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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it? |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I've only ever been called it by people online who are distinctly uglier than I am (objectively) so no, it doesn't bother me in the slightest. "
Oh dear the cyber bullies lol I would not even count what they say as worth reading lol |
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By *irceWoman
over a year ago
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"Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it? "
Have been called some horrendous names over the years, just ended up becoming hardened to the sick minds emotional outbursts after all people who project hate to others are really saying "im sad please give me attention"
Hey one day you look like a model and everyone loves you next day you could have a bad accident and have a very new life ahead of you..best not to tempt fate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have been called ugly. I have been called fat.
Ugly I am not.
Fat yes but im unsure why people use my body type to insult me. Do they think i dont know?
Water off a ducks back. Plenty of people who like me so don't waste on time dwelling on those that don't. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it?
Have been called some horrendous names over the years, just ended up becoming hardened to the sick minds emotional outbursts after all people who project hate to others are really saying "im sad please give me attention"
Hey one day you look like a model and everyone loves you next day you could have a bad accident and have a very new life ahead of you..best not to tempt fate."
Very true as iav said it's best to be happy with who you are
And with the model thing what about the zombie boy he works for vooge or some one and he looks veryyyyy different even up to me lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I have been called ugly. I have been called fat.
Ugly I am not.
Fat yes but im unsure why people use my body type to insult me. Do they think i dont know?
Water off a ducks back. Plenty of people who like me so don't waste on time dwelling on those that don't. "
Very good shout hun work on all who like you and fuck off others that don't and I know iam not a bit guy but iav got a little beer tummy and under stand it's there no need to point out what I can see lol |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"There's being aesthetically ugly and there's being characteristically ugly. Some on here are definitely the latter. Vile in fact. "
I ed rather but ugly on the out side then ugly inside 
There is a post about that I saw would be great for this it's a banana in glitter then opened up its rotten inside |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There's being aesthetically ugly and there's being characteristically ugly. Some on here are definitely the latter. Vile in fact.
I ed rather but ugly on the out side then ugly inside
There is a post about that I saw would be great for this it's a banana in glitter then opened up its rotten inside "
Well you look like an interesting individual to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ugliness comes in many forms, one word can be ugly to one person yet to look on some one can ugly to another.
I find that words are the worst & can be the most cruel 7 ugly. |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"There's being aesthetically ugly and there's being characteristically ugly. Some on here are definitely the latter. Vile in fact.
I ed rather but ugly on the out side then ugly inside
There is a post about that I saw would be great for this it's a banana in glitter then opened up its rotten inside
Well you look like an interesting individual to me "
Well thank you I may look a bit different but we all bleed red at the end of the day |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester/halifax |
"ugliness comes in many forms, one word can be ugly to one person yet to look on some one can ugly to another.
I find that words are the worst & can be the most cruel 7 ugly. "
Very true words can hurt some one a lot more then just hitting them
Words can wear us down and make feelin build up until we burst |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it wouldn't bother me, it's just someones opinion of you that means nothing as ugliness is subjective. if they're on here looking for sex but don't find you attractive, why message you to tell you that? |
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I tend to obsess about it for a while, but then put it behind me.
I agree that allowing people the power to upset you is unwise, and intellectually I know they don't matter, but I can't always just shrug it off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It used to bother me a lot when I was younger. I was always the lad that didn't have have a girlfriend while all my mates did and it can hurt when you get a 'ugh!' right back at you.
Now I'm older and wiser it's water off a ducks back. We're not going to appeal to everyone, beauty is subjective, lots of people aren't going to like me. C'est la vie, move on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I've ever been called ugly by anyone whose opinion I give a shit about. I'd be more offended by an insult to my intelligence or achievements. |
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I couldn't care less. If they feel the need to say that then they are ugly inside and I know I'm not.
