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over a year ago
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Not many compensations for getting older .......But I think the more mature you become the more able you get to make the right decision more quickly....
In your face youngsters ,...  |
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"Not many compensations for getting older .......But I think the more mature you become the more able you get to make the right decision more quickly....
In your face youngsters ,... "
How many years left again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm brutally honest. I call it how I see it. No point sugar coating bullshit! But I do bite my tongue sometimes"
This for me, but I need to bite my tongue more!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm worse than what I was... I used to be quite patient and tolerate... now I have real problems dealing with some types ( my attempt at diplomacy 
After 20 odd years in the army I seem to have the inability to tolerate bullocks and now I tend to just go by the old age adage that " if you don't have anything nice to say.... don't say anything"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not many compensations for getting older .......But I think the more mature you become the more able you get to make the right decision more quickly....
In your face youngsters ,...
How many years left again "
At your age not the sort of thing you should waste too much time thinking about.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do. I prefer to lift people up rather than not. However, I'm honest, and part of lifting people up might be calling them out on occasion, rather than doing them a disservice by ignoring or colluding with behaviour I don't appreciate. I can be very feisty and have a low tolerance for blinkered self righteousness, and I know that I can be tough. I am aware I'm not perfect and can own my shit, and I'm always willing to explain my view to those that would like to listen. I find people fascinating and how they interact and portray themselves very interesting. |
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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago
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Online... mostly. I find the box betwixt mind and mouth allows me to reread/review what it is I'm saying.
Offline? I blurt. I'm getting better with age but I'm a blurter. Especially when distracted or tired.
I've also been told you can hear my eyes rolling.
I've learnt not to play poker. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always type then think.
It's landed me in some awkward situations tbh.
I'm trying to improve. I just get all excited and the fingers just do their thing.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mostly think first.
I was very proud of myself recently when someone asked me an akward question and i managed to answer in a way that made them happy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do. I prefer to lift people up rather than not. However, I'm honest, and part of lifting people up might be calling them out on occasion, rather than doing them a disservice by ignoring or colluding with behaviour I don't appreciate. I can be very feisty and have a low tolerance for blinkered self righteousness, and I know that I can be tough. I am aware I'm not perfect and can own my shit, and I'm always willing to explain my view to those that would like to listen. I find people fascinating and how they interact and portray themselves very interesting."
I will back that up 100%. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Similar to another thread I know, but do you think before you do or say something?
I usually don't and end up putting my foot in it.
What about you?"
Actually after reading this again i realised that i only bother about what i say to people i love and thats a handfull of people. The rest, well i say whatever comes to mind at the time |
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"Similar to another thread I know, but do you think before you do or say something?
I usually don't and end up putting my foot in it.
What about you?
Actually after reading this again i realised that i only bother about what i say to people i love and thats a handfull of people. The rest, well i say whatever comes to mind at the time "
Have you ever thought about what you say might affect those people though? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Similar to another thread I know, but do you think before you do or say something?
I usually don't and end up putting my foot in it.
What about you?
Actually after reading this again i realised that i only bother about what i say to people i love and thats a handfull of people. The rest, well i say whatever comes to mind at the time
Have you ever thought about what you say might affect those people though? "
Obviously not at the time, i would guess that all those on this thread who have admitted to speaking without thinking first havnt thought how it might affect those people. Generally im not particularily bothered how it would affect others anyway. I do take care about people i love though so with them i think before i speak.
However, despite what is thought about me, i am a kind person and most of what i say to others is nice so it would affect them in a good way. Not everyone is negative or nasty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely not 
My impulsive behaviour has landed me in trouble in the past!
I'd like to think I'm getting better at holding my horses with age- but I'm not  |
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"Similar to another thread I know, but do you think before you do or say something?
I usually don't and end up putting my foot in it.
What about you?
Actually after reading this again i realised that i only bother about what i say to people i love and thats a handfull of people. The rest, well i say whatever comes to mind at the time
Have you ever thought about what you say might affect those people though?
Obviously not at the time, i would guess that all those on this thread who have admitted to speaking without thinking first havnt thought how it might affect those people. Generally im not particularily bothered how it would affect others anyway. I do take care about people i love though so with them i think before i speak.
However, despite what is thought about me, i am a kind person and most of what i say to others is nice so it would affect them in a good way. Not everyone is negative or nasty."
Exactly, my post wasn't necessarily aimed at what you were saying. I am neither negative nor nasty, but just try to come across as honest as I can be. Some people can take things in a negative way though don't you think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest I think most posters on here are guilty of this to some extent including myself. It doesn't make us bad people but we are human to which we are always go to make mistakes.
I know I have upset people on here by my tongue in cheek comments and I have Ben upset buy other people's comments.
It would be nice to think I would bite my tongue every time as I do not go out of my way to upset anyone......but as said I'm only human.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest I think most posters on here are guilty of this to some extent including myself. It doesn't make us bad people but we are human to which we are always go to make mistakes.
I know I have upset people on here by my tongue in cheek comments and I have Ben upset buy other people's comments.
It would be nice to think I would bite my tongue every time as I do not go out of my way to upset anyone......but as said I'm only human.
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Even in my spelling mistakes |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I do. I prefer to lift people up rather than not. However, I'm honest, and part of lifting people up might be calling them out on occasion, rather than doing them a disservice by ignoring or colluding with behaviour I don't appreciate. I can be very feisty and have a low tolerance for blinkered self righteousness, and I know that I can be tough. I am aware I'm not perfect and can own my shit, and I'm always willing to explain my view to those that would like to listen. I find people fascinating and how they interact and portray themselves very interesting.
I will back that up 100%. "
Grins. Yep, I've pulled you up in love! You know it's in love though. Hugs. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think about things for a while, i ask the question then explode if i don't get answers.
Im the type of person who says it how i see it. If others don't like that attitude then tough shit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Similar to another thread I know, but do you think before you do or say something?
I usually don't and end up putting my foot in it.
What about you?
Actually after reading this again i realised that i only bother about what i say to people i love and thats a handfull of people. The rest, well i say whatever comes to mind at the time
Have you ever thought about what you say might affect those people though?
Obviously not at the time, i would guess that all those on this thread who have admitted to speaking without thinking first havnt thought how it might affect those people. Generally im not particularily bothered how it would affect others anyway. I do take care about people i love though so with them i think before i speak.
However, despite what is thought about me, i am a kind person and most of what i say to others is nice so it would affect them in a good way. Not everyone is negative or nasty.
Exactly, my post wasn't necessarily aimed at what you were saying. I am neither negative nor nasty, but just try to come across as honest as I can be. Some people can take things in a negative way though don't you think? "
If you are truly interested then ask others who answered the same as me. |
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