"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?"
Was this before or after you'd arranged your meet? |
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over a year ago
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?"
Did you swap numbers? Talk on phone? Are they verified? Have you heard from them since the arrangement was made?
Not fool proof by any means but good indicators people will turn up in my experience
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over a year ago
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track....
I'm thinking not to go"
Wow! What a way to make someone feel excited about a meet!  .
In all honesty I would fuck someone off who did that. It just seems so rude to blatantly try and arrange a meet at the same time he's meant to be meeting you. I'm actually shocked by that. |
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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
I'd cancel. He doesn't seem very respectful and that would put me in the wrong mood to begin with. |
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You know, there could be a perfectly innocent or accidental explanation for this, or maybe he's a prick but it's really hard to tell with only one side of the story.
Personally, I'd demand an explanation over the phone right now and not bang on about it in public.
But that's just me.
Hope it works out. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Did you suggest things to wear? Or has he just out of the blue started with suggestions? If the latter, fuck that. |
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over a year ago
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Well there's your answer right there |
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Sounds dodgy to us. Back out x |
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Sounds like you are not too sure about meeting him so probably best you don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sounds to me that he's seeing if anyone will meet him afterwards if you decide you don't want anything more than a social so that he gets use out of the room.
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
I'd be miffed. It does sound like he's trying to sort out a back up plan. I fucking hate that sort of behaviour, enough to tell him to do one!
I wouldn't be happy if we had swapped confirmation texts either.
Do what you feel is right and stay safe above all x |
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over a year ago
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Sounds like hes got a back up plan if you dont want to play. As for telling you what to wear ! Well id wear what i wanted to wear. |
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"You know, there could be a perfectly innocent or accidental explanation for this, or maybe he's a prick but it's really hard to tell with only one side of the story.
Personally, I'd demand an explanation over the phone right now and not bang on about it in public.
But that's just me.
Hope it works out. "
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Same happened to us a few weeks ago
The guy didn't show up
I think some people get off on what they could get up to & have no intentions of ever actually meeting anyone
I personally would cancel now, especially if you are going somewhere you have no control over to meet him (I wish we had cancelled ours but it was our first time someone messed us about & he said he was just looking for somewhere to go after, now as soon as someone gives a hint that they are gonna mess us about I cancel & block) |
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over a year ago
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Just ask him... but in all honesty, of the guy is limited to time due to work or what ever reason and generally has to make time for a meet... he is probably just having a back up plan invade you don't turn up, if you don't turn up he's got a free evening with no company... see where I'm coming from? |
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By *aroleBaskinWoman
over a year ago
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"Just ask him... but in all honesty, of the guy is limited to time due to work or what ever reason and generally has to make time for a meet... he is probably just having a back up plan invade you don't turn up, if you don't turn up he's got a free evening with no company... see where I'm coming from? "
I totally get this but I think he could have gone about it more sensitively and less publicly. I'd be wondering if there was any point showing up only to be told he's had a better offer.....or shoving me out the door when he's done because his back up plan's on her way....  Seeing this would put me in the wrong frame of mind so I'd still cancel and stay in and spoon the dog. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Stick well clear xx |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I had this happen. I blocked him. He's looking for a back up. Fuck him off "
if this is true its disrespectful behaviour of the highest kind and shows a total disregard for the ops feelings . yes its a swinger site but still we all have a duty of care towards those we choose to interact with in my opinion .
if your instincts are true on this and I think they are then op I would say stay well clear of this guy , in fact my advice would be always stay clear of people who lack basic empathy .
this guy seems to lack any understands of empathy which means he has no idea that his actions can cause upset best to avoid such people in my experience . |
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track....
I'm thinking not to go
Wow! What a way to make someone feel excited about a meet! .
In all honesty I would fuck someone off who did that. It just seems so rude to blatantly try and arrange a meet at the same time he's meant to be meeting you. I'm actually shocked by that. "
We feel the same fuck him off babe x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd cancel and tell him to do one. Sounds like it's a power/control thing he's liking. Maybe he's wrote it to test you. Either way I'd cancel cos he sounds like a nob lol.
Have u not spoke on the phone/text etc? I won't meet without doing this |
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By *uicy jonesMan
over a year ago
near a big hill in s/ shropshire NOT in |
"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?"
Reading your other responses to other people on this thread , think I'd be very carful and give it a lot of thought about meeting up with him !!! If your already doubting and put up a thread like this ( imo ) you've already got your doubts xx
Do what you feel , good luck in whatever you chose xxx |
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
DO NOT GO! Specially being your first meet of fab!
No one should be pushy! Always go with your gut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had this once. Arranged to meet a lovely woman, with every intention of going. I didn't take the 'meet today' flag down, just didn't think. She asked, I reassured her, took it down and later we had a great time. I'd say just ask him |
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"His response was, "Don't worry...everything is exactly as planned and all on track....
I'm thinking not to go
I'd want a better explanation than that.....go with your gut. "
Ooops, my mistake. I should probably learn to read x |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
Just reading this has sounded alarm bells, OP.