I smile in my head and shake my head sadly and pityingly at their futile and puerile attempts to get me to make contact with them. That's a nada. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know that I won't be everyone's type, so I'm not bothered if someone calls me 'ugly' or says 'sorry you're not my type'. People need to realise that if they tell someone they look attractive and it's not returned, the universe won't collapse |
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I've only ever been called ugly once. A random stranger, a man came up to me in a pub once and said "I know everyone else in here thinks your beautiful, but I think you are ugly" and walked away. 
I took it as a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've only ever been called ugly once. A random stranger, a man came up to me in a pub once and said "I know everyone else in here thinks your beautiful, but I think you are ugly" and walked away.
I took it as a compliment "
I would too, you obviously got under his skin somehow  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ignore them hun, I think that gets to them more when they get no response. I only spoke to you briefly in townhouse the last week but you seemed like a really nice person and I actually liked your piercings, I think it suits you!
Doll x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Even the most beautiful person can be ugly OP. I was brought up to believe that being a good kind person is what makes someone beautiful. So my definition of ugly is not necessarily the same as some others. If someone I don't know says it, it doesn't bother me at all. It would hurt if someone I knew said it though. |
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Would,nt normally refer to anyone that way . If I do its not with there looks but how I feel in there company.
Had this conversation with work colleagues. I was trying to impress how someone resembled " I thought" to a celebrity, out of a group of eight only one agreed.
Now understand how differently we all see facial features.
Being called ugly is of little concern to me.......ha ha accepted long ago I,m very niche with my looks...  |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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If someone called me ugly, I wouldn't care. I accepted I was some time ago so can laugh at it now. If someone called me uneducated or a simpleton, that would rile me. Or a slut. But I would try not to let it show as a reaction would surely give the person the response craved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone called me ugly, I wouldn't care. I accepted I was some time ago so can laugh at it now. If someone called me uneducated or a simpleton, that would rile me. Or a slut. But I would try not to let it show as a reaction would surely give the person the response craved."
Its all a perception of power. If they call you "ugly" then they perceive they have control. By not answering or rising to it and just carrying on as if nothing had been said then that power becomes impotence because you have not given in to that power. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ugly is not an astatic measure.... its simply an accurate gauge describing the mind-set of ignorant horrible people who attempt to belittle other people over nothing more than an accident of birth ..  |
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"Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it? "
As a high school kid I was once voted 'ugliest girl in class!' A lovely girl had asked all the boys to rate the girls - and i'd come out as ugliest! The whole class looked when she happily sat down to tell me the news! I cried!
I was fucking delighted when I learned whilst at college that she was the only girl in school to fail all her 'O' levels! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am incredibly sensitive and take things personally...I get hurt frequently by what people say/do or don't say on here. I can't change my personality so I have to learn to get over it quicker.
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"I am incredibly sensitive and take things personally...I get hurt frequently by what people say/do or don't say on here. I can't change my personality so I have to learn to get over it quicker.
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To be fair I haven't come across many on here who hurt people for the sake of it! There's a huge difference between 'putting your foot in it' and being deliberately nasty! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got blocked after sending a lad a pic of me so I guess he must have thought I was ugly.how rude.lol "
What a fool. Feel free to send me as many pictures as you like xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not nice when anyone says anything negative. I tend to take things like this to heart as I'm quite sensitive that way
Kinky "
You are a properly sexy lady... please take that to heart xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not nice when anyone says anything negative. I tend to take things like this to heart as I'm quite sensitive that way
Kinky
You are a properly sexy lady... please take that to heart xxx"
Thanks Jester |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think people who say this are thinking ugly thoughts about themselves, hence the need to say it to others... What they really mean is, "hey I'm ugly myself so I'll display my unhappiness and say it to others"
No such thing as ugly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No such thing as ugly.
This is true. I very often am attracted to people who my friends wouldn't touch and vice versa.
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Indeed, the word "ugly" is ugly within itself... Man made rubbish. |
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When I was a young teen, and new to an area, I was walking our dog. Went past a group of kids and one looked at me and said "Eew, even that dog's better looking than she is".
I was so shy and unconfident back then it really got to me.
