of this calibre x"
But you were brought up to be special and not like the men in your family? Why, they didn't think you'd be successful enough to be able to go halves? |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I do the right thing and offer to pay my way. But thats because it’s the decent thing to do for the guy. However I will be extremely flattered if he insists on paying, as guys don’t have to do that these days. Personally experience is that I’ve been treated better and with more respect by guys who are more old fashioned in their dating etiquette. Men I’ve been involved with have always regarded me as a competent and independent woman, so when a man considers me worth treating when he knows he doesn’t have to, then I know his intentions are genuine.
Mrs"
Yes this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If out on a social I will always pay for whoever i am entertaining... it's respectful, also the way I was brought up.
The man in my family are of this mind. I've only ever associated with men of this calibre x
But you were brought up to be special and not like the men in your family? Why, they didn't think you'd be successful enough to be able to go halves?"
It's exactly as the gentleman said "it's respectful". If you knew me you'd know that I'm far from a princess AND I pay my way with everything as I'm a single and independent woman. Be careful jumping to conclusions and assuming. We are all special my dear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to have a female friend who had major money "issues"
It wasn't that she had any less money than me - it was that she was always worried about spending hers.
We are no longer friends.
Money issues are boring - and a tight ass is just as unattractive than someone that has questionable hygiene
Bore off!
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"If out on a social I will always pay for whoever i am entertaining... it's respectful, also the way I was brought up.
The man in my family are of this mind. I've only ever associated with men of this calibre x
But you were brought up to be special and not like the men in your family? Why, they didn't think you'd be successful enough to be able to go halves?
It's exactly as the gentleman said "it's respectful". If you knew me you'd know that I'm far from a princess AND I pay my way with everything as I'm a single and independent woman. Be careful jumping to conclusions and assuming. We are all special my dear. "
Why is it respectful for men to pay but not women? |
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It's not a matter of being bothered about what people think and infact am not bothered at all, it's a matter of principle for me and I don't like the look of sharing bills it , it looks fake to me and am real.
If I ever find myself in a situation where a lady is asking me to share bills ,I would tell her not to worry and pay the full bill. I don't like half or a part of anything, it's either the whole thing or nothing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love threads like this to get people arguing especially about gender and equality.
The amount of you guys that want to be a gentleman and insist on paying for everything is ridiculous, having a vagina doesn't entitle her to anything and isn't an excuse for her getting a free ride, taking advantage of your stupidity and definitely in no way makes her the lady you think she is. Think of how much money you have wasted over the years on dates that have gotten you nowhere, being a gentleman and getting nothing in return. Yes we all like to make a good impression on a first date but isn't that what having simple manners is for? They are only women, they are not the little helpless creatures you think they are that need you looking after them, they are actually quite capable of looking after themselves and paying there own way, some of them even have jobs and own houses, they can drive cars and everything operating in amongst society, crazy right! If you truly feel the need to be a true gentleman and treat your woman right then save all that shit for when you actually have a girlfriend, but don't waste your effort and money on just another first date because chances are its only ever going to be just that, another first date and she's not the one your going to be with.
Also ladies, how about you pay or at least offer to pay the whole entire bill on a date for once, would be a nice surprise for the man for a change and shows him that you enjoyed your first date together, also shows that you have your shit together and not just another bitch in a long string of bitches only looking for a free meal. If women done this more often then the man in their lives would be more likely to treat them to a nice evening out every now and then.
It's kinda hard to eliminate sexism and have a gender equal world when most women out there are constantly happy to make themselves look the weaker sex.
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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Also ladies, how about you pay or at least offer to pay the whole entire bill on a date for once, would be a nice surprise for the man for a change and shows him that you enjoyed your first date together, also shows that you have your shit together and not just another bitch in a long string of bitches only looking for a free meal. "
I understand that you're trying to be a good ally - but please don't refer to women as 'bitches'. It's really unpleasant and is just another piece of sexism. |
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Also ladies, how about you pay or at least offer to pay the whole entire bill on a date for once, would be a nice surprise for the man for a change and shows him that you enjoyed your first date together, also shows that you have your shit together and not just another bitch in a long string of bitches only looking for a free meal.
