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It's The Kids I Feel Sorry For :-(
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By *mmmMaybe OP Couple
over a year ago
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Both myself & H were "Happy Accidents" so our siblings are much older & obviously so were our parents. Mine died long before our kids came along.
H lost her mum end 2015 & this morning her dad after a short battle with the big C..
My saddest thought is we now have five & nine year olds with no doting grandparents to grow up with..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear that.
I'm a child who grew up with little contact with my grandparents (grandfathers died long before I was born, one grandma was in a home with dementia since I was about 2, the other lived miles and miles away) and I don't feel like I really missed out by it. It would have been nice to have grandparents in my life, but I'd never look back and feel like someone needed to feel sorry for me because of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sorry to hear your sad news x
My only regret about having my children later in life is that they both didn't get to meet MY grandparents.
My grandparents were awesome and i miss them every single day, although i was extremely lucky in that they both lived until i was in my early 30's.
Big hugs to you all xx
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Sorry for your loss,
These can be trying times.
Take some comfort that kids are very resilient and can be very matter of fact.
My grandkids were amazing when our family had two major upsets in the space of two days late last year, they just took both lots of sad news in their stride.
I think as adults, we should look to them in how they deal with grief, surprisingly finding a positive in what us adults just see as a catastrophe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's very, very difficult. My Mum died four months before we conceived our first child and 8 years on it's still so hard. Not just them missing out on her but her missing out on them. Also, I don't think you truly appreciate your parents until you're a parent yourself so I never got chance to thank her and say 'sorry I was such a douchebag child!' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss. Xxx
My first grandparent death was when I was 16, my last was when I was 24.
My daughters lost thier nana on their dad's side about 5 years ago. Thankfully they still have 3 going strong. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss.
I grew up without grandparents - dad's side lived in different county so couldn't just "pop round" and mums side disowned us. Got step-grandma but again lives in different country.
I think every family is different and adapts accordingly. You can't miss something if you've never experienced it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So sorry to hear your sad news
I grew up without Grandparents but we adopted an American relation who used to a couple of times of year. It filled the void he was possibly the best the best Grandpa ever.
Thinking of you all Risqué Miss K xx |
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So sad to hear your news. I think your right though that the children loose out when they have no grandparents. I don't remember one of my granddads and feel like I've missed out on things especially as I know he visited me every single day till he died when I was 18 months but then I'm also exceedingly lucky to be 45 and still have my Nanna going on strong at 86  |
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My condolences.
I only had one grandparent when I was born, and she died when I was eight.
It is weird when other people talk about their grandparents as I missed out on that relationship.
But you don't miss what you didn't have. |
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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss.
A lady I work with adopted a grandma for her small children as she had no family and neither did the grandma.
They all love it and the kids grow up with the older nanny figure and the grandma gets a family to love.
Just a thought for the years ahead |
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By *mmmMaybe OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Sorry for your loss.
A lady I work with adopted a grandma for her small children as she had no family and neither did the grandma.
They all love it and the kids grow up with the older nanny figure and the grandma gets a family to love.
Just a thought for the years ahead"
Funnily enough I was thinking this a little earlier as we have Alms Houses in the village. Might have to wait until school knocks the littluns constant volume eleven talking out of her first though
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"Sorry for your loss.
A lady I work with adopted a grandma for her small children as she had no family and neither did the grandma.
They all love it and the kids grow up with the older nanny figure and the grandma gets a family to love.
Just a thought for the years ahead"
That's a lovely idea.
Sorry for your loss OP, my thoughts are with you and your family. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss OP.
My youngest has grown up never knowing her paternal grandparents (they would have absolutely adored her) & now only has her maternal grandad.
I do feel it's a shame she never experinced the same relationship that my son did. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I didn't know anything about mu grandparents except my maternal grandfather, who died when I was about 4.
I don't feel I've missed out on anything at all; I have wonderful parents.
I'm a very much hands on grandmother; so much so that my grandchildren look at me as another mother.
They will miss me when I'm gone.
Sorry for your wife's loss. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They won't know any different to feel left out tbh.
I haven't had any grandparents since I was about 15 and it surprises me today when people my age talk about their (still alive) grandparents.
My family generally don't live very long (mid 60s max). Go me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Condolences xx
My grandparents died before I was 8. I'm lucky I still have great aunts and uncles but it was never the same. My daughter has 4 grandparents and surviving great grandparents on her dad's side but they make no effort which is sad.
I still have a habit of adopting grandparents though. Good job I work in a hotel that the older generation favour. There are a lot of older folk who are more than happy to share a teapot and share their stories. I don't feel I miss out. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to read of your loss... you two have had a hard year.
Keep the grandparents alive with the stories and memories you have of them.
My nephews have lost four of their six grandparents/step grandparents and the remaining two (one step and one maternal grandfather) won't be actively in their lives any more. We tell stories, we use their phrases (the blood relative grandfathers both had/have colourful turns of phrases) and remind them of the times they can't remember with them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sorry for your loss.
Our kids only have one grandma who is actively in their lives. Unfortunately they never got to meet my dad and that is something that saddens me but doesn't affect them cause they know no difference.
We have friends who are younger than us who lost both their parents before they had children.
Try to remember all the good times you all had together - maybe in time make a scrap book with the kids of all the fond memories they have - something they can save forever x |
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hugs for H x