Mostly I don't get told bad stuff. Or good stuff (face to face anyway). I'm a blend into the background and no one notices kind of person.
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"When I was a young teen, and new to an area, I was walking our dog. Went past a group of kids and one looked at me and said "Eew, even that dog's better looking than she is".
I was so shy and unconfident back then it really got to me.
Mostly I don't get told bad stuff. Or good stuff (face to face anyway). I'm a blend into the background and no one notices kind of person.
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just looked at your pics,I wish we were nearer each other your hot xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This may seem odd (I've had my Meds today so I'm quite sane I promise)
I have never considered myself good looking and because I accept I'm not, if someone says I am it's water off a ducks back.
Sticks n stones and all that. |
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over a year ago
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"I am incredibly sensitive and take things personally...I get hurt frequently by what people say/do or don't say on here. I can't change my personality so I have to learn to get over it quicker.
To be fair I haven't come across many on here who hurt people for the sake of it! There's a huge difference between 'putting your foot in it' and being deliberately nasty! X"
love your bum xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I've ever been called ugly by anyone whose opinion I give a shit about. I'd be more offended by an insult to my intelligence or achievements. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try not to worry about what other people think, as that's totally out of my control.
That said, I don't remember ever being called ugly by anyone other than myself. I don't the version of me that looks out of the mirror, but in a photo... Ugly!
We could really do with an edit button.....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been called ugly
I have been called fat, been told I'm pretty for a fat girl, told that I could be stunning if I was slim etc etc all insults I've ever received have been about my weight not my face.
Mrs X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never been called ugly
I have been called fat, been told I'm pretty for a fat girl, told that I could be stunning if I was slim etc etc all insults I've ever received have been about my weight not my face.
Mrs X "
Women are so much series with curves... and your lips are luscious xxx |
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By *reakShow90 OP Man
over a year ago
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"Ignore them hun, I think that gets to them more when they get no response. I only spoke to you briefly in townhouse the last week but you seemed like a really nice person and I actually liked your piercings, I think it suits you!
Doll x "
Oh no hunny it was not about me if anything I female friend was talking to me about some abusive msgs she had off here and soo it got me thinking was all and I know iam bloody stunning loll  |
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over a year ago
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I was called ugly once and I just said to him "have you looked at yourself lately in the mirror".He had a shocked look on his face and did not have an answer,and just walked away. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't say I would class myself as ugly, however I'd much rather someone called me ugly rather than pretty. Yeah Id be much more offended if someone called me a prettyboy! "
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"I wouldn't say I would class myself as ugly, however I'd much rather someone called me ugly rather than pretty. Yeah Id be much more offended if someone called me a prettyboy!
But you're so pwetty "
Yeah, left myself open to that I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Never been called ugly
I have been called fat, been told I'm pretty for a fat girl, told that I could be stunning if I was slim etc etc all insults I've ever received have been about my weight not my face.
Mrs X
Women are so much series with curves... and your lips are luscious xxx"
yeah I think that when I kiss them or there wrapped around my cock *mr |
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It generally wouldn't bother me, as I'll probably not care about the person who's said it. I'm aware of certain physical characteristics about myself that may exclude me from a lot of modeling jobs, so there's probably no news at all.
It's tragic that people lower themselves to insulting others. |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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Yep had a few on here, some "female" stamphead messaged us "Saw H today, Yuk, fcking yuk" but as said meh, don't tend to get it on here much but then we don't connect with the single guys so no surprise..
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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my cousins called me ugly as a nickname throughout my childhood.it taught me not to take any notice of anyone, either complimentry or derogitory...why would i care what others think, especially those who just want to get in my knickers anyway, or not...
shallow people i meet on my own terms, they don't control me, no one can make you feel anything you don't want to feel..
liars (especially those who lie to themselves) and backstabbers, those are the ugly people..and i let them get on with it...the truth comes out eventually |
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over a year ago
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"Yep had a few on here, some "female" stamphead messaged us "Saw H today, Yuk, fcking yuk" but as said meh, don't tend to get it on here much but then we don't connect with the single guys so no surprise..