I understand that you're trying to be a good ally - but please don't refer to women as 'bitches'. It's really unpleasant and is just another piece of sexism."
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"Im a tad old fashioned and always pay for a meal and or a drink or two. It just seems the right thing to do. A lady deserves to be treated as a lady."
A lady deserves to be treated as someone who cannot possibly earn enough money to pay halves on a date? |
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"On a date I always offer to buy drinks.
Not impressed if a girl doesn’t even offer to buy a drink the whole night though. Seems a bit selfish.
Thoughts? "
Dear A
Seemingly I come from another era or maybe a different planet in so far as if I meet a lady for drinks or lunch I wouldn’t dream of asking her to pay.
Or am I sentimental old fool? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I love threads like this to get people arguing especially about gender and equality.
The amount of you guys that want to be a gentleman and insist on paying for everything is ridiculous, having a vagina doesn't entitle her to anything and isn't an excuse for her getting a free ride, taking advantage of your stupidity and definitely in no way makes her the lady you think she is. Think of how much money you have wasted over the years on dates that have gotten you nowhere, being a gentleman and getting nothing in return. Yes we all like to make a good impression on a first date but isn't that what having simple manners is for? They are only women, they are not the little helpless creatures you think they are that need you looking after them, they are actually quite capable of looking after themselves and paying there own way, some of them even have jobs and own houses, they can drive cars and everything operating in amongst society, crazy right! If you truly feel the need to be a true gentleman and treat your woman right then save all that shit for when you actually have a girlfriend, but don't waste your effort and money on just another first date because chances are its only ever going to be just that, another first date and she's not the one your going to be with.
Also ladies, how about you pay or at least offer to pay the whole entire bill on a date for once, would be a nice surprise for the man for a change and shows him that you enjoyed your first date together, also shows that you have your shit together and not just another bitch in a long string of bitches only looking for a free meal. If women done this more often then the man in their lives would be more likely to treat them to a nice evening out every now and then.
It's kinda hard to eliminate sexism and have a gender equal world when most women out there are constantly happy to make themselves look the weaker sex.
... ok, rant over "
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I would refer you to my previous comments on this matter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had the piss taken out of me a few times. Even hotel costs I've been left with so I no longer meet in hotels unless she books it. I will always pay my half and couple drinks before. I've dropped a few meets giving some excuse when find out she won't or cant book the hotel. Its unfortunate for all those who will genuinely pay half but maybe cant because of discretionary reasons. Hense I now only will entertain those who will book hotel or entertain at theirs. Its limiting but that's the price. |
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An upbringing where i was taught to treat people of either sex with respect. Where politeness cost nothing and where giving is better than receiving. Its not about who pays it about old fashioed values.
Its certainly nothing to do with sexual equality. I'll hold a door open for either sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We live in a world of choice. Some men and woman men like the gender differential with regards to dating etiquette, and some men and women want the etiquette to be the same. I like the former, but I don’t take advantage of men who are not fans of this old fashioned ettiquette. For me personally my preference to male-female ettiquette has no bearing whatever on my rights as a woman to equal opportunities, and I have never been treated as weak or incapable of paying my way. In fact, as a woman who has always had a career and lived in my own for many years, it would be ludicrous if anybody would think otherwise. Yes I want equal opportunities and rights, and feel I have that. But I don’t want to be treated the same as a man. It’s a personal choice.
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By *ucy LewdWoman
over a year ago
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"An upbringing where i was taught to treat people of either sex with respect. Where politeness cost nothing and where giving is better than receiving. Its not about who pays it about old fashioed values.
Its certainly nothing to do with sexual equality. I'll hold a door open for either sex."
One would assume then that you always pay if you go out for dinner with a male friend? Since you were brought up to have respect? |
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"Yes i do. Well i offer."
Going out for drinks with mates. You ok picking up the tab all night yeah?
It’s ok your mates never buy a round of drinks?
I’ll always offer to pay and I like treating people but if someone’s taking advantage I’m done.
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