Please cancel & block. Instinct is not always listened to enough...
Stay safe xxx |
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By *omez42Man
over a year ago
gloucester |
Sounds to me as if he's making sure he gets laid tonight. Sorting a backup if he doesn't charm you.
If he's being too pushy, he's just blown it as your gut feeling is giving you good advice. Don't go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm seeing a married lady, it was ment to be fb she has 2 young kids and she confessed to me today she loves me!!  but apart of me thinks she's only saying this cus she knows I see other women, she was cool with it as I was open straight from the off, she asked me today if she should leave her husband, all I could say to her is that's your decision to make it can't and would never ask that of you, is she only doing this cus she don't like me seeing other women!! And she's feeling a little bit jealous?? Would really appreciate your comments "
I'd probably ststrt your own thread about this |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?"
He's NOT looking for a backup.
YOU ARE his backup.
And tell him to go fuck himself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. "
I agree that this is a swinging site, but couldn't he make arrangements for another time? Like a poster thought above, what happens if the second meet is more to his liking? Is he going to cancel last minute on me? Or kick me out because he's on his way to another meet? What if we got on like a house on fire? Is he going to be letting down another person last minute?
It might be no strings, but it shouldn't be no empathy. |
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes.
I agree that this is a swinging site, but couldn't he make arrangements for another time? Like a poster thought above, what happens if the second meet is more to his liking? Is he going to cancel last minute on me? Or kick me out because he's on his way to another meet? What if we got on like a house on fire? Is he going to be letting down another person last minute?
It might be no strings, but it shouldn't be no empathy."
Who knows what he's thinking but I always have an open mind and don't expect too much of people, including not expecting empathy. That way I can't be disappointed. People are here for NSA sex, and don't have to explain their actions to anyone.
The OP does sound like she is annoyed by his actions though, so she needs to go with her instincts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He's probably just horny, and wanting a shag with some one and not that bothered who it is.
You have said you weren't sure that you would play so he is edging his bets isn't he. |
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"I have a meet planned for later this evening. All sorted, time, venue etc. He updated his status an hour ago looking for meets in the same area at the same time? First meet for us, do I go?"
a player covering his bases incase u don't putout or show up
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
I'd cancel too op,I think go with your gut feelings,they are usually right.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there"
personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate |
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there
personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate "
Cleanliness ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had this happen. I blocked him. He's looking for a back up. Fuck him off "
Yes that's a plan B. Which I don't agree with, not that I'm judging but that's. Or how we would play it with anyone. I know people have bad experiences with people letting each other down. But even so. I wouldn't go. Makes you wonder how the meet will go? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People saying that he's looking for a backup? But what if your night was a success? what would the other women he had as a backup be thinking if she never had confirmation, to me, this guy is a player, something similar happened to my mrs last year, she was told to be at a hotel bar wearing what was requested and he would join her, he never showed and had blocked her, when I looked at his profile, his status was asking for a meet that night in a hotel, so I think this guy is just taking the piss, I hope you did the right thing and cancelled on him. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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"It doesn't surprise me as I've had it done to me. Maybe he has doubts you'll turn up so he's having a Plan B just incase? Can't blame a person. This is a swinging site after all, he's entitled to make arrangements to see who he likes, when he likes. "
Generally, this. I've tried sorting out the spontaneous meet due to cancellation before, never succeeded. More time may not have helped, but it wouldn't have hurt.
That said, the fella in this example doesn't seem to have handled the comms well - but if that's representative of his other comms, then why hold it against him now? |
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over a year ago
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"Nope, he's blown it by the time you feel the need to come on here asking everyone!! Forget it."
I would agree, but do the right thing and let him know - otherwise he may report you for being a no-show |
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"Nope, he's blown it by the time you feel the need to come on here asking everyone!! Forget it.
I would agree, but do the right thing and let him know - otherwise he may report you for being a no-show"
It's not possible to report someone as a no show is it? |
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"He has updated his status looking for meets since we arranged it. Only messaged on here and I have just messaged him saying what is happening as I do not want multiple people there
personally I'd give it a miss, I'd question cleanliness too if someone isn't trustworthy and clearly a tad desperate
Cleanliness ?"
Well if he isn't a complete bounder n cad I'm sure he would at least give his cock n balls a courtesy scrub in the sink at his hotel in between back up fucks!  |
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"Meeting for a social first. He has booked a room if we get on well. I had suggested not to do that and have more or less been told what to wear. Been quite pushy. A little too pushy for me."
All of them are warning signs. First meet and he tells you how to dress? Actually even if it was your hundreth meet I wouldn't expect him to tell you how to dress. |
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What the hell! No one dictates to me what I wear EVER. Tell him it's off and you've got better things to do with your time |
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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago
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"I don't like guys telling me to wear certain things, it's like nah I'll wear what I feel comfy thanks, leggings and a hoody usually! "
I've been asked in the past, if I'd like a meet to wear anything in particular. I have always responded that my knowledge of womens fashion is somewhat limited, and they should probably just wear what they wanted to.... |
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