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"I was called a shit shag once, that cut me to the quick.
I fucking hate my ex-wife!"
I hope you are ok now. Let me assure you if I can. I couldn't stand my ex and when we split told him the same and I said he had a little cock. I just did it to hurt his feelings. As your ex probably did with you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been called fat and ugly for as far back as I can remember. It used to get me down, but as you get older you realise that beauty is skin deep and aslong as people like me for who I am and not what I look like then I'm happy with that. |
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Worst things that you can be called sweetheart,
I put on my statment a couple of weeks ago, anyone fancy wine n dining me, just for the crack,
I got a message back from someone guy that had only just joined the site 2 weeks earlier saying your having a laugh arnt you, I'd lucky to get a sausage rolls from Greggs you old bag.,pmsl
What a waster he is. And by the way, I did get many offers of love to have the chance to take you out..
I'm out every weekend at clubs and parties, where is that pratt..
I had that abuse becoz I'm older Lady, neither fat or ugly.. |
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A man on the forums once more or less said i was ugly so i deleted some of my pictures, i may be ugly to some people but not others, we cant all be beautiful.
There are some people on here who think they are good looking but i dont think they are, they get told they are and they believe it i suppose. I dont put so many pictures on here now because of comments people make about womens bodies on the forums, i feel too ashamed to put them on but it doesnt put me off meeting men for sex though. Then again some people dont like what they cant have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know |
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
Why should we fuck some we don't fancy? Do enlighten us please. |
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
i've 3 guys message me in the past few mins, all of them i would consider my type. not sure which one to even message and start talking with.
don't even need to go for guys not my type really. |
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
some people do talk a load of crap. "Some" people just go for looks. Other people go for respectful fun people that they are compatable with.
Very few people are adonises or stunning, most are just regular people like you see walking down the street (cause thats what we are) now i know what kind of people im attracted to so i will be fucked if im going to meet someone im not compatable with just to give them a chance. Now get over yourself |
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By *adyDangerWoman
over a year ago
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
It's not a sex site. Last time I checked anyway (goes to check)..........
Yep still not a sex site |
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
what people forget is that it's a swingers site first and foremost....sex is only a part of it |
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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago
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"This place is a vanity contest! People forget its a sex site take a leap of faith with someone sometimes that person you think is not your type could be the best fuck on the site you never know"
Quite correct & with 20,000+ on the site you'd could plan a meet every week, fuck a lot of them and still never know cos you'd die of old age first..
So we'll stick to ones we think are attractive, With aytractove personalities, say mostly attractive things (everyone is entitled to a whinge) & fit our profile thanks..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it wouldn't bother me, it's just someones opinion of you that means nothing as ugliness is subjective. if they're on here looking for sex but don't find you attractive, why message you to tell you that? "
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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"Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it? "
'ugly' was my nickname by my cousins when i was a child, name calling is childish. it means the other person hasn't grown up yet. it's my choice how i respond to things, people show themselves up, if you let them get on with it.. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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"There's being aesthetically ugly "
all of course down to our own rose coloured spectacles.
" there's being characteristically ugly.
Some on here are definitely the latter. Vile in fact. "
And that is just the comments given in open forums, can't imagine how bad the messages might be on private messages.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Now before you all start this is not a look at me post or anything but
How do you feel when some one says some thing eg your ugly or xyz
Is it just water off your back or do you hide how it hurts or let it hit you like a brick
For me I am not all that but iam happy how I am and who I am when others have been mean it used to hurt and have had a few crys about stuff in the years but now water off my back and if they have a problem it's their problem
I guess it hurts every one in different ways how do you deal with it? 'ugly' was my nickname by my cousins when i was a child, name calling is childish. it means the other person hasn't grown up yet. it's my choice how i respond to things, people show themselves up, if you let them get on with it.."
i agree xx |